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Conception

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Other half pulling out...

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allthingssparkly · 02/02/2022 21:50

Just out of interest, have any women got pregnant by their other half from them pulling out after DTD?

I'm super keen to try for another baby, but other half isn't so (just at this moment in time) However we aren't using contraception, occasionally he will use a condom but when we don't he's pretty much pulling out just as he's about to 🙈🙈

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FelicityPike · 02/02/2022 21:55

Thousands!

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allthingssparkly · 02/02/2022 22:02

@FelicityPike Thousands of women I presume you mean?!

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Sprogonthetyne · 02/02/2022 22:09

This isn't a reliable for of contraception, so a lot of 'suprise' baby's come from using this method. As your partner doesn't want a baby right now, I'd probably tell him that it's a high risk method, then leave the ball in his court. If he's serious about not wanting a baby he can use condoms, otherwise he can't say he wasn't warned when the highly likely outcome occurs.

britneyisfree · 02/02/2022 22:09

My mum lol 😫

FelicityPike · 02/02/2022 22:14

[quote allthingssparkly]@FelicityPike Thousands of women I presume you mean?![/quote]
Well yes, you asked have any women ever got pregnant by the withdrawal method.
So I answered.
Good luck to you.

Maybepossibly22 · 02/02/2022 22:20

I did. It’s not reliable in the slightest, however we were in a not trying not preventing situation so we wasn’t needing it would be reliable. As PP said, if your DP is sure about not wanting another for the time being then the contraceptive ball is in his court

elp30 · 02/02/2022 22:22

I have two children from that particular method...

FelicityBob · 02/02/2022 22:25

Withdrawal method is 78% effective at preventing pregnancy. So you’re in with a good change of conceiving!

Brett239 · 02/02/2022 22:35

Yup lol! As a result I was 7 months pregnant at our wedding & had to cancel our Hawaii honeymoon. It's all good.. that was 10 years ago and I wouldn't change a thing. Just know it's a risky risky method of birth control.

T4Opal · 02/02/2022 22:41

@Brett239 did you ever get to Hawaii!!

VikingLady · 02/02/2022 22:44

DH wouldn't decide on whether he wanted a second DC, but also didn't like condoms. He knew I wanted another, so I pointed out how many catholics there are in the world and DC2 is 6 now.

D0lphine · 02/02/2022 22:47

Do you honestly thing women would take birth control if the withdrawal method worked?

horsesanddrywhitewine · 02/02/2022 22:49

Your issue isn't your "birth control" method. It's the fact one of you would like another baby and the other would not.

You need to have a grown up conversation about it before the inevitable happens and just grow up?

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allthingssparkly · 02/02/2022 22:49

Thank you everyone!

I'd absolutely love another baby and my partner knows that 😊 but I can't force him to want another if he doesn't, but at the same time he's happy to have sex with me without a condom but then pull out 🙈 🤣 dear me! I know he would love and care for another just as much as he does with our current children, even though at this current moment he's saying no to wanting another 😬

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allthingssparkly · 02/02/2022 22:51

@Brett239 Hawaii is INCREDIBLE I have been, I hope you manage/have already managed to go 🌴🌴🌴

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NeverDropYourMooncup · 02/02/2022 23:27

@FelicityBob

Withdrawal method is 78% effective at preventing pregnancy. So you’re in with a good change of conceiving!

Which translates pretty much as if you've already knobbed five times since New Year, you're likely to be shopping for buggies by Easter.

However, if he's saying he doesn't want one, he's laying the ground for not doing a thing to help when you won't terminate the inevitable consequence.

D0lphine · 03/02/2022 00:28

@allthingssparkly

Thank you everyone!

He is saying "no" but clearly he is happy to take the risk.

What an odd situation to be in!!

Brett239 · 03/02/2022 00:44

[quote allthingssparkly]@Brett239 Hawaii is INCREDIBLE I have been, I hope you manage/have already managed to go 🌴🌴🌴[/quote]
We are finally going next month for our 10
year anniversary - with 3 kids and staying at a Disney resort LOL!! Not the belated honeymoon I imagined but I'm really looking forward to it 😀

Od130990 · 03/02/2022 03:53

Pre ejaculation ( aka pre-cum ) is enough to get you pregnant even if he thinks he's pulling out before ejaculating. Men can control ejaculation but they can't control pre-cum and it more likely than not contains sperm from previous ejaculations. WHO estimated that 4-18% of people who use the pull out method will get pregnant.

Yearofthetygerburningbright · 03/02/2022 04:07

I know someone who got pregnant from what used to be called "heavy petting" not even full intercourse.

You can definitely get pregnant if your partner pulls out. And it isn't vanishingly rare to do so.

Use some proper contraception (or if that doesn't suit then learn a proper version of natural family planning) and learn about the pros and cons of each and their failure rates.

Yearofthetygerburningbright · 03/02/2022 04:08

However, if he's saying he doesn't want one, he's laying the ground for not doing a thing to help when you won't terminate the inevitable consequence.

Whether or not this is true of this man I can't bear men who can't be bothered to understand and be properly involved in contraceptive choices.

timeisnotaline · 03/02/2022 04:12

I wouldn’t have sex with him unless he said he clearly understood he was taking responsibility for contraception here and if his method failed he would love and cherish a baby (and me). If I thought for a minute he might do half assed contraception AND then be unhappy or not fully hands on with a baby the immaturity and lack of self responsibility would kill my libido right off.

FlowerArranger · 03/02/2022 04:50

You need to have a grown up conversation with him and stop playing Russian Roulette.

Honestly, this is no way to potentially create a new life...

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allthingssparkly · 03/02/2022 07:28

I'm well aware the pull out method isn't a reliable form of contraception, I've tried so many methods and unfortunately none of them agree with my body!

So our option was for my partner to use condoms which he doesn't use all the time, he will pull out instead 🙈🙈 it's not that we have just started doing things this way it's been for a while and so far I've not become pregnant and I'm well aware that it can happen at any cycle!

If it did happen I know he would love and care for another just like he does with our children now.

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allthingssparkly · 03/02/2022 07:31

I uploaded this post purley to find out if any ladies have actually got pregnant from the pull out method as I haven't! Thank you to those who responded.

Please don't comment on this post with any negativity it's really not necessary, keep your options to yourself.

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