BFN cycle 7

[HRS94]

Hi everyone

I’ve just had my 7th BFN and feeling so low. I know some of you have been trying for so much longer but I’m struggling with this now. I’ve had my progesterone test this month and came back a great result at 63 so confirmed ovulation. I felt like before this cycle I was becoming obsessed so this month I tried to relax and DDT every second day (including day of ovulation according to OPK) but still no luck 😞. I’ve been taking Folic acid for around 6 months but have just started taking Proceive vitamin too. I’m 28 and try to stay healthy and exercise - does anyone have any words of widsom or advice? Is there a time of day for DDT whilst TTC? I usually go from negative straight to the solid smiley (no flashing) so I think my ovulation window may be short? Thanks for listening and as I say, I know 7 months isn’t a long time in the scheme of things but still feeling disheartened.

Hi! @HRS94 no words of wisdom but sending a big hug, I feel you. ❤️

All I'd say is watch your clear blues... I got a false peak (static smile) last cycle on day 10 but I didn't ovulate until cycle day 25... (confirmed with bloods @ GP & temping) x

Could be a problem on your partner's side of things?

Sorry, hit post too early....

....if you're impatient you could pay for a private sperm analysis? We paid privately for tests around cycle 3 or 4, because I wasn't interested in waiting for a year only to learn that yes, something was wrong and it would never have happened in that year. Didn't want to waste time!

@Flederjo i think this is what we are going to do too! My husband and I have different GPs - mine has been brilliant and said she would test me at this stage and his has said not until the year mark but I think a private test is the best route, either to help me relax or get the ball rolling. Thanks for your reply

@RMS0209 thank you so much!
I think I’m going to start temping this month to be sure xx

I’m in the same position. All our tests so far have been fine so now the next step is HSG 😞 and I really am dreading it. I already have 2 dc so no idea what’s gone wrong as they were both conceived first cycle and now nothing is happening. I’m 40 now so maybe it’s age ? Just feeling very down about it

@HRS94 sending you lots of luck! I don't know if you have a budget you are sticking to but I use the Ovusense, it's amazing. Here's my chart for last month shows when I ovulated, I don't have a great sleeping pattern so I'm up alot.
But fingers crossed we get a BFP soon ❤️

@nothingshappeningatall i am sorry sorry to hear you’re feeling the same. How long have you been ttc? My GP always makes me feel reassured and said she sees so many women stress over it but it often takes longer than we expect but it’s still really disheartening.

@RMS0209 brilliant, I have just downloaded this and will have a play about with it. Thank you for recommending! Sending baby dust your way. How long have you been ttc if you don’t mind me asking? X

The same really my period is due on Wednesday and if I get it that’s cycle 8 then I’ll have an HSG (which I’m absolutely dreading) We decided to go for tests as soon as got bfn on cycle 6 due to age and I had an infection after c section with my youngest so I have a horrible feeling that my tubes are blocked 😩

Hey OP I think she means the ovusense thermometer gadget, the internal one...not just an app. That's why she mentioned cost/budget.

I went for the much cheaper option of a regular basal thermometer, but that Ovusense does look fab!

All my bloods were perfect. I get positive ovulation tests and the progesterone blood test confirmed ovulation.

Ultrasound scan was normal

SA normal

so next step is the dreaded HSG

7 months is normal. In fact it's expected.

I know it doesn't feel like it when you're living it but there's nothing to indicate anything untoward is happening. Of course pursue private testing if that's right for you and you can try all sorts of hints and tricks if it makes you feel happier but accepting that it's nothing abnormal is important for your own wellbeing. It's a strange old time because we are so used to and sold the illusion of control over our lives but sometimes, you have to accept that we can't choose some things.

It's the same with labour. See the women who hit 40wks and are suddenly "overdue" and panicking and trying strange things to move things on when the facts tell us that most people won't labour - at least with first babies - until post 40wks and up to 42wks is a normal pregnancy.

Like I said, I've been there and I was similarly caught up in anxiety and probably couldn't relax at all but I know looking back, I put myself through a lot for no reason.

Good luck!

This is interesting - some months my CB has given me what I felt was a very early ‘peak’ on day 12 but my cycles are on average 32 days so it seemed a little early