. 🦕 Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 6 🦕

[Annny27]

Hi ladies! The dinosaurs are around plus a few newer ladies too :)

@miscarriage39
It's definitely nt silly when I knew my 3rd pregnancy was ending they wanted to scan me and I told them no there was no point I can't even be around new born babies I seen his sis and niece last nite with the nieces baby and I avoided going near them could nt get in to the car quick enough to get away, never feel silly for how you feel no one will ever get it unless they been where u r nw, but I knw one thing for sure we all will get r rainbow babies soon they r just around the corner. With my first loss I went to hospital they kept me in over night I was already wearing my pj's you know I got rid of them nxt day as soon as I got home cause I could nt even look at them again brought bck to many memories there's a toilet in work I can't use cause that's the toilet I first noticed the brown bleeding so your feeling r valid well to us ladies anyway 💚

@sweetbabydust1989

I'm so glad they are listening to you now and so sorry about the appalling treatment you received. You deserve better and I hope they find the cause of your ectopic pregnancies and that you'll have your rainbow baby soon xx

Babyghirl thanks for the reassurance, but sorry you have all those associations. I totally get the PJ one. The day of the scan, I put on a new top. I was really excited to be just leaving the house as it was lockdown, and it seemed an approach thing to do. I knew I had to get rid of the top, and as much as I knew ethically I should donate it to charity, I felt it was so unlucky that I couldn’t inflict that on anyone else, so I binned it. I’m not normally suspicious, but it felt so strong.

@Babyghirl @Miscarriage39 I totally get that too - it's weird actually as I was thinking about this this morning. I drive past the hospital where i had to go for the confirmation of the mc and all the other management and scans and even though it seems ridiculous when I go past it it makes me feel sick and anxious and upset. I'm not sure how I am going to cope if I ever have to go there again for anything let alone pg related stuff :( it's so hard isn't it? I totally get that about the pjs and top though, and avoiding people- my friend who is due next month and always makes comments about us being on mat leave together wants to meet up again on Saturday and last time I just said I couldn't go because of work but I really just don't want to be around her right now especially as she'll probably give birth before I even get pregnant again and I just can't bear the pain of that :( hard though because even though she knows about the mc because my oh told them - I know she has zero understanding or experience because fell with both of hers straight away and has never had an issue. It just makes my heart hurt so much and makes me so angry that she gets it so easy and I don't... sorry that turned into a rant!!

@miscarriage39
@kiwi17
So it's not that we r weired it's just hw we r dealing with things protecting rself from falling apart if we don't protect rself no one else will. And no one else will get it nt unless it ever happens to them so allow yourself to keep distance from pregnant women and babies and not do things that will make u uncomfortable xx

Thanks @Babyghirl I'm so glad I have this little community to back me! ☺

So true Babyghirl. The support on here, though is fabulous, and often what hep me get through the day.

I agree girls it's so hard and you just have to protect yourself. I cancelled on friends last weekend last minute cause it was a meet up to see one of the girls newborn and I just couldn't face it. Felt bad, but tough, my mental health is more important at the moment and some days I just don't feel like being happy for other people. I'm happy for friends rationally, but I just can't always be smiley and happy externally about it. I do worry though me having those feelings will give me bad karma or I don't deserve it 😩

@kiwi17
I would be lost without this wee group we all understand wat each other is going through x
@miscarriage39
This is my go to page when I need a chat or rant it's like my safe little bubble xx
@justwant2beamum
Your right to cancel to protect urself your mental health is more than there feelings if they don't like it that's up to them to deal with xx

Definitely agree @Babyghirl and @justwant2beamum I 100% get where you're coming from and right now I don't have the mental capacity to be able to explain that to her I'm dreading her giving birth in June and then having to see the baby if I'm not even pregnant :(

Morning ladies, been absent due to work so just been catching up 🤗

@Babyghirl not long until your appointment, hope the time flies by for you!

@Sweetbabydust1989 I’m soo soo sorry hun, but I’m also glad that they will now investigate why this is happening, and 🤞🏻 It’s something easily rectifiable and we all get our 2022 babies ☺️

@kiwi17 oh sweet, I can so relate! I was pregnant with my Sister in law, she’s due July and I was due august and we was so excited to be doing it all together.. obviously I’m not due in august, not sure try due anytime. And you just think to yourself that you will at least be pregnant before she (my SIS, your friend) has her baby right.. and that clock just keeps ticking away with no BPF, so bloody frustrating! On top of that she would ask me to have her kids while she went to scandal and appointments, just because she has no idea how it feels. Next month is going to be incredibly hard for you which your friends delivery, keep your chin up, we are here for you xx

@Iworry2021 how you getting on with the fertility? Lol

I’m now CD14, LH is rising but not peak yet (my cycles are irregular), have used the fertility-lily twice, lined it with preseed, kept my socks on, taking all the supplements I’ve ever read about 🤣🤣 it’s my birthday week so giving a special push 🤣🤣 anyone have any other tips? Lol

Thanks @SLCxxx it's refreshing to be here where everyone understands that feeling. She's also said things in the past like 'oh it happened first month the dh was disappointed he didn't get to dtd more' and I'm like yeah well we would love to not have the pressure of having to do it all the time but we're not that lucky :( oh well.. Ooh 🤞 for you this cycle! What are the socks on for ?! 🤣 hadn't heard that one! I've eaten lots of fresh pineapple up to 5dpo which is probably not going to make any difference but I like pineapple so it wasn't a big problem for me😂 I'm 9/10dpo today so af is on the horizon on Monday- trying hard not to think about another failed cycle but not had any spotting yet which I did have last month before af and not had my hormone headache I normally get pre af so trying to be positive ! On a side note, is anyone else taking the B6 and noticed a decrease in the hormone headaches? I normally get them throughout ovulation but not had them this month because I think it's regulating my hormones which was a pleasant surprise!

I have been intentionally MIA and took a two week break from social media and using my phone. I have been feeling frustrated with myself, I was a week late on AF and truly thought I conceived but on the day I decided to test I started AF and it lasted 7 days, heavy AF☹️ it's just put a whole downer on my mood so I decided to start going to the gym regularly again and spending less time on my phone, just needed a breather...

@Sweetbabydust1989 I am so so sorry to hear about everything you had to go through. I hope that the hospital can work out a plan to help you on your journey, good luck with everything!!!

@Miscarriage39 Feeling you on so many levels girl. Every cycle that passes i constantly question myself about will being a mum ever happen for me, just gets me so upset. Baby dust to you girly, hope your rainbow comes soon ❤️

I’m sorry your body is playing those cruel tricks on you danisaui31. It really messes with your head, doesn’t it. Well done for being proactive and taking some control back. Hopefully it will do you the world of good, physically and mentally, and you’ll get those two magic lines this month.

On the positive-ish side, my period has now started properly. Last month, I felt really happy and like this was the start of us being ready to TTC again. This month I just don’t know if that will happen, or if I’ll just spot for the whole cycle, or to be honest, if I actually feel strong enough at the moment. Sorry to be a downer on here. I did ask about counselling, just to try to get a boost, but the waiting list is so long, there’s no point. DH has said we can pay privately, but the two quotes I got were for £60-70/ session, abs although we could afford it, we’d really feel it.

Omg??? Is that a line

OMG @Annny27 🤗🤗 your going to have to do another tomo morning now lol, defo looks positives and I find the red ones far more reliable 💕

@Annny27 thats definitely a line!!! Argh how exciting!

@Miscarriage39 I'm sorry you're feeling so down and hopeless :( hopefully this af will be the fresh start needed and you won't have any more continuous spotting 🤞 does your area have any kind of charity counselling service? I'm in the Wirral and they have a charity which offers free counselling for people going through mc etc. I haven't accessed it but it does look good. My dh has also been on a couple of the Simba zoom support sessions for dad's which he has found really helpful.

Ladies we have been trying for 2 years!!!! And this is the 18th month or so since our miscarriage 😭😭😭😭 @kiwi17 @SlCxxx

I really hope this this sticks! Yep I am 11dpo (according to my app) so will do another test in the morning

@miscarriage39 I would suggest counselling tbh! Because it's kinda like a grief really isnt it

So pleased for you @Annny27!! And everything crossed it's a sticky one 🤞🤞

That’s a definite line. I have everything crossed for you Annny27.

I don’t think there is anything locally Kiwi17, but thanks for the suggestion. If it still feels like a good idea in a week or two, I guess we’ll just have to suck up the cost.

I did a frer aswell with very weak urine like an hour after my cheapo! But its positive two. Very nervous obviously but so hopeful!

P.s no symptoms really apart from slightly tired and had cramps (implantation?) Few days ago!

@Annny27 omg! So happy for you so deserved! 🤞🏻🤞🏻 for you! I think those easy at home hcg strips are good they're what I used first when I got bfp. I think you'll get a really good line with fmu! ♥️

@Annny27 I am so genuinely happy for you 💕 such bloody amazing news!!

@kiwi17 argh so close! Are you going to wait until after Monday to test?

@Miscarriage39 it can be pretty lonely sometimes, and I’m sorry you are so down, I’m having a pretty crappy day too so always turn to this site to remind myself I am not alone 💕 I really hope things work out for you soon xx

@danisaui31 sounds like a good idea to get active and have other things occupy the mind space apart from ‘CONCEIVE’ lol, I may just have to steal your idea if I’m not lucky this month ☺️ The TTC journey is so exhaustive and time consuming, good on you for taking a step back when you need too

@justwant2beamum I think we are on another group together 💕