TTC how often do you have sex?

[Frenchie86]

How often does everyone have sex during a cycle? I know I ovulate on day 14, but we still have sex every other day after that (and before, we also have sex everyday in the 3 days leading up to ovulation). I know there aren’t many chances of us getting preggo after OD but still worried I’ll miss something. It’s bloody exhausting. Anyone have any success stories with not BD that often?

@Trinxsy that’s definitely positive, best of luck for the rest of your pregnancy.

@SLT90 @mumsophia7 thank you for your advice, very helpful and made me realise I can chill out a bit more with all the BD

I’m sorry for your loss and the long journey you’ve had

We were TTC for 10 months and for 9 of those months we were doing every other day or other day around ovulation. The biggest gap we had was 3 days. Month 10, I stopped using OPKs because they were pissing me off. I started using them because as soon as we started TTC my cycles went haywire, it was a fine balance between which would stress me out more - OPKs or not knowing when my period was due. We had sex about once a week and mostly when we wanted to. As I said, I wasn’t tracking ovulation but working out dates after, I’m pretty sure I conceived on 0-4. Based on when I think ovulation was we had sex O-10, O-4 and O+2. Similar to PP, this isn’t meant to be a brag and apologies if it comes across that way. With my periods being all over the place and not tracking ovulation I was awful to be around because I had no idea when I was due on. I was in a pretty bad mood throughout that cycle and I’m not sure why DH even wanted to have sex with me. It was also the month that I stopped taking my prenatal vitamins, basically in a strop. DH did dry January and this is the month he also reintroduced alcohol. So by all accounts, nothing should have worked that month!

@InTheNightWeWillWish not braggy at all! You’re right, it’s a fine balance between knowing when you ovulate and being overloaded with info. I stopped temping because I kept analysing everything and was losing sleep over it which in turn made my temp go up and throwing things off etc. Tempted to not even do OPKs next month, maybe that’ll alleviate the pressure a bit. So interesting that you didn’t BD as much either that month, goes to show every day isn’t necessarily best!

@Cotswoldmama

I think you need to stop trying as Nd just see what happens. For me 'trying' was stopping contraception and seeing what happened. We had sex the same amount 2-3 times a week and got pregnant both times within about 3 cycles, some cycles were long as I'd come off the pill I think with my second it was 2 cycles and j was pregnant on my third but that took 3 months.

Fucking hell, LOL. Stop trying. You missed out "just relax and it will happen" ffs.

@SemiFeralDalek 🙌 🙌 🙌

@xoJellybean sorry I missed your earlier message, I don’t think it makes much of a difference as I don’t think anyone can tell for sure when their eggs will be released. With WFH during the pandemic we managed to switch things up a bit (like you it used to be evenings, usually when we’re knackered!), now we do mix of mornings/afternoon/eve whenever is more convenient really. We did only get pregnant once obviously, pretty sure that was a morning session.

@SemiFeralDalek @Hopefulhedgehog 😂