SMEP-ing our way to a BFP 🍁🍂🐿️🍂🍁

[Aurora81]

Our SMEP plans continue.... The old thread is almost full, so I started a new thread so we can continue on SMEP-ing to a BFP ✨☺️✨

Good afternoon- I hope you’re all well 💖
so sorry AF is coming @LucyFraser1981 … I’ll be expecting mine on Thursday too. And my temp rose today which is normal just before AF 😅 ..,
onto another cycle for me.

@NSx it’s also normal to rise when pregnant so you just never know

@allgoodthings84 i know what you mean, but I just know 😂 but thanks for being hopeful.
how are u? X

@NSx I’m staying hopeful for you. I’m all good but mega bloated which is weird as I’m never bloated in the follicular phase so must be something I’ve eaten not hormonal. I’m only CD8. I’m starting opk today and hopefully dtd later. It comes round so quickly. I usually ovulate CD12-CD15 but who knows what will happen this cycle after everything. I’m hoping be the same as usual.

Thanks all 💗 feeling overly emotional and weepy, which I know is partly down to hormones plus had a difficult weekend. Really just want my partner here but won't see him now until Friday probably 😔

Hey guys, sorry for the silence and that AF has arrived for some of you. Hope you're OK @LucyFraser1981, I think it's alright to feel a bit weepy then first day or two of AF. I've been trying (and failing mostly) not to fixate on the TWW but definitely did a few IC and a lot of symptom spotting. Anyway, AF is here now so that's that. Both putting me in and also out of my misery - the irony. Frustratingly, I had my day 3 bloods booked for next Tuesday which was pushing my luck anyway and will now be days out. I've called the dr today and no appointments but apparently there's a walk-in at the hospital so I might try that, although I'd only be able to go on Thursday which would be day 2. My blood paperwork says CD1-5, does anyone know is that's right or does it have to be day 3?

AF has just this minute arrived for me @fsr111 so on to a new cycle for me too. I accidentally bought a second hand Ava bracelet as I'm sure knowing I need to take temperature means I don't sleep as well, so as I could do it in three payments with PayPal I've bought it as an early Christmas present to myself 🤦🏻‍♀️😅

Partner has still not chased up his results, but has said he'll call the doctors in the morning 🙄🤦🏻‍♀️ honestly, why are men?! 😖

I don't actually know what the day 3 bloods are for @fsr111 but if it says between cd1-5 surely that's correct? 🤔

@LucyFraser1981 - oh why are they?! I've been heavy, heavy hinting to DH that he needs to do the sperm analysis, which he is happy to do (in theory) but can I actually get him to call up and book it... painful!

Hey ladies 💞 sorry AF has come, mine won’t be far behind on Thursday.
with regards to a sperm analysis - do you have to meet criteria for it, or can it be requested ?
Just reading on what you’re chatting about and I would love for my partner to get one done 🙄

im so sorry AF has arrived @LucyFraser1981 and @fsr111

@fsr111 my doctor told me it should be day 3 or 4 for best results. I didn’t have mine in the end as I was pregnant when my CD3 appointment was booked for and now I won’t need it as can get pregnant. Would have been interesting though

@NSx we got told we had to have it to be referred to fertility clinic as my partner has no children and I do. Turns out he did his ex pregnant a long time ago though which I didn’t know about until my miscarriage but he was scared about what I would think of them aborting. If I had known he may not have been offered it I don’t know. It can’t harm asking.

@NSx although as you conceived back in February he may not be offered it as it’s not the same for men as for us.

@allgoodthings84 thats what I’m worried about, I guess I will have to ask the question.
why is life so hard & stressful ?
how are u keeping?

Honestly @fsr111 it drives me bonkers, I was champing at the bit for all of my results, as I just want to know what I'm working with! But men seem so fragile when it comes to this stuff, I guess it's that whole machismo thing of being able to father a child, so I can understand why they're reluctant to find out if something's wrong, but if you don't know if something's wrong then you can't try to find a solution! 🤦🏻‍♀️😖 honestly, they are such delicate creatures 🤣

@NSx you never know, your AF might not arrive!

In terms of the sperm analysis, I'm not sure if it's similar criteria to us having tests, it may be dependant on age/length of time TTC? As my partner is almost 41 and we've essentially been letting nature take its course for a year without success, I guess he was seen as a suitable candidate to have it done?

@NSx can’t harm asking, they can only say no. My GP based it on whether they have gotten someone pregnant before but maybe not all GP’s think the same

@NSx ah ok, yes I'd not thought of that aspect.

Oops, meant to tag @allgoodthings84
How are you doing?

@LucyFraser1981 I’m all good thanks 😊. CD9 now not much happening but never is quite yet. Peak could be anything from cd11-cd15. Then again who knows this cycle after everything. I’m hoping for cd12/13 for the peak as times best for us as partner going home tomorrow night until Friday night but we can dtd before he goes and Friday then together all weekend so would be the best timing. Knowing my luck be cd11 peak though lol

@allgoodthings84 @LucyFraser1981 yea I doubt my partner will get offered it, but at this stage I would welcome any testing at all that could shed any light if there’s anything wrong.
its just so bizarre why it takes so long to get pregnant and then other times it happens fast. I guess I’m just starting to panic that it won’t happen at all.
we started ttc December 2021, granted we fell in feb and lost in May but I find myself going into November 2022 not pregnant and without a child and I’m really struggling with it I’ll be honest.
AF due tomorrow - my temp dropped this morning for the 2nd day in a row which is exactly how my charts look before I’m due so I’m like 💯 certain that I’ll be onto cycle 5 as of tomorrow.
sorry for the rant

@NSx don't be sorry, that's what this group is for. A place where we can vent and share! And I can 100% understand why you would feel like that, you've been through a lot

@pomdownunder1 thanks for understanding 🤍 I just wonder what is next for me, the mental torture I am going through at the moment seems like is never going to end. It’s just so bloody hard, im fed up really.
and I don’t want to be insensitive because I know some people have probably been trying for a lot longer, but realistically I’m almost a year down the line with nothing to show for it except a broken heart & it’s just a lot.
how are u doing? Are u any further on with your next steps, did you get any more info regarding your progesterone levels, I know they advised you they were a bit low? Hope you’re keeping well? where in Oz are u? 💕

@NSx absolutely. Doesn't matter about anyone else, this is your journey and you're allowed to feel like that. The doctor said I am ovulating but levels are quite low so going to do two more blood tests and an ultrasound, so will see where I'm at after them. Husband has also got his sperm check app tomorrow.

I'm in Melbourne! We're actually hoping to
move back home but will wait until we've had a baby so we can claim maternity leave here. Feel like that's putting more pressure on it as well for me, every month that passes pushes our timeline back another month but hopefully it will be soon 🤞🏻

@NSx, sorry you are feeling like this, i totally agree that TTC is heartbreaking. It's so difficult to understand why it just doesn't happen and there's literally triggers everywhere, people getting pregnant and then their babies, it's so difficult to not just feel excruciatingly jealous and upset that it's not you. I get really quite upset all the time, DH tries his best but really doesn't understand. I feel miserable that all the plans we had and everything we had imagined for our DD and us is now getting further and further away every month. Just know that we're here to listen to the venting, I think all of us completely understand how you are feeling 🤍

@pomdownunder1 i used to work for a Middle Eastern airline based in UAE and only moved back in December 💞 I’ve been to Melbourne - St Kilda is my favourite 💗💗 hope you’re enjoying better weather there than we are here it’s freezing ☺️
how long have u been out there?

yea I think you’re right, I am just trying to not let my mind control my emotions all the time, but it’s hard, so thanks for understanding.

ah that’s good that you’re getting it sorted ✅ to be honest even if there is something you can work on, atleast you’re getting answers sooner rather than later than finding out a year later your stats could be better… to be honest the fact they your move home depends on the timeline of this is defo putting pressure on that you don’t need. I was the same trying to get pregnant before my due date and now that it hasn’t happened I’m hoping the pressure being off might get better results, but who know.

@NSx it’s so hard especially when you see other posts about how people are getting pregnant first time or second cycle over and over and having had a loss is much harder as you wonder why and feel back at square one and feel there must be something wrong. I think all of us here are struggling conceiving (and it sticking) so vent away we all understand and want you to let it all out. It’s such a lonely place to be as you can’t talk to people about it like you can other problems. It’s all so emotional and feels hard getting on with normal life it really takes over.

@allgoodthings84 your post says exactly how I’m feeling. I have often wondered why me, what’s wrong with me, why hasn’t it happened? And the doctors will all tell you there is nothing wrong and to wait for a year, but I don’t think they realise that waiting said months is a long time and it totally affects your mental health.
my life for the past 6 months has been much more sheltered and reserved as I don’t really want to interact with people and be social because mentally I feel how I feel, it has totally consumed me and I don’t really know how to take a more ‘relaxed’ approach.
Then like you say you see people getting pregnant so easily having simple and healthy pregnancies, multiple kids and u can’t help but feel hard done by and feel singled out.
thanks for understanding and more importantly thanks for listening 💖💖