Tactical seduction and POAS addicts

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Hi ladies. I have started to feel a little overwhelmed with our usual thread and we are at different stages of our journeys now. Please feel free to leave this one if you don't feel the same but I feel so invested in your journeys and don't want to miss any news. Hoping this is ok, I don't think you can do DM as a group?
Hope you are all doing well and if there's anyone I've missed from the usual bunch feel free to add 😘😘😘

@MrsCristianoX @TheBirdintheCave @Indianna2006 @theblueflowers @bunnykins123 @LuckyMoonstone @mummatara

@lovenaps what a shit thing to say to you 😠 this is no friend. You want a baby and she knows that so obviously it will make you happy. God I'm pissed off for you. How many weeks are you now? I have no energy to scroll down and look. Just to see if a scan would be worth it xx

@lovenaps I'd be blocking that person. She definitely doesn't sound like a good friend. Sorry you've had to suffer that :(

@Indianna2006 bring back the masks!! I hate being sick 🤢 child zero came into my work yesterday and I gave him loads of hugs (bad day) then remembered he was the spreader 😂

@Indianna2006 just over 7wks so more than enough for a scan today! Trying to arrange one now! Let's see if it's possible!

@MrsCristianoX @TheBirdintheCave Thank you both!
I totally get the scrolling thing! 😂😂Just over 7 wks so HB should be visible.

@lovenaps ahh yes of over 7 weeks and you’re sure on your dates should be fine then. Yes agree hb should be visible. Will you still get a scan from EPU in few weeks as well?
If so then at least you get double reassurance. But if it’s only
one scan you will have I’d wait personally.

@lovenaps yea go for it😘 stupid woman is still annoying me. Good luck xx 😚

@Indianna2006 based on my ovulation I should be measuring 6w5d. Saying that, implantation happened really early so maybe I will not be so behind... Will see what the scan says but I won't be disheartened if I don't measure as 7w as should be a few days behind. Still enough to see HB though. I will 100% keep the NHS EPU appointment for next week as well as with the first pregnancy I had HB at 7w but not at 8w so absolutely need some reassurance next week as well!

I got the appt for today!!!!!! WOOOHOOO! Now need to switch to the positive mode and instead of 'I will see if everything is okay or not' switch to 'I will see the HB for the first time in this pregnancy today'.

This just shows how you can't plan things in life. I was absolutely adamant to not get a scan before 8 weeks this time. I was adamant.

@lovenaps Great news! What time is the scan?

@MrsCristianoX I've still not forgiven my husband's work for making his colleague come in Covid positive and therefore giving it all to us 😂

By the way, if it sounds my friend handled things badly, I can tell you about DH's 'best friend' who turned out to be an utter unt. I don't use that word lightly but if there's ever a time someone deserves to be a called unt, it is that guy.
I was 6.5 weeks (first pregnancy) when DH told his best friend about it. Turns out the 'friend's' GF was also 6.5 weeks but we did not now at that point. So I lost the HB at 8 weeks, then went on to spontaneously miscarry at 9 weeks. DH confided in his 'friend' at the time.
3 weeks later DH sees his 'best friend' posted a 12-week scan with due date same as ours. DH messaged friend being happy for him (he has a heart of gold, I am telling you). Whenever DH would try to message or call to meet up like they normally would, he would ignore all messages and calls. When DH asked if he wanted to do their mutual hobby on a set day , he said he couldn't but DH found out through mutual friends that he did that activity just didn't want DH to be there.
And this couple of utter unts will be getting a baby soon. There was a time when DH had to message a girlfriend about something (completely unrelated and again, it is DH's good heart, if I were him, I wouldn't have bothered) and she could have used that opportunity to say something nice but acted as a cold itch instead.
It is up to DH if he wants to stay friends with this person (assuming he will try to be DH's friend again when we have a baby thinking it is all water under the bridge?) but I said I never want to be around them, talk to them, or be at home if they ever come to visit DH. So because we lost our pregnancy the 'friend' cut DH off completely. They are dead to me and they do not deserve our time.

@TheBirdintheCave 4.30!

*the girlfriend
Sorry for the mistakes, got quite emotional typing it!!

@lovenaps I'm reading it now. So because the 'friend' felt awkward around your DH he just cut him off??

@TheBirdintheCave at the height of the pandemic when there were no vaccines and isolation was 14 days, family members were coming into the shop and I very nearly lost my shit so I feel you

@MrsCristianoX yup.
I am just thinking if the roles were reversed. If I had a friend (let alone best friend) who lost her pregnancy and was confiding in me and I was going to post about my 12-week scan aware she doesn't know about the pregnancy, there could be NO WAY on Earth I wouldn't tell her about my pregnancy privately and sensitively beforehand so she doesn't have to find out like that. I would give her the option to have some distance from be but it would be their decision, I wouldn't just go and cut them them off.
And I know quite well that if were in the opposite situations, DH would have been amazing and sensitive to his so called friend. He cares a lot about people.

@lovenaps I actually find it helps to write your feelings out so please don't hold back, get it all out then breathe and be excited to see a tiny rainbow bean later ❤️ (when do you think you implanted if you don't mind me asking..that reads weird but you know what I mean😅)

I first tested positive on 16.10 so would have been some time before that.
You know how people say pregnancy hormones make you emotional? I am like that every day, pregnant or not pregnant! 😂

@lovenaps your DH sounds lovely and sensitive 💕 some people can't deal with difficult issues and that makes me sad because their lives will not always be a bed of roses and this man has just lost an absolute rock of a supportive best friend Xx

@MrsCristianoX he probably hasn't lost that privilege as DH will likely go out of his way to help him in the future if needed. I guess it would depend on how long this silence goes on for though, if they don't speak for couple years or so, it would be too late to amend things. I am not asking any questions anymore as it is a sensitive subject and not the one DH likes to discuss so he knows I'm here but won't ask any questions unless he wants to talk about it.
How many DPO are you at the moment? x

@lovenaps it was an easy@home test if I can remember right? So much luck for later and keep us updated..will be thinking of you ❤️

Only 2dpo a long way to go yet xx

yes, easy at home!
Thank you so much, thinking of you too! ❤x

Hey ladies had such a busy day and just caught up v quickly

@lovenaps good luck not long to wait now 🤞🏼 can't believe the actions of some people they are unbelievable 🙄

@MrsCristianoX sorry you're feeling like crap

@bunnykins123 yes for ovulation 💪🏼

We didn't manage to DTD last night so it's on tonight 😆 my test was actually what I would call a faint line this morning. Not a squinter but def faint I'll take a pic later. I've actually been so so busy the last few weeks feel like I've barely caught up with what's happening with anyone on here 🤦🏼‍♀️ I'm taking the op as CD1 so in my mind I'm CD9 today makes me feel like there's progress

@mummatara that's fab news 👏👏 send us a pic of that squinter! Sounds like your body is doing what it needs to and ridding itself of the hormone 🤞

@lovenaps good luck today at the scan! All will be perfect, I'm sure💕

@MrsCristianoX lol @ child zero 😂 is child zero your own? It's hard to shoo away a really poorly child when they are super unwell, however much you want to avoid getting sick! I think we are cycle buddies. Not hopeful. I had the viral thing - 2 weeks in total feeling utter poo. I only just feel human again now so you have my sympathies!

@bunnykins123 yep child zero is mine 😂 it's defo not covid I've just tested again..feels similar though 🙁