Trying to conceive over 40 part 2

[October1979]

Here is a new thread for us girls

@Lastyearttc I really really hope all is well for you at the next scan. I can appreciate how nerve wracking it will be so sending lots of hugs.
@ponymum1980 great news on the midwife appointment, I bet that feels great being all official!

Hope everyone else is doing ok… hoping this is the month for me. Got a BFP… squinter at 10dpo but a good line now 12dpo. Just gotta take each day at a time now. After 2 early MC and a chemical I am too aware a BFP is just the first step. But at least we have got that far! Keep everything crossed for me xx

@Honey2 aww that’s such good news. I’m really pleased for you. Such a good sign as well the line is looking strong at 12dpo. If you can just get through the next week and out of the chemical risk period, hopefully you’ll feel a bit more assured. I know it’s then onto the next set of worries and that first scan but you’ll get there one step at a time. I’ve got everything crossed for you. Xx

@Honey2 great news! That's one massive step forward right there -
Keeping everything crossed for you that this is the one!

So many successful bfps on this thread it's very encouraging for those ttc... but I am very aware this is a ttc thread and wondered if those who are pregnant now are also on another thread as I want to be sensitive to those still ttc? Just for all those pregnancy related questions more so. X

It’s definitely encouraging @Lastyearttc isn’t it? I think this is a lucky thread.

I asked a similar question a while back and several people said they found it encouraging to hear updates. Hopefully someone would say if it was too much. I talk a lot more regularly and openly on other threads, especially now I’m in the second trimester. Xx

Thankyou all. My bloods were normal but they didn't check progesterone because GP says it must be done day 21 or it's pointless. So she's referring me to the recurrent miscarriage clinic. Not sure when I will hear about that but I'm ovulating today. CD 17 which is very late for me as it's always cd13 or 14. I had a chemical 17 days ago so maybe that's delayed me

@Leonsmummy90

So here goes i had a coloscopy on 25th june had a period 12-16th july dtd on 25th july ovulated i think between 27th july-1st aug!! Missed my period on 16th bfn after bfn after bfn then had a brownish bleed 30-31st August just the base of a panty liner never soaked through!! So tested again again and again then missed my sept 16th period and tested BFN then retested on the 18th BFP faint line tested today and its a super duper BFP!!! So i am 10 weeks 1 day since last period and yes i just got BFPPPPP i will post some pics of my tests to!!! So its not over till aunt flo has came it her full glory ladies a very late BFP is possible!!!! I had lots of Bfp now lol and had bloods done yesterday doctor called today POSITIVE BLOODS OF 1062 LOL so it really is possible ladys dont give up until af shows!!!

Huge congrats. Is that last one a dye stealer ? 😁

Congratulations everyone with bfps!

Personally I do sometimes feel sad that it's not me but it's also really good to see others falling pregnant and updates because it proves it is so totally possible so I'm really glad to see everyone's progress and hoping to join in soon x

Plus I'm very happy to offer my thoughts on pregnancy questions, I only have one LO but we had it allllll in pregnancy and birth so I might as well as have had at least two 😂

Thanks @Mattieandmummy and I’m sorry you’re sometimes feeling sad that it’s not you. I used to feel the same so I know it’s totally possible for it to change and I’m glad those with bfps give you faith in that. It’s difficult because I’ve found this thread so amazing for support in those early days when it could go either way. We all know a positive test doesn’t mean a baby. As I’m getting further on though I am feeling a bit more mindful about what I post. Totally wanting to support others though having been there and having a sense of how rubbish it can be. I’m rooting for you all and hoping for good news soon. Xx

Thanks @Mattieandmummy really appreciate your offer of support too. Xx

@Mattieandmummy really hoping it happens for you soon. I agree it’s mixed feelings when seeing others peoples BFP’s especially if personally you’ve just found out (again!) it’s not your month. But I also agree that see others get beyond the early days gives reassurance it does happen. I appreciate everyone’s help, advice and kind words on this post - thanks again to everyone!

@Catconfusion @Lastyearttc thanks ladies x

@Honey2 ❤️🤞I have good feelings about this one. Xx

Congratulations @Honey2 that is brilliant news keeping all crossed for you. Last month I had faint lines at 10-13dpo then nothing. I'm just waiting to ovulate now. So fingers crossed. Hoping all goes well for you this time xxx

@Mattieandmummy I think it’s normal to feel like this, a train going in your direction, but doesn’t stop for you. I believe, many women feel like this, just don’t talk about it.
Great to see that bfp is possible in our age, just need to keep trying, I guess and not to give up.
Congratulations on all BFPs on this thread.

Thanks all, it's also a hard day as another of my NCT had a second baby today. If I hadn't have miscarried in January, I would also be due about now. There's been a few tears today.

@Catconfusion any time really

@Mattieandmummy I'm sorry to hear this. I had a really similar experience. My friend announced her pregnancy by sending me a scan picture just after my last miscarriage. She was the least likely person to be pregnant as well so it was such a shock. Her baby is due the same week our baby would have been due. Even though soon after I was pregnant, I've still found it hard, especially early on. I just kept thinking if I lose the baby it'll be extra hard seeing her pregnant and ultimately having her baby. It's so hard to be happy for someone when you're in pain yourself. You know what though, things can change really quickly. I really hope they do for you. Xx

Thank you @GingerFox2021 and good luck to you. Such a good attitude to have xx

I'm so sorry to hear that @October1979 I've got everything crossed for you for this time. Xx

@October1979 sorry to hear that happened again, however it is really positive that you can keep getting pregnant. I know it’s said some many times, but just gotta believe there is a good egg in there. Really really keeping my fingers crossed for you.

Hey everyone. I will be joining. 40 and trying for baby number 2!

Congratulation @Honey2 xx

Congratulations @Honey2 - your on the first rung of that ladder and taking it one step at a time is very sensible. For so long it seems even getting on the first rung is impossible that it's good to be positive about it, whilst watching and waiting to see what will happen next. Really hoping this one will stick for you.

@Lastyearttc yes I am also on another pregnancy thread too, for babies due end of January but am a bit more of a background lurker than poster there, as it's helpful seeing if what I'm experiencing is the same as with others. I wouldn't want to leave this thread though as I feel 'this is my tribe' if that makes sense as the year of tcc was intense, and as I would love a second child, I'll be back TTC to conceive number 2 at some point. I'm currently 22 weeks and had my first consultant appointment last week where we discussed birth plans for getting her out, which felt very surreal! Due to being over 40, and the increased risk of reduced placenta functioning after this due to age, they plan to induce me at 39.5 weeks if needed.

When I first got pregnant in January I quickly joined a pregnancy group for baby's born in September and can see a few of the regular posters have recently given birth - that's a bit strange thinking we could have been there now (but that pregnancy ended as a chemical one).

I'm glad those with BFP's are an encouragement to those still waiting for theirs, but am also so mindful our posts must be bittersweet to read too, so do try to be sensitive in what I post.

@Mattieandmummy sorry today's been a hard day.

@October1979 sorry the lines didn't get stronger for you last month. Hoping you have a different story next month.

Sending encouraging hugs to everyone who needs them tonight x

@Mattieandmummy

Thanks all, it's also a hard day as another of my NCT had a second baby today. If I hadn't have miscarried in January, I would also be due about now. There's been a few tears today.

@Catconfusion any time really

Sorry to hear that. I would have been due I. April and 3 of my NCT group had their second babies that month too. It was really hard.

@Lastyearttc hope your scan goes ok

@ponymum1980 congratulations glad you're all booked in

@Honey2 tentative congratulations and fingers crossed 🤞🏻 for you

@Lastyearttc I don't know about the others but I love hearing about all the bfp and pregnancy news as it gives me hope. Especially in this group because it doesn't mean it's out of my reach!

Thank you everyone for the encouragement and positivity it keeps me going as does seeing all those pregnancies progressing. So please don't leave. It does give me hope xxx