Miscarriage in march, TTC again..

[whymewhyme]

I have just come on my period today so no baby this month, I feel very sad today.

Please tell me what you all do to get pregnant and what can i do to help my chances. I only just a app to check ovulation and thats it. Any advice welcome.

Tia.

@whymewhyme

Hello,

I'm so sorry for your loss 😢❤️ I had a chemical in February and I'm still trying to conceive now, I have had 11 days of positive ovulation on the digital clearblue opks so I don't think I am ovulating this month.

All I can say it try to dtd every other day or 3rd day where possible. When I got pregnant in feb I was using the digital clearblues opks. I then had a break from using them and I am now starting them again but not having much luck.

I’m sorry for your loss ❤️🌈

I had a miscarriage and January and still TTC afterwards, this is our 11th month in total, 4th month TTC since the loss. I’ve tried opks, prenatal vitamins, cutting back on caffeine (myself and my partner), and neither of us drink for other reasons.

Seem to be struggling to conceive again though, can’t offer much advice to you but sometimes it’s nice to talk to someone in a similar boat ❤️

I got BFP in January and miscarriage at 9+5 in march. 10dpo on cycle 2 post mc. I'm so fed up, so angry and so sad. I just desperately want to be pregnant and once again am faced with BFNs. Why is it so easy for some people and so awful for others? It seems so unfair 🥺

Thank you all for relying. It is a very sad situation indeed but hopefully it will work out for us all very soon!

Hey @whymewhyme

I am so sorry for your loss, I had my MC in March too. I am going mad at the fact that I'm not pregnant.. It's honestly become all I think about.. I am probably around 4 DPO and already want to test.. It's madness

@justwant2beamum oh I feel this 😔

Period due Friday & I think all the end-of-month hormones are getting to me on another level this week. There’s been so many pregnancy announcements lately and I literally cry every time.

I hate feeling like this envious/jealous person I’ve turned into but it’s so so hard to stay positive 😣🥺

It’s hard finding people to talk to about it because of they’ve never struggled to conceive, I find they just don’t understand x

@danielleb97 yep totally. If anyone who's conceived on cycle 2 says to me again "just relax and it'll happen" I'll scream!! Xx

Literally! The amount of times people have said to me “everything happens for a reason” and “it’ll happen when it’s meant to happen”, it’s ridiculous. I find it so naive and there’s no guarantee it even will happen again for me. It frustrates me so much 😭 xx

@danielleb97 totally agree! Like you're saying my baby wasn't meant to be and I wasn't meant to be a mum?! Fuck right off!!

@danielleb97 it's a stupid thing to say in this situation. It's something I tell to myself, to just try to make sense of anything, but it's def. not something I would ever say to anyone. A bit like telling a depressed person to "smile a bit more and to work out a bit that helps".

@justwant2beamum this! I love this quote by zoeadelle on Instagram. I genuinely have sent it to people who tell me everything happens for a reason before! There is no viable reason this should happen to anyone in my eyes.

I also changed jobs in the last month and everyone’s giving it “see I told you it just wasn’t your time, it’s all worked out” … it’s really not worked out though has it 😅😔 xx

@danielleb97 aw that's a good quote! Also very similar to me! Just started a new job this week. I actually interviewed for it in January, then that weekend found out I was pg, then a few days later offered the job so I turned it down because I was pg snd would only be there a couple months before Mat leave. Then I had mmc in march so the day I found out at the scan I emailed and asked if I could still have the job and they gave it to me. So people have said same to me and I kinda tell myself obviously this job was meant to be but I still can't understand how it could have been meant to be for me to lose my baby. I did say thanks to my baby the morning I started, I guess for giving me the opportunity. A bit mad, but oh well.

Ahh congrats on the new job! I started mine about 2.5 weeks ago now. It has been a bit easier these past 2 weeks like I took a break from MN and didn’t even bother tracking this month, just focused on the new job and I did feel a bit more ‘sane’ and like ttc wasn’t consuming my every thought. I also had my birthday to focus on as well though. But with AF being due literally any day it’s back to all I can think about 🥲

Yeah like I find a small piece of comfort in that I was headhunted for this job in March and if I was still pg I never would’ve gone for it! But it’s such a good opportunity career-wise and I would have been gutted to pass on it.

I just hate the way other people try to link it and make me feel better. The two don’t have to be linked - a rubbish thing can happen and something good can follow it, that’s life, doesn’t mean it was the reason my baby wasn’t meant to be 🤦🏻‍♀️ Xx

@danielleb97 totally agree. CD1 again here... hopefully this month 😩🤞🏻

@justwant2beamum ahh so sorry AF has turned up! At least it’s another fresh cycle for you to try on ❤️

Still no sign of it for me which is odd because since the MC my periods have regulated like clockwork! Always show up on this exact cycle day when I wake up, 11am at the latest. Now I’m speaking it into existence it’ll probably show up 🤦🏻‍♀️ Trying not to get my hopes up anyways because I have test phobia since my mc x

I just got a BFP 😭😭

@danielleb97 congrats ✨