December 07- MC Avengers in big pants, going through, been through or pg after a mc, still here, still eating cakes. We will not be beaten!

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OK so I have a reasonably positive start to the new thread.
What I thought to be AF turned out to be a bad case of theruns
And so when I poas'ed last night I actually got a BFP

Very nervous about it, but happy too. I actually went to the place(shopping centre) I got the positive with my dd for good luck
My dh thinks I'm mad but hey don't they all
now if I can just get past the nine week stage without going insane

ALBS glad your finally able to admit your pregnant

Lissie glad your getting that referal at last
ilts sorry it didn't happen this time

Hi Jules - i really wish my spotting would stop it is so stressful isnt it! How long until you are 12 weeks?

Ronshar - they have actually told me to go back to my GP if i bleed again even though they are a walk in EPU! I feel like such a time waster. I hope you are well!

sorry about the bleeding / spotting, so stressful and boo for EPU

I have friends who bled throughout their pregnancies I am not sure how I would cope, despite the MCs the successful pregnancy was remarkably trouble free.

I think as the end of year and my birthday in early February approaches I am feeling more upset, all this 'Oh dear I am getting really old and running out of time' business is getting to me. I hope it is temporary.

still I have not been out running, have done zero exercise and am getting bigger
best eat cakes and drink then sort it out in the new year

wannaba - i only ever had one ERPC and took 2 weeks off work i was 12wks then so thought it better to do it that way. still not easy.

Wannabamummy welcome to the thread!

Lcy seeing a heart beat must be so amazing!! Congratulations, but sorry you were treated like that. There is no need. Well done to DH for handing it his PhD!!! On a smaller scale I handed my masters dissertation in Dec 06(6 wks after my mc) and the feeling of euphoria is amazing. Treat him to a glass of vino in front of the telly.

Jules, minijules is hanging on and everything is fine with her (I am convinced it?s a she) Sick is good, how is the consumption of B&Js going? When?s your next scan?

Hi Wheely and Dustn and Ronshar All set for Christmas?

DH has just called with his results from the doc (she called him at home). The good news is that there is lots of it - he said 9 million but then didn't know if it was 9ml but motility is at 30% when the normal average should be 50%. He didn't get any other figures despite me asking him to! Anyway she said that she is referring us today and we should have an appointment within 8-9 weeks at UCH. Why am I ridiculously excited?

Hi everyone. Haven't a chance in hell of catching up with everything that's been going on so just wanted to say.....

How much this thread has meant to me over the last month. You are all amazing women. Regardless of what's happened to us in 2007 we can gladly shove it out the way and look forward to seeing what 2008 brings .

Hope everyone has a fantastic christmas and a very propserous new year. Let's hope that all the mini-bubs stay where they are and that there's shedloads of baby dust wafting around for those of us that need some good luck! xxxxxx

Hi

Jules - no reason for the spotting - it is all a bit worrying because this is exactly what happened last time.

SFXmum- this is not the time for running enjoys some lovely christmas food and drink and get moving in the new year

HeyThereGeorgieGirl - i hope you are well. Second you on the sticky beans and tons more baby dust x

gillystarrynight - congrats on getting your Masters in - especially after the trauma of a mc. I had to complete my masters when my dad was very ill and i know it is very hard! Will treat DH to big drink tonight x

lcy - fantastic news! i was also cautiously optimistic because i had a heartbeat before too, but really its fab news and chances of anything happening again are small after hb. well done to you dh for his phD. i have a guilty conscious about my masters thesis which i still haven't finished. i hope to do it early next year. its on a really interesting subject too (i think) on sustainable fashion . . .

hey georgie - thanks for the greetings. this thread was also a lifeline for me too this year.

gilly - that is brilliant. when you know what's up, it becomes easy to solve. 2008 will be the year then . . .

wannabamummy becaroodolf - so sorry you are here but hope you find it helpful. i really used this thread as a place to rant, mainly because my dp got over the mc quite quickly (or seemed to) and none of my friends have ever had one so i just felt amongst like-minded people here, who understood what a rollercoaster of emotion it is after an mc.

sfx mum - i had a good scan on tuesday. had a low risk of downs etc and she spend ages poking and prodding trying to get lo to move so we had a lot of "screen time". but now i have nothing until week 20, so the training wheels are off and its a little scary . . . luckily my gynae said i could come back anytime but i don't want to abuse that, so i may look into getting a doppler.

i am flying back today!
in a couple of hours!

so excited. i mean, i come back and forth all the time but haven't since september and a lot has happened since then. i am looking forward to chilling at my parents comfy house, walking their lovely dalmation and eating all the english food that i miss, starting with fish and chips. then i will get my highlights done by my favourite colorist and have a cheap pedicure (they cost bucks here) so its all about pampering and indulging myself. finally, i will have a little wander around the huge mothercare superstore near my folks and get scared and excited at the same time.

yay!

Great news Lcy. Hang on in there !

Gilly - glad you are now being referred (). I am encouraging DH to have time off after new year so if he does, fingers crossed he'll do his bit too ! How do you/DH feel about the result ? Fingers crossed that means less prodding and poking for you !

I keep posting before I've finished !

Tjuice - hope you have a great time over here and enjoy your fish and chips !!

I am not yet feeling panicky about christmas and not sure why as I should be ! Have 6 here over christmas then they go and my family come for a couple of nights (inc. a meal for 11..)... Yikes !

i have all DHs family and my family coming for a week but have no food in yet apart from a turkey

Oh wow Lcy ! We don't ahve a turkey yet but we do have 12 chipolatas wrapped in bacon and a christmas pudding !

We should get together

Anyone got any veg?

lcy thats good news at epu of all the people who should understand grrr

jules really glad to hear that your strong minijules is still hanging in there.

sorry to those who've had to join

spoke to doc about fibroid he's warned me off trying to concieve till march. something about higher chance of abnormalities. hmm didn't say that last time. still atleast it was said with sympathy and not patronising. emotionally I think I'll have to give myself a break too this second mc has knocked me for six. doesn't help that hubby keeps saying really stupid things 'like why haven't you taken dd swimming'

I am totally not ready for Christmas. My DH has given me a huge list of items he wants for Christmas and I can't find any of them in the shops!

Lcy never feel like you are wasting the EPU's time, you and your little bean are the important ones.

Tjuice Have a good flight.

Aqua Will you have to have treatment for the fibroid- sorry don't no much about them.

hello ladies! well recieved the confirmation letter from LWH so thats it, we shall be seeing them on the 10th. im so excited about it!

Lcy, good news about the scan. Can't believe they're so grudging about scanning you. Can they not even attempt to imagine how they would feel in your position? Maybe we pig pant wearers need to start a major campaign!
I'd offer to climb up buildings in my MC uniform like the fathers for Justice lot, but I don't like heights, so may have to think of something else

Welcome to the newcomers, sorry for the experiences that have brought you here, but hope that you get the support you need from the lovely mc avengers.

Tjuice, do you mean the Mothercare on Purley Way? It's huge...and full of lovely tempting clothes for your little one. It's difficult though, I remember when I was pg with dd, I didn't want to look at too much till quite late - almost too late as it turned out, as she was a month early!

Jules - glad miniJJ still hanging on, must be a fighter.

Can't remember what else I was going to say - so much to catch up on.
We have a Christmas tree, but no food at all, though I have no lentils for my delicious lentil roast. No meat for dp though. Most of the presents are done. I've even bought some for me cos dp is rubbish and most he'll do is say spend some money on yourself.

hello everyone is it just me or is this thread going all Christmassy?

just back from some shopping and walk in the park with dd. FREEZING!

we are off to inlaws on Sunday, I have my family over on Saturday but I think M&S will do most of the catering, I will be doing a chestnut cheesecake but I think that is as far as I go in the domestic goddess stakes plenty of booze everyone happy

Am a bit apprehensive about inlawas post MC because inevitably FIL will try to advise and take medical history he means well and he cares and no doubt he will will have read more on the subject (not his speciality) hope dd distracts him

take care all

I know what you mean about the medical advice from in laws! Mother in law is a nurse and thinks talking about whether we had sex before i started bleeding is an appropriate conversation at the dinner table

Not the Purley Way! I live near there!!! lol what a small world, eh?

Not much else to report except enjoying the wind-down to Christmas at work and managing to stay relatively calm the past couple of days. No doubt it will hit me again at some point though...

good news lissie hopefully you'll get some answers

I don't really know much about fibroids either I think I'm just going to be scanned to see if it's grown. It appeared on my last scan, but wasn't seen on one 6 weeks before by same sonographer. hopefully it'll still be pea sized and they won't have to do anything.

Lcy congratulations on hb and DH's thesis!

Welcome wannabamummy, you'll get lots of support here!

Tjuice hope you are now tucking into fish and chips!

And hello everyone else

I had my hospital appointment this morning - not really much to report. I had a full internal examination (what fun ) and a good chat, but with the registrar rather than the consultant. I've had bloods taken to test for clotting, but not for hormones as she said that they no longer recommend metformin against mc as the latest research shows it's ineffective. Has anyone else been told this? She didn't sound like she was fobbing me off but I'm going to check Medline anyway. So no great results but tbh I'm just pleased that I've been seen, quickly, on the NHS and that they've been reasonably helpful and supportive (unlike my GP grrr ).

hi ladies I'm about 11+1 weeks today not had any bleeding for 7 whole days am hoping thats a good sign surely if anything was wrong I would have continued to bleed? Also have a bump and my pubic area has gone hard too, still feeling sick loads though. I read of mc association website that if you get a hb at 8 weeks you have a 98% chance of going to term at 10 weeks it is 99.something %, good odds ladies.

Got appointment through for first antenatal and it's 23rd January when I will be 16 weeks I am doesn't mention anything about a scan and I was hoping for one next week. I am going to phone MWs direct tomorrow and beg for a scan, I don't know if this baby is dead or alive and they are just leaving me to it. I am so bloody cutbacks, I get one sodding scan no nuchal fold test nothing. Sorry am a bit angry tonight.

jules - those days are ticking by for you, hang on in there, I am thinking of you every day x

Lcy - am for you too I am thinking about a private scan too if they won't scan me soon, it's bloody terrible the waiting and not knowing.

hello to everyone else hope you are all hanging on in there and all your Christmas preps are going well xxx

Hello everyone - my family are coming up this afternoon for a week so this will be my last post before Christmas.

So ..... HAPPY CHRISTMAS

I will be thinking of all you who are miscarrying at the mo, trying to get pregnant, trying to stay pregnant and the lucky ones who are just pregnant. I hope the 2008 is a good year for all of us!

Lcy xx