Feb 2020 Bus Pt 4

[Juno231]

For the small group of ladies still here from the original February bus from 2020.

Maybe 2022 is when we finally get our babies?

@MimiArm
@paintfairy
@MrsTwentyNine

@MrsTwentyNine ooh exciting! How come it's an induction?

@paintfairy she'll be 39 weeks per my maths but I wouldn't trust it for shit 🤣

@Juno231 you got it right of course! Exactly 39 weeks!

They're worried he may get too big (already 7lb 1) 🙈 @paintfairy

@MrsTwentyNine ah that's not early really then. I've lost track of time! 🤣 39 seems respectable. It'll be interesting to see if he is big then. I've got the opposite issue in that they have made noises about getting her out early because she's too small. Since measuring isn't accurate I do wonder how many they are right about and how many not! We shall see. But I've got even more growth scans. 🙄

@MrsTwentyNine hm I'm not sure I'd be taking them up on the induction as the measurements often seem so wrong! Up to you of course but make sure they talk you through all the cons of induction if they haven't, as I've seen ladies on my other bus get caught out not having had a clue what the implications were.

Had my 28 week appointment today which was fairly uneventful... Also had my first antenatal class last night which was fun and all the couples seemed like they could be people we could make friends with so that's promising so far!

@MrsTwentyNine ooooh exciting!! The next 2 weeks will fly by. I can't wait to see your update soon that baby has arrived 😁😁🤗

How are you feeling?

Hey ladies!

I'm actually quite happy about the induction. You're right in that they are done unnecessarily Juno and you go through all that additional pain for nothing but I am just so relieved to have a date and a plan at this point that I want to go ahead. They also offered ELCS but don't want to opt for that if I can help it. Baby has definitely moved further down so of course I'm hoping he can make an appearance beforehand 😂

My antenatal classes were good for the friendship opportunities but the info provided was absolute rubbish! Hope yours is better!

@paintfairy ahh sorry you're having to go through that anxiety. They could be totally off like you say. How often do you have scans ?

@MimiArm thank you! How are you doing?

@MrsTwentyNine that's great! as long as you are well informed I think it's fab - I just keep hearing of women who had no clue so it rings alarm bells whenever anyone mentions it now. I will say I'd love to have a date to focus on like that and I'd love it if baby came a week or two before their due date... although I'm weirdly attached to the birth month of August now so would rather it still stuck to that!

The info we got on Tuesday wasn't wrong but it was relatively high level so I worried some of the ladies there could have used a bit more info. I guess I'll see how the rest goes but honestly I'm mainly there to make friends and to try and get OH a bit more up to speed as he has no clue.

@MrsTwentyNine every 2 weeks I think it might be now. I had another on Wednesday. Just to make things seem a whole lot worse, I had a community midwife appointment Tuesday who said I was now measuring small and had I not been going for a scan anyway, she'd have referred me. Luckily though there's slight improvement on the scan and baby is now 9th centile (from 6th). So I'm just hoping we manage to keep plodding on!

Too sleep deprived for the whole story right now ladies but our little bundle of joy arrived 2 weeks early after a brilliant sweep (and where I was already dilated pre-sweep!) so no induction! I'm so in love and oh SO tired!! Will fill you all in soon and good luck to you all for the next few weeks!! X

@MrsTwentyNine Oh WOW! Congratulations mama!! This is so exciting!!

Can't wait to hear all the details when you find time/the energy! And thank you for the well wishes too 🥰 X

@MrsTwentyNine congratulations!! So pleased he showed up voluntarily 😁tell us all!

@Juno231 @MimiArm @paintfairy the week has been such a blur!! So...
Got offered a sweep by the midwife last minute when I was 38+1 (the day before I had a "show" actually. MW said I was already 2-3cm dilated. (PS: sweep itself wasn't as bad as I thought it would be! ) Went home and literally 2 hours later I started getting mild back ache. Thought nothing of it and then it kept being on and off which made me time it on my contractions app. It started getting a bit more uncomfortable and I rang the hospital just in case...when they got to 45 seconds long and 3mins apart, I was semi convinced this could be it. Went to hospital and they checked I was indeed dilated but got sent home to labour at home. As soon as I got home, the pains got a lot worse and my waters broke!! (3 times at home...anyone know this could happen more than once ?!) Pain level shot up quite a bit at this point. Went onto nitrous and basically dilated from 3-10 very quick!! 4.5 hour labour in total - baby boy born with use of Ventouse at the end of it. Had an episiotomy but I barely felt any pain afterwards from it so I was very fortunate I think. Recovery has been amazing and apart from sleep deprivation, I cannot believe I gave birth to a little boy last Friday!! I hope you all are keeping well and can I just reiterate the message to make the MOST of sleep while you can haha!

@MrsTwentyNine Congratulations! Does he have a name? How big was he? It all sounds pretty good! Sounds like he was ready anyway, which always helps. At least you avoided the induction and ended up with a really short labour! Much more positive experience.
How are you finding life with a baby?

Oh it's an eye opener!! Gosh get ready ladies, life is about to change so much 😂 but ofc it's all worth it!!
He was 3.28kg and we have called him Theo :)
Had a jaundice scare so had to go back in for his treatment and now I'm combination feeding him. This wasn't my plan but fed is best!

@MrsTwentyNine 🤣 I can't decide if it'll be a pleasant surprise or a nasty shock. I'm not prepared whatever it is!
That's a good weight- not too big or small. Yes, i think you just have to do what you have to do? I like the name Theo. We couldn't have used it but I do like it. 😁
I've managed to do some baby clothes washing today. I need to get organised. Still got more to do but I'm making the most of the nice weather this week! Really need to sort the hospital bag too. Next week's job maybe.....

@MrsTwentyNine Oh, Theo is such an adorable name!! I really LOVE it!! Can we see a picture of him? (Even via PM if you don't want to share in this thread).

How are you recovering from the birth?

I'm 35 weeks today and getting so uncomfortable now. I finished work on Friday and am just shuffling around the house each day! I have my next scan/consult on Tuesday so hoping to hear then on whether I will be induced early or not. Feels so close now!

Sorry been awol! 4th trimester struggle is REAL!! Be warned ladies!!
How is everyone ??

@MrsTwentyNine oh dear! How are you both doing overall though? Did you end up breastfeeding btw? Recovery from the birth all ok?

I'm 37 weeks on Thursday and just trying to keep cool tbh. I'm definitely not enjoying being this pregnant in combination with extensive house renovations and still working... Wish I could just lay in a paddling pool all day and not worry about anything instead!

@MrsTwentyNine - good to hear from you.

I was in on Saturday past for induction but started getting contractions at 3 am on that same day. Came in as planned at 8 am and had the pessary at 10 am as I wasn't dilated at all. Had the drip on Sunday morning at about 11 am and was 3 cm by then. Contractions hadn't stopped since they started and were 5 mins apart but they they ramped up to 4 every ten mins very quickly. They broke my waters (took four painful attempts!) but then soon after my cord was presenting so I was whisked off for emergency c-section and baby Noah arrived soon after weighing in at 6lb12.

He's a little dreamboat 🥰🥰

We are going home later today ☺️

@MrsTwentyNine oh no. Don't tell us that. 🤣 I hope everything is OK though?
@Juno231 I am off work but have no paddling pool, so that's still not happening. But it would be nice.
@MimiArm that sounds a little scary? Was his head not down then? Its great he's here safely though. And going home today will be amazing! 🎉

39+2 here (or actually +1 officially, because I know otherwise 🤣). Nothing happening. Had my last community midwife appointment yesterday. Could have had a sweep but didn't, due to the insane weather and me not actually wanting a baby. 🤣 I have induction booked for Sunday (my due date) but I will likely defer it. And see if I can get a sweep. I also have a scan booked Monday to check everything is still OK.

@paintfairy Yes. It was scary. His head was down but it was pushing the cord out and off from him. His heart rate nose dived to a near stop. It's amazing how everyone came together so quickly though. The little dude is oblivious to all the fuss he created! I want to go home as hubby is only allowed in for one hour a day and I need the help (and reassurance) as I can barely stand up or sit/lie down. I'm trying to be as mobile as I can though but I've had literally 7 hours sleep combined since Friday night!

Huge congrats on baby Noah @MimiArm !

Ahh I'm struggling with 4th trimester ladies. Well I'm better now after 6 weeks but the sleep deprivation is unreal. I worried I could be depressed because running on such little sleep is so difficult!! Theo won't sleep anywhere but his the sleepyhead so that's a waste of a next to me crib. Me and DH are taking shifts overnight looking after him as he wakes every 2 hours from the start of a feed to feed again! Love him to bits but it's HARD work yikesss! Totally worth it of course :)

Breastfeeding not going to plan @Juno231 so still combi feeding but tbh he is mainly formula. I'm not getting time to increase my supply by expressing etc as he is always on me so offering breast first until he gets fussy within a few mins then giving formula straightaway. I guess whatever he gets is better than nothing aye!

Sorry it wasn't straightforward @MimiArm but really hope you get to go home soon!! Nap in between as much as possible is my advice!!

Good luck to you both @paintfairy @Juno231 any day now!!

@MimiArm I always thought if their head was down it stopped that happening with the cord. So that's a bit concerning! Would you have known even? Doesn't bear worth thinking about. One hour a day?! That's ridiculous! Why is that? How are you getting on now?
@MrsTwentyNine it does sound a bit full on! Hopefully it'll all settle down though.

@MrsTwentyNine - whilst I've only had a glimpse in time compared to you so far, I get that's it's so hard and the lack of sleep is unreal. Having a baby that will only sleep on you must be hard too. We've been lucky that Noah (usually but not always - like last night) will sleep in his next 2 me or Moses basket) and is generally easily settled.

I've also struggled with breastfeeding. Noah wouldn't latch on properly and both nipples ended up blistered and bleeding as each attempt to feed was taking 2 hours (with midwife help). As he wasn't latching properly my colostrum was fairly low so we had to supplement with donor breast milk through a small tube into his mouth whilst he was on the breast. By Tuesday morning, I couldn't take the pain anymore and broke down into a massive crying fit in hospital when the midwife said it was time for another attempt. He had cried all night and I was sore, bleeding and exhausted and I gave him formula. He's been having formula since. I couldn't take donor milk home with me so figured I had next to zero chance of it working out, especially with no midwife help at home. I'm still feeling down about it though and half contemplating trying to express today to see if my milk has come in. I would doubt it though since it's now been 2 days with no supply and demand. Noah is happier now on formula that he's getting what he needs.

@paintfairy I think it was when the waters were broken that the cord moved to that position. I don't really know to be honest. All I know is that it's quite rare. The one hour a day policy is because of covid. I got home on Tuesday night so we are reunited again now and I'm shuffling around the house as best as I can.

How are you feeling about things now that the days are closing in?

@MimiArm yes I think when the waters break is when it can happen. But by then the babies head should be blocking the exit so to speak. I think because mine isn't low, I worry about that. But I suppose its only likely an issue if my waters go.
The 1 hour thing is ridiculous. At our hospital it was never less than 2 for the last I don't know however long. Now its all day visiting again though (partners only) bar 1 hour at lunch. But after 5pm no one is allowed and people are kicking off about that even. I'm glad you are home though as you need support and can't just manage like that.
The breastfeeding sounds very stressful! Clearly when in agony that's not going to be successful. All these things are just so unknown though and you can't really know what to expect until it happens. All you can do is go with it.
I'm still in denial. 🤣 No baby here.