Pitos pequeños en sandwiches & STILL hunting for the damn eggs - TTC Bus 37

[Minster2012]

Bing Bing the BFP bus is back!

Last bus we got some great results and now it’s a REAL Easter 🐣hunt so let’s make like 🐰s and jump on the 🍆

Oh but we’ve packed up the 🥪🌭🌮Cos we can do that soon! A picnic, and in our sandwiches we’ve got some weird things...little 🍆conchions, pickles, crisps, KETCHUP?? Say what?? Whatever you want in your bread bring it to the bus!

March and April we’ve got a lot of exciting times ahead with people going for Clomid & IVF as well as a lot of straight up sex for the “normal” TTC gang so let’s get shagging & FIND THOSE 🐣🌈.

Hop on the bus, give us your best embarrassing story and grab a ticket, we are TTC in very weird ways and usually talking about most other things 🍞🥨🥞🍔

And we are still helping each other get fitter, more positive through sharing small changes we are making in our lives and trying to inspire & support each other with these too...as well as of course being there for each other during the sad times.

And if you see mention of my blog then blame these guys they made me do it...#shamelessplug

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Story so far...

June 24 BFPs
July 11 BFPs
August 18 BFPs
Sep 4 BFPs
Oct 7 BFPs
Nov 7 BFPs
Dec 14 BFPs
7 BFPs for jan
8 BFPs for February

4 for March
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Let’s go go go!

@haiyaa I'm so sorry to hear the news. Sending big hugs your way

Thanks everyone, I’m just going to continue lurking and will be trying again as soon as possible but I don’t really feel like talking about it as it just makes me feel worse, I know many of you understand where I am coming from.

Parents are not local so not a huge amount of support to be had, I felt even worse earlier because I was crying and DD saw and got really upset, poor little thing doesn’t understand but it’s hard not to look at her and think about what we have lost. She did give me some lovely cuddles though. I will just have to take one day at a time and pray for a rainbow soon.

@Haiyaa so sorry 🥺💐 hope the bleeding has eased off for you x

Bless your DD @Haiyaa and we are here for whenever/whatever you want, there will be a 🌈soon but like @Crazydoglady123 says there can still be hope, I really hope the bleeding has stopped.

Oh @haiyaa I shed a tear for you this morning, that is so bloody unfair. Always here if you need a dm or anything. Sending so much love and hugs xxx

@Haiyaa I'm so sorry lovely, nothing can possibly make you feel better right now but be kind to yourself and take care. Use the support (distanced) of parents when you're ready too and I hope your cycles settle fairly quickly 💕

@Haiyaa totally heartbroken for you. I know nothing anyone does or says will help at the moment but just know we're all here when you need us.

I need to go back catch up with the rest of the thread, I've been laying low the past few days as had a major fall out with DH. I found out he'd ran up a shitload of debt that he hadn't told me about as in ran it up stuck his head in the sand and just ignored it so while the initial debt wasn't too bad all the charges that have been added on have made it a large sum of money 😭 Now that I've calmed a bit I can see it was just sheer stupidity not done out of badness, it was when I was on mat leave and rather than just say money is tight and we need to watch what we're doing he didn't want to worry me so carried on as normal thinking he could pay it back. But rather than then tell me once I went back to work so we could chip away at it he just stopped opening the debt letters and completely ignored it all this time! 🤬🤦‍♀️ At least it's all out in the open now and we have things in place to start paying it off but that's his credit rating now fucked and our money now very tight so our plans of moving to a bigger house to adopt isn't happening any time soon, there's zero chance of money left for IVF and even if I do get pregnant naturally now I don't think we could afford for me to have my years mat leave so we're going to have to put ttc on hold. I'm just so angry that his one stupid decision has effected our whole plan of another child and screwed it over no matter what road we wanted to take now. 😭 But on a good note I haven't put on any weight this week despite taxing some of DS easter eggs so small silver linings 😂

I'm so sorry @haiyaa, totally heartbreaking. I hope you are getting some sleep and taking care of yourself.

@dkdk123, that is awful. I'd be furious too. I really wonder about men sometimes-sticking their head in the sand sounds familiar. I hope ye will work through it and the debt will be cleared soon. It's beyond crap that ye have to put ttc on hold for now but hopefully ye will be back to it before long.

@Haiyaa so sorry to read this darling. I hope you're ok ♥️

@DKDK123 I would be furious too, more at the ostrich routine than the actual debt I think. At least you know now before things got any worse.

@Haiyaa I understand not wanting to talk about it. Hoping the worst of the physical side is over and you can just start to rebuild emotionally x

@Minster2012 yeah definitely do, it'll be good!! Also that thread boiled my blood!!! Some people!!

@Haiyaa oh I'm so so sorry!! I can't even imagine how you must be feeling, sending huge hugs, we're here for you❤️

@DKDK123 I would be raging too, the fact it's affected all your plans and so much would have me riled! At leas tou have something in place to pay it all off, first step I guess!x

So thought I'd just post 2 of my food pics because everyone else is doing it😂 first pic is my dinner, Cajun chicken, green veg, roasted sweet potato, then our tea last night pinch of nom lemon chicken spinach tagliatelle!

@DKDK123 I would be furious too. And I certainly wouldn't have calmed down yet. Not about the original issue but him hiding it (can't stand dishonesty) and it now being at a scale its going to stop you doing things because it wasn't dealt with, I'd be raging. Men!

@DKDK123 that's terrible! I'd be insisting on full transparency/access to his accounts from now on until you can trust him with it. Ironically it costs money but I'd probably need couples counselling too lol - partly as he's breached your trust massively and I'd be really resentful of how he's ruined your medium term life plans that could have a long term impact!

@Haiyaa I'm so sorry love for what you're going through - how shit is that timing too :( will you be able to take a couple of days off work to process it all and wallow a bit? xxx

Yip it's not the debt that angered me it was the ostrich routine like what did he expect to happen that it would just magically disappear 🤦‍♀️ I don't think I'd have calmed down as quickly had it not been for the state of him after he told me. I genuinely have never seen him so broken before and I was still extremely mad then he asked if he go take the car and go for a drive for an hour to clear his head and I actually panicked at the thought of the state he was in and what he might do so I told him he wasn't allowed to go anywhere at that moment in time. I think it was that realisation of what if it got too much and he killed himself that jolted me out of the anger a bit. Don't get me wrong I'm still mad and hes still trying to make it up to me every day but it's something we'll get through life's too short especially after the year we've all just had!

Was scrolling through and loving all the food pics they're now making me so hungry and it's not even lunchtime. I've got a hello fresh order coming next Friday thansk to @Dollybird89 so I'm excited to try that, will post some pics.

@Juno231 it was one of the 1st things agreed that I have 100% control of all finances from now on and I am opening every letter that comes through the door until I trust him in those respects again which he knows is many years down the line.

Oh @DKDK123 goodness. What a thing to find out but so glad you stopped him going off in the car and yes that would prob jolt me from anger too. If you have a plan a place to sort it that's the best thing & im hoping you can & that you do get the full control of the finances, debt & head in the sand is scary stuff, so sorry it's affected everything. Big hugs and looking forwards to the food porn!

Loving the food porn from @Vil10, that first one looks immense!

@InkyPaper how are you? Quiet lately...you ok, after SIL n all.

@lucyrp how's Luna?? Hope you've not been clearing the litter tray as @Franklydear said I'm sure you aren't allowed (you DEF aren't allowed near sheep poo don't forget) but sure we can extend it to ANY animal 💩

We have enchiladas tonight & have agreed on a post Covid second jab Chinese takeaway for sat night....already looking forwards to that 🤫😂

Morning @Minster2012 working in the new thread?
@DKDK123 most important thing is to work as a team, life will sort itself out
@lucyrp no cleaning the cat, the midwife told us but also the vet, we ask about preparing for cat and baby, litter cleaning duties never returned to me, let’s see with the next cat, ds is asking again...

@Minster2012 I think she's okay now although I think it may have been influenced by the fact I had a plant on the window which she kept drinking water from and also I had daffodils in the same window which are no good for cats but she's never gone and sat in that window before but god knows 🤷🏼‍♀️ yeah definitely no cat litter emptying for me! Its to do with toxoplasmosis I think?! Ooo takeaway Saturday! Me and my friend are doing the same with our other friend as it's her birthday today 🥳

New thread ready to go @Franklydear 🥳that's a good way to get out of cleaning the cat litter then @lucyrp and no to the daffs, if only we could get the getting pregnant bit first! Next cat you say @Franklydear! Sounds good

@lucyrp yeah toxoplasmosis! One of my colleagues got it from her litterbox and it didn't end well so I'm terrified of it now.

@Minster2012 it was so nice, seems boring and basic but sometimes I feel if I want to lose the weight I need to go back to basics! Jealous of your enchiladas and Chinese!! I'm on a strict diet now with only 10 Weeks until holiday!

What's wrong with sheep poo? 🤔🤣

@paintfairy any animal poo, it can carry parasites, they say specially cats litter as it would be very easy to pick up the parasite while cleaning

@Franklydear how bizarre! Well I have to pick up animal poo every day. And I cannot change that. I don't have cats though.

@paintfairy maybe a word with the vet on how to best protect yourself