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Suddenly pregnant - a silver lining for my grieving parents

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Bea0001 · 26/12/2007 20:30

Very sadly my younger brother suddenly and unexpectedly died around this time last year. Almost to the day of the first anniversary my dh and I have found out that we are expecting our first child (I'm 37). When we received confirmation - on Christmas Eve eve - dh said, almost instantly, "now we have a really special gift to give your parents" (they didn't want any, too sad as they were to 'celebrate').

I am so very very excited for us and for them. I feel like I am staring in what feels like a modern day Christmas miracle. Of course my parents are still sad, but there is happiness now that I have never before seen in either of them.

This is one of the most special moments of my life.

B

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TenLordsaLapin · 26/12/2007 20:33

Very sad to hear about your brother B but huge huge congratulations on your pregnancy. I hope your baby brings you much happiness and joy (and sleepless nights and stinky nappies but that's all par for the course! )

munchkinmum · 26/12/2007 20:33

So happy for you and your family.

You are right, a miracle!

Wishing you a healthy pregnancy and a ver happy 2008!

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Bea0001 · 26/12/2007 20:36

P.S. I meant to say: I am sharing all this with the group as a way of sharing my joy: I don't want to tell other immediate family and friends until we are through the next couple of volitile weeks (we had a v. early miscarriage in Nov), so thanks for being part of this!
B

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CantSleighWontSleigh · 26/12/2007 20:54

Congratulations Bea. Wishing you a very very happy and healthy pregnancy.

EmMcK · 26/12/2007 21:12

Congratulations Bea. I hope that it all goes well and that next Christmas your lovely new wee one helps your parents (and you) to smile that bit more.

MulledWino · 26/12/2007 21:14

((((bea))))) How lovely for you all. Thinking of you all. x

TEUCHywithallthetrimmings · 26/12/2007 21:15

Just popped in to share in your Christmas Magic...here's to your little bundle bringing hope and happiness to the whole family.

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Bea0001 · 26/12/2007 21:26

Thank-you for all the lovely words of congratulations so far! I already feel like I'm surrounded by lots of great women!
B

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merrylissiemas · 26/12/2007 21:33

bea, how lovely. im so sorry about you brother but so, so pleased to hear your good news. wishing you a boring pregnancy and all my love xx

bahKewcHumbug · 26/12/2007 21:35

congratulations - what a lovely Xmas present for you all.

bookofchristmascarolsmum · 26/12/2007 21:38

Congrats - that's truly lovely .

lockets24 · 26/12/2007 21:54

sorry to hear about your brother, but what a wonderful gift for your parents..this truly does make you believe in the miracle of christmas!

xx

NAB3wishesfor2008 · 26/12/2007 22:08

I am so sorry for you and your parents loss.

Your new baby is a fabulous present and I hope you will be posting next Christmas on your baby's 1st one!

pistachio · 26/12/2007 22:45

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Bea0001 · 26/12/2007 23:31

Hello again,

Just to let you I'm going to let my Mum know of the generosity of spirit I have received from you all - it will make her too feel supported.
Bx

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NAB3wishesfor2008 · 27/12/2007 15:59

I really wanted to post this last time but couldn't think how to word it. I'm still not sure but with your Mum joining in here, I would like to say how lovely it could be to use your brothers name somewhere with your new baby.

debinaustria · 27/12/2007 16:09

Bea - I'm sitting here with tears in my eyes - what a fantastic Christmas present, I wish you an easy and trouble free pregnancy, and give our best wishes to your parents.

mibbes · 27/12/2007 16:18

what a fabulous and uplifting story - makes me feel so grateful for what I have. Even though no BFP yet I have so many other blessings to count - thank you for sharing and all the best with your pregnancy. From my family's experience I know that a baby can be a Godsend at times of sadness

blanki · 27/12/2007 16:28

Sorry for your loss. Wishing you all (esp you) health and happiness for the new year!

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Bea0001 · 27/12/2007 22:22

NAB3, and deb, mibbes and blanki, now it is I who struggle to find the words: your, and everyone else's thoughts here, are just SO touching; their sincerity and their realness - even though we've only just 'met' - adds to the sense of connection to, as I said before, great women.

I feel so, well, blessed! And even as I type this I can feel my brother looking on, smiling.

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iwantacoolchristmasnickname · 27/12/2007 23:24

what a lovely christmas story bea,

congrats to all your family on your wonderful news..

I, too, believe your brother must be sharing your joy.

moondog · 27/12/2007 23:26

How lovely.
May your new baby bring joy and healing to you all.

madamez · 27/12/2007 23:29

COngratulations. Life always does, really does, go on, but it's so good to have an immediate actual reminder of the fact. Best of luck for a nice puke-free pregnancy, an easy birth and happy parenthood

NAB3wishesfor2008 · 28/12/2007 14:15

Hope your pregnancy goes well.

Hulababy · 28/12/2007 14:17

Congratulations to you all on the lovely baby news.

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