Did anyone ovulate on Valentine's Day? Would you like to do the 2WW together?

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Did anyone else ovulate on or around Valentine's Day? i could do with some moral support this month as I'm feeling a little down about TTC. Anyone want to do the TWW together? 🤞🏻✨

@beanchopper17 i've done a clear blue this morning, and another faint line, came up in the time and deffo has blue in it. The pic isn't great, just doesn't seem to catch it as it is in real life. Would you be able to do your invert thing on it for me?? Xx

I see it too @MrsT8509

I have inverted and darkened, oh I really hope this is it for you!

@beanchopper17 me too 🤞🏻🤞🏻

Just not gettinf my hopes up yet. Going to give it a couple more days and retest. If itnis, i think i definitely ovulated later, so the friday 18th, because if it was when i normally would have i'd presume they would be darker. Peak opk's 3 different time so who knows. I'm just hoping that because they are different brands that they all can't be indents! Time will tell.

Hope you've managed plenty of dtd since you peak. I've got everything crossed for you 🤞🏻 xx

Good plan, give it a few days and hopefully it will be clearer 🤞🏻 are your opks still dark?

Did all we can, not going to get my hopes up cause I have been so stressed recently (work related) so going to try my hardest and leave testing alone.

I was meant to take a break from opking but I like knowing when my af will arrive. With my irregular ness I used to hate not knowing when it would show up.

@beanchopper17 yes, still dark. Not as dark, but darker than they usually would be at this point.

All we can do is try isn't it? I hope you're not too stressed. Try snd take some time out and make time for you. So should your af be due in 2 weeks then, or are yours longer or shorter?

@MrsT8509 that's interesting, all very good signs. I can't wait for you to test again so you can get your confirmation either way (but hopefully of good things).

Yeah after peak it's usually between 13-15days, so I guess the 2week officially begins. Hopefully the work madness it will whizz by. I also have to go for 2nd day bloods once af does begin (was meant to go last af, but covid messed that up).

@MrsT8509 how you getting on?

@beanchopper17 non the wiser over here! Still getting faints. If they are faints that are actual faints, i think i deff must have ovulated on the later date which would mean i'm due af on Sunday. Either that or i've had 8 faulty tests with indents/evaps, even though lines have all come up within the 3 mins, or i'm having another chemical which is just taking it's time to kick in. Symptom wise, cramps but nothing major, tired like all the time, snappy, and thirsty with a bit of a sicky feeling, but all that can be af symptoms! Just going to wait til friday now to do another test. If it's negative or still faint then i'll take it as i'm not. Oh and still dark opks 🤷🏻‍♀️ How are you?

@beanchopper17 achy boobs too

@MrsT8509 hope you get some clarity this weekend 🤞🏻 can't be easy!

Same old here, 3dpo and realised the day my periods due I am off to a posh wedding 🤦🏼‍♀️ the first day is always the worst! Ffs!

@beanchopper17 i'm not holding out much hope! I think it's just been a messed up cycle since the chemical. Just want af now so we can move on to the next cycle and hopefully things will be back to normal.

Well hopefully you won't get af and can be at the wedding with a little tag along!

6dpo and desperately trying not to symptom spot, but I can not Debye the weird fluttery sensation in my lower area, really strange to describe 🧐

@MrsT8509 did you test? How you feeling?

@beanchopper17 🤞🏻🤞🏻 will you test early or leave it til after af due?

Negative test on Thurs. I didn't think there would be anything with those faint lines, but i got positive opk's from thurs-sat too and dtd then aswell, so just a waiting game. The whole ttc is just one big waiting game 🙄 i debating just going with the flow next month, not opking, not overthinking it, and just dtd every other day from about cycle day 9.

@MrsT8509 it could be the loss last cycle that's just messed with your hormones. What could happen is when af comes and goes, next cycle could be a lot smoother.

I had a loss in 2019, and I have screen shot my cycle from clue, I forgot how messed up it was! So the orange dot was when I got my proper bfp and then the red dots are af (bare in mind at the time I was having very irregular cycles) hopefully this gives you some peace of mind than a erratic cycle after a loss can be normal. Frustrating but normal.

If you have normalish cycles then I would say give it to free styling it. As someone who never knew when her period was going to show up, I don't think I could ever stop opks even if I stopped ttcing, I love knowing when af is gunna make an appearance 😂

@beanchopper17 thanks for that. I'm sure they'll bounce back next month. 🤞🏻🤞🏻

Any more flutters today?

@MrsT8509 not really, they were on and off yest late afternoon and nothing since. Very odd 🤷🏼‍♀️

Going to try leaving testing till at least Friday, well even though based on my history it's very unlikely to be positive I want to be able to enjoy the wedding (thanks to covid it's taken 3 years to happen). I am trying to not let ttcing interrupt me actually living, I let it control my social life for so long.

@beanchopper17 i know exactly what you mean. I haven't had a drink since Christmas 😭😭 and i was a bottle of wine at least 5 times a week kinda girl! It just consumes you doesn't it? I reckon going to the wedding, having a few drinks, and forgetting all about it is definitely going to bring you an ironic positive!!

@MrsT8509 has the elusive af showed up?

Not sure if I am 9 or 10dpo, but literally nothing new here 🤦🏼‍♀️

@beanchopper17 nope! If the last opk was correct, should be due around the weekend. Just because i love nothing kore than a little syptom spot, i've had this really weird taste in my mouth the past few days, i just can't describe it, a bit like when you're hungover and you have that weird taste, if you know what i mean, and i've been so thirsty. I was a tually really thirsty last time before i got my positives, but not getting my hopes up as could be literally anything. Other than that, no other symptoms. Maybe we'll be of the few that just don't get symptoms.

@MrsT8509 so we are due af around the same time 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

Like a metallically taste?

Doesn't help that my friend is due any day, so I get daily updates of her frustrations of her baby not making an appearance. While I just sit there like oh no that's so bad for you hummmmm 😑🙄 some people just don't understand the infertility struggle!

@beanchopper17 i'm the same, i've got a friend due in May. Don't get me wrong, i'm absolutely over the moon and excited for her, but just makes me want our own so much more. My husband's sister is also trying and i'm 100% dreading that they will announce something soon and before us. Which makes me sound like a horrible person.

It would be lovely for us both to get positve news at the same time, we can carry on this little thread together!

@beanchopper17 sometimes it's metallic, but not all the time. Itms very strange but constantly there.

@MrsT8509 I have been through counselling recently because of our very long journey it was really taking a toll on my emotional state and having to face the fact it may not happen for us (I tear up even at the thought).

It really helped me accept I can be upset when announcements are made, because it's sadness that it's not you. Because I would try to mask my upset/frustrations and I ended up bursting into tears at random times (when there was no need).

It really didn't help that most people I know who have gotten pregnant, I know they had no issues getting pregnant and had perfect pregnancies and then went on to have healthy children. Most of them got pregnant the first time they 'tried' or weren't even trying in the first place!

When I was going through my loss in 2019, my sister in law announced she was 14weeks pregnant, she knew I was going through a miscarriage but still went into detail about how they had literally decided to try the day they conceived and that if I was that bothered about having a baby I should try harder, our relationship has never been the same since and I struggle to look at her 2 year old without imaging what stage my baby would be at (she's had another daughter since).

The worst is the advice you get from people who have no idea what ttcing long term or a loss feels like. The whole 'take a break' 'my friends aunties sister tried this and poof pregnant' 'you just need to relax' 😑😑😑

My only advice is feel your feelings and be honest with those around you. I really regret bottling everything up and trying to pretend to be soooo happy for everyone when I was crumbling inside.

Some people will be understanding and try to support the best they can and some just will never understand.

Buttttt your no where near the infertile life as your just beginning your journey and I am sure there will positive news your future. I just want you to know your feelings are valid! Even if you weren't over the moon, that's ok!

@beanchopper17 thank you for be so open about that. I can't even begin to imagine how you feel after so long, and after your loss in 2019. You seem like a very strong and amazing lady, and i genuinely hope you get your baby soon.

When i told my sister in law about the chemical, one of the things she said is, what will you do if it keeps happening? And i thought, what a very insensitive and rude thing to say. I know there was no malice in what she was meaning, but i just can't understand what makes people say the things they do sometimes.

I do believe that things happen as and when they are meant to. That everything is already mapped out for you. Not everybodies thought but i find it brings me some comfort, not just with ttc, but with anything life throws at you.

@MrsT8509 thank you, it's very kind of you to say that.

I swear some people just say things without engaging their brain. Also if you have no experience of long term ttcing or a loss my opinion is just don't say anything, just be supportive. It's a struggle enough without thoughtless comments.

Please don't let that thought plague you, it's a very insensitive comment.

Well 10/11dpo, I caved and tested this morning stark white. Have you resisted testing?