Preparing to TTC in 2022

[WingingIt09]

Thread number 3 - hopefully lots of BFPs to come! How are we all?

Pregnant
@Four0Clock #3 (32) - Due 14/11/22
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@TheOnlyException1 #1 (29) - due 6/12/22

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@Gizzy93 #1 (29)
@Dasher789
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@LucyLoopyLu #1 (33)
@PrettyPolly92
@tropicana1 #2 (31)
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Waiting to try in…

May
@WingingIt09 #3 (30)
@Dreamingof3 #3 (34)
@Notjustafurmum #1 (28)
@Vasectomyreversalhopeful #2 (33)
@Summerbreeze111 #1 (31)
@Amber17 #1 (33)
@Springblooms08 #1 (29)
@BellaNutella88 #2
@Superstorefan123 #1
@Duckandsarah #2
@Tonkabean22 #1 (30)
@Keeponsmiling2019 #2 (32)

June
@Blueberrymacaron #1 (30)
@DanisEndo #1 (26)
@Sunshine0987 #1 (30)
@HippeePrincess #3 (34)
@Jennifer89 #1 (32)

July
@Narniejoy #1 (25)
@Tanners22 #1 (35)
@TrillianMurphy_
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August
@Dearhummingbirds #1 (30)_
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September
@NotARegularMum #1 (32)
@Nypie (29) #1

Hi @BluePoppies 👋 I'm also going to be TTC in October.
For health reasons, DH and I have to postpone TTC in July like we'd originally planned.

Hopefully all the rest of you ladies will have your BFPs by the time October comes. 🤞

Thanks @WingingIt09 and @LemonZestDribbles appoinment went well buuut after it I spoke to DP and he definitely had cold feet about the process picked a fight instead of saying it out right. Were fine now and hes apologised and says he does want to try in September but obviously I dont feel the same excitement right now :(

Just found the new thread so catching up with everything, hope everyone's doing ok!

My AF arrived yesterday (first once since stopping the pill last month!). I stopped taking the pill on the 27th March, had my withdrawal bleed on the 31st lasting 5 days.. wasn't expecting AF yet as I'd heard it takes a while after coming off the pill but my body decided to be different and come earlier than expected!

Not too worried as I guess my body will take a while to regulate! Must say the cramps are a lot worse than I remember before the pill!

My partner is still very keen to stop being careful around September time (after holidays etc.), he often 'jokes' should we just start now, talks about it a lot! I am excited too but do get cold feet sometimes, but I guess that's normal.

Fingers crossed for all those waiting to test soon x

@Nypie i am glad the appointment went well, glad the dr was useful!
my DH was similar first time round. He didn’t want to think about it until we had sex and even then was as blasé as possible lol
me on the other hand, I think I needed a full year to prepare mentally. I took folic acid and cut caffeine. We just didn’t talk about it after we set a date to ttc.

even when I got my BFP, it was faint so he looked at it and went, let’s just wait and see. Glad I didn’t make a YouTube video of it 😂

Think men just have a separate head pocket for it all whereas it dominates my brain space!

Oh god men can be do frustrating can't they. I wasn't sure I'd want a third at all...until my partner started talking about it. Then of course I became obsessed, saw babies everywhere, planned everything ttc related. And he's now like well it'd be nice but I'm not fussed either way 🤯
I think he doesn't want to be responsible for the decision. He's more than happy to have another but if I said no he'd be OK with that too

@Nypie I'm sorry he's taken the shine off it. I think it's pretty common for men - they don't have that internal clock ticking and wanting you to get on with it. My dh kept saying yes then changing his mind. I think he only actually agreed after he saw how much he was my breaking my heart every time he changed his mind. Lots of tears 😬 Then, when ds was born, he said we should have done it quicker. Nearly murdered him. It's just nerves and I don't think they realise how much it affects us. The second was a much easier sell.

Fw for me tomorrow. Not sure how this month will go. We've been getting work done all week on the house so been staying at my parents. Dh has had to be in control of cleaning our house (i usually do everything) and keeps complaining he's too tired to look after ds and ds doesn't want to go to bed as he has FOMO while at grandparents. Work on house finishes tomorrow and in laws are visiting Tuesday to Thursday (who are less fun than standing on a river of lego pieces). So between stress and dh being a giant aubergine I'm not sure how frisky we will be 🙃

@Nypie I'm sorry he's made you feel that way. I think men definitely feel differently about it then we do. DH is very similar to @Dreamingof3 DP by the sound of it. He's happy enough to go for a third but has pretty much left the decision to me as he's not fussed either way. I have made him commit to saying he is on board though as I wasn't having him turn round at some time next year with the stress of 3 kids and blaming it all on me!

@LemonZestDribbles hopefully not as stressful a week as you're imagining and there will be some time to DTD.

I'm in my fertile week now and we used our last condom yesterday 😶 told DH he either needs to buy more or no DTD for another week as we'll be risking the Jan baby we want to avoid. You can guarantee if he buys some we won't actually DTD again but if he doesn't then we will want to and won't be able to 😂🙈

Aw you lot have cheered me up honestly thanks so much! I'm glad it's not just my silly man. Now hes talking about measuring my finger for a ring I think he doesn't get that I just need a moment to process and get that trust back that he means what he's saying. On the other hand he's been doing all the cleaning and I'm about to get a lot of gifts out of all of this so I'll enjoy 😂.
@LemonZestDribbles 😂😂😂 I would have definitely killed him "hormones" would be a good enough defence in my book.

@Cherrymarket I think I'll take a leaf out of your book we've set a date now and I'm gonna not invole him until it's his time to shine and even then I won't let him in on the process as he'll only get stressed. Thank god I have you lot!

And honestly who are all these youtube partners getting excited about positive test results I can gurantee my DPs reaction will be "....oh...shit" will definitely be taping it though!

Good luck to everyone trying and testing this week!

Thanks @WingingIt09 🙂 I'm on CD7 today so another week or so and then the fun can start for the 3rd time. I'm still scared of my age being a factor in my fertility, my DH keeps telling me I'm not that old. I feel down recently because of that and seeing other people with full blown baby bumps it just irks me somewhat, though I am eternally happy for them. I'm trying to stay positive and hopeful, though not too hopeful as the last two tries ended in tears.

My best wishes to everyone else trying and testing! ☺️

CD10 and AF is here, so another 9 day luteal phase for me 😔 The vitamin b6 obviously had no effect, don't know whether to keep taking it and add vitamin C or maybe I should try this agnus castus stuff? Or all of the above 🤷🏻‍♀️

It's getting me down now as I don't see how I can get pregnant if I'm bleeding before implantation has a chance to take place 😩

@Nyxxie that's so frustrating! Are you charting ovulation at all? Could you be ovulating early in your cycle?

@Nyxxie are you getting your period at 10dpo? I'd keep taking the vitamins and maybe add agnus castus. Mine was 8/9 days when I was trying to get pregnant with ds. There were others in my ttc group too. I conceived on cycle 7 and the others not too many cycles after. So don't lose hope ❤

@WingingIt09 you definitely going to avoid the Jan baby? It will be sods law if he doesn't buy them and you want to 😬

@SarahShorty hope you're okay. Ttc takes so much out of you. Especially when it takes so much luck. Don't be hard on yourself and I think it's very normal to be happy for pregnant people but also annoyed

I think setting a date with partners and then just not talking about it again (or much) is a great plan

@LemonZestDribbles haha definitely want to avoid pregnancy this cycle. I'd be due 12-14 days before the date we want to avoid (depending on the due date calculator you use) and given I've been induced with both my girls and DD2 was born at 42 weeks exactly id probably end up going in for induction and baby arriving on the exact date I don't want. Also I'd find out I was pregnant before Disneyland trip and I want to go on the rides! DH has ordered some off Amazon apparently and they'll arrive tomorrow. We probably won't use them now but good to have some just in case 😅

@Nyxxie I'm not sure what can be done to lengthen luteal phase but I know that 9 days isn't un-doable 🤞🤞

@WingingIt09 we have a whole unopened box 🤣 generally just using knowing my ovulation dates to keep us 'safe' but tbh we don't get the chance much, will have to change that next month

Also...Still no positive opks...they did get a bit darker Friday night so wondering if I missed the peak overnight? As this morning I had EWCM 🤷‍♀️

@Dreamingof3 I don't dare risk anything as we've previously had a history of getting pregnant easily so I always make DH use a condom since coming off the pill. Looking forward to not having to worry about that again soon (hopefully forever as DH will be getting booked in for the snip as soon as baby #3 arrives!)

I barely get any EWCM. Had small amount yesterday morning CD9 but watery again today, OPKs still low but my LH surges and dips again within a day so expecting it to surge tomorrow on CD11.
How dark were yours on Friday Dreaming?

@LemonZestDribbles Thank you 🙂 I'm okay. Just trying to keep busy. I cut my DH's hair this afternoon, that's always fun because we share banter and have something good on TV like The Grand Tour or something comedic like The Thin Blue Line. And this might make me sound weird, but I like playing with DH's hair after I've cut it, it's so soft and fuzzy 😄

@WingingIt09 they weren't very dark...I'll attach a photo of the ones over Friday and Saturday. If I've missed it and ovulation is around now that puts me at a 36 day cycle this month.

We took 5 months before falling pregnant with our second...but caught on contraception with our first so not sure if I'm being careful enough 🤣 it would be sods law we'd fall first time if we tries this month though and I'd miss out on all my holiday cocktails 🤣🤣

@Dreamingof3 that's similar to how mine have looked the last few cycles, I've never got a proper positive so have assumed I missed the peak as my LH seems to surge and dip in about 24/36 hours. So far this cycle I'm managing to BBT (well from Cd 6 onwards anyway) so hoping I might manage to confirm ovulation that way as i am slightly concerned I might not be ovulating. Hopefully you've just missed your peak? When would AF be due in relation to your holiday if you are ovulating around now?

@WingingIt09 my peak last time was cd24 and then after arrived cd 37 so even if this month goes the same I'd be due to finishe my period a day or 2 before we go away. So as long as it doesn't go longer I should be OK 🤞

Potentially I could've ovulate earlier and missed it

@Dreamingof3 fingers crossed for you that it's finished before your holiday. Mine is now due mid-end of my holiday :( we go away the 7th - 10th and I'm due on the 9th. So annoying as I use period pants and can't really use them when away. Much prefer them to pads. Slightly hoping for a later ovulation so I get a later period! Will know when to expect AF in the next few days once I get my peak.

@WingingIt09 I hope it's a couple of days late for you then 🤞

I'm so anxious about mine being late. My periods are really heavy and so painful it would honestly just ruin the holiday. I don't know whether to give up with the opks now and assume I've missed it

I'd maybe continue with the OPKs for another few days or so. If it stays faint then stop but if you've not ovulated yet it might go back up?

@WingingIt09 you're right. I think I'll do another couple of days. Although if it's late I'll be super annoyed.

May even go to gp for something to delay my period...does anyone know what effect that has on the following cycle?!

@Nyxxie I'm the same with my luteal phase. Do you get spotting also before AF? I've started agnus castus this month and trying progesterone cream once I ovulate so hopefully that helps 🤞 just waiting to hopefully ovulate in the next 3-5 days as my ovulation is usually between CD16-18 and currently on CD13 but OPKs are still extremely faint. Sorry to hear about AF it's so disheartening isn't it how long have you been off contraception ?

So many newcomers! Welcome all. Fingers crossed for some BFPs!

@Nypie Sorry to hear your DPs getting cold feet. :( I do think it’s a normal reaction - I do the same thing from time to time. I’m sure he’ll come around. Especially when he realises how much it means to you.

I just keep bringing it up now to my DP, and we do talk about kids more and more. Just feel like if I keep mentioning it it will be less scary in a few months time 😂

For those who are currently TTC, or are on their second / third, was it strange transitioning from being ultra careful when DTD to TTC? I think that’s what I’m going to find really weird.