Been TTC 6 months! Feeling sad now :( anyone the same?

[Freespirit98]

I've been coming on here since we started trying I've learnt most of things about TTC ovulation etc off Mumsnet, I never thought to make an account because I'm 24 my OH is 34, I thought it would happen straight away! It didn't, I come off my pill on NYE 2021 which I had been on for 6 years but when February hit my periods were bang on 28 days apart so very regular so I assumed I was ovulating (still hope I am) but I have been tracking on 2 apps and then I have used ovulation tests and even the conceive + gel the past 2 months! I'm gutted as I wish I would of come off my pill earlier. I'm worried, I know I'm overthinking it too much to be honest but I just thought it won't hurt speaking to someone that's been in the same boat, He has got 1 child to previous, so I'm starting to panic that it's me. Anyone else been through this or do we need to get checked after 6 months of trying? Thanks in advance :) worry wart here!

Hi @Freespirit98

At your age, you won't be entitled to checks after 6 months. They'll tell you to try for a year, at least. You could obviously pay for private checks - 'a fertility check' will encompass most things you need.

If you get a positive ovulation test and you have regular cycles, you are likely to be ovulating. It might just be taking a bit longer - so many people fall pregnant between 6 months and a year but the wait is excruciating.

Personally I wouldn't make the presumption that just because your partner has a child, means it's you. Sperm can change a lot over time for so many reasons. It is just as likely to be him as it is you or a combo of both. You're young so you should have a good stick of quality eggs. I would say he should have his sperm checked in the next 3 months if nothing has happened yet.

It's a tough process for those who have to wait for it to happen. Good luck x

My heart goes out to you! We're in a similar situation although I'm 25 and husband 31. We've been trying for about 3 months but I've been off the pill since November-ish, and didn't have my first period until the end of March. Been pretty irregular since then but evening out, slowly. I also wish I'd come off the pill way sooner.

Please don't panic that it's you - like above poster says, many many people try for months and most conceive within a year. The NHS won't see you until at least a year into the process, so for now it's all about patience and doing what we can.

Conceive+ all good, but also remember the folic acid and vitD (and/or other prenatals), keep on using OPKs to track if it's working for you.

Best wishes to you, I hope it doesn't take much longer. :)

@FlyOnTheWall89 Ah thank you for replying! Definitely I agree, just gets so frustrating! My period is due today and nothing yet! I'm not getting my hopes up, when they say stop worrying about it it will happen and I thought I had cracked the not worrying then caved in the endless threads on google lol!

So helpful on here though, thank you for your good luck wishes xx

@rosemarycait96 Right back at you hun! It's so hard sometimes isn't it! Absolute nightmare periods when they are irregular, I suppose my periods come back pretty quickly, I'm so glad yours are starting to even out! Like I said above my period is due today, nothing yet but I will probably come on in the night :(
I did an first response 6 day earlier test yesterday morning & nothing.

Thank you for that, I forgot to mention I have been taking folic acid but only the home & bargain brand, do you think that matters if they are the cheap ones? I'm in 2 minds.

Sending luck & baby dust to you too ! XX

Hi, hope it's ok to join?

I know exactly how you feel I came off the pill in January & currently on cycle 4. I'm 36 & my husband is 49 so we have a bit of an age difference but it's still so disheartening every time AF arrives. We're starting to think to ourselves why not us. I know our ages are against us and now I'm starting to get regrets that we should have tried years ago but it just wasn't the right time. x

Hi, yes I feel sad all the time now. Trying two years. One miscarriage. Need to start thinking of the next step now. It's so sad

Hey! Sorry to jump on your post, I feel exactly the same as you and feel so down about it! I'm 33 and my partner is 43 (he has 2 children from a previous marriage) & we've been trying since Feb, I am due on tomorrow or Friday, and it's our 5th cycle. It's so hard everytime AF comes and I just don't know how to brush it off and think "oh well there will be next month". I understand you feeling the whole age thing is a worry etc as I feel the same. We wish we started trying a year ago. I don't particularly have any PMS symptoms this month, I had some spotting Sunday and a tiny tiny bit of watery light brown spotting Monday and yesterday and this morning. That's unusual for me.... I was hoping it was implantation but now I think AF is coming. I really hope you get your BPF soon xx

So sorry you feel so sad and are going through this. We've only been trying 5 months this cycle and I already feel so sad and disheartened so I can't imagine how you feel. Do you have regular cycles? X

Same here. I feel so powerless and at times a bit silly to daydream about having a baby. We’re going to get some private fertility testing. I’m 37 so don’t have the luxury of that much time.

I keep seeing baby bumps everywhere which fills with with excitement and sadness at the same time. It’s such a confusing time.

@HousePlantLandlord it's like when you want something so much everyone you know or see is either expecting or got a baby.... it's heart breaking when it's all you want 💔😞

hi everyone for some reason this app is playing up so I'm getting some housework done then going to log on the tablet to reply! Thank you all for jumping on the thread 🥺 much appreciated and sending love to you all I know it's hard 😥xx

I have a new mop lol this is about the happiest I've been in weeks 😂😂

AF just arrived a day or so early.... absolutely gutted 💔 really thought this could me our month this month. I guess onto cycle 6 now 😞

It’s the worst. Seeing photos of people cradling bumps gets me every time.

Yep, we've been trying since January. I'm 41 though so not sure I'm too hopeful .

I guess we all have to have hope ❤️

@Angie2018 we were recently on holiday in Turkey and literally everyday we saw a new pregnant person. Even my husband was starting to get sad seeing it asking why it can't be us.

I'm currently 11dpo a BFN this morning I know there is still hope until AF but I think I'm starting to run out of it. I really thought this month would be our month, I've been taking all the right vitamins we've DTD at the right times. We were on holiday so more relaxed and didn't think it through as much as we usually would but I don't think even that worked. x

@hevann I literally feel that there is no rhyme or reason to any of it and it literally luck of the draw! It's the most frustrating and disheartening thing isn't it. After this month of everything feeling different to me, first month out of 5 that I actually thought it could be our month.... & I'm spotting again which means AF is coming. I now won't read into a bloody thing!! I'm like you, taking vitamins and so is my partner, have sex lots at the right times and it hasn't happened yet. The one bad thing we have against us is that we had Covid in March and if you read about what that does to fertility it's not great. Takes about 3 months to recover from it and for sperm and cycles to return to normal! Seriously struggling to remain positive x

@hevann and don't panic just yet 11dpo is still early and you have time to get your BFP after Saturday. I hope AF doesn't show and you get it! Keep us posted! X

@Angie2018 Oh no, hopefully it will all be out of your system now & you can get back on track.

I'm impatient more than anything! Lol! When you see people getting positives at 8/9/10 dpo and you don't, you lose hope a little bit even though you know it is early.

I'm sure we'll get there in the end 🤞🏻 x

@Halsie So sorry to hear about that :(

@HousePlantLandlord Good luck with your fertility testing! I know people who have had babies after 40 It's just so disheartening comparing yourself isn't it, I've just been trying to keep positive even though I do cry my eyes out ever month when AF arrives! :(

@hevann I always think this people say oh we went to a hotel for the night or on holiday and it just happened! I'm impatient too I'm 2 days late now which is unusual for me, but negative tests! Confusing x

@Motherofalittledragon Got everything crossed for you! We've also been trying since January x

@Angie2018 I'm so glad you joined! I think we all need a bit of extra support when we feel like this, I'm so sorry AF arrived this morning :( I did read through these comments last night and was thinking that your implantation bleeding could be it! We do read in to every little thing what your all describing is exactly like me! Let's keep our heads up and positive, another month let's go xx