Other half pulling out...

[allthingssparkly]

Just out of interest, have any women got pregnant by their other half from them pulling out after DTD?

I'm super keen to try for another baby, but other half isn't so (just at this moment in time) However we aren't using contraception, occasionally he will use a condom but when we don't he's pretty much pulling out just as he's about to 🙈🙈

You need to tell him that pulling out is not effective. That you are not on any contraception and don't intend to change that and if you become pregnant you will be keeping the baby so if that's not what he wants, he needs to use a condom because you don't want to hear one negative word when you inevitably become pregnant due to no protection.

It is amazing how many men don't use protection, know their partner isn't and still have the nerve to blame her for pregnancy and try to make her abort!

You may think he would be happy and he may well be, but you need to be very blunt.

@IncompleteSenten Honestly, he knows all of what you have just said 🙈 I have already told him in previous conversations that I wouldn't terminate a pregnancy, I don't personally agree with that (my opinion), he also knows I'm not on any contraception and haven't been for a while now, he also understands my reasons for this. He knows that him wearing a condom occasionally isn't going to protect me from pregnancy, we already have two children and I'm very blessed that they are both happy and healthy!

I would want him to be happy if we had a 3rd and wouldn't want it to ruin our relationship we have been together nearly 10 years!

Well then, congratulations in advance. 😁

To be fair it sounds like he can't mind that much if you get pregnant. How about putting it all down in writing and getting him to sign it so that he can never go back and say you tricked him.
I do it in a jokey fun way but it might make him think about what he is doing. He needs to realise how dumb he is being.
I think he is being unfair telling you he doesn't want another kid but then have unprotected sex. If he already has two kids then it's not like he doesn't understand what's happening.
I usually think it's unforgivable when women knowingly get pregnant by men they know don't want kids as it's such a stupid thing to do and I think it's unfair on the kid but in your case it sounds like your partner may want another kid.

@FunnyGoingsOn Exactly, that's my thoughts too, he can't mind very much occasionally only wearing a condom and then other times nothing at all. I think maybe it's because I've openly told him on more than one occasion that I'd love to try for a 3rd baby.

He knows exactly what he's doing he isn't daft 🤣 but I think he's pulling out everytime we have sex because in his head he doesn't feel ready for a 3rd!