How long did it take you conceive baby no.1 ttc ? advice needed

[JB14C]

Hello Everyone,

I just wondered how long it took you to conceive you're first baby? I am 22 and my partner is 24 we have been trying since December 2020 so I know its not long in the TTC world however each month is becoming harder and harder to come to terms with,
Full breakdown today when AF came, as I thought this was my month. We are both are eating fertility friendly foods, moderate exercise, drinking lots of water. I am taking folic acid and my partner is on wellman conception tablets.

I used to track with OPKS but I found it too stressful now we just have regular sex every other day during most of the month tbh. I never had EWCM but I do notice when I am ovulating compared to other times of the month.

i am just at loss and I don't know if its normal to still be ttc this long in?
note- I haven't been on any contraception pill/implant since 2017.

It took us a few years but I have PCOS

I suspect go will want you trying for two years before helping but what I'd suggest is to make an appt with them, both go, to discuss.

You'll need a referral to hospital to check everything, starting with a sperm count for DP (he just have to wank into a cup at home) but may also include scans and bloods for you

Are you periods regular? Do you get positives on the ovulation sticks when you've done them?

hello,

yes my OPK used to give me blazing peak about cd18 and my cycles are 31-34 days long and I haven't missed a period ever.

maybe im just being impatient :(

thank you xx

Oh hang on, I'd miscounted. You've been trying 6 months not 18. AV time is 12 months so just relax and enjoy the sex for now. Keep doing what you're doing and see where you are early next year.

yes about 6 months, ah okay so maybe I just need to relax a bit then! yeah maybe I see where we are at in Jan ... thanks

14 months and counting. 8 bfps but no baby. It’s a slog but you are young and have loads of time. When you get to that stage, push for full testing (including immune system and thyroid issues)!

It took us 11 months in my late 20s. Try not to worry, it sounds like you're doing everything right. Sometimes it takes a while. I conceived my 2nd and 3rd babies much more quickly after taking so long to get pregnant the first time.

19 cycles and counting.

It's something like 86% of couples conceive within the first year so you still have time to be part of that statistic. Definitely get the ball rolling on tests as soon as you hit the 12 month mark though as the NHS takes ages to get things sorted if you do end up having problems

Almost 5 years after eventually having ivf. Then another 4 years after more ivf. Unfortunately the process isn’t always text book for everyone. In our case it was due to low sperm count.

@Sparrowsong yes, i am struggling to switch off from it. i will get to Dec2021 then ill book us both in at the docs. thank you. im terrible for worrying i have something wrong !

@DramaAlpaca thank you, thats nice to know thank you. its definitely hard to switch off. x

@Juno231 im sending you baby dust. i never thought it would consume me this much!

@Blabla81 wow, i can imagine that was a testing time. how did you find your ivf process? x

It is frustrating isn't it. It took us 7 months so hopefully your bfp is just round the corner! DTD across the cycle like you are doing is the best way so hopefully won't be too much longer

Took us 6 weeks for dc1, 1 year for dc2 (miscarried), 3 months for dc3(miscarried), 3 months for dc4 (miscarried) and 2 months for dc5. This all happened before I was 26 and my oldest was born when I was 22
I have pcos but while I can fall pregnant I struggle to keep them and my pregnancies are very high risk.
I know its hard, especially when nothing seems to be happening but like pps said, you are young and it takes a normal healthy couple a year to fall pregnant on average.

My worst enemy is DR GOOGLE! i cant help but google everything. i am trying to lose a bit of weight because i know it helps to get into a better BMI bracket. but my issue is CM at the minute... never had EWCM at all?

@becca3210 7 months is nice to hear! will keep pushing on !congrats

@Mammyofasuperbaby i bet that was so hard, I am so sorry to hear that. they are miracles when they get here though, definitely here to test us. thank you xx :)

@becca3210 did you do anything different on the 7th month compared to the others? or did you just keep everything the same? xx

Dc1 conceived 1st cycle (wasn't actively trying or tracking or anything) so it was a shock it happened that quickly, i was 31.

Dc2: conceived 5th cycle (4 cycles of actively trying and 5th one put opks away and let nature take it's cause)

Both times it happened when i wasnt tracking and just relaxed. I think there's something in that!

@JB14C Previous cycles I had just been focusing on having DTD around ovulation time that month we started a bit earlier so did days 5, 9, 12, 14, 16 (think I ovulated day 16 or thereabouts). Can't remember if you said you used sperm friendly lubricant like preseed but that can help

Oh also i forgot to metion i had been on the pill for years and just stopped right before conceived so it didnt hinder anything.

@Popcornbetty wow yes that's amazing :) yes this was the first month i didnt use OPK as it was stressing me out ... so this month i just didnt buy anymore. i am going to try and relax as much as i can... im even starting yogo haha

@becca3210 ah yes me and the boyf are kinda doing the same thing. yes we are using conceive plus which i think is similar to preseed? did you use anything like that ? xx

Chances of conception each month are never more than 20-25% and that's the maximum which is why they say to expect it to take a year.

6 months is completely normal. My first took 14 months, my second was conceived immediately. It was the night after ditching condoms.

Try to remain as relaxed as possible and give it a few months.

Probably not what you want to hear...

Early 30`s

Coil out end of Jan, had sex once for fun during my Feb ovulating period, not thinking anything would work for months due to a lifetime being messed up with hormones (never had a regular period ever). Positive pregnancy test end of Feb, baby due October.

Most of my friends averaged around 6-12 months, it's luck of the draw, hang in there, it'll resolve itself