Remember remember the month of November as it’s the month I’m getting pregnant 🎉✨

[Mummytobe93]

Hello everyone ✨🎉

I’m starting a November thread after being unsuccessful this month, got some spotting so probably cycle day 1 for me today, with fertile window being in the first week of November.

Please join me if you’re as hopeful about fresh cycle as I am!

My main goal is to DTD more, we definitely didn’t make the most of it in October …
I’m therefore going to be 100% honest with DH that we need to get down to business this cycle.

PS. Hope you like the title 🙈😂😂

Xxxx

@MrsBiddy no signs of AF is good, there's still time for a BFP! 🤞

So I think I ovulated (according to cheapie ovulation tests) sometime between CD 7-9. First time I’ve had a positive test in 8 cycles. Im on CD19 and I’m still theoretically 11 days away from AF according to my app and I’m pretty regular (normally!). Today I have cramps and dull aches. What do we think? Could it be implantation pains? I’m concerned that I ovulated too early for this to be viable and I don’t want to symptom spot but I it’s feels too far away from when my AF is due. So exhausting!

@Appletree16 🥳🥳 huge congratulations to you! So exciting. X

@xoxo321 thanks for the recommendation, I was waiting for my result when I saw your message lol. The weird thing is after my dd I can feel ovulation starting, but before her I never felt a thing, not even PMS. I just tested and it is definitely going darker which lines up to how i'm feeling, so the app must be off a few days/the covid booster delayed it. I am feeling so glad though to be getting the booster before being early stages pregnant or something, and worrying about effects.

Assuming my maths is right i'll add myself to the list:

10/11 -
11/11 -@Mrslightat 11dpo,@dory010DPO
@MrsBiddy
12/11-@Mummytobe93at 9DPO
13/11-@crabcake3110DPO @Nico89 15DPO/AF due
14/11-@Bundaberg84+@Glago201716DPO**.@Nikkic2123at 14dpo (I’m not a tester, AF due)
15/11-@MindZGap12DPO@BH192614DPO
16/11-@Squiff7011DPO,@Decaffe9DPO**,@OK9210DPO
17/11-@Peonies949DPO@Coco9910(AF due)@Irishfarmer12DPO
18/11-@lottieb9214DPO
19/11-
20/11-@Digby8619dpo (approx),@Natalie230410DPO
21/11@ohmybaby13-15dpo@Firsttimetrier11DPO
24/11 -@Firsttimetrier14DPO @madeleine85 13DPO

After 10 years in the US it feels really nice to be on a thread with dates written the right way around!

Also contratulations @AppleTree16 amazing news!!

Congratulations @AppleTree16! Great news!!

I'm away all weekend with family and friends, so won't be poas!
AF due 19th November, and we come home on 21st. If no AF yet, I'll poas x

10/11 -
11/11 -@Mrslightat 11dpo,@dory010DPO
@MrsBiddy
12/11-@Mummytobe93at 9DPO
13/11-@crabcake3110DPO @Nico89 15DPO/AF due
14/11-@Bundaberg84+@Glago201716DPO**.@Nikkic2123at 14dpo (I’m not a tester, AF due)
15/11-@MindZGap12DPO@BH192614DPO
16/11-@Squiff7011DPO,@Decaffe9DPO**,@OK9210DPO
17/11-@Peonies949DPO@Coco9910(AF due)@Irishfarmer12DPO
18/11-@lottieb9214DPO
19/11-
20/11-@Digby8619dpo (approx),@Natalie230410DPO
21/11@ohmybaby13-15dpo@Firsttimetrier11DPO @nervousdave 15DPO
24/11 -@Firsttimetrier14DPO @madeleine85 13DPO

I’m straddling the November and December threads! Due to O on 17th November and AF is due 1st December so I aim to test on 30th November at 13DPO

10/11 -
11/11 -@Mrslightat 11dpo,@dory010DPO
@MrsBiddy
12/11-@Mummytobe93at 9DPO
13/11-@crabcake3110DPO @Nico89 15DPO/AF due
14/11-@Bundaberg84+@Glago201716DPO**.@Nikkic2123at 14dpo (I’m not a tester, AF due)
15/11-@MindZGap12DPO@BH192614DPO
16/11-@Squiff7011DPO,@Decaffe9DPO**,@OK9210DPO
17/11-@Peonies949DPO@Coco9910(AF due)@Irishfarmer12DPO
18/11-@lottieb9214DPO
19/11-
20/11-@Digby8619dpo (approx),@Natalie230410DPO
21/11@ohmybaby13-15dpo@Firsttimetrier11DPO @nervousdave 15DPO
24/11 -@Firsttimetrier14DPO @madeleine85 13DPO
25/11-
26/11-
27/11-
28/11-
29/11-
30/11- @Curlywurly3 13DPO

Yay congratulations @AppleTree16 ! 🥳 All the best for you and your little bean xx

Thank you everyone! (Too many to tag!). Still can’t quite believe it. Fingers crossed for you all xx

Congratulations @AppleTree16 it’s so exciting! Enjoy growing your little human ☺️❤️

@AppleTree16 ahhh congrats ❤️ xxx

Congrats @AppleTree16 🎉

For all the one hit wonders I'm pretty much with you.

We DTD CD 10 and 11 but I ovulated late at CD 15 (so means we DTD 5 days before O and 4 days before O).

I don't think that's enough.

We did manage to DTD 2 days before O as well but OH didn't finish inside so I'm not counting it.

So I'm not testing at all this month because I think the chances of conceiving 4 days before O is too slim 🤷🏻‍♀️

Just want to get AF now to start a new cycle. I'm currently 13 DPO with AF due Friday or Saturday.

10/11 -
11/11 -@Mrslightat 11dpo,@dory010DPO
@MrsBiddy
12/11-@Mummytobe93at 9DPO
13/11-@crabcake3110DPO @Nico89 15DPO/AF due
14/11-@Bundaberg84+@Glago201716DPO**.@Nikkic2123at 14dpo (I’m not a tester, AF due)
15/11-@MindZGap12DPO@BH192614DPO
16/11-@Squiff7011DPO,@Decaffe9DPO**,**@OK9210DPO
17/11-**@Peonies949DPO@Coco9910(AF due)@Irishfarmer12DPO
18/11-@lottieb9214DPO
19/11- @whitelily86 no idea DPO so AF due date.
20/11-@Digby8619dpo (approx),@Natalie230410DPO
21/11@ohmybaby13-15dpo@Firsttimetrier11DPO @nervousdave 15DPO
24/11 -@Firsttimetrier14DPO @madeleine85 13DPO
25/11-
26/11-
27/11-
28/11-
29/11-
30/11- @Curlywurly3 13DPO

Hi everyone!

@xoxo321and @lemons44 - I am joining your club.
We were soooo good this cycle, and then O decided to be a full week late!!

We were gearing up for it and we've been DTD every other day for the past week and a half but DH is...burned out now, just as I got my peak readings.
I got very High on the strips yesterday and proper Peak today, and we have managed to do it neither yesterday nor today. The last time we did was Mon night. I think O is supposed to be tonight/overnight/tomorrow morning at the latest, and just gutted that we're missing both the most fertile days and O. :(

Ughhh. I hate TTC. It's so freaking hard and exhausting. I cannot tell you the amount of OPKs I've done, I've been taking my BBT, using the pre-seed, taking my supplements...and had such high hopes for this cycle, but that's all gone out the window now.
We really should have been doing it yesterday, today, and tomorrow. But there's literally no hope he'll feel any better/up for it tonight/tomorrow, so I'm trying to snap out of it and adjust my expectations but feeling equal parts exhausted and frustrated.

I don't know what to do, I want to throw it all away (the tests, the lube, the thermometer, the lot) and just see what happens but I'm not a laid back person, and the fact we don't have sex every other day normally makes me think that this is a stupid idea as we will for sure miss the right time!

UGH. I am normally such an upbeat and positive person, but I swear this TTC stuff has turned me into a miserable cow this month. What a mess. Sorry to bring the energy down in here...Hope there are lots of BFPs, but I think for my own sanity I might need to take a step back from the whole TTC rigamarole, and this forum for a little while, and I for sure won't be testing anything. Just waiting for AF to come, whenever that is, because that too is now delayed for God knows how long.

Can you maybe sneak in one tomorrow morning or at least evening? The egg will survive like what, around 12 hours after ovulation? So I think you might be covered.

Understand your frustrations @Danani and we’re all right here with you xxx

@Danani so sorry you feel this way. You sound very frustrated as any of us would be. Do you think DH could be persuaded to have a quickie today or tomorrow morning? If not, then just try to 'enjoy' the rest of your cycle as a quick two-week break from TTC. It feels like it lasts forever whether you're in with a chance that cycle or not but honestly, when you look back on that two weeks you will see how quickly it has gone.

A very similar thing happened with us this cycle too. I forget exactly what order they happened in now but basically IIRC the night before I got my peak I was getting very high readings on OPKs and was too tired to even consider DTD. The next morning I got my peak and DP was too tired from work to consider it that day either.

It's shit when it happens but it's part of TTC for a lot of people.

Please try not to get too upset but I understand if you need to step away

Aw @Danani, I hear you completely. Something that you always think will be exciting is actually so tough and draining after a few months isn't it?

I am the same as you, I know we will be so likely to miss the relevant days if I don't actually track as routinely we just don't have full sex every other day.

I am actually dreading getting back on the TTC horse after this chemical is over, I found October so stressful and now have the worry of this all happening again too (after a stressful morning at EPU today including an internal scan :|).

Thank you all!

@Bundaberg84 - he said...we may have over-done it a bit, because things down there don't feel...great for him right now, you get me? Not sure why that would be as we were using pre-seed but...it is what it is, so when he's not feeling things right, he can't really....perform. Sorry, I want to explain without being to explicit.

@Squiff70 thanks lovely. As I mention above, it seems highly unlikely, unfortunately. I don't know what it is, like, I can be ready any day any time, but for him, it's so not the case. He's super keen when things happen on his terms and when he's in the mood, and when he's not feeling it, it's a bit of a lost cause. I feel like when his heart is not in it, it's almost impossible to get him in the mood.

Thanks lovelies @xoxo321 and @beckybabyx! xxx

@LittleMysSister thank you huni. I am so sorry for your chemical! I know it's not a great consolation, but... I guess at least you know that his swimmers and your body are all in order and things can happen and are happening, and will happen again! Hopefully, you have a more chilled-out November/December and a sticky BFP!!!

Thanks all for the encouragement. It's one of those yucky days, I'll bounce back and return with my positive outlook on life soon! xxx

Thanks @Danani , yeah I do feel a bit of relief that we've managed to get a result, even if it's not ended well. Tbh I think a big part of the shock and upset when I first saw my bfp was because I had convinced myself we wouldn't be able to conceive at all.

Just feeling quite stressed atm because I thought it would just be a case of letting things play out and retesting when I stop bleeding, since so many people wouldn't have even known they were pregnant at this stage. But the EPU obviously wants to rule out every eventuality and because my urine test from today came back positive they did an internal can and blood tests and now I think I will have to go back for more bloods to make sure the hormones are going down (unless they are already at non-pregnant levels), to rule out an ectopic.

I just don't need it, especially with my sister's wedding coming up next weekend. I need to travel a long way for it so I really need these bloods to come back at non-pregnant levels so I can just move on, but I doubt they will if my urine is still testing positive.

@Danani try not to read into the number of days etc. When we had dd we were once a week if that. It really does just take one time. It is a really fine line between ttc and not letting it become a chore/keeping the fun alive. I think guys really get in their own heads about it when it is dtd for a purpose as opposed to fun. It's also hard when you're not 22 and have children/work stress/life going on. We're on month 2 and I can see this getting hard to keep up. Serious praise to the couples who regimently do this for years.

Also I just read online that if you dtd every day as opposed to every other day it can result in immature sperm which lowers chances of conception. My husband sighs in relief (likely wrote that article to save himself) haha.

Totally agree with you @Danani and @madeleine85 - if he's up for it and it's just for fun then its just so easy but it's almost like because he knows we HAVE to do it around those few days, he just isn't in the mood to be told what to do. It can make it very difficult. I think we're all in the same boat thinking we wish we could relax about it all but it's so hard to relax when it's such a short window of time! xx