Breaking banjos, poking boobs & getting promoted 🙌🏻it’s TTC bus 44

[Minster2012]

Wow that last one was a quick one! The bus driver nearly missed the bus!🏎🚌

Here is the bus where anything goes, and chat isn’t just TTC it’s anything. Ranting very much encouraged to her things off your (are they sore boobs?!) chest. The last bus had loads of work promotions too & we’ve still got interviews so hopefully it’s a lucky bus in more ways than just making babies.

We are here to help and support each other & anything goes. We’ve had losses, heartache & some super fertile short ride passengers so welcome all.

The price of your bus pass is an embarrassing story please, doesn’t have to go be TTC related but can you beat breaking a guy’s banjo in a BJ or whilst DTD?! 🤞🏻🙌🏻

And if you see mention of my blog then blame these guys, but I need to carry on with it it, I’ve been lazy! #shamelessplug

minstermusings.co.uk for the blog that’s where the full stuff happens
& minstermusings on insta - some of our ladies have made special anonymous accounts so we can link up via me 🥰

Story so far...

June 2020 24 BFPs
July 11 BFPs
August 18 BFPs
Sep 4 BFPs
Oct 7 BFPs
Nov 7 BFPs
Dec 14 BFPs
jan 2021 7 BFPs
February 8 BFPs
March 5 BFPs
April 5 BFPs
May 4 BFPs

June 5 so far! There’s still time 🤞🏻

@Sunbird24 felicita, al baño and Romina powers, it's on Italian though, or Shania twain form this moment on

Al bano 🙄

@Sunbird24 nice! Suggestions:

Roar Katy Perry
Who run the world (girls) Beyonce
I’m every woman Chaka Khan
Girl on fire Alicia Keys
Mr Blue sky ELO

@Sunbird24 good luck today!!

@Franklydear I feel like a bit of Cher anno 1998 and maybe even Sonique?? Feeling nostalgic for the 90s. I put Dawson's Creek on netflix the other day for a trip down memory lane and it made me so depressed thinking the last time I had seen that episode was 23 years ago!!!

@Juno231 I live in the nineties, no need to move on
@Sunbird24 Katy Perry, I like fireworks

@Sunbird24 Aerosmith I don't want to miss a thing, seal kiss from a rose 🌹, what kind of music you like? Evanescence my immortal...

Lining up all your suggestions now! Also turns out Spotify has a few ‘IVF got this’ playlists

@Sunbird24 I used Metallica Mr sandman as a lullaby, so depends how you rock...

@Sunbird24 The Beatles - Here Comes The Sun ☀️

@Juno231 hey, how are you? I have been watching the thread but unfortunately haven't been having the best time at the minute. A couple of weekends ago I temporarily lost my nausea for a couple of days so on the Monday morn I booked a private scan for the Wednesday. Typically Monday afternoon my symptoms returned so stopped feeling worried but when I went for my scan (was 9+3) i saw one of my babies hearts had stopped beating very recently and likely that weekend 💔 It's been a lot of process mentally. They looked like perfect little babies on the screen and I would do anything to unsee it. I took peoples reactions to the other one still being okay quite badly as I felt my lost baby was disregarded too quickly. I've been struggling to feel excited about my pregnancy which is selfish I know as we went into this wanting "a baby" and we are lucky to have got that far. I had a scan a few days later at EPU which I didn't get a lot of info about "what now" other than the other baby was okay, as I sobbed the whole way through the appointment. I'm meant to be back there Friday for a reassurance scan (11+5), which is 3 days before my official scan. Saturday though I started passing a brown discharge and spoke to the midwife so said I could go to a&e for reassurance as EPU shut but I just can't face it alone as partners aren't allowed in a&e so we decided if it got worse or red blood I'd go. This morning though I've started passing brown tissue so I called EPU and they can't get me in any earlier than my appointment this Friday but again told if it gets heavier then to go a&e. She said it can be normal after loosing a twin but I can't find anything online about passing tissue. It's just a rollercoaster of emotions and worry atm. I was finally coping with the grief from the loss a bit better to now have this 😔 Sorry to come on and be all negative. I was hoping to come on when I had some good news

@bez91 oh hun sorry to hear that and glad DH is OK too. Sending hugs!

@sunbird24 good luck today!

@crazydoglady123 oh hunni I'm so so sorry for your loss. It doesn't make it any easier I understand knowing that the other baby is doing well. Sending so much support your way and here if you need a chat. X

@Crazydoglady123 I’m so sorry, a friend of mine has gone though the exact same thing, she’s about 20 weeks now. There was only a week between her finding out she’d got a bonus one and then that it hadn’t made it.
Grieving for the one you’ve lost doesn’t mean you love the one you’ve still got any less. It’s an awful situation to be in and I want to send you much love as you process all those feelings, and much luck to keep your second little star safe until they’re in your arms.

@Crazydoglady123 here for whatever you need, so sorry for the loss and strength to bebe

@Crazydoglady123 I'm so sorry I've pulled you back into the limelight like this :( Your baby was precious and loved and I understand why you're feeling so conflicted about the situation. If it helps I seem to be able to find links saying that bleeding is normal when you lose one twin? Incl this medical journal pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/3057206/

@bez91 so sorry it doesn't look good. Glad OH is safe , close call.

@Crazydoglady123 oh sweetheart that's so sad. I'm so sorry for your loss and that you have to wait for your next scan. I hope you and baby are ok. Completely understandable to be upset at people's reactions. I think sometimes people just want to brush aside the negative and focus on the positive which isn't helpful when you are hurting. I had a scary birth experience and all everyone kept saying was be happy baby was ok, which of course I was but it didn't take away the trauma and I felt so unheard. We hear you x

@crazydoglady123 awe hunny I'm sending you all the hugs, we are all here for you X

@Crazydoglady123 @Manifestingbaby it's called toxic positivity btw! It's vile enough when people do it to people TTC (e.g. well at least you know you can get pregnant for MCs, at least you can sleep in/travel/drink booze because you're barren etc) but would hurt extra much in your twin scenario :( I call people out on it nowadays...

Thanks ladies, yes @Juno231 I was very much "what a week" at 7am Monday morning 🙄

Good luck @Sunbird24 for today. Love the sisters doing it for themselves!

@Crazydoglady123 oh I'm so sorry, I had been thinking about how you were getting on. Sending strength to you 💕We're all here 🙂

@bez91 I'm so sorry 😔
@Sunbird24 good luck!
@clolo that's a brilliant collection! Amazing. And fab you can celebrate with 🍾 🤣
@Minster2012 I didn't realise you had actually moved in! How did you manage that so fast? Bloody hell.
@Crazydoglady123 oh good heavens. What a stressful time. I'm sorry. I would be really worried too and all the unknown is stressful. I do hope your other one is OK. Fingers firmly crossed for you. Hugs xxx

Well- I had a scan today. CD9 (last time got triggered that day). And despite me taking less drugs (I bloody also forgot yesterday and it was mega late) I've still got two 1.7s! 🙈 So I'm to go back tomorrow for another scan. Whether they'll trigger me then I'm not sure. So it'll be done Wednesday if they do, or Thursday possibly.
As for the nhs @Juno231 you do wonder what they are doing. I'm not sure they know. Today I got told to wee before my scan. Came out not 5 minutes later and they want an ovulation test. Erm? And my progesterone last time apparently was two hundred and something. The other ones I've had have been 45 and 48. So I said so the pessaries not alter that though? She said they say not. So fuck knows but that seems high? And I still spotted for 3 days that month so my spotting can't be low progesterone, can it? They also told us to dtd last time the night before the scan which lead to only 36 hours for the SA. This time we didn't. She told me to do it tonight (we wont) as I said it was Sat night (well 2am Sunday morning) we last did it. But if they do insemination Wednesday then I don't want to be doing it tonight! Because we are back in the same boat. But I'm worried if its Thursday we are verging on too long. 🙄

@Crazydoglady123 so sorry to read your update! Best of luck for Friday xx
@bez91 so sorry you think cp, I hope you're ok. Glad Dh is ok too.
@Sunbird24 best of luck for today! 🍀

Thank you @Juno231, appropriately named! You are right to call it out.

@Sunbird24 good luck!

@paintfairy that was a farcical read! They really are just making it up as the go along. I think abstain. You know 36hrs did work so worth the risk and fingers crossed it's Wednesday I think.

@paintfairy *didn’t work

Here we go…

Thanks ladies. I think because I was 9 weeks, both the 6 and 7 week scan was all perfect and I heard both of their strong heartbeats I was just nieve to not expect anything to happen. I also wish I experienced vanishing twin syndrome how it's meant to be...one scan baby there...next scan nothing but because I listened to my body and went for a private scan I saw my dead baby which was just a perfect baby 😢

@Sunbird24 have they classed your friend any higher risk because of it? I've read you're more at risk of preterm birth and low birth weight.

@Juno231 oh no don't be silly! I was planning on coming back on at the weekend as I feel stronger talking about it now but then when the discharge started it's just filled me with worry again. My oh has said about a private scan today/tomorrow but I've just come to terms now that I can't change anything and the doctors can't stop anything so I'd rather just have the one Friday unless things get worse. I have my first antenatal appointment tomorrow which I'm dreading. Thank you for the link. Yeah I've found that it can be normal to spot or bleed just hadn't found much about passing tissue or even if my body expelled the miscarriage rather than reabsorb. Also, looking up old threads a lot of people have experienced VTS more so between 6-8 weeks.

@Manifestingbaby thank you. That's exactly what someone said to me the other day, people struggle with how to talk about loss so they're focusing on the alive baby. The day of my scan at epu I had a few messages wishing me "good luck" which just got my back up as in my head the only thing that'd be lucky would be if my baby suddenly had a heartbeat again. Considering we found out too on the Wednesday, had the scan at EPU Friday morning, my mum was telling my oh she was coming round to tell to "get it together and get on with it" and "if this pregnancy doesn't work out we're young enough to try again" 😱 needless to say I've distanced myself from her at the minute.

@paintfairy thank you lovely. Hope your IUI works this time. Re progesterone, mine on the day of transfer (would have been on day 5 of pessaries) was 585, then two days later was 84. I think it being high is due to the amount of follicles you have ovulated from.

@Crazydoglady123 they do have her on blood thinners, but that’s because they put her on bed rest for weeks afterwards so she got a deep vein thrombosis 🤦‍♀️ She is being monitored very carefully anyway as she’s had a lot of miscarriages, but this is her first pregnancy with a donor egg.