A dozen eggs collected in a box, waiting to hatch, someone call the sperminator! TTC bus 40

[Minster2012]

Welcome back to the bus where anything goes, hop aboard, tell us about you & we’ll be here for you (there’s a song in there somewhere!).

This bus has a growing bunch of gorgeous black and white springy pups on board, tortoises & 2 feisty little kittens so bring your pets and pictures are obligatory 🤗.

We’ve got TTC happening in many different forms, shagging conventionally, unconventionally, with the help of scientific intervention, IUI/ICSI/Clomid/IVF & even just watching from the top of the bus 👀. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been trying for days, weeks, months or like some of us we’ve been around each other for so long we can’t bear to leave, nothing is TMI and there’s never a silly question...

Hell we KNOW TTC is tough, lots of us have had heart ache & are chasing 🌈so we are there for each other, as well as trying to have laughs along the way 🥰☺️

Oh and we like an embarrassing story to get your ticket for entry please!

And if you see mention of my blog then blame these guys they made me do it...#shamelessplug

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Story so far...

June 24 BFPs
July 11 BFPs
August 18 BFPs
Sep 4 BFPs
Oct 7 BFPs
Nov 7 BFPs
Dec 14 BFPs
jan 7 BFPs
February 8 BFPs
March 5 BFPs
April 5 BFPs - @Minster2012, @Asthenia @2020mission
@Hopeful110 @katiekatty

So into May we go, and plenty going on...

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www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4246054-to-not-want-dsd-to-live-with-me This is heartbreaking, but also sad reading of the acceptance of lack of male parenthood and the strain put on woman no matter what

@Sausage1990 I'm so glad you're home now - you've been through so much! Big hugs ❤️

@Franklydear sorry about the BFN, could still be a bit early though?

@larrythelizard keeping everything crossed for you!

@Sausage1990 ahh what an ordeal for you! I'm glad you're home now and your awesome Dh is looking after you. Take care ❤️
@Vil10 In a way, at least you're ready for the news rather than It be a surprise this time! Still hard to hear though.
@Franklydear sorry for bfn, glad you're ok though x

Thank you all so much for your messages, it means so much that I have you all for support & to lift me up 💕

@dollybird89 I actually found writing it down quite therapeutic. I'm a bit like @bez91 and it kinda helps me process things. I'm an external processor and writing or talking about stuff helps my mentally work through stuff.

@Franklydear yeah I feel it's important to share and be open. How else are we going to remove social barriers & make talking about baby loss less taboo. Let's keep the conversation open, even if it's hard & painful. 💕

@blackcurrantqueen thank you hunny. I don't feel very strong at times but I'm trying xx

@hopeful110 aww thanks. I don't really know how I'm dealing with it, sometimes okay , sometimes not okay. I'm just trying to take it 1 day at a time. Wish I didn't have to be dealing with this again but thank you. I know you're always here to listen 🥰

@larrythelizard yeah the plan was meant to be straight forward so swapping and changing all the time was really draining & emotional. Thankfully the Dr's were amazing. They recognised the trauma of last time and did their best to ensure it was managed in a way I felt was best for me. Despite changes in the plan they kept giving me my options & helped us make the right one. One Dr said what's really important here is we don't let what happened last time happen again, it shouldn't have even happened the 1st time. We want to make sure your miscarriage is complete, that there is very little risk of retained products & infection. We don't want this going on for months for you. This is what we think would be a good option (their option) and we could also look at this (another option), both are good options. And then we chose the option that felt best for us always including a plan b incase. It really felt like a partnership & I felt really well listened to & supportes by the Gynae team. It was still very emotional and I was all over the place but I really felt like I had a voice & I was able to advocate for myself (well DH did alot of the questions because I was too emotional but together we made the right chooses for us). I am so impressed with the medical team and tbh i wish I remembered all their names so I could send a thank you card. They were so good. Sorry accidentally wrote a shirt novel again lol.

@larrythelizard oh and yes testing. We've had the baby, placenta & my blood sent off to genetics testing. And then I will also have more bloods at the miscarriage clinic at 6 weeks post and 12 weeks post miscarriage to test for other things such as thyroid, a range of sticky blood conditions that could be linked to clotting issues and a few other bits too. We've very much decided to wait until we get our results & therefore a plan before we ttc again. So it's going to be a longer wait this time but I can't do this again. I mean I can't guarantee it won't happen again but I'd like to reduce the chances as best we can. I'll definitely still hang around but on the top deck & probably be quieter as I won't be ttc for a while.

@vil10 @Katao aww girls 💕 I cried writing its so you can obviously read the emotions, it's been alot. Let's hope this is the last time 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

@notyetamumbuttrying @vil and yes DH is just brill. I definitely married a good one. I can't wait to hopefully one day raise a son to be just like him 🥰

Omg @sausage1990 you poor thing, I'd love to reach out and give u a big hug. U did super, like you said, your body did do u proud.
Mad what we have to go through to have babies, so many out there have no idea that so many of us are having issues. I for 1 was oblivious that so many struggled. 😭💔 until my own struggle started

@Sausage1990 what an ordeal you've been through 💔 I really hope you manage to get some answers out of this so you don't have to go through any of this again. Thinking of you xx

@Sausage1990 man alive that's not a nice week you've had to say the least. Can't believe what a palaver it's been, I'm so sorry it ended up that way :( thank god for a kind and loving OH and that you were strong enough to go through it all xx

CD12 and got my peak today so I'm looking forward to yet another TWW... 18th egg is the lucky one right?

Hoping to jump on board real for the next journey. First month TTC - looking forward to joining you all and proving much love and support xxx

@Sausage1990 I felt so emotional reading that - Sending you lots of love xxx

Lucky 18 has a ring to it @Juno231

Sorry I've tagged a reply to @Sausage1990's hospital update message here in another thread by mistake. I've taken on more threads than I can handle 🤦‍♀️

Haha @2020mission you've definitely got too many threads going. I always do this in watsapp too! I did just check my notifications and read the reply on the other thread. Thank you darling. Its been alot but glad to be home. Hope you're doing okay xx

Aww glad you still saw it 😅 I'll be more careful with future posts! I'm doing all right thanks but feeling sad for minster and you still. Should be us all 😔 you're going to be strong ladies after all of this 💪🏼 💕

@Sausage1990 wow. That definitely sounds like an ordeal. I'm really pleased you are finally sorted but it sounded a bit all over the place. I'm really sorry you have had to go through this again too. I hope they are able to provide you with some answers and help you moving forward though xx

Any ideas on ways to stay occupied while in the car? Just off to take oh to hospital for a brain MRI.... Think I'm more nervous than him ... He's been having weird double vision only temporary some days it's there some days nothing... Think I'm more worried bcos his sis in law just got diagnosed with a brain tumour and that's all I can think of and panicking .. he thinks it's gonna be bad news too 🥺🥺🥺

Oh @Dollybird89 that sounds rough, are you having to wait in the car whilst he gets assessed?

Is there anywhere you could stretch your legs to/go get some food, that could kill an hour?

Games on your phone? Get on the Mumsnet classics threads?

Hope it's just high blood pressure or something x

@larrythelizard I'm in a multi story car park hhaha .. I brought a book so gonna try read it .. though it's hard to focus. Worse thing is he obviously won't get results today . Can't go far as I have the dog with me lol 🤣

Sending you so much love @Sausage1990 I can't even begin to imagine what you have been through or how you feel right now. Look after yourself sweetheart and you and DH look after each other xxxxx

Sorry about the BFN @Franklydear same here this morning.
I THINK I'm 15dpo ( had static smiley on the sat but could have ovulated anytime after?!) by dates I was due yesterday so 2 days late.. lots of cramps and assumed AF starting but nothing except a bit of pinky stain when I wiped this morning which I assumed would turn into AF and didn't..
my BFN was cheapies as refuse to buy a FR after using 2 up this month already 🤣 I only bought the cheapies yesterday as thought if I buy them I will get AF, didn't work! Then told myself if I test this morning I will get AF after... nope!

Just give me a bloody BFP or AF I don't mind which right now!! Just one or the other (ideally BFP but it's only first cycle so I'm not expecting it yet...) eurgh!!! Sorry moan over! (That's the hormonal me screaming for a release haha )

@Sausage1990 what an ordeal you've had. I hope you're feeling better and that you can rest up and recover. It's so unfair for you to have have to go through this so many times. My heart goes out to you.

@Sausage1990 what a time of it you've had, glad it's all over and you're now home, what a star OH has been, and you've been pretty amazing too by the sounds of it. Hope they are able to get you some answers, do they say how long to hear back?

Sorry about the BFN @Franklydear 😢

@Vil10 I suppose for people who just think about conceiving and fall pregnant straight away they don't even consider it might not just happen for others.

@Dollybird89 what a worry about poor OH, sounds like the hospital have acted pretty quickly though.

Xx

@Lexber I only use cheapies, frers are reserved for proper late
@Dollybird89 my ds had that, it turns out it was an underdeveloped muscle in his eye, also not all the time, maybe he strain a muscle or something equally silly
Thanks everybody, nothing yet, so will test Wednesday if nothing then

@franklydear according to eye specialist at Sunderland it's not an eye issue? So i dunno... Took over 3months to get this MRI scan appointment. I'm panicking something gonna go wrong during scan too... He's bin in there over an hour already

@Dollybird89 probably waiting most of the time, you don't know there is anything to worry about yet, so hopefully there's a simple explanation, don't go straight to the worst case scenario,not easy to be the one waiting though

@Franklydear it could still be too early🤞🏼

@notyetamumbuttrying yeah you're right, damn these fertile people!!

@KayL1988 welcome!!

@Clairey844 you're right! It must be a dream knowing you'll conceive fast😂