How long did it take you conceive baby no.1 ttc ? advice needed

[JB14C]

Hello Everyone,

I just wondered how long it took you to conceive you're first baby? I am 22 and my partner is 24 we have been trying since December 2020 so I know its not long in the TTC world however each month is becoming harder and harder to come to terms with,
Full breakdown today when AF came, as I thought this was my month. We are both are eating fertility friendly foods, moderate exercise, drinking lots of water. I am taking folic acid and my partner is on wellman conception tablets.

I used to track with OPKS but I found it too stressful now we just have regular sex every other day during most of the month tbh. I never had EWCM but I do notice when I am ovulating compared to other times of the month.

i am just at loss and I don't know if its normal to still be ttc this long in?
note- I haven't been on any contraception pill/implant since 2017.

@ShowOfHands 20-25%! crazy... i always believed it was so much higher than that. at school sex=pregnancy ... not quite the case is it ha ha!

thank you, did you go for any tests after a year of trying or did you just go with the flow? thanks x

Op you are doing all the right things, honestly i'm a firm believer that the minute you relax, concentrate on having 'fun in the sun' it'll happen! Ignore my cheesiness Sorry this cycle wasn't your month but sending you so much baby dust for the next one! 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
Also the opks can be addictive and stress does not help matters or testing early and the mind tricking you by seeing imaginary faint lines (def keep the relaxed approach.)

I’m 27 and currently 20 weeks pregnant with my first. It took us 13 months before we got our BFP and we’d literally just had our first fertility appointment (altho were still not on any medication etc) it’s funny how it works out. I do have pcos tho. Anecdotal, but Id gone v low carb in the two months before my BFP, and lost a stone or so, plus I’d upped my exercise levels a bit more (was active already).
I know exactly how it feels but really 6 months isn’t long in the grand scheme of things. Just keep working on getting yourself in the best physical, financial and mental position for a baby, it’s nice to have that to focus on as something you actually can do something about.

@ILoveCreamCrackersMe wow that's amazing, I think I was so naive as I thought that would happen for me i just thought ditching the condoms was about as hard as it was... lol.

im glad to here though that yourfriend were like 6-12 months, makes me feel more optimistic x

Also stay clear of the journey of the sperm to the egg video as after watching that i thought it would never happen!

Ditto.... That video is amazing and terrifying at once. Especially when you encounter some gormless twat in real life and realise they were the one that made it.

@Popcornbetty ah thank you for the kindness means a lot. it feels like such a lonely journey! my boyf is very laid back about it haha, probably just enjoying all the sex as I cant use the 'ive got a headache' card now !! ive got my fingers crossed xx :D

I would say btw - an easy thing to do at this point is get a private SA for OH. At least you'd eliminate him being a problem (which he's 50% likely to be) and it's only around £150 to have it done.

For EWCM I loved Tropicana pink grapefruit juice - drank every morning from CD 1 to ovulation. Saw it on a thread here, tried it, and got FIVE DAYS of ewcm - it was brilliant and cheap.

Took me one month but miscarried, then six months to get pregnant again. My GP said iron levels need to be higher for ttc, I was in normal range but took supplements the month before getting pregnant again, and also I'd taken up acupuncture

@Ughmaybenot hey, thanks for this message. I am working on myself a lot at the moment, i have started gym and monitoring my steps. eating the healthy foods etc so hopefully that helps. i am really trying to get myself into a better place. xx

congratulations too :D

@Popcornbetty @ILoveCreamCrackersMe haha what is this video you guys are talking about? x

@A1b2c3d4e5f6g7 pink grapefruit juice... wow im going to buy some tonight!!! ill try anything at this point.

yes been reading up a lot on iron especially during AF and Omega 3.

@Juno231 well maybe then, when i get to like my 11th month i will order one of these tests to check it out... before we go docs x

Here it is OP

@ILoveCreamCrackersMe omg its a miracle isnt really how it even happens ha ha.

It’s SO hard to not obsess when you are trying to conceive but you do need to try and reframe your mind perhaps?
You want a baby and it’s most likely going to happen. Yes there can be issues but also it can just be timing and things just not lining up exactly.
The positives are that you are young, healthy, you get strong OPKs and your cycles sound very typical and average.

Chances are you will conceive within the next 6 months. In the mean time try to find other things to enjoy and use your spare time on, yoga is a great idea, so maybe find a couple of interesting hobbies so that you don’t find yourself worrying about ttc every spare moment you have.

It’s great that you’re so committed but to keep your mindset positive and open, try reframing ttc as something exciting you are doing alongside your every day life, basically enjoy the time you have before baby because your life is now - it doesn’t start when you become parents.

Essentially I’m saying try to enjoy the journey and not make it all about the destination (being pregnant).

If by xmas you haven’t had a positive result then speak to your GP and take it from there.

Best of luck!

@Ohpulltheotherone thank you for this message. i think you are totally right. i am really trying to focus on myself and trying to do more self care because sometimes its so easy to get stuck in this horrible mind set. yes you are right, I think I'm just worrying because when you hear people around you getting pregnant so fast, and by accident etc just leaves you to think doesn't it.

but yes, i think im going to give it another 6 months and try and enjoy the summer and then if nothing after xmas ill book in to see whats what. im just going to keep my fingers and toes crossed... xx

22. Honeymoon baby. Too much rum punch and beachcomber cocktails.

Not long. 10 weeks between coil out and BFP (2nd full cycle). But 1 in 6 couples need support to conceive and we had prepared to be in for the long haul as so many family members had has MC and IVF. Take it easy, enjoy having sex and if you don't get your BFP speak to your GP later in the year.

@Pyewackect that sounds like the best way to get pregnant!! love it :D

@PurBal wow that's good! and yes will do, I think I just need to stop being so obsessive ( easier said than done )

@JB14C no problem at all, ttc is for sure a terrifying all consuming and longed for journey! Oh no the video, it is a miricle isn't it?!i remember watching that and turning to dh and saying bloody hell that will never happen to us!
Op you are so young and have so many positives on your side so very likely it'll happen for you soon 🌟🌟🌟🌟

miracle *

1 month and that ended in miscarriage.

Then once my period returned it was another 7 months. So just under a year in total from deciding to try, to getting a positive test (that stuck)

Perfectly healthy, fertile couple can take 2 years to conceive. It's just a patience game in most cases. Good luck!

It's in the normal range to take up to 12 months ttc. You don't hear about longer stints such as 10 months because people don't brag about it the way they do as a 1st/2nd timer 😉.

It took me 8 months to convince and then I had a mmc. I then took another 8 months to conceive after my surgical management with my now dd. My great frustration was that the 12 months begins again after a loss.

I truly get your frustration and sadness. Both times I conceived I'd really thought it was never going to happen. Statistically, you're overwhelmingly likely to be having a booze free Christmas and fall pregnant by December 31st.