The SI Undergraduates: Syringes, Yoghurt Pots and Legs in the Air part 4

[MrsKin90]

I hope this name is okay. It's late and nobody is volunteering so it'll have to do 😂

Starting yet another thread on self insemination before our other one kicks us out!

Welcome to THE most supportive group you could wish for if you’re starting or you are already on a self insemination journey.
Remember, nothing is TMI and you are not alone. 💖

Err tagging at random but likely to forget someone...

@Makingnumber2
@Janefx40
@primrosechill
@Sydney1986x
@Birchybirch
@Lori23TTC
@Oilyoilyoilgob
@Carol1980

I know I've definitely missed people 😬 sorry!

I'm not tagging our bfp ladies right now (would you want to be tagged?! I've no idea) but hope they keep an eye on us and chip in often with wisdom and support ❤️

@ejefferinton thank you for the warm welcome and lovely positive vibes! Have you tested or are you waiting it out?

Hi @Pinksworthy90 I’m really new to SI and only tried it once for the first time this cycle, but from everything I’ve read it seems like it has a slightly lower (10-15%} success rate compared to sex, so if you are able to have conventional sex its better. But for those like my DH who can have performance issues, its a great option.

Sorry about your DH’s results, that must’ve been a real shock. I guess you could space out dtd a bit to let them build up - I definitely wouldn’t go every day? And have you looked at the ferti lily? It’s brilliant for keeping them in there and pushing everything right up against your cervix. I used that for the first time this month every time we dtd and it definitely held everything up there!

Can't quite believe I'm saying this... but we just got a BFP! My period is only 1 day late and I've felt it brewing for a few days and still feel convinced it's on its way. To stop my mind from going insane I decided to test tonight just so I could move on... and it was positive! Completely and utterly shocked. Will test again in the morning to check we weren't imagining things...

Hi @Pinksworthy90 welcome. I'm sorry for your loss 💐💐💐

Has your DH had Covid? We saw a urologist after my DP had a disastrous result and he said he had seen lots of men with really bad results post Covid that then recovered completely within a few months. I'm not saying that's the answer but it could be. If so, it is temporary. Fingers crossed for his follow up tests

Xxx

@ejefferinton congratulations! Wonderful news! ♥️

@Amy259 Thank you for your response. That gives me some comfort that we can keep doing it the conventional way and not worry about SI. We will try to DTD every other day this month as we have been doing it everyday over the fertile window, lets see if that makes a difference. I have been looking at ferti-lily and I might order it to try this month. Gonna give anything a try now. I hope the SI works for you as there are a lot of success stories out there :)

@Janefx40 Thank you for your advice. No, DP has never had Covid. He is been doing well, and no illnesses as such, touchwood. The day we dropped his sample last time, it was too hot and we almost took 45 mins to reach to the hospital due to traffic. Those factors might have affected the sample and hoping there will be some good progress for the next SA. His motility is good, just that if he can increase the count and morphology with the changes he is adapting now, we might be in for a chance. Else, our last option would be to explore IVF/ICSI treatments next year.

@ejefferinton How wonderful ! Congratulations :)

Hi ladies. I’m sorry for any tags that I hadn’t responded to, I really just needed some space away from being on the ttc train as I’ve really tried hard to better my mental health. As I said in one of my last posts I’ve been very much trying to enjoy the present over focussing on the ifs, buts and maybes of ttc. A friend had a baby recently and another one due soon and I’m just gutted really.

My darling cat had to have another cancer operation, all went well with the little lump removed. She has an extremely rare form of cancer in cats but in herself she is awesome-a sprightly, energetic 13 year old 😻 Hopefully her kitty sister is looking down on her giving her a big paws up!

I’ve had an issue with my eyes that could’ve signalled a brain growth, so had a couple of quite stressful weeks with that ticking away and the cats operation. Got a thorough hospital mot and thankfully it’s not signifying a tumour/growth. Phew.

Still waiting on the outpatient appointment for the camera through my cervix to see if I actually do have a fibroid, ready for ivf.
Opk testing showed no ovulation so I may have missed it (strange as I normally see progression to the darkest line) but I had a large amount of ewcm on 30th June. We had sex three times that week (we were away a couple of days which helped) and no SI for the first time in a very long time. So let’s see. I hadn’t the very faintest trace of pink when I wiped on Tuesday but I’m putting that down to having sex-my poor fanjita hasn’t been used to it 😂🤭 I’m on cd29 today, my ovulation and periods seem to have increased in time since my first COVID jab 🤔

@MrsKin90 I hope you are very well, and still enjoying focusing on your weight/fitness journey 😊

@Carol1980 thank you yes feeling better after my second jab, although so fatigued. My friends and husband reported the same after their second one too. I hope you are doing well and enjoying using your new fertility monitor and I’m wishing you every success that it helps get you that bfp 😊

@Janefx40 hope you are doing well and that your egg collection is/will be successful for you. Keeping everything crossed 😊

@Lori23TTC thinking of you, hope you are ok during the ttc journey 😊

To everyone else I haven’t tagged, always thinking of you all and hoping for good news. I hope everyone is mentally ok on what is a really difficult journey 💚

Please also don’t feel you have to respond to tags, I know the highs and lows of this can really impact on mental health xx

@Oilyoilyoilgob Hey! Thanks for asking about me - similar to you I’ve been taking a break from the thread as ttc is just to much and I needed a break for my mental health too.

Wow you have had ALOT going on!! I also have 2 friends due soon and both of them fell on the first and second cycle - when I’m on cycle 23 it’s a kick in the teeth that’s for sure! And now they are due soon it’s so hard as I’m still not pregnant but we have to try and carry on.
I’m glad you are taking care of your mental health and focusing on the ‘now’ it’s the best way to be but it is very hard to not allow your mind to wonder when ttc.
Oh your poor cat ❤️ I’m glad she’s on the mend bless her - it’s so hard when our beloved pets are poorly they are like our children especially as we don’t have any yet. Sending lots of love.
So so glad your eyes problem isn’t anything serious, that must have been an incredibly stressful time along with worrying about your cat… I hope things have started to become a bit easier for you now?
That’s amazing you were able to dtd naturally ❤️ I’m still waiting for that day to come with my hubby 🙄 we are just using sift discs now as the syringe and pot really is doing my head in quite frankly after nearly 2 years, the soft disc is so easy and less mess so we are just doing that now!
I’ve had my first Covid jab but not my second yet - period was heavier after it but my last period seems to have gone back to normal so not sure if it’s a coincidence or not?! When do you think you will be starting ivf? We are on the waiting list but been told it will either be august or September - I’m terrified tbh but also glad that we can finally get some help, all my tests have shown nothing wrong and hubby’s sperm analysis came back fine so I think it’s just because we can’t have sex that I haven’t got pregnant but who knows really.

Hopefully everyone in this thread will have babies in our belly’s by the end of this year! ❤️

Sorry I’ve not replied to anyone else but I am thinking of you all 🥰

@ejefferinton congratulations lovely 🥰 xxx

Thanks all for the congratulations and good wishes. We’re still in a state of shock and very much conscious that all of you are desperately hoping for the news we have - so best wishes to all of you! Reading all the previous posts gave us loads of tips and reassurance that this can work for some people - and without that, we probably wouldn’t have even tried. So thank you all xxx

@Lori23TTC aww glad to hear from you and so pleased that a break is hopefully helping a bit!

Yep had a stressful 2/3 weeks hence my absence but really happy I don’t have a brain growth. If it’s not one thing it’s another, someone up there likes to keep me on my toes 😏

We did with the aid of viagra, one good sesh, one ok and one not great but like our therapist said-not all sex sessions are 10/10!

We’re like you, all results fine so I think the lack of natural sex has held us back. I got oh once using this method but it’s just not working for us.
Then I started to spiral at friends babies thinking if I’d kept that pregnancy I’d have a baby etc etc so just focussing on not skipping into that.

Like you again, hoping for sept ivf if all goes well. If I have a fibroid they will have to shave it down 😨 so wait until that’s healed. We can be bricking it together buddies 😂

So glad the softdiscs are making it easier for you both, and hopefully not long until further help and your very own special baby.

Big hugs 💚

Hello all Long time no speak… I don’t really know where to start or what to say, or even why I’ve chosen to post now really. I’ve been doing my best push the whole trying to conceive journey to the back of my mind but today it’s come to the forefront again & probably because I’ve been at a gender reveal party this afternoon for my best friend.

As always I’m over the moon for my friends, but it’s also terrible and painful reminder of how difficult our journey is, abs how we so much long to be standing in their spot and to be sharing news with friends and family.

I think the last time I posted I was due to get married, well there was a bit of a delay with that and we did finally get married in June and it was the most incredible day. Despite the Covid restrictions everything was perfect and we had an absolute blast with our guests too.

So it’s back to the trying to conceive wagon and also trying to take weight loss seriously to give us a chance to go down the IVF route… for some reason it just hasn’t clicked with the whole weight loss thing. I think in the back of my mind I’m kind of hoping it will happen “naturally”.

I’m currently on cycle day nine today and back to tracking with stay clear blue fertility monitor. Unfortunately last month with all the wedding stuff going on I forgotten to reset it when my period came so I’m back to the start was the monitor but thankfully only need to pee wants a day with it LOL. I’ve also bought a soft cup and chucked the ferti-lily.

Anyway I hope everyone is okay and I was sorry to read how difficult things are for some of the other fellow posters And congratulations to those that had fallen pregnant in the Thomas been away.

@Sydney1986x I’m so sorry, today sounds very painful for you. I really do hope you’ll be ok and take the next few days to allow yourself to kick your wounds 💚

I am delighted though to hear your wedding went ahead, absolutely fantastic news! It sounds wonderful that you could celebrate with your loved ones and I’m wishing you lots and lots of lovely years as a married couple 🥰💖

Good luck with your fertility tracker, i hope you won’t need the ivf route and get your bfp but if you do start ivf you’ll have all the info ready about your cycles xx

Just caught up with the thread and congratulations to those who have recently got their positive, wishing you a safe and healthy pregnancy xx

@ejefferinton congratulations!! I'm afraid I posted at the same time as yours so I didn't see your announcement. This is great news

@Oilyoilyoilgob wow you have been through the mill recently. Wishing your cat better and glad your eyes are ok.

@congrats on the wedding. So glad it went well!! Sounds like the perfect antidote to TTC and a year of lockdown!!

Love to everyone. I'm not very present at the moment but thinking of you all!

Hi all, sorry I've been MIA for a while.

Life has been taking over with work and childcare etc plus trying to get as many days out with my daughter and hubby as I can while we have some lovely weather.

I'm currently 11/12 dpo. Used my fertility monitor for the first time this month and it seems ok, I like the fact that you have to test at the same time each morning. Took and IC this morning and think I saw a shadow ? But I'm not sure going to get too excited. This month I was kids writing off as the day we hit our fertile window my daughter got a temp and a cough, so isolation immediately and test done. All in it took a couple of days to come back which was negative but because my hubby was away at work ( due home at the start of the fertile window) he had to stay out at work just in case so he didn't have to isolate. Anyway the test came back negative on our ovulation day so we managed a regular session and thankfully he was able to ejaculate inside me 🤷‍♀️( we have good days and bad days) so we didn't SI this time round. It's obviously taken the pressure way off him as he as able to 'perform' the following night too !
So we only managed ovulation day and the day after.

My boobs are tender at the sides but that's a usual AF sign for me. My backs all been a bit sore but nothing thing major.
Other than that I have no other symptoms that I can think of.

I hope everyone is well x sorry I've not tagged anyone but I've read up the recent messages x

Hi everyone, just an update. I’m on my period, which was gutting as we thought the x3 natural sex sessions might have given us a bfp. Sigh.

Just had a call from the hospital and I have a hysteroscopy booked for 10th august. Gulp. I’m crapping myself. She said if they feel they can treat the fibroid (if there is one) then they’ll do it there and then. Double gulp.
I was hoping I’d have shed enough timber that I’d at least have a Victoria secret style body in an undignified position but no such luck 😩

If this is resolved next month I think we’ll be on for the start of ivf in September.

Hoping everyone is ok, no matter where you are in your cycles 💚 big hugs xx

@Oilyoilyoilgob feels like we're the only two left on this board 🤣

Sorry to hear that AF got you x I always hope that natural will do the trick despite trying SI for months now. Hopefully your hospital appointment goes well and you manage to catch before IVF if not, having that as a fall back is great x

Update my end is, I'm at the moment pregnant, 5 weeks today. Got my 2-3 weeks on clear blue yesterday....I was wary of posting my positive tests as I'm worried that when I actually post it somewhere or admit it that it will end in MC but I'm trying to stay positive.
Only symptom I have is boobs are sore at the sides, feeling a bit tired and had a little wave of nausea this morning but that's about it.

Like I said I'm not jumping for joy yet, I'm beyond happy, and I'm now further along than my last time ( august last year I got to 1-2 weeks on clear blue and no further. Shame they don't do half's on the tests so will have to wait until next week to confirm that it changes to 3+ then I will relax a bit more.
Planning on getting an early reassurance scan booked fir just after 6 weeks to make sure that all is ok x

I just hope this sticks ! After 21 months of trying I hope it's finally time for baby 2 to come along x

@Carol1980 oh this is great news. I totally understand the need to feel cautious but it is a great first step. Will have everything crossed for you.

@Oilyoilyoilgob best of luck for the hysteroscopy. Ask if you can have sedation because then you can just relax and find out afterwards what happened!! Hope it all goes well and you can avoid IVF although it's not too bad

I'm not around that much but do still keep an eye on the board. I'm due for egg collection Monday. We are doing embryo banking so no transfers as yet.

Sending you and everyone lots of love x

@Janefx40 thanks lovely x
Hubby is out just now buying some more clearblue as this mornings test said 1-2 weeks but I ended up going to the toilet at 6am and then testing about 9am 🤦🏼‍♀️ have a feeling that because I'm only 5w1day that it was just too diluted to show up 2-3 weeks, so we've been out and about today and I'm doing a hold until I can't anymore ! I just hope that it sticks !! On checking the clearblue weeks online it says that you should get 2-3 weeks when your hcg is above 200 so if this comes back as 1-2 weeks then my hcg is falling but fingers crossed that's not the case !

@Carol1980 ah it's all so stressful isn't it?! We focus so much on the dream of getting a BFP but what comes next is often so much more stressful than we could imagine! Hopefully that test was either a false reading or low due to not being FMU. Have everything crossed for you xx

@Janefx40 thankfully it's came up as 2-3 weeks this afternoon x
I honestly don't trust my FMU 🤣

@Carol1980 wow that’s really great news. Congratulations and hoping the next few weeks go well-fingers crossed for you!

@Janefx40 thank you, I need to ring the department and ask if that’s an option. I googled the procedure and of course read horror stories. I’m really nervous and I’m going to ring to see what the sedation options are.
Wish there was another way of diagnosing what kay be a suspected fibroid.

Wishing you lots of luck for a safe egg collection, I hope there are lots for you to bank and that it all goes well for you xx

I’ll be really honest and say I’m utterly fed up, fed up of being on the ttc wagon, not getting pregnant and the thought of having to do ivf is currently leaving me feeling very down. So apologies in advance if I have an absence on here, I’m finding it now very tough that I haven’t got pregnant naturally.

Hope everyone is doing well and having a good weekend xx

Congratulations @Carol1980 I am wishing you a continued happy and healthy pregnancy 💕

@Oilyoilyoilgob wishing you luck for your hysteroscopy and will be thinking of you. Such invasive investigations we need to go through for our miracles. It will be worth it I promise you!

I am about 7 day post ov. I am moody, tearful, have back ache, sharp pains, spots.. all the signs that AF could be coming. Today I received a follow up letter in the post from gynae dept enquiring if I’ve got my BMI under 30. Nope, feel like a total failure and had a cry 🥺. I have a stone to go and just need to get my butt in gear now. In the meantime I am hoping we conceive.

I really do struggle in this 2WW I’m up all hours reading about symptoms and the what ifs.

Sorry I’m not very present on here any more, I will try to be but it all feels so heavy at the moment 💔

@Sydney1986x that’s very kind, thank you. We’ve chatted today with our therapist and I’m going to see if I can push it back to after my next period.
The hysteroscopy is booked a couple of days after my expected ovulation and we can’t have unprotected sex.
Makes sense to have another shot at ttc and then have a hysterectomy after my next period. I’ll ring the dept on Monday. I’m hoping if there’s pain I can cope with it, no idea if my cervix will play ball.

We’ve not been walking as much, I’ve not been on my diet-I’m just thoroughly fucked off with everything and tired of this rollercoaster. Sorry to sound doom and gloom but I’m just really, really fed up of this journey.

I’m so sorry you’ve had a cry, you will do it but it needs to be in your own time and of course our head need to be in the right space for weight loss. You’ll do it though 😊
Until then, you’ll be able to keep trying and I will keep everything crossed that you’ll get your bfp.

Sorry everything is keeping you ticking re ttc, try to look after yourself. Big hugs 💚 xx

@Carol1980 oh phew!!! What a relief. That is great news so hopefully you can relax a little now!!! Who am I kidding, relaxing and being pregnant after infertility or loss is impossible but sending you calming vibes.

@Oilyoilyoilgob that sounds like a great plan. I have had 2 hysteroscopies but both under heavy sedation which basically means knocked out. So I've not felt a thing

@Sydney1986x sorry about having a cry. This stuff is so tough. Have you heard of Ruth Corden? I was listening to her on a podcast (called the worst girl gang ever) and she talks a lot about struggling to get pregnant in a larger body. It might be comforting to look her up and realise you're not a failure - this stuff is tough !!

I triggered tonight so egg collection is Monday x
Lots of love to you all

@Janefx40 most definitely!! It's hard to relax after losses and so long !
I don't think my hubby understands how much I am analysing every twinge etc that my body is doing or not doing. I know that in myself I won't properly relax until we've done a scan and we're past the 12 week mark !
Im off on leave just now which won't help as I won't have work to focus on and take my mind off of it but at the same time im just hoping that I manage to relax !

I don't know if this will help anyone who is looking to see what I've been doing different? I started taking royal jelly last month and also PABA 300mg ( 2 at meal time), DHEA 25mg ( 3 per day) as well as uni quinoa (300mg once per day) and Vitex fruit ( 3 per day) I've only just started taking the DHEA and PABA last month just before my last cycle. My friend who was looking at IVf said the fertility clinic suggested them as very good for egg quality. I'd love to say that they have made the difference and they maybe have especially if they have been recommended by fertility clinics.

@Oilyoilyoilgob I've struggled with my weight for years. I'm about a size 14/16 with big boobs which doesn't help ! I struggled to loose any weight after my daughter was born, I just went fuck it and couldn't be arsed anymore either ! I've recently joined a thing called the Conqueror challenge, my hubby has been doing it for a few months now and I re-charged my fit bit to give it a go. I'm doing the Gold Coast challenge x maybe give that a look x but don't be so tough on yourself , please give yourself a break x you will get there, that brick wall will soon come down and it's totally fine that you have a cry, I've had many many cries over the past 22 months.
Don't be afraid to tell me to fuck off either ❤️

@Sydney1986x the tww is bloody frustrating !! I know all too well how much. I'd like to say it gets better but nope I'm still worrying and googling and testing and freaking out pretty much every day !!

Sorry that should read ubiquinol 300mg not uni quinoa ( ???)