🌈Ttc after miscarriage thread 6 🌈✨🙌💞

[Skl2021]

Flying through these threads ladies 🌈🤞 let's get some more rainbows 💞 xx

@Frida9 my story is similar to yours. I miscarried last week at 6 weeks and we were 9 months trying. This too is our first pregnancy so it was all very new. I'm sorry to hear your family can't understand why you are upset as it is an upsetting time and to be honest it hit me harder than I thought it would. Even though it was early in the pregnancy, we still get all the emotions. I'm glad your partner is supportive though and that's the main thing. Do you think you will wait a while before trying again? I had a follow up appointment today and they said I would be my most fertile now and I'm contemplating trying straight away, although don't know if I should let things "reset" first both physically and emotionally.

@bunnykins123 I had Ewcm too but like you had a blank circle and was a low recording on my easy at home strips, that was 3 days ago and I was almost going to give up testing last night but this morning I got a peak which is CD15 for me now (last year I was ovulating around CD11) so try and keep testing see what happens 😊

Hi all,

Hope everyone is safe and well.

It's been 7 weeks since my erpc for a missed miscarriage. This week I have started to track ovulation using the clear blue advanced digital.
I have had 3 low days followed by 3 high days. When can I expect my peak fertility? Thank you all x

@calimc83 haha I know, I'm an obsessive symptom spotter too! Saying that - the months I've been pregnant (3x early miscarriages) only 1 gave me any symptoms. So I really believe that symptoms mean nowt really. Are you testing this morning? Just got my flashing face on CB yasss 👏

@Lizm1990 thank you for the heads up! You were right - flashy smiley today so the fun begins tonight! It's just so weird the volume of EWCM was so much more than I was expecting when technically I 'wasn't' fertile.

@Beautyangel1 I'm so sorry about your loss, it's so hard. I found that after my miscarriages, my hormones go haywire for a while. That could mean you will have quite a few flashing faces before a static. I've had a some cycles where I've had 10 flashing faces 🙈 that's not to say you will as everyone is different but just be aware that it could happen and it's nothing to be concerned about (whilst tres frustrating!) good luck this month!

@bunnykins123 yayyy 😊 tmi but all week it’s felt like I had leaked pee but it wasn’t 🤣🤣 so I know what you mean about ewcm!

@bunnykins123 yay! What cycle are u post MC? I'm 99.99% sure I'm out. Af due tomorrow and stark white negative on a Frer. Checked my cervix ( grim I know) and it's gone super hard and low so she's defo on her way 😩 x

Morning ladies, coming back as hopefully in the 2WW. I was also unprepared for how much miscarriage would affect cycle - mine even went back to 28 days after son was born and exclusively breastfeeding!
First cycle had a positive OPK on day 30 with period starting 13 days later. This morning finally got positive OPK on cycle day 18 (normally 14) so heading back in the right direction. Have promised myself I’m not going to test until period is late after indent this month…but who am I kidding!? Good luck to everyone, and praying you get a BFP this weekend @calimc83 xxx

Tentatively joining here. I had a surprise pregnancy earlier this month (would have been child number three) before losing it 4 days later. Although I think I was very early (not much further on than 4 weeks) the positive lines stuck around for a couple of weeks and I’ve only just started getting negative tests again, which is a bit emotional. Anyway, myself and my husband had the chat and have decided to go for trying to have a third properly….so here we are.

Going by the bleed I am CD17 but fully expect my cycle to be a bit screwed, as it is at the best of times tbh (my second daughter was conceived around CD21…) so will be cheering you all on from the sidelines and sorry you’ve found yourself here. It’s a headfuck and I can only imagine the anxiety if I get a BFP again…

@Lizm1990 weird, isn't it. When ttc DD I was dry as a bone but now I'm literally having globs of the stuff! Where are you in your cycle?

@calimc83 this is my 1st 'proper' cycle post miscarriage at the end of Jan (sob). Not grim at all - an absolute necessity when trying to figure out the dreaded 'am I, aren't I' dilemma! I'm so sorry it was stark white. Could it be you ovulated later? I think I'm going through a dodgy cycle this month as I usually get 1000 years worth of flashing smiley faces but this cycle seems to be a slow starter (despite the symptoms!)

@bunnykins123 I’m on CD16 done two LH tests today so far and I think I peaked this morning with a read of 1.76 but going to test later to double check as my last test my wee was a bit over hydrated. I’m similar to you though in that my mmc was diagnosed 30th Jan but had my D&C on the 10th Feb, had my first period then now fully trying. It’s so hard not to obsess but it’s literally all I think about 🤦‍♀️😩 hopefully your peak will come soon 🤞

@curliegirlie welcome 😊 fingers crossed for you both! This thread was never something I thought I would ever be on as it never even crossed my mind, but I’m glad I am here as everyone is really supportive 😊

Hi @curliegirlie sorry that you're here. I've got everything crossed for you!

@Lizm1990 it's literally all I think about too. This is my second period since my mc and I wasn't expecting it to hit me as hard again. I think because I fell pregnant on the first try in January I've been expecting it to be easy to fall again and it hasn't been. I just want to be pregnant again 😢

@peachiekeen I feel exactly the same as you about just wanting to be pregnant, it’s hard to stay motivated at work when you want something this much! I’m trying to stay realistic as this is my first proper cycle but I know if it doesn’t happen this cycle I’m going to feel really down but I’m not sure I can do anything to stop that as it’s so hard emotionally. Hopefully for you it won’t take too long 😊 i said to my mom that for me it’s the worry how long it will take and then the second worry is the scan …. Only until after then I think I will relax a bit

@bunnykins123 I still don't think my cycles have settled since my MC in Nov. They're around 25/26 days long and I seem to spot now, keep thinking I have a hormone imbalance but not sure what I could get tested for? Ahh gosh end of Jan isn't that long ago, I'm so sorry. Did u fall pregnant easily? I caught first cycle which is making me panic now..😬 3 cycles down and not a hint of anything! I'm not 💯 sure on my ovulation date as didn't use OPKs but I think my cervix is a pretty reliable indicator ( I told myself I shouldn't delve around but I can't help it 😆) x

@peachiekeen I'm the same as you we fell pregnant first time trying in Jan and now realising it was just luck, wish it was always that easy!

@Lizm1990 I know what you mean - it's always there in the back of your brain no matter what you're doing. I really hope it happens soon for you!

@Sassy144 I think it just makes us more expectant that it's going to happen quickly. Especially as we keep being told that you're more fertile after a mc. Which just ends up making you more disappointed really. We're on this rollercoaster together lovely. Let's just hope it's not too much longer. I'm not tracking anything this month as we're going away and will be ovulating while I'm away and don't want it ruling my holiday but I'm rooting for you!

Hi girls, not sure if this will help, but every time AF turns up I just think to myself - well, at least I’m not having a miscarriage. I just think I would rather AF turn up then to get a positive pregnancy test and then go on to miscarry again. I don’t know if this is a good way of looking at it but that’s what I’m trying to do at the moment xxx

I’m just worried now we’re trying it either won’t happen (I turn 40 this year) or will be another long drawn out process - possibly peppered with MCs/CPs along the way.

It seemed such a happy surprise (once we’d recovered from the shock!) when we saw the two lines earlier this month - after 16 months TTC our first, and 12 months with our second, it was incredible it had just happened when I’d been slightly lax with pill-taking…

I’m really torn between not tracking at all (just taking the view, well, we’re not preventing and if it happens it happens), and starting back on the OPK bandwagon next cycle, as I know I can be wonky….

@peachiekeen yes exactly! I hope you have a lovely break away, not testing is a really good idea and will take the stress away 💛

@Lottie2267 that's a really good way of thinking about it, thank you. You're so right x

@calimc83 how are you today? 💕 X

Sorry if this has been mentioned before on the thread, but has anyone seen the Tommy's mother's Day video. I thought it was really sensitively done and shows the whole range of motherhood including those who have had miscarriages, & failed cycles of IVF.

@Skl2021 yeah ok! AF hasnt shown her ugly face yet but my cervix is so low it could be mistaken for a prolapse 😆 so pretty sure she'll show up tomorrow 😬🙈 how u doing? X

@curliegirlie I'm 40 in Jan so 💯 know where you're coming from. My age really bothers me 🙈 I sway between trying to be relaxed to mega obsessed and peeing on everything! ( by that I mean OPKs) 😆😆 x

@calimc83 so glad af has stayed away 🤞 oh no u have been cervix diggin again 🙈🤣 I'm ok plodding along exhausted 😴 xx

@Skl2021 Yep! I can't help myself 😬..ahh look after yourself. Let u a know how your scan goes xx