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Beleeve · 07/06/2021 12:52

Apologies for this really pitiful post but i'm just in such a rubbish mood today and feeling so fed up.

I have been trying to get pregnant for over 18months/2 years and got put on a referral list to see a fertility expert as it clearly wasn't going to happen naturally for me. I am 35 and have 2 children so no idea what the issue is this time.

I had the call today to say i have an appointment which is great BUT spanner in the works, i'm actually pregnant! Took a test last Thursday (and yesterday actually) and think i'm probably only about 5 weeks.

The reason it's a spanner in the works is that i've started having pink, then red/brown spotting since lastnight. I had this with my second baby but feel because it's taken so long this time that something is wrong and i just feel in my gut i'm not expecting this to last :-(

I don't want this to be some drawn out process for days or weeks where i don't know what's going on. Can i start taking tests now to see if the line gets fainter? I know you can't get scans at this point but i just want to know what's happening. I know really i have to just wait it out but i'm just really struggling with this idea today. I think having that appointment come through has just reminded me how long it has taken to get here.

I'm sorry i know a lot of people are worse off than me but i can't get myself our of this hole today :-(

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Bundaberg84 · 07/06/2021 19:54

@Beleeve of course, you can test each morning to see if the line progresses. Or you can get your hcg levels determined in your blood (with 48h in between two tests). Fingers crossed for you though 🤞

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Beleeve · 07/06/2021 21:31

Thank you for responding. I've ordered a few tests online so i guess i'll take a test every few days and see what happens. If you miscarry this early on do you see anyone to confirm it's happened or is it too early on?

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Bundaberg84 · 07/06/2021 21:55

I had a chemical when I was around 16dpo I think, ir maybe a bit later. I actually went to see a ob/gyn because the bleeding was quite strong and they wanted to be sure it's not an ectopic pregnancy. They told me to come back if I didn't test negative a couple of days after the bleeding started.

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Beleeve · 07/06/2021 22:32

Thank you, that is helpful to know. And sorry to hear about your chemical pregnancy. This is probably a really stupid question but should i be trying to relax/not exercise/walk too much or will that not make any difference now?

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Mum2baby07 · 08/06/2021 07:29

Sadly @Beleeve if the pregnancy isn’t meant to be then no amount if resting (or otherwise) will change that. However given you’re so early it’s very possible your bleed is just an implantation bleed and very normal so I’d suggest - as hard as I know it is - to try and carry on and stay positive. If it gets heavier to a ‘red’ or you start to get any cramps then call your GP or early pregnancy unit. However light bleeds are very common in early pregnancy and aren’t necessarily something for you to worry about (easier said than done I know). Good luck x

Moonshine11 · 08/06/2021 07:32

How much are you spotting? Is it getting heavier?
You can test everyday, of course!
Do your normal day activities, it’s not going to do any harm at this stage.

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Beleeve · 08/06/2021 09:07

I woke up this morning and had nothing all night, had a shower got out and checked and nothing again so started to think maybe things were going to be ok. Just gone to the toilet though and there was blood in my underwear Sad It's fresh red blood so isn't looking good. I don't think i realised how long and drawn out this would be, it's so cruel.

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Beleeve · 08/06/2021 10:02

Can i also ask, is it worth ringing my doctors and asking for some blood tests to confirm what's happening or will they just say it's too early?

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Moonshine11 · 08/06/2021 10:16

Is the blood still coming?
You can bleed in pregnancy but of course it can be bad news.
Worth a try to your GP, some will, some won’t but no harm in asking.

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Beleeve · 08/06/2021 11:24

Yeah i'm still bleeding. It's basically like a light period now. No clots or pain but i'm guessing that might come. I'm honestly gutted!! Took us so long to get here and within 4 days of getting a positive test it's all started to go wrong. I just want it to be over now Sad

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Bundaberg84 · 08/06/2021 13:08

@Beleeve I'm also still bleeding, day 10 now I think? My ob/gyn did a hcg level test which you have to re-do after 48h (or later) to see how it develops. Maybe you can do the same?

groovychiick · 08/06/2021 13:13

My third took nearly 2 years to conceive and I just lost our 4th pregnancy at 10 weeks so you have my sympathy Thanks
My fourth pregnancy only took 1 month so it's possible that now you've conceived your body may almost reset itself

EmbarrassingMama · 08/06/2021 14:14

I bled heavily at 5, 8 and 11 weeks with my first. Got checked out at the EPU every time but the pregnancy was unaffected by the bleed. I feel your heartbreak and worry though, it is so distressing.

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Beleeve · 08/06/2021 14:18

@Bundaberg84 I just called my doctor to see if i can get a blood test and she was quite short with me and said you need to be so careful with bleeding at the beginning of pregnancy as you could be miscarrying (obviously i know this which is why i'm calling) and told me to go straight to a&e. I said to hear that surely they won't be interested as i'm only almost 6 weeks and she said again, this is why i'm saying you need to be careful and go to a&e. I don't know what to do now, surely they won't be able to do anything? I felt like i was being dramatic asking for a blood test but a&e really?!! I want to know for sure of course i do but i hate feeling like i'm wasting peoples time.

I cried so much when i got off that call just cos there was no sympathy or niceities, so blunt!

I had a couple of stringy bits when i last checked too. Maybe i should give it a couple of days and then go to a&e, i really don't know anymore!

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Bundaberg84 · 08/06/2021 14:51

@Beleeve I'm sorry to hear! But I would listen to her and go to a&e. What they want to check is that you won't have an ectopic pregnancy. Just to rule that out. And this is important as this won't just affect your pregnancy but your health.
And then ask them if they can check your hcg levels and again in 48h. That's what I did, and he just called me back and said my hcg levels are "excellent". So at least I know I'm still pregnant. I go in again tomorrow for another ultrasound.

Moonshine11 · 08/06/2021 15:19

I would take her advise op.
If she felt you didn’t need to go and ride it out at home she would have said

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Beleeve · 08/06/2021 16:26

Thanks all. I think i'll try and go tomorrow/day after, might sound stupid but i want to try and hang on a couple of days cos i'm worried if i go now they'll say it's too soon to even see anything. I'm a couple of days away from 6 weeks and i've had a scan at 6 weeks before where they were able to find the heartbeat.

I'm just struggling to act normal. Only my partner knows about it and (sorry men) but i just don't feel like they understand what it's like to go through this physically. He came in the room singing earlier and i just wanted to punch him!

Thank you again everyone, i will keep you updated 🙏🙏

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Mum2baby07 · 09/06/2021 09:22

@Beleeve I really feel for you. I recently miscarried at 9 weeks but it was so drawn out getting there that it really started to affect my mental health. Only you can decide what to do and I understand your decision to wait but at this stage they would still be able to see a sac and yolk and confirm your pregnancy isn’t ectopic if you’re at all concerned about that as you can get light bleeds with those too but also with miscarriages and with perfectly healthy pregnancies! It’s so hard to know what’s going on - I feel for you x

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Beleeve · 09/06/2021 10:10

Thank you so much @Mum2baby07 and sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I was so naive i honestly thought miscarriage was pain and heavy bleeding that happens instantly and then it's all over. Had no idea it could go on for days.

With work and the kids i'm trying to find the time to go to a&e but it's looking like it will be friday morning and i'll have to make something up for work.

There doesn't seem to be much in the way of bleeding this morning apart from a bit of brown discharge. To be honest though i'm trying to not go to the bathroom and look anymore cos it's driving me crazy.

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Bundaberg84 · 09/06/2021 11:17

@Beleeve I don't want to alarm you and hope you'll have a better outcome than I have - my scan today showed absolutely nothing. Which means I will now have to hope that the hcg levels drop which means it was a chemical. And if not, it would be a ectopic which would mean close monitoring because you can't just have surgery - it needs to be located and it would be too early for that.

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Beleeve · 09/06/2021 11:46

@Bundaberg84 oh god i'm so sorry to hear this!! Couldn't they check when you had the ultrasound of it was ectopic? Seems so cruel to make you wait it out like this.

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Bundaberg84 · 09/06/2021 12:08

@Beleeve unfortunately it's too early to see it. If there is a fetus, it would be the size of a peppercorn and would just not be visible enough. He checked of course and he said it's most probably a chemical but there is no way to be certain yet. That's why it's important to see how the hcg levels develop. If they don't rise, it's okay. If they still rise, I am pregnant, but not where I'm supposed to be.

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Beleeve · 09/06/2021 12:16

@Bundaberg84 bloody hell Sad I'm so sorry you're going through this. Have you got people around you? Can't imagine how difficult this is for you x

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Bundaberg84 · 09/06/2021 12:20

@Beleeve yes I do. Even though I didn't intend to tell about my early pregnancy I told my two closest friends last week as one of them announced her pregnancy and I thought it would have been weird not to say anything. She tried for 2 years before it happened. Snd my other friend had a miscarriage at 8 weeks, while on honeymoon before she had a successful pregnancy so they are great with the topic. Depending on the outcome - if I have to have surgery - I will tell my two other close friends as well. Other than that I'm happy to work from home right now.

Mum2baby07 · 09/06/2021 12:54

@Bundaberg84 I’ve had two ectopics previously so if you need to chat about anything please feel free to DM me.

@Beleeve I’m thinking of you and hoping you find out quickly what’s happening and whichever way it goes that you’re ok x