Anyone 9dpo

[90mamabear]

Hoping for a test buddy 🙏🏻

@MissLB @Ladylou17 @Fairy45 seeing messages from yesterday now - hope you girls are ok! X

@Melabells CONGRATULATIONS!! See I think this is the start of a lucky thread here ✨

@90mamabear oh lovely please don’t cry! It’s still very early days- I was looking at photos from pregnancy tests with DD and my positive came up 9 days past a 3 day transfer which would be 12dpo so it’s early. If it’s any consolation I know I’m not pregnant this month either, I just can feel it in my bones which is disappointing but there you go. You’re not alone.

Do you want to write down here all of your worries regarding ttc? Like get it all out of your head and down here? I’m here to listen and can maybe help? My DH used to get so fed up when we were ttc DD because I had so many worries in my head and it was all consuming when I was talking to him xx

Thanks for all the congratulations. I have irregular cycles so I thought I was out but I'm proof that some women only get positives after 11 dpo. Baby dust to you all!

@MrsMo21 thank you so so much . You have no idea how much you have made me smile ! Honestly thank you. It means the world a wee message like that. I think it's just been so long from I last had a little one that I feel it's never going to happen again. I have drove my dh to distraction: he's so fed up with me symptoms spotting and worrying that im now pretending that I'm relaxed !! I just can't shake the feeling it's not going to happen . Seeing that on line is just so deflating but I'm no different than anyone else I think as women we get so angry with our own bodies don't we . So much pressure . How are you doing ? Remind me what day you are on 💕? Did you test last time prior to 12dpo xxx

@Melabells amazing !! 💕 keep in touch !! So so happy for u . Take care and thank you for sharing your news with us 💕 xx

Morning all! @Melabells omg! Congratulations 🥳 amazing news!
@90mamabear I know the feeling I hide (majority) of my stress to other half too. Don't be disheartened as @MrsMo21 said positive affirmations "this will happen for me" brings a lot of peace and helped me yesterday. Big hugs, I did a test this morning but looks like a super slight evap line so not getting my hopes up x

Nothing there really it's in my mind 🤦‍♀️

@Ladylou17 thank you!!! P.s happy do do another set of eyes for you !!!😁 x

@Ladylou17 I see it too a faint line ur right :) . How many dpo? I would def test again tomorrow morning ! Did it appear straight away ?

@90mamabear I'm 13dpo today I'll try a frer tomorrow thank you. I have a feeling it's not my month. Came up after 5 minutes xx

Good luck ! I def see a very faint line u ever know xx

@90mamabear thank you lovely. Fingers crossed for you too xx

@90mamabear your feelings are completely valid and you have every right to feel the way that you do and present those feelings in the way that you are. You have mild PCOS and there’s a gap between your children, that’s the reason you’re concerned - you’re not annoying, you’re not obsessing, your worries are based in reality and it’s ok to give space to those worries.
However, there are things that helped me with my fertility worries (remember what’s going on with you is nowhere near severe like mine so please don’t think I’m saying there’s a problem - I can guarantee that there most likely isn’t) which could help you?
I downloaded the Zita West meditation audioguide and did it every night before bed. It asks you to visualise the egg and sperm and conception itself. It helped me to feel like I was helping and that the out of control feeling I had was more manageable because I was physically doing something to help. (If you want proof that this helps read ‘How the Mind can Heal the Body’ - it’s all scientific studies were the mind has healed and aided in conception etc) I still do them now this time ttc and it helps.

Also I put a plan in place (I had a folder with DD lol - my husband thought I was mad) where I had a time limit. I do for this baby too - mine is ttc for 10 months then have X and Y tests done and Ive even researched a clinic and have the details, then after this IVF etc. I’m not saying you’ll get to IVF level (at all!!) but it’s the having a plan which helps. It helps me to be ok with the bfn because I’ve got a next step if that makes sense. Like I tell myself ‘it’s ok it’s a bfn, I know what to do next - I can handle that’

Also as I mentioned before I repeat mantras to myself. I trick my mind into believing I will get pregnant again. I say ‘I know I will have a baby, I know there is a journey to be had, I know it’ll make me a better mum’ By using the term I know, instead of I think - I am able to be sure of the outcome and it lightens my mind and body in terms of thinking about ttc.

Also practically, I attribute my success in IVF a lot to lymphatic massage and every woman I’ve recommended it to (3 now) has gotten pregnant. Again I’m not a medical professional, just infertile 😂😂

Basically, just know that you’re not alone. It’s okay to feel like you and we’re all here, experiencing exactly the same thing you are. We’ve got you 💐

@90mamabear
I’m on 6dpo and I know I’m not pregnant - I have a sixth sense with these things lol. It’s okay though because as you can see above I have my coping strategies 🥰
No I didn’t test prior (again being infertile and having IVF you know that you have to give your body time to implant and grow the embryo) and I won’t test this time until my period is missed.

Sorry if my advice or message is upsetting or seems bossy - I don’t mean it to be at all. I have just been through it myself and infertility has taught me so much about the mind, the body etc that I hope I can help others. Please feel free to tell me to piss off 😂

@MrsMo21 I am not going to tell u that at all - reading that has given me a kick up the butt !! I might make a folder 🤣 I think we are on the same wave length !! No honestly . Thank you so so much . I hope I didn't sound stupid asking did you test before or rude - I wasn't sure how it all worked . Thank you so so much for listening and helping 'without the kindness of strangers where would be be' 💕 how ever I've a feeling we are all going to not be strangers for long on here haha :) this threat is fab!

@90mamabear

Haha your husband is going to be as bewildered as mine is about the organisation I’ve got in place 😂😂😂

no I didn’t think you sounded stupid or rude at all! If anything, it proves that realistically before 11/12dpo you’re not going to get anything at all to go by from a frer. But again, everyone is different and every body is different. I can only go by what my experience was!

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@MrsMo21 💕💕

heads to stationary store after work ...🤣🤣🤣🤣

Hi all
My AF has arrived early so as suspected I'm out this month. Keeping my fingers crossed for everyone still

@MissLB sending you a big hug !see u aboard this train again on a few weeks !!🤗

So @90mamabear I've had cramps this evening and some light spotting convinced it's AF but I did a boots early test and got this... no idea what to think now can you see it?xx

@Ladylou17 I 100% see a faint line !! Did it come up straight away ?:):)

@Ladylou17 an evap line would appear after The time on the test! Are you sure u didn't ovulate later than u think then this could be a faint early pos?xxx

@90mamabear it came up after 3 minutes. To be honest I'm not sure I didn't take any ovulation tests I just did bbt with ff xx

@Ladylou17 that looks like a positive to me! Did it appear in time frame?