Other half pulling out...

[allthingssparkly]

Just out of interest, have any women got pregnant by their other half from them pulling out after DTD?

I'm super keen to try for another baby, but other half isn't so (just at this moment in time) However we aren't using contraception, occasionally he will use a condom but when we don't he's pretty much pulling out just as he's about to 🙈🙈

Honestly, this is no way to potentially create a new life.
Why, though? It makes no difference to the baby whether they were conceived pull-out style or missionary or with a turkey baster, so long as the parents love and care for it – and from what OP says, her partner will, even if he’s not putting much effort into contraception/conception.

@elp30

I have two children from that particular method...

Me to!!

@stuntbubbles I suppose that's your opinion on whether it's the right way or wrong way to create a new life.

If I fell pregnant right now, this baby would get all the love, care and everything in between that he or she deserves.

I'm less than 3 days away from my period being due and if that doesn't arrive then I could well be pregnant as they are very regular and consistant.
Ressurance at this time is far better than negativity.

It was effective for me for months but at the same time I was monitoring my cycles to make sure we used adequate contraception (or just didn't do it) around the time of ovulation, checking temp every day etc. You could try that?

And as soon as we wanted to actually 'try' for a baby we conceived straight away. So imo it does work if you take the right precautions

@deathofastrawberry Thank you 😊 I haven't been tracking ovulation with test strips or doing BBT either but the app I use to input the dates of my period start and end dates also tells me my fertile window/ovulation day/highest chance of pregnancy dates. However, I'm just not sure how accurate that is as I don't use any ovulation testing.

My cycles are 29/30 days long. It says on my app that my fertile window was 17th - 23rd Jan and my period last month was 6th - 10th Jan.

I haven't got much longer to wait now as my period is due tomorrow or Saturday.

Not to "throw negativity on this op"

But you are coming across abit nonchalant about the possibility of you becoming pregnant and almost like you arent taking your parents no of not wanting another child seriously.

Now of course because he says he doesnt want another child but isnt taking any precautions it is a giant contradiction and does make it hard to take him seriously

HOWEVER

I have read SO many threads on here of women that like you wanted another child and their dp didnt whilst using no protection. They all had the blase attitude that if they fell pregnant their partner would come around. They didnt. They got resentful and blamed the woman ( of course) for getting pregnant when they made their feelings clear. They felt unheard and dismissed over the want over another child. Even though it seems nonsensical when cornered feelings can be irrational.

Please dont be one of those women that just assumes that your partner will be okay if you get pregnant when he has said he wouldnt be

Be grown up and have a talk with him BEFORE a baby gets into the mix and just discuss the obvious that no contraception means chance of baby and if he isnt okay with that you need to re evaluate things.

Or you could find yourself back on here in months time complaining that he is annoyed with you and worst case scenario wanting to walk away. Never ever assume someones feelings for them

That's how I had a positive pregnancy test the week before my DH's vasectomy;that positive test is now nearly 13 and is currently creating a lot of noise getting ready for school

We’ve been doing it years and I haven’t. Doesn’t mean anything to you though as every body is different obviously.

Yep, we did. And my OH was told he would unlikely concieve but somehow that still happened 🙈

Although I will say, it should always be a joint decision so I would be careful of hoping for it to happen when it isn't what he wants at the moment.

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I’m currently 11 weeks pregnant using this ‘method’.

Absolutely I totally understand it's a joint decision and we have spoken about it previously.

I think we will have to have another conversation about it fairly soon regarding contraception.

I certainly wouldn't want another baby to ruin our relationship either, not that it would in my opinion but more so from my partners side.

Yeah got pregnant twice on pre cum..

You only use that 'method' if you wouldn't mind pregnancy. He's an idiot.

@allthingssparkly I wasn’t being negative? I was on your side, responding to another poster – the bold words aren’t mine, it’s a standard way of quoting another post.

@stuntbubbles Oh so sorry, I didn't realize that 🙈🙈🙈🙈 Apologies!

Me and DH use condoms sometimes and then other times have used the pull out method, it’s been this way for years. I have never got pregnant from this but when we started properly trying I fell pregnant quite quickly both times. That’s been my personal experience.

@Moonshine160 Thank you, nice to know that some else has actually used the same method!

It looks like I've come on my period 🙈🙈 I'm going to start tracking my ovulation from my next cycle that way when we are actually ttc its a little more accurate 🤞

Yes I did, I was 40 and we weren’t trying.

DD is 6 now

@Suzi888 Aw amazing 😊 I'm a firm believer in that everything happens for a reason!

I'm hoping at some point this year my partner is happy to try for our 3rd and final baby because I'm super broody! 🙈🤞

Haha! Well we weren’t that thrilled at the time, bit of a shock! But all well in the end- good luck hope all goes well for you! x

@Suzi888 Thank you 😊

[quote allthingssparkly]@Suzi888 Aw amazing 😊 I'm a firm believer in that everything happens for a reason!

I'm hoping at some point this year my partner is happy to try for our 3rd and final baby because I'm super broody! 🙈🤞[/quote]
Why don't you just wait for your partner to agree to have a baby. I think it's really really bad to deliberately get pregnant with someone who said he doesn't want another baby. I know he is being an idiot but it seems so risky to bring a child into the world when they aren't wanted.

Has he given you a reason for not wanting another one. You being broody shouldn't trumpet his reason.

Think how much more positive it would be for everyone if you wait?

Sperm is present in small amounts as pre cum so it is possible, but odds are much less but it definitely does happen.

@LetsGoParty Yes we will be waiting, I'm just wanting to track ovulation just so I know where I am each month 😊 because I don't know when in my cycle I'm ovulating each month and that in its self is a risk when we are having sex throughout each month and him only wearing a condom occasional times then no protection the rest of the time.