🦕 Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 7 🦕

[Annny27]

Hello ladies,

Time for a new thread for us dinosaurs and for any newbies that find themselves ttc after miscarriage ❤

Tagging those who I remember from top of my head and them will add the others in later 🥰

@Elm7
@babyghirl
@27donfin
@kiwi17
@sweetbabydust1989

@sweetbabydust1989
That was my period last month arrived on cd25 lol. You will be fine for the operation, I have my next appointment on the 15th of Sept so looking. Forward to it to c what is going on next xx

@kiwi17 your holiday sounds so amazing. So jealous! Sounds like it was just what you needed. Fingers crossed in your tww.

@SLCxxx that's amazing news. Congratulations. I don't think the worry will ever go after what we've been through. But hope you can start to relax soon.

@PeanuttyButter that line looks great and sickness is a good sign there is lot of hormone. I'm keeping everything crossed this is your rainbow.

I'm 5 weeks today. Tests attached, nice and strong which but even so I have to admit I'm freaking out today as having some weird pelvic pain and pain in the legs which reminds me of last time i miscarried (around this time). And having also had a MMC I know tests don't always mean good news (sorry to be a downer). So Im anxious as you can imagine. I am preparing for the worst. I really have no other symptons except for tender boons.

@EmiGoiko those lines look great. In fact the test is a dye stealer from the control.
I know what you mean about analysing every little niggle or pain. I don't think I will relax at all so you're not alone. Fingers crossed this is your rainbow too x

Hi all, I am after some helpful words of wisdom and ways to cope with life after a loss and TTC.
I'm 4 months into TTC after 2 mc and a chemical pregnancy this month. I feel horrible for saying it but Im finding it hard to be around friends and pregnant people. All my friends have children so I've not seen any of them for a while now, I'm dreading going back to work after summer as I have collegues who are pregnant and to top it of sister in law is now pregnant. I'm obviolsuy happy for them as all babies are a blessing but I'm doing everything possible where as she is overweight a drinker and smoker. I'm in perfect health and have never smoked and not drank since Christmas. I'm just angry at the world I guess but need to find a way to cope or else I'm never going to leave the house.

So sorry @Spotsmama - don't feel ashamed to feel that way. It's perfectly normal and the whole journey is so overwhelming, as most of the times we don't really talk about it too much with friends and family so it feels lonely on top of that.
I can only offer my coping strategy if I feel like that - and that is enjoying my life to the fullest with everything I can do that I couldn't do if I were either pregnant or had a child. Eating and drinking whatever I want. Sports that aren't recommended while pregnant. Spontaneous restaurant or bar visits, beauty treatments that you shouldn't do while pregnant (most of them aren't possible while pregnant, my friend found out). And vent! Maybe not to your pregnant friends, but to us!

@spotsmama
Quite normal I'm the same as u I lock myself away from everything and anyone baby related don't feel bad for it your only protecting your self so what you have to because if you don't no one else will. 💚

We are always here to listen and to offer a virtual hug.
They way I started to cope was to remember that wanting and deserving a baby won't make it happen any sooner. Being stressed won't help either. I decided to try and enjoy the now (TTC in the background) and tried to remember when I went backwards, that it will happen eventually (even if it meant fertility treatment) when it's meant to happen and there's nothing more that I can do. Be kind to yourself xxx

I'm sorry @Spotsmama I think it's a completely normal way to feel. I also have distanced myself from friends and avoided anyone with babies, I find every baby announcement painful even though I'm happy for them. It's taken me many months and I'm only just starting to reconnect with people, and I'm still finding it hard tbh. I agree with the other girls, the best thing I find is to make lots of plans and have things to look forward to, drink wine and try and do some things just for me. For example I started acupuncture so I felt like I was doing something practical (and I've found it actually really relaxing and theraputic and now it'smy special time every week where I just relax). Just be kind to yourself, don't rush to do anything you aren't ready for and don't feel guilty about anything. Focus on doing what's right for you. Sending love xxx

@Spotsmama how you are feeling is completely normal and I think how we have all felt on here at times.

I've been in the worst mood all day today and now I just want to go to bed but my in-laws are downstairs 😖 arghh

@kiwi17 that's not ideal when you aren't in the mood! Hope they don't stay too long!

@kiwi17
You going through the holiday blues 😢😢😢😢 hope you feel better soon 💚

@EmiGoiko I have distanced myself from friends with babies the last few weeks. Feel terrible for it but I suffered another loss and just needed to be by myself xx

Thanks @EmiGoiko @Babyghirl yeah I think DH is just doing my head in!! They've gone now luckily haha

@ttcissoboring
I have been doing it for 3 years now just makes me so in contol of something. How r you feeling 💚
@kiwi17. Tots normal I feel the same sometimes lol.

@Babyghirl I'm fine now and got a solid smiley in my sticks today so next few days I shall be giving it my best shot 🤣

@ttcissoboring @EmiGoiko I didn't really have a choice to distance myself as my best friend had her baby 3 weeks before my MMC. I have however distanced myself from people who have announced since we had our loss. The hardest is my cousin who I love like a sister, but she's 2 weeks behind where I would have been and she's having a boy which is what I felt I was having... got to protect ourselves at the end of the day

@ttcissoboring
Time to get on that horse 😂😂😂😂 I'm cd6 today and have watery cm I ovulated on CD8 in just so prop ovulating early again 💚

@babyghirl good luck!
Also have you continued testing after your peak before...I only say this because when o got pregnant in March I had a peak at day 9, then I carried on testing and on cd16/17 and I had another peak. That's the only month I caught as all the other times I stopped. I was having failed ovulation attempts early on. The same happened last month too. Just thought I'd mention xxx

@PeanuttyButter
I don't use them they stress me out lol but I dtd every other day anyway quite active in the bedroom so I could not miss it if I tryed lol going to start temping again tomara morning then stop when it rises c what that says xx

Hi Ladies really sorry I’ve been awol. Hope you are all doing ok?

Lots going on and am trying and failing not to stress. My mum is recovering well from her op so that good but now it’s just waiting again for her consultant appointment to see how the op went and when she will start radiotherapy.

I went for a reassurance scan at EPU on Tuesday and in good news we saw a little bean with a heartbeat (which was so amazing to see as we have never seen that before) but of course I always have something to worry about as I should of been 7+3 and our bean was measuring around 6+1. Whilst they weren’t worried because I was they are going to scan me again so I’m currently in a different version of the TWW

Really hope that being back on the horse is a success @Babyghirl

@ELM7
Glad things r going well for ur mum and she nw recovering, have my fingers crossed little bean catches up on dates at nxt scan and sure this has added to ur worries hoping September is another lucky month for me and it sticks this time 💚

Ah @PeanuttyButter that is so hard. I'm sorry 😔. I am seeing one of my best friends tomorrow and her new baby. I was so excited before our MMC as we would have been due 10 weeks after her (this September) and we would have been on maternity leave together. I'm sort of dreading seeing her, even though I miss her and I know it will be nice.

Good luck @ttcissoboring and @Babyghirl , hope this is your month!

@ELM7 so glad to hear your mum is recovering. ❤ That's great you saw a heartbeat! I'll be hoping and praying that everything is fine in the next scan. I know it must be a worrying time. Try and find things to distract yourself and keep busy in the next two weeks.

@ELM7 glad things are going well for your mum. It's so great that you saw a heartbeat. At this early stage it's so difficult to date but have my fingers crossed that your next scan will bring good news.

@Babyghirl hope September is your month too, lucky that your active all month long. DH is done in after fertile week and isn't interested haha

Well I don't feel pregnant at all today which I know is strange. Not really had sore boobs but had no nausea or cramping today. Wouldn't have thought anything about it usually but with my MMC I remember feeling 'normal' for a few days, a few weeks before we found out. Just need the next few weeks to go quickly so I can get a scan. Planning on ringing GP Monday to get the ball rolling on my midwife referral, hoping they send me for a scan to be honest due to me not having had a true bleed since my ERPC at the start of June. If not will get a private one done, don't want to go the same place as last time but the other place only does them from 7 weeks not 6!

@Emigoiko
Fingers crossed it is all r months 🤞🙏🍀💚
@PeanuttyButter
Pregnancy after a miscarriage is awful your just waiting on it happening bank Holiday on Monday so I think everywhere will be closed but hopefully they can sort u out for an early scan on Tuesday 💚

@PeanuttyButter they say symptoms come and go so try not to worry, especially cramp. I remember with my DD they would be different one day to the next.

I am in a similar place amd so anxious that all my cramps have stopped and my only other symptom (tender boobs) is mild. Having had a MMC I know what a mind F*ck it is, not knowing is hell. It's so tough. Hang on in there.

Good for you getting the ball rolling on getting a midwife appointment and scan. I'd really push and tell them how anxious you are. My epu have always been great when I explain my history.

I haven't booked anything yet or registered with midwife. I'm too scared. I feel like there is no point. I think if I can get to 6 weeks then I'll try and get a scan to check there actually is a baby this time. 6 weeks is still 5 days away- a lifetime (and then I go on holiday so great timing!)