Anyone else ttc #2? Thread 2

[Chanel05]

New thread ladies!

[Tjsmjs]

@ExPatHereForAChat My biggest problem is eating regularly- I work shifts and don’t always get time when on shift to get a proper break. I also have a bit of a Diet Coke habit so I’m working towards eliminating that completely but I’ll miss the caffeine on nights. I don’t drink tea or coffee.

I might have to try double socks- I always have cold feet so even it doesn’t work least my feet may be toasty for once.

[Goodgoodthings]

I am sure it's a load of bollocks but you know when the tips get in your head and you think why not? 👀 It's been freezing lately though so can't hurt can it haha. Bet the lady from Amazon reviews is having a right laugh though!

@Tjsmjs where are you in your cycle if you don't mind me asking? It must be tough working shifts - my DH does too and it's tricky to plan all of this around that and nursery and my own job! Helps to be working from home though 🤓

[whatsthecraic91]

@Goodgoodthings the socks thing is real apparently!! When I was TTC number 1 and having trouble I went to acupuncture & the lady said this. She said cold feet = cold uterus!

[whatsthecraic91]

@Tjsmjs caffeine free Diet Coke tastes the same I drink it when pregnant as I'm an addict 😀

[Tjsmjs]

@whatsthecraic91 I’ll give that one a go

@Goodgoodthings I am CD 4 today. Shift work makes it hard, plus DH works away often. He was away for the whole of October so that wrote that month off and last month he was only home for the first day of my fertile window and the day after ovulation. I can’t do BBT due to nights but this month I only have day shifts and one twilight so I’m giving it a go. In month I adjust the times I do my LH testing based on my shifts so last month I was testing early evening as I was on nights, this month I will be testing late morning as on days. Honestly I hate shift work- I’m in training and eventually I will be on days only but that it a year or two off yet!

[Moonshine160]

I’m feeling a bit down about everything today. Only CD4 and I end up wishing time away so that we can get cracking with trying again. My periods are usually about 6 days long but it feels like forever!

Is everyone going about life as normal over the festive month?

I keep telling myself I’m going to cut down on caffeine (I have about 3 cups of either tea or coffee a day) and limit how much alcohol I drink over Christmas, but if I do that I might still not end up pregnant and I’m not allowing myself to enjoy myself! It’s my birthday in December too so have a few drinks out planned with my girl friends and Christmas dos. I think I’m still going to try and enjoy myself and maybe not track as much but DTD every 2 or 3 days throughout the month instead and see what happens…

[Goodgoodthings]

Hey @Moonshine160 I'm sorry to hear you're feeling down. My cycles are pretty long so I know that feeling well and it's so disheartening. I'm at the part where I am waiting for a pos OPK and obsessing about whether I've already ovulated/wont ovulate this month and also feeling it a bit today.

Sounds like you have a lot to enjoy over December and I hope that it brings you a chance to relax and have fun and like you say, see what happens! I don't drink but the struggle to cut down caffeine with a wild toddler in the house is something I can't always do! I will probs take OPKs over Christmas but going to just try to enjoy the time. I think it's important to enjoy yourself and to try to not get too stressed with everything that TTC brings if you can.

[winter138]

Hi everyone, first time back on MN since having #1 in Feb 20.
This is 3rd month of TTC #2.

I started ovulation testing this month after having no luck previous 2 months - also my cycles are up the left since having #1 so wanted to try and understand when I'm ovulating. turns out it was on CD18.

I had planned to do SMEP this month but we have temp moved out of our house to renovate for a couple of months and all the upheaval has been exhausting for us and unsettling for my LO - he hasn;t been sleeping at all!
Still managing to squeeze in the BD though - more than last month so hopeful I've at least timed it right this month.

It's all so exhausting isn't it. I feel like I want this baby more than the last - I don't remember feeling this disappointed before with BFNs.

[Tjsmjs]

@Moonshine160 we are cycle day buddies. I am sorry you are feeling down. Periods are just rubbish- you are not pregnant and they can make you feel rubbish overall. As I have short cycles and would be due on around the 16th I am going track and limit myself to one alcoholic drink at the two Xmas parties I have before then. Then if not successful (which is likely) I’ll just relax and enjoy myself and not track for the cycle that covers Xmas day. If I was in your situation with a bday etc I wouldn’t track and just dtd every 2-3 days as you said. I don’t think there is a right or wrong approach but I would do whatever you feel happiest doing but also what will give you a chance to enjoy the time.

@Goodgoodthings I hope you get your positive OPK soon. I hear you on the toddler and caffeine.

@winter138 Hi. That sounds busy- hopefully you will get your positive this cycle.

[girafferafferaffe]

I think maybe I need to eat more? I've been dieting for so long now that maybe I need to give it a rest. I won't stop exercising though as I absolutely love it and will want to carry on throughout pregnancy if I can. I was extremely unhealthy the last time I was pregnant and was really really fat after having my dd. So this time I want to be stronger and not let myself go like I did before.

[Mim21]

I'm still lurking in the background here, just wanted to come and say @Goodgoodthings i heard that keeping your feet warm thing before my last cycle when I got my BFP, so i was keeping my cosy socks on and my feet on a hot water bottle while i was sat at my desk as i sit in a pretty cold bit of the house over the implatation kinda period, so who knows! I also used that fertilily conception cup for the first time last month, and took omega 3 (read it might help lengthen luteal phase and aid implantation) and also took a vitamin d spray alongside my ttc vitamins, just incase anyone wants to give anything else a try, you never know xx

[Goodgoodthings]

@Mim21 that's so interesting to hear, thanks! Will be keeping my thermal socks on in that case 😬 how are you feeling?

[Mim21]

I'm fine at the moment thanks still don't believe it tbh, not feeling many symptoms other than maybe a bit of early waking but its still super early, i'm not even 5 wks yet. Yeah it's nice to have warm feet can't hurt!! 🤞🏻🤞🏻

[Moonshine160]

Thanks @Goodgoodthings and @Tjsmjs
I am feeling a little more positive this evening. Spoken to DH and we’re still going to DTD lots over my fertile days but after that I’m going to try and keep myself busy with as little symptom spotting as possible. My next period will be due around 21st December so I’ll only test if I’m late.

Congrats @Mim21 ! I will keep my feet warm and have a look at the conception cup. Hadn’t actually heard of one of those.

[ExPatHereForAChat]

Alright, you ladies have convinced me to keep my slipper socks on at night!

I'm on CD8 so finally get to start SMEP. I feel like this cycle is already dragging...

[Mim21]

Hahah cosy toes all round! 🤞🏻✨

[Goodgoodthings]

CD 23 here and still no positive OPK... feeling so pissed off if I'm honest after being ill last cycle. Had EWCM at the start of the week and now nothing? Flo says I'm due to ovulate tomorrow so maybe I'm just a little late this month, or maybe I'm out this cycle. A colleague just announced she was pregnant on zoom and I felt that horrible tingly gutted feeling that I used to get first time around. I would so love to be pregnant at Christmas.

Still got my thermal socks on just in case 😂

[GreenFlipFlop]

I'm liking this thermal sock idea, I had no idea about this, my feet are always cold!!

@ExPatHereForAChat I think we're cycle day buddies, I'm on day 8 today! Going to start OPK's twice a day from tomorrow!

@Goodgoodthings I can totally relate to that tingly gutted feeling when someone else announces. I thought in May when we started ttc that I would definitely be pregnant by Christmas! 2 of my good friends announced they're both expecting in May and its so hard because I'm so happy for them but a tiny bit jealous! One is having her first and another her second and I feel bad being jealous when I have one already!! I think its just knowing the uphill battle before you can announce too, but then I always think I don't know how hard it was for them to get there either! Hope you're ok, we'll get there too, hope you get your positive OPK soon! xx

[girafferafferaffe]

They have said at my work they'll be asking for a pay rise for me because I do so much and I just felt really guilty for trying for #2 which I know is probably a bit silly.

[GreenFlipFlop]

@girafferafferaffe Well done!! Don't feel bad, they'll still get at least 9 months out of you before you go! 😂

[ExPatHereForAChat]

@greenflipflop We are indeed! Nice to have some buddies on this TTC journey :)

[girafferafferaffe]

@GreenFlipFlop thanks :) yeah I should probably think that way instead. It may not happen straight away as well I guess!

[Tjsmjs]

I wore my socks to bed last night and DH asked me why. He just laughed but it happy to go along with it.

@Mim21 I got the fertility cup to try this month so nice to hear about someone having success with it.

I’m on annual leave as off this evening for 10 days which will hopefully coincide with my fertile window. Going to really try to take care of myself on the Hope my chances increase.

[Mim21]

@Tjsmjs it's not cheap but worth a try! I don't have the luxury of lying around for ages after dtd hoping some of them make their way up there like i did before having DS hahah, i'd try and lie down 15-20 mins after if i could but then having that was a bit extra reassurance

[girafferafferaffe]

Just took a first response test and negative. Didn't expect to happen this month tbh though because I've just come off the pill and it didn't happen until cycle 2 with dd. And the positive is at least I don't have to think of an excuse to not drink at Xmas drinks!