Trying to conceive over 40 part 2

[October1979]

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@October1979 hi, did they ever checked your prolactin levels after the miscarriage? Hi prolactin prevents ovulation, you may still have periods but anovulatory cycles.

@littleangle46 All fine. All tests within normal range. But given progesterone just in case also temp using Ava and have static smiles on Clearblue every month. That with 3 day rise until period suggests I'm ovulating. Just think it's poor egg quality.
@Mattieandmummy congratulations 🎉 so pleased for you.

@99pctpractice I'm so sorry to hear this. I had MMC found out at 9 weeks and babies had stopped developing at 7.5 weeks. I had medical management for this MMC and my last . I hope you have good news at next blood draw. Will keep you in my thoughts. I know exactly how you feel. As soon as I found out I opted for medical management xxx

Thanks, @October1979, I think maybe it's different when the pregnancy is more advanced because they say they won't medically manage it if the hcg levels are still going down. The hcg had fallen since my last blood test so it definitely isn't viable. They suggested going to an epu but I think I would just end up waiting for hours to be told they want me to naturally pass it, so it's likely that I'm going to have to speak with an abortion clinic if I want the process to be accelerated. Just so depressing, but I really can't face being faux pregnant for another 5 weeks or however long it takes to process, not to mention the abject misery of just waiting for a miscarriage to happen. I'd rather be able to control when it happens too given that I'm travelling to Spain for work next week and my last miscarriage was a bit of a horror show. The clinic called while I was at work and until then I had kind of held it together but I sobbed my way through the call. I just about managed to pull myself together before i had to speak to anyone at work - lots of deep breathing and sticking my head out of the window...!

Feeling very sad and sorry for myself :o( apologies for the very depressing post!!

I'm sorry @99pctpractice that is really hard xx

@99pctpractice. I'm so so sorry its so difficult to go through. Both my losses were early 5 and 6 weeks so they just left me to it , not much they can do.
Its ok to be sad and love depressing posts, this is a safe place to do that. Sending you the biggest of hugs xxx

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Hi all, Im soon to be 41 and my partner nearly 42. Neither of us had children. Looking at doing a fertility MOT for each of us in London and wondering if anyone had any recommendations /avoid advice?

Hi ladies, am 42 and for my bfp 1/3. Don’t give up hope. I decided to relax and let’s see what happens and here we are. Baby dust to all. Btw I took no supplements nor track ov. Just laid back approach x

Hello everyone!

I am having sharp pain in what I imagine my right ovary is, and in my back and I'm freaking out it's a cyst! it cant be a cyst, I'm having my cycle in 10 days! Can it?!

Hey everyone…. I watch the posts here but haven’t been posting much lately - I’ve felt my mental health take a real hit as I’m approaching my would be due date following an MMC last year, so been trying to be less involved in my TTC journey. Nearly 3 years TTC now with the one MC following a natural conception.
Taking some positive actions though - started acupuncture and Chinese medicine course (early days but feeling great!) and started research into IVF in Spain but not pushing to go button just yet - want to give the holistic approach a proper bash first but I’m 43 in August so time is not my friend! All fertility tests have come back clear though with good AMH levels but potentially low AFC (only in one out of 3 scans though..) so I’m hopeful that my age isn’t going too far against me!! 🙏🏼

@99pctpractice sending you SO much love right now. Mine was a missed miscarriage so I had to choose to wait it out or medical management. I opted immediately for medical management (after an additional scan to be 100% sure!) but had to wait a week for a D&C. Worst week of my life…. being in limbo, knowing my baby’s heart was no longer beating, on edge in case a natural MC started at any time….. it was hideous. I just wanted to be able to draw the line and move on. But… being put to sleep and not going through the actual process of a miscarriage didn’t really help me to process what had happened and I maybe found it harder to move forward.
I’d still opt for the medical management but potentially considering some sort of therapy to help me get through it. It’s savage however you look at it. If you need to chat all all pls feel free to pop me a DM - I know how horrible a time this is. Try to take care of yourself xxxxxx

@Mattieandmummy aww congratulations glad it's going well

@99pctpractice I'm so sorry to hear that, mine was left to pass naturally. I hope you're ok, sadness is a big part of mc, you can always let it out here

Congratulations @Sunnierdays7. My best friend's advice has always been relax and enjoy. That's how she got pregnant at 40. Going to have to try that approach!

@Palavah - I've actually booked a fertility MOT at the London's Women's Clinic as I went to an Open Day there last month and they were doing a special offer. The reviews for their IVF treatment haven't been good though, so don't think I'll pursue it there (if I have to). Create Fertility has a webinar this Tuesday 8th and CRGH has one Tuesday 16th. It may be worth having a look at those x

@IsabelHerna - how are you feeling today?

@99pctpractice - I'm so sorry to hear this. It's heartbreaking. Don't worry about the depressing post. You can most certainly let it out here. I know how you feel. Hope things change for you soon xx

AF arrived for me last Sunday and by Monday I was an emotional wreck. When you put all of your strength into TTC and it doesn't work, it's almost too much. Plus, it was only 2 days and it wasn't even heavy so I don't think implantation would have been possible. I'm going to check myself out. My partner has Covid at the moment and he's just started a new job so he will get himself checked at a later date. Don't want to put too much pressure on him right now. I just want to know what is going on inside my body. I just need to know. It's such a difficult journey and it's really taking a lot out of me but looking forward to getting some answers xx

Hey ladies, just thought I’d pop in and see how everyone is.

@99pctpractice I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. It’s absolutely heartbreaking. Will you EPU not allow you to have treatment asap? I’m very lucky in my area and got surgical management a few days after my mmc was confirmed. It was a really dark time. My heart goes out to you. Xx

@Mattieandmummy great news, wishing you the best of luck. 20 weeks is such an important milestone.

Lovely to see some other bfps on here. Wishing those ladies the best of luck.

You’re all in my thoughts. I’m hoping you all have good news soon. Xx

A quick update from me…I’m 36 weeks with baby girl. All is going well although we had a scare last week. I went in for monitoring and she became tachycardic nearly leading to an emergency section. Luckily she settled well but it was scary. She’s a big baby. Her measurement at 35 weeks was 8 pounds 4 so we’re looking at a 10/11 pound baby. I’m booked for a c section in 3 weeks time. I will give birth 3 weeks before my 43rd birthday.

Don’t give up hope. We didn’t think we could have a second baby and here we are. Life can change very quickly. Wishing you all the best! Xx

@Catconfusion great to hear from you, so pleased things are going well and that naughty baby giving you a scare didn't mean you had to have her too early! Xx

Thank you @Marvellouslymadmum it can really out of the blue. Can’t wait for the end now as I’m struggling to walk.

How are you getting on? Is the Clomid working better now? Xx

@Catconfusion that uncomfortable stage at the end is certainly not good! They do sometimes miscalculate baby size too, my sister was told her first baby was quite small and would only be around 7lb - he was 10lb 12oz 😂

The third round of 50mg I actually ovulated on time and I think 2 eggs which was good but still no bfp 😞 I'm on 100mg now for three months and gone on a massive health kick to try and loose some excess weight in the hope that may help egg health! Xx

@Marvellouslymadmum oh wow that’s way out! In our case I’m pretty sure it’s accurate. Our son was 98 centile and 9lbs 5 born at 39 weeks. This one has looked bigger throughout the growth scans. I’m so glad I’m having a section.

I’m so glad the bigger dose has triggered ovulation. Fingers crossed 100mg is the magic level. Good luck with the health kick too. I’m really hoping it all comes together soon for you and you get some good news. Xx

@Catconfusion a section is definitely better with a big baby! I'm so down hearted with it all now, it's been almost 4 years ttc and the oh is smoking again cos he's so stressed, I don't hold out much hope at all 😞 xx

@Marvellouslymadmum we had a section last time and we were glad for it. My son had a 40cm head!

I’m so sorry to hear that. It must be so difficult to keep motivated after such a long time. I hope your OH can rethink the smoking. Not good for him regardless of ttc but I understand its probably helping with the stress. I’m hoping it’s only a matter of time for you both now you’re on the right Clomid dose. Xx

@Catconfusion oooh yes a section is definitely a good idea 😂

Yes he says he wants to give up again he's just so stressed at the moment he struggles with anxiety too which doesn't help. Thank you, there's always a little glimmer of hope in me cos you never know lol xx

Thanks @Catconfusion @Marvellouslymadmum @TTCat40 @Kelb79 I had acupuncture yesterday which made me feel better and hopefully will kick start the process. I'm also getting the pills to medically manage it, but I'm travelling to Spain next week for work so will wait til I'm back to start the process and just hope it doesn't happen while I'm away...! Otherwise I suspect my trip will mostly be to the inside of a hotel room 🤣

@Catconfusion so exciting that you're so close!! Sorry you had a scare but glad you're all booked in for a c section, I had one for my boy and am definitely a convert (the whole process took about 10 minutes!!!). Thanks for reminding us that it's still possible :o)

@Marvellouslymadmum Glad to hear that you did ovulate though : that's hopefully progress!! completely sympathise with the stress of it all. I can't believe how much time I spend thinking about it : it's just so difficult to switch off from it and the march of time makes me feel increasingly like we're running out of chances...

Hello - just wondering if anyone has heard of / tried inositol? My acupuncturist suggested looking into it but I hadn't heard of it before, so wondered if any of you had any experience of taking it!

AF has got me I think!
2 days early…. Mini bleed after sex…. Why does that always kick start it??!!
Had BFNs at 10 & 12dpo so was totally expecting but it still sucks 😫
Just waiting for her to get the hell on with it then do one do I can go back to being completely delusional again 🤣🤷🏼‍♀️