Impotence and conception

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I'm posting under a different name in case anyone I know is reading this.

DH has had problems with impotence - we have been together for over 10 years, and there were various periods where we didn't ever have penetrative sex at all. We have had counselling, consultants and tried lots of different drugs/hormones and other treatments. At the end of the day, I think it is probably an underlying physical problem which is made worse by stress/psychological pressure.

When it comes to TTC, this is obviously a complete NIGHTMARE. We can manage penetrative sex about once a month when TTC - normally it would be about once a week, but the pressure on DH is too much. He finds it REALLY stressful knowing that he has to perform and every month that goes by it gets more depressing and more frustrating - in every way.

I wondered if anyone else is dealing with these kind of problems and if you've got any tips for dealing with it.

Hi I have been married for 10yrs for the first 3 yrs sex was great then same as you it comes and goes, dh says just doesn't feel like it and not coz he loves me any less. i am ttc no2 and have been for ayr and half and getting very stressed by it, we are at the mo using the ov kit, but that also puts pressure on dh, i think time and just do the test and not tell him then make your play??? naughty i know but he won't feel so stressed, cat me if you want, but big hugs know how you feel xxx