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🦕🦕 The dinosaur crew - part 8 ttc after mc 🦕🦕

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Annny27 · 05/09/2021 13:10

Hi ladies,

You know the drill after this long haha! All of us ladies are ttc after miscarriage (whether that's MMC, MC, TFMR, ectopic or CP)

I will tag people in next message :)

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apwilso · 29/09/2021 23:19

@Miscarriage39 thank you

Sorry to hear @PeanuttyButter just reading through post now.

@kiwi17 glad you got through the day. Sending you my love x

Spotsmama · 30/09/2021 11:09

Morning, we had a reassurance scan this morning which showed I am 7 weeks and 3 days. Didn't hear the heartbeat but we were shown the flicker it made. I've never had a positive scan before.
I feel a little bit calmer now but also worried as I know I can still mc and previously did so at 8 and 9 weeks. How on earth do you get through the next 5 week wait until the 12 week scan???
One worried, anxious emotional mess over here.

katewitch · 30/09/2021 12:38

Can I join please?

@Spotsmama that is such positive news but of course you'll still worry, just try to hold onto it with each day that goes by Flowers

I had an early miscarriage at 5 weeks in July which would have been DH & I's first baby. I had to leave work bleeding and the whole thing was just awful. I don't think I ovulated in August (long irregular cycles anyway and it took ages for my hcG to get to zero. I had a positive First Response in August that I mistook for a new pregnancy (the negative I'd had at the EPAU was clearly less sensitive) which was so upsetting.

I'm about 9-10dpo now by my reckoning and having the cramps and light nausea I'd had with the pregnancy in June and it's sending my brain into overdrive... I'm trying so hard not to symptom-spot but they're just there and I know regardless I'll be so disappointed when my period shows up. I'd love to have a break from TTC to grieve properly but we're old enough that that's not a viable option Sad I'm just not sure how to keep my head on straight and I don't want to bore DH with it or get his hopes up!

Equimum · 30/09/2021 20:59

So glad you got good news today Spotsmama, but unfortunately, I think it's inevitable that any of us will relax after what we've all been through. I know it's a cliche, but can you try just taking one day at a time.

Welcome katewitch, although sorry you find yourself here. The anxious balance between time to grieve and trying to make sure you don't run out of time is a really tough balance. Can I ask how old you are?

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Annny27 · 01/10/2021 08:29

Period arrived BUT if all goes to plan with appointments, I will be having my endometriosis surgery in 2 weeks time! So I am not that bothered about my period :)

@spotsmama so pleased everything looks healthy for you xxx

@kiwi17 ahhh AF arriving on due date is a real snack in the mouth:(

@babyghirl glad you are staying relaxed xxx

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Annny27 · 01/10/2021 08:30

@apwilso could be something! But could also be nothing haha. I hands down have thought I was pregnant every month for the past 2 years so I am awful for symptom spotting haha

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apwilso · 01/10/2021 09:41

@Annny27 I'm the same! Had some weird symptoms that I've not had before so hoping for a positive

Babyghirl · 01/10/2021 09:43

Well girls 11 pups all arrived through out the nite been a long one lol all pups and mother well 💚

ELM7 · 01/10/2021 09:57

@Annny27 glad you’ve got a idea on timescale for surgery. Hope appointments come together to keep you on track for it.

Ahhhh @Babyghirl yay to so many pups! Glad they are all doing ok. xx

katewitch · 01/10/2021 10:10

@Equimum I'm 32, but have this limit in my head of not wanting to be pregnant after 37 and we want 2!

More cramping today and I'm so tired, so glad it's the weekend but it will be hard to not waste FRERs when I'll likely get BFNs Sad

Babyghirl · 01/10/2021 10:26

@ELM7
Maybe it will be my lucky month to lol how r you doing 💚

Babyghirl · 01/10/2021 11:54

@katewitch
Welcome to r we family, so sorry for your loss its tough to go through but you will get through it, we r here if you need to talk.

I have had 4 miscarriages and 1 cp ttc num 1 long journey now in the hands of the rmc so hoping nxt one sticks. 💚

Babyghirl · 01/10/2021 12:00

Well 12th pup just born I can't even have one and she had 12 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

27DONFIN · 01/10/2021 13:13

@Babyghirl Awww congratulations hope mum and pups are safe

27DONFIN · 01/10/2021 14:02

Had my two scans today. My first was ultrasound and they said was all clear they didn't have to do an internal scan but said as I was there they may aswell so my consultant didn't send me at a later date. Again this was all clear. So now just need to hear how my eggs are from the blood test I had last week 🤞🏻

Babyghirl · 01/10/2021 14:46

@27DONFIN
Great the scan showed all clear, fingers crossed for the blood test results 💚

3amgoogle · 01/10/2021 18:29

Can I join? Afraid I'm a bit ranty.

I'm ttc #2. I conceived DD after 3 early losses. Investigation from the recurrent mc clinic came up with nothing, but I took asprin and along she came.

We started ttc last month, and on Tuesday I got a nice clear BFP. I've been spotting brown cm but missed my period and put it down to that. I took a CB digi today, hoping for reassurance, and saw 'not pregnant'. So now I'm just waiting to bleed.

I fucking hate ttc. I hate the hoping and the desperation, I hate that I was so stupid to look at my due date and think that this time it might magically happen without heartache just because I thought it should.

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Annny27 · 02/10/2021 07:13

@babyghirl wow she has had more babies then we can dream of! Do they have homes to go to yet or going to advertise them soon?

@3amgooglw so sorry you are going through a tough time. It's horrible when you remember all these feelings of distrust and anxiety:( so sorry you are going through it again xx

@elm7 thanks lovely I am pleased! How are you?

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3amgoogle · 02/10/2021 11:07

babyghirl 11! Beautiful. You must be so proud of mama. 😍

Annny27 Thank you. The anxiety is truly shit.

My 2nd digi said 1-2 weeks with FMU so I'm in limbo. I'm telling myself that for today I'm pregnant, we'll see about tomorrow.

Babyghirl · 02/10/2021 11:48

@3amgoogle
Welcome to the group so sorry you find yourself here though, but it's a great wee family group to be part off.

Ttc after a loses is awful. 12 puppies they just keep coming lol but she done amazing. 💚

Babyghirl · 02/10/2021 11:50

@Annny27
We have a few buyers for them so far thankgod but. Will get advertise soon 30,000 when we sell them all so some money. 💚

Miscarriage39 · 02/10/2021 13:08

Glad you have a date for your surgery Annny27.

So unfair that AF arrived on you due date Kiwi17. That must have really hurt! This journey seems so full of cruel twists x

Congratulations on all those pups Babyghirl. How are you getting in with it?

Great news that your scans were all clear 27DONFIN.

Welcome 3amgoogle. Your approach sounds like a good one for now. Sorry things are not clear cut.

So, AF never arrived. I secretly did a test last Saturday that was positive, but have been sort of living in denial I think. I haven't told DH as he was adament after the last miscarriage that it would be better not to know, then if it went wrong early, we would still believe it was just a period. Just to be clear, he wasn't being horrible, just that that would make it weather for him, and he assumed it would for me too. Obviously, I am very aware of things, and that's not the case. Anyway, a week on, I am starting to feel quiet nauseous and generally yucky. I keep thinking I have cramps, though, so talk myself out if telling him. I think I just feel it's all going to go wrong, so it'll be less real if nobody knows. I know it all sounds crazy, but hard to feel any other way right now. I am sorry if this sounds insensitive. I know so many of you here would live to get a BFP, and I am happy, I have just totally lost the connections between this and having a baby, IYSWIM.

kiwi17 · 02/10/2021 22:41

Congratulations @Miscarriage39 that's exciting news! Hope you have told dh now and that you can start to relax a bit. Yeah Wednesday was really crap but now it's over and I least don't have to go through it again for another year by which point I really hope we either have our rainbow baby or am pregnant 🤞 I've given up on trying to make it happen with all the extra stuff though- still bleeding atm but have gone back to just folic acid and regular dtd during fertile week according to cm and that's it. Can't be dealing with all the extra vitamins and stress .. maybe this will make me relax more?!

Babyghirl · 03/10/2021 17:59

@miscarriage39
Congratulations girl it's tough getting that bfp worse than wanting to get it.

Pups all good I'm hanging in there lol but good practice if I do say so lol 💚

Equimum · 03/10/2021 19:19

Thanks kiwi17 and babyghirl.

How sleep deprived are you babyghirl? We only have one pup, and although she's now sleeping through the night, the first couple of weeks were hard, so I can't imagine having that many! When we collected her, the breeder said she was sorry to see them go in one way, but she had had enough and was looking forward to some rest.