Trying to conceive over 40

[October1979]

Here is a new thread for us girls

@feelingkenty welcome to this thread! I am so sorry for the loss of your DC3 how terrible. I know what your mean about famous 40+ mummies - I am slightly obsessed by Sue Redford, how does she pop them out so easily?!

@Geriatric1234 happy belated birthday! I hope you had a good day… thanks for your kind wishes! I am good thanks - just been out for dinner and since I started spotting today(due period tomorrow) I decided to treat myself to 2 glasses of wine!! So now actually quite tipsy 😂😂

Welcome @feelingkenty and I’m so sorry for you loss. How devastating for you and your family. I wish you luck with ttc. Xx

@Marvellouslymadmum thanks but it’s getting worse. I’m unable to function like this. It’s definitely another hg pregnancy. I wish I could just see it as a healthy sign but I had hg with my first pregnancy which was a mmc. I’m trying new medication which I hope will work. Failing that it will be a hospital stay because I’m struggling to keep water and food down. Xx

Massive congrats @Catconfusion and welcome @feelingkenty - so sorry for your devastating loss and I hope you are blessed with #4 soon x

@Geriatric1234 happy birthday hope it's a good one

@Catconfusion sounds like a nightmare! I had sickness pretty bad with my son, sick most days abs more than one occasion but was just told that was normal by the midwife!

@Marvellouslymadmum yes sickness is normal. I’ve been diagnosed with hyperemesis so I can’t stop being sick. It’s only about 1% of pregnancies. It’s really scary and difficult to manage. Xx

@Catconfusion yes I was told o was on the verge of having it but luckily it didn't last long! Hope it gets better for you soon xx

@Marvellouslymadmum thank you. It lasted until 26 weeks with my ds so I’m prepared for the worst. I’d hoped it would be different this time. The consultant we saw at the scan said people who suffer with hg generally go on to have it again. There’s lots of support at the hospital if we need it so just trying to manage best I can for now and hoping it doesn’t escalate to needing a drip. Xx

@Catconfusion 26 weeks is such a long time mine started to trail Of somewhere between 18-20 weeks I was just stuck with an itchy pregnancy related rash all over from head to toes which didn't start to go until I'd had him - pregnancy does some very strange things to your body!!

@Marvellouslymadmum it sure does. I had no idea how hard it would be before ds. I’d seen so many people breeze through it. Didn’t realise I’d be on bed rest and spend months not being able to work or do anything other than medical appointments. It is however totally worth it or else none of us would do it again. Xx

Hi all, just thought I’d share with you something that cheered me up today… I went to a gynaecologist (not fertility apt, it was a follow up after I had some bleeding after sex - it was actually a couple of years ago now so all sorted)
Anyway…. To get to the point…. I told her we were trying for another baby but not having any luck probably ‘due to my age’ and she said, “41 is not old at all, you shouldn’t worry yourself over your age, women can certainly still have healthy babies at your age”

I just thought it was refreshing to find a dr that didn’t pull a face or list all the negatives when discussing TTC in your 40s! It has really given me a boost 😊

@Honey2 that's good to know. I'm a touch over 40 and currently considering trying for baby number 3...

This is exactly what a gynaecologist told me today too! How funny that happened on the same day!

Mine said to me that she regularly delivers first babies with women aged 40 and it really isn't a big deal. I'm also feeling a lot more positive

Me being me said oh but they must be mostly ivf babies and she said some are but not all.....

Hope restored over here.

As I’ve said before, I’ve never been made to feel like it was odd to have a natural conception over 40 with ds or this pregnancy. Or when I had my mc at 39, the doctor laughed when I said I was worried about fertility at my age. Even the midwife recently said on the phone she expected I’d be back with a second baby. If it was that uncommon over 40, I can imagine there would be more surprise at appointments. Although I know some people have had more negative experiences Xx

@Honey2, @Catconfusion and @Mattieandmummy
Thanks for sharing these positive comments, they're really hope giving and helpfully challenge the negative stats on the Web. I'm feeling more hopeful and relaxed about conceiving since we first started trying almost a year ago. Quitting coffee has helped me feel more relaxed and patient (though it was pretty painful to start with!)
Fingers crossed for us all xxx

@honey2 that is so great to hear. so much of what I read and hear is so negative about fertility over 40 and it’s good to get a more positive perspective!!

@Catconfusion so glad your pregnancy is progressing, but also sorry to hear about the hyperemesis. A friend had it and it was totally debilitating, so I really feel for you. Hopefully it doesn’t last so long for you this time!!

@Littlemiss41andfabulous that’s great news. So exciting that you are starting to feel a bump!!

I have started a round of ivf. Not enjoying the injections so much, and I am still a bit anxious about whether we’ll get any embryos to transfer at the end of it, but i think it helps to feel like I am doing something. I have been sleeping really badly due to anxiety and getting really down each month when my period arrives. somehow handing the process over to science is making me feel a bit more relaxed - though that will I’m sure all change when we get closer to egg collection / transfer! Re the progesterone : my ivf schedule provides for 400mg of cyclogest progesterone twice a day post- egg collection. I will also have to take a lubion 25mg injection once a day as well which i think is also a form of progesterone. But more artificial progesterone support may be needed in ivf because they are disrupting your natural cycle so much with all the medication….

@Catconfusion I forgot to say the hyperemesis sounds horrible… sorry you have to go through that! But soo soo pleased pregnancy is developing well!

@99pctpractice exciting news about the IVF! I’ve everything crossed for you x

@Portlandia glad to have helped and I’m glad you’re feeling more relaxed. It’s so hard at our age to just let nature take it’s course but I think with the time the chances are good. Hoping for good news for you soon. Xx

Thank you @99pctpractice, it’s also so lonely. DH is having to do so much more as I’m ill so I’m spending a lot of time alone. There’s just no rest from it. Even when I’m asleep I’m aware of the nausea so could literally sleep for a week. When I get down I then feel guilty because we’re so lucky to have this pregnancy. It’s such a difficult one mentally but we’ll get there and it’ll all be worth it. Xx

Thank you so much @Honey2 believe me I’m not complaining. We are very very lucky but I’m not going to lie, it is hard at the moment. It’ll be ok though eventually. Xx

@Catconfusion oh yes it's absolutely worth it! I ended up spending some time in hospital whilst pregnant with my son and the itchy rash was the worst thing I've ever experienced but I wanted another straight away after and fell pregnant just 7 months after I had him with my daughter 😂
I don't envy you with your sickness though, I do hope it's better for you soon

@Honey2 that's great to hear! I do like the positives and actually I've spoken to a couple recently it makes a change from all the negativity. @Catconfusion maybe it's more of an old fashioned view these days which is very refreshing

@99pctpractice good luck for your Ivf I do hope it all goes well for you

My husband is away and it's so early because my daughter gets up so early and I have to tell someone so I'm telling you guys because you'll understand the craziness of this!

But there's a second line! There's a second line on a FRER. Oh my God