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Beleeve · 07/06/2021 12:52

Apologies for this really pitiful post but i'm just in such a rubbish mood today and feeling so fed up.

I have been trying to get pregnant for over 18months/2 years and got put on a referral list to see a fertility expert as it clearly wasn't going to happen naturally for me. I am 35 and have 2 children so no idea what the issue is this time.

I had the call today to say i have an appointment which is great BUT spanner in the works, i'm actually pregnant! Took a test last Thursday (and yesterday actually) and think i'm probably only about 5 weeks.

The reason it's a spanner in the works is that i've started having pink, then red/brown spotting since lastnight. I had this with my second baby but feel because it's taken so long this time that something is wrong and i just feel in my gut i'm not expecting this to last :-(

I don't want this to be some drawn out process for days or weeks where i don't know what's going on. Can i start taking tests now to see if the line gets fainter? I know you can't get scans at this point but i just want to know what's happening. I know really i have to just wait it out but i'm just really struggling with this idea today. I think having that appointment come through has just reminded me how long it has taken to get here.

I'm sorry i know a lot of people are worse off than me but i can't get myself our of this hole today :-(

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Bundaberg84 · 09/06/2021 13:55

@Mum2baby07 thank you very much hun!

Noodella18 · 09/06/2021 16:47

@Bundaberg84 I've seen your name quite a bit and have been following your story - I'm so sorry to hear about your result today, that must be totally gutting. Really hoping it resolves itself without any complications xx

Bundaberg84 · 09/06/2021 16:55

Thank you @Noodella18! I hope so, too...

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Beleeve · 09/06/2021 18:06

I've veen thinking about going to a&e and it just didn't feel right to me. So i took a chance and rang the local birthing centre (where i had my scan buring my bleeds in my last pregnancy) and have just spoken to the 2 most lovely midwives who have said someone from the early pregnancy unit will call me tomorrow to book me a scan for Friday. I can't tell you the relief i feel knowing i will actually be seen on Fri and not turned away.

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Noodella18 · 09/06/2021 19:06

@Beleeve your gp sounds like a dick (and I don't say that lightly because my partner is a gp and normally when people tell their gp stories I can totally see the other side). If she was that concerned about you she would have made the arrangements to get you seen at the hospital. What she said made no sense and just made you more confused. I'm so please you will be seen for a scan on Friday. Good luck!

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Beleeve · 09/06/2021 19:27

@Noodella18 It was the receptionist, i didn't even get as far as speaking to the doctor. The difference in attitude between her and the 2 ladies i spoke to tonight ia huge, i felt so reassured and cared about tonight. It's surprising what a difference it makes, i think the receptionists tone took me completely by surprise yesterday and i cried like a baby when i got off the phone. To be hobest though think i'm bit of an emotional mess at the moment. I'm still bleeding but no cramps yet so i'm trying not to give up hope.

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Noodella18 · 09/06/2021 20:07

Well that's even worse, what a silly cow. I know that being a gp receptionist is a tough job but she should have slotted you in as an emergency appointment with the gp who could have made the appropriate referrals to epu. It's not her place to tell you to go to a and e for something like this. I'm sorry you had to deal with that xx

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Beleeve · 09/06/2021 20:28

@Noodella18 she was rude to be honest. I think i said something like 'do i go to a certain place, which ward is it?' Totally stupid question granted cos she'd already said a&e but her response was just google it Hmm I do get that they probably get a lot of time wasters but all it takes is a little compassion.

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Mum2baby07 · 09/06/2021 23:26

@Bundaberg84 so pleased to hear you have a scan on Friday - hoping for good news for you!

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Beleeve · 10/06/2021 07:09

I had a bigger bleed this morning as soon as i woke up so scared it might hapoen today!! I need to leave the house this morning too so i'm terrified it's going to happen while i'm out!!

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Mum2baby07 · 10/06/2021 07:18

@Beleeve so sorry to hear this. If you’re unable to rearrange your plans then all I can suggest is to have some maxi pads handy and some pain relief in case it starts while you’re out. My own miscarriage was slow and I had over 24 hours of a heavier bleed and mild cramps before it started properly so please don’t panic too much as even if it is a miscarriage it might not happen in the next few hours but may take longer and happen once you can get home. I’m so sorry you are experiencing this. If you want to chat please feel free to DM me x

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Beleeve · 10/06/2021 07:29

Thank you @Mum2baby07 Been back to the toilet and still bleeding heavily. I've managed to cancel one thing but i've got a dental appointment i need to go to. I just hooe i can get in and out without anything major happening.

I don't think i'm prepared for what's about to happen, i'm so scared! Lastnight i waa thinking there may still be a chance but there clearly isn't now. I just want it over with now.

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feliznavidad2 · 10/06/2021 07:33

So sorry @Bundaberg84 - thinking of you x

Bundaberg84 · 10/06/2021 08:31

@feliznavidad2 thank you hun! Weird position to be in, hoping for it to be a chemical. But I made my peace with it. After all, there's nothing you can do to prevent things like that from happening.

Mum2baby07 · 10/06/2021 09:19

@Beleeve please don’t be scared. I know why you are. I was too. But trust your body to do what it’s designed to do. I won’t pretend it will be easy because it won’t be and your hormones will be haywire but the worst of it will be over relatively quickly. Please be kind to yourself and take care. Here if you need a chat x

Bundaberg84 · 10/06/2021 09:36

@Beleeve what @Mum2baby07 said. I'm here to chat as well! We'll go through this together, you're not alone!

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Beleeve · 10/06/2021 09:48

@Mum2baby07 @Bundaberg84 thank you both so much, it means so much just to be able to talk to someone. I've cancelled my appointment cos it's too heavy for me to be going anywhere.

I'm hoping when they call me about my scan they can book me in first thing tomorrow, i think i will feel a sense of relief to be told what's going on, regardless of it being bad news.

I keep bursting out crying, i know i'll be ok i think i'm just a bit in shock at the moment. Thank you again everyone, it is honestly such a comfort having you all and given what you're all going through yourselves you really are all amazing!!

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Beleeve · 10/06/2021 10:21

I just stood up and could feel something warm, went to the toilet and there was a big area of clotting that's come away. Could that be it? Is it possible i could have already miscarried with no pain?

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Bundaberg84 · 10/06/2021 12:11

@Beleeve yes, it's entirely possible. My friend had an early miscarriage in week 8 and she had no pain at all... I hope that was it!🤞

Mum2baby07 · 10/06/2021 12:20

@Beleeve possibly but you may pass more clots yet and still bleed for a while too. Did you say you think you’re only about 5 weeks? If so then I assume it’s possible as I have read similar stories for quick and painless miscarriages. Hoping for you that’s it x

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Beleeve · 10/06/2021 12:41

@Mum2baby07 @Bundaberg84 I'm struggling a bit with my dates if i'm honest, i think i would be 6 weeks around today. I'm booked in for a scan at 8:15 tomorrow so atleast by this time tomorrow i'll have some confirmation.

Thank you both for listening to me moan, in a weird way having this heavier bleed i almost feel more at peace knowing it's over rather than waiting for it to happen if that makes sense.

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Mum2baby07 · 10/06/2021 14:16

It makes total sense @Beleeve. I was the same. It was almost a relief once I miscarried properly as it took me two weeks of bleeding every day to get there and my mental health was really starting to struggle. Don’t get me wrong, we wanted our bubs more than anything but once it became apparent that it wasn’t meant to be I found waiting for my body to miscarry the hardest part, especially as people around me started to get hopeful it would turn out better than it did, so I do totally get where you’re coming from. How are you feeling now? Still passing clots or has it slowed a little? X

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Beleeve · 10/06/2021 14:44

@Mum2baby07 I'm still bleeding quite a bit and trying to investigate what's coming out. Sorry if TMI but when i go to loo and wee i can see thick strands of blood coming out, it's basically loads of thick stringy blood clumped together. There's been so much blood i can't see how there will be anything at all left by the scan tomorrow, which i guess is a good thing that my body has dealt with it all.

Again sorry of TMI but hiw dis others who have gone through this find the nights? I'm so scared to go to bed tonight and either wake up in a pool of blood or get up and it come gushing out!

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Beleeve · 10/06/2021 17:07

Just to update, i've just passed a clot with grey colouring in it so guessing that was the sac. Seems like it's done.

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Mum2baby07 · 11/06/2021 06:27

Hi @Beleeve hope you’re feeling better today and your bleeding has slowed a little. I bled heavily for a few days and needed a towel on the mattress when I went to sleep because of it but everyone is different so hoping you just have a light bleed. Be kind to yourself today - your body went through a lot yesterday xx

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