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apologies if some of you have had their BFP/ still waiting for it - missed people (I know there’s a few) - I took this from the June thread 💖

@Annapolis35 i take everything 😂 coq10, Pregnacare, vit c, vit d, omega 3 … and have wondered if I’m over doing it 😅 thinking of reverting back to just folic acid again which is the only thing I took at the start of the year ….
i got bloods done a few months ago, all normal.
I would like to be referred but I don’t know if my GP will, as I got pregnant in Feb. We started DTD December 2021 so technically a year since we started but I don’t know if my pregnancy earlier this year would mean I have to start at 0 again?

@NSx haha that’s what I was taking too! But I just stopped and only continued on vit d and folic as I figured I eat a lot of eggs so get omega 3 and I get vit c from the fruit! And I wasn’t really sure if the coq 10 was doing anything.

Yeah my gp wasn’t all that sure if the clinic would take our referral until February but he figured there’s only a months difference so may as well try. You could ask your gp? That’s good your bloods are normal, I am a bit anxious about the progesterone test but hopefully it’ll be ok - probably better to know of any issues.

@NSx don't be hard on yourself - it's a difficult journey and I think it's totally normal to be upset and frustrated when it isn't happening. I've had an absolutely text book cycle and dtd at all the right times and still don't seem to have had success this time. It's such a strange game and so totally out of our control, I mean, it just takes one swimmer, right? But it's not always that easy. I think taking some time out to enjoy Christmas is a good idea. Im not sure I'll manage it as I've been tracking and monitoring everything for so long, but stepping back is probably great for mental health. It's fine to feel sad, and there's a lovely little group of us in here if you need us.

Im sorry so many others are in a similar boat, but I'm taking comfort that there are few 35 year olds here 😊 I don't feel like I'm completely batshit crazy for ttc at this age!

@Annapolis35 yea I’m kinda feeling the same tbh might just strip it all back and start again, I don’t know really - u wonder if it’s doing more damage than good 😅
I’m going to ring my GP and see where I stand with a referral to a fertility doctor - I guess I won’t know until I ask.

@FieldView see the thing is I don’t think 35 is THAT old, I started TTC at 34 and it happened fast the first time, granted the pregnancy didn’t go well in the end but it happened pretty fast. I don’t know what’s changed in that time.
I say I will take it more chilled in December but the longer this takes the more it stresses me that it won’t happen 😭

@NSx my best friend fell in Dec 21, lost in Feb, had a chemical in May and is now 5 months with her first (age 33)

My mum had my brother at 31, a miscarriage at 33, then tried 18 months to get me at 35 and then went on to have my sister at 37/38.

My cousin married at 24 went onto have IVF at 28 and had first baby, then fell naturally with second baby at 33 and then had a miscarriage at 17 weeks with baby no 3 at 36 and has just had her third baby at 38.

my point is there is no one size fits all when it comes to TTC and just because you are in your 30s doesn’t mean all hope is lost. You are not alone and I know exactly how you feel (i’m 33 nearly 34) Everybody is different and I think sometimes these threads can be a great source of support but also can make you feel like there is something wrong as ppl seem to join and fall in month 1 but the reality is everybodys fertility journey is different and try not to compare. It’s really tough. I expect to be in the same position in a weeks times as i’m 5dpo but not holding out much hope tbh. Be kind to yourself!! Xx

@NSx I totally get that! I started at 33 and thought I had loads of time, now at 35 the panic is starting to set in 😬 It also doesn't help that all of the tests have been fine, and my gp has said that physiologically she can't see any reason why we wouldn't conceive naturally. Reassuring, yes, but not very helpful 😂

I would definitely suggest getting that appointment with your gp. I'd be very surprised if they don't offer some tests based on your history x

@Roxybabe I agree with you 100% … these boards can be so positive/supportive but also can be very hard to be a part of too… because as much as you are so happy for other people (which I genuinely am) its also like a kick in the teeth that it isn’t you and always someone else - it’s hard really to find a balance …
I guess seeing that BFN has just got me down today, even though I wasn’t particularly hopeful anyways -
I hope you get your BFP and aren’t in this position next week 🤞✨✨

@FieldView that’s the thing I don’t know if my previous pregnancy will go against me as they might say that I got pregnant fairly easy on my own at the start of the year -
I asked for bloods a few months ago, because I was concerned my hormones were a mess. But they all came back normal, I don’t know what else they can do for me, I don’t even know if they would be open to doing anything for me? I wonder if my partner would get anywhere with his GP, a semen analysis would be a start?

@FieldView forgot to ask, what tests did u have?

Sorry if I’ve made any of you ladies feel rubbish, I know that’s not what any of you are saying but I’ve really struggled seeing it happen for other people quicker than me so can’t imagine how you all feel when you’ve been trying longer!😔 sending you all lots of love xxx

@ChloeN don’t be silly 💖 we’re all delighted for you, yes I will miss my cycle buddy but I’m glad you don’t need to go through another month of this nonsense it’s really hard.
Thanks for being so compassionate though it means a lot 🤍🤍 I’m just having a bad day today, it will pass ✨

@NSx Its hard not to worry, I can have really dark thoughts about never having a baby and my DH leaving me… completely irrational thinking… but I imagine I’m not alone.

I think next cycle I’ll maybe have a break from the threads, enjoy xmas … eat drink and be merry and go again in Jan!!

Yes, I would get your oh to get in touch with his gp too, just in case!

I've only had blood tests and an internal ultrasound, and am having an amh blood test next month (not on nhs). We don't get much help from the nhs as my partner has children from a previous relationship, so just trying to line up what we can before potentially going private if we have to! Can't really afford it but I feel like we're at the end of the road.

@ChloeN no shade at all to anyone who got a BFP!! Always delighted for everyone!! Genuinely am… just sad for myself!! Xx

Not at all @ChloeN!! It's reassuring to see a bfp!! I don't know about anyone else, but it weirdly gives me hope 😂. Do you think you'll have any early scans or anything?

@Roxybabe I totally agree, I think this really can affect your mental health and sends you down a road of no return sometimes, I guess it’s just a case of trying to control emotions and thoughts which can be easier said than done.
@FieldView im going to get him to call tomorrow and see if he can get an appt to speak to a GP and see where he stands. I would rather know if they can help at all before I start looking for private clinics. Neither of us have children, the only thing that I’m worried about is my being pregnant in feb, but who knows. Will see what they say.

yes I love to see people’s BFPs it gives me hope but also makes me sad for myself, and others who don’t get the same results 😭

@NSx thanks lovely💕 I so wish none of us had to go through it it’s been the worst time of my life! Hope you’re bad day passes soon, it’s so hard to get yourself out of that negative rut isn’t it 😔

@Roxybabe yes I get that, I’m not as bad with mumsnet as I feel like I know you all but the Insta announcements always get me😓

@FieldView I don’t know what I’d of done without these threads tbh over the past few months, feel like it’s the only place where people actual get what you’re going through! I’m not sure… I can’t go back to where I found out about the mmc, it was awful there so I’d have to go somewhere else but I’m just going to see how I feel over the next few weeks!

@ChloeN yea it’s really hard, but u just need to your best and that’s what I need to try and tell myself , I’m full of good advice but never good at taking it myself 💖 I hope you have a smooth and healthy pregnancy 🤞✨✨✨

@ChloeN tbf i’m not that bad with MN unless i’m having abit of a wobbly day or I just got Af/BFN. I’m happy for ppl here, instagram/FB ones get to me!

@NSx easier said than done though isn’t it!😭 thank you I’m praying this is it❤️

@Roxybabe tiktok is terrible too, especially when you like one video you get a hundred of the same🙄

@ChloeN OMG I had to delete tik tok! What is it with ppl recording themselves doing HPTs!! All of a sudden my feed was full of tik toks about TTC!! Congratulations again hun!! Wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months!!! ❤️

@NSx I woke up feeling the exact same today!! Really depressed that AF has shown up and again at 5 months fully TTC I’m starting to worry that I have secondary infertility. Been ttc on and off for a longer time but I did realise this month I think I fully missed my ovulation! Are you doing OPKs and temping? I may start for next month but am clueless on them really. Feeling surrounded by pregnancy and quite low today. Big hug to you!

@Roxybabe Im trying to hide as many parenting/pregnancy people as possible on instagram and try to avoid that stuff on tik tok as it just floods your feed!!

So, I was 100% certain I’m out and this happened😬 My husband told me to do the test, because I was 3 days late. I said I’m not (because I had cramps and I thought AF will come) and did the test to shut him up. I’m shocked and over the moon at the same time!

Omg congratulations!!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

@xogossipgirlxo amazing news! I’ve not posted on this group yet but this is exactly why I join things like this to get hope. Congratulations! How long have you been TTC and anything you done differently this month to share 🥰