Recent MC - New cycles & trying again Thread 2

[AMS19]

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www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/4184729-Recent-MC-New-cycles-trying-again?pg=1

A thread for all the amazing strong ladies who have recently experienced a mc/mmc but are braving it to try again! Fingers crossed for a lucky one for us 🍀

@glowingtwig don't worry we won't forget about you. Maybe us original crew should think about a WhatsApp group at some point. Obviously not a TTC/pregnancy heavy one because we are all at different stages, but one where you can mute but dip in and out when you want to. I wouldnt want to lose contact with any of you ladies who have been there from the start, we are like a little family xx

@SleepyKitKat oh nice one, tww buddies, dont despair, only need one sperm, so fingers crossed for you x I think I’m around 4 dpo too! I don’t usually test before AF, but next Saturday is my DH birthday so I’m tossing up if I should in a weeks time. But then what if its not good news lol don't want to ruin his birthday.. but what if its good news, it’ll make his birthday! Ah decisions decisions..

@Pettylamby I'm sure your body is only getting rid of old blood. Hopefully your scan will put your mind at ease on Thursday and everything will be ok and you can start to enjoy your pregnancy 🤞🤞

@Glowingtwig I'm so sorry that your going through this again, my heart breaks for you. Life can be so cruel at times 💔💔

So ovulation has arrived early for me. My cycle just keeps getting shorter since MC.

@Pettylamby I feel the same as you but for the opposite reasons. I'm 5 weeks today and feel nothing at all. I have an early dating scan on Monday and am so worried there will be nothing there.

@Neady1980 what CD are you lovely?

Thanks @Neady1980 🥰 my ovulation was earlier a few months after my first mc but then went back to normal before we conceived DD ❤️ I still seem to get ewcm earlier than before though 🤷🏻‍♀️

@AMS19 a WhatsApp group is a great idea, yes!

@AMS19 I'm CD 11 always ovulate on CD 15 or 16.

@Glowingtwig I started to get ewcm 2 days ago. Same thing happened last month aswell

@Neady1980 that's it... ewcm cycle day 9 or 10 over here... too early you'd think?! Tho it doesn't seem to stop me getting preg. Tho we do use Conceive plus.

@Neady1980 that's still an absolutely fine ovulation day. 10 or less is maybe a bit early but 11 or over should be fine for egg development. I was cd11 2 cycles ago then cd13 last cycle, which was my normal. Currently cd8 so a waiting game for this cycle!

@glowingtwig it's crazy, like my periods are 8 days long, that hasn't changed and my OH has gone to visit his parents not die back till sunday morning. My cycle went from 29 days to 26 days so it will probably be shorter again this month.

@AMS19 that's a relief, I didnt know if it was a good or bad thing ovulating early. Just feel like I'm over a period and then bang its ovulation

Honestly @neady1980 I think we are actually quite lucky. I know so many ladies that dont ovulate until much later and I think that's more frustrating and strings out each cycle. I love my cd13 ovulation and you'll definitely be okay with cd11 😊

@AMS19 you are 100% right at least it's not dragged out. OH is gone to visit his parents so not back till Sunday morning, however I'll be more prepared next month now. We only DTD on Wednesday so im definitely not hopeful for this month but also loving the peace and quiet 🤣🤣

Oh bless you @glowingtwig I'm so sorry, I really am. It's bloody awful and so unfair. Give your DD an extra tight cuddle - I really hope you get some answers and a quick sticky bean. Sending you all the hugs xx

Ahh @AMS19 @Neady1980 you're both super lucky with ov!! I bet that's fab, you don't have that agonising wait 😬

I'm so sorry we've all been through it, but it's so comforting not to feel alone. I feel invisible with it sometimes, like no one else can feel the pain I'm feeling and how hurt I am

I think I have the longest cycles ever! 😂 circa 31/32 days. Feels like a lifetime when ttc I tell you!

Oh @Ralala I've ovulated on CD33 before 😂😂 my longest cycle was 54 days iirc!! Bloody nightmare 😂 I'll join you on the long cycles club!

@AMS19 so sorry for the late reply work was non stop yesterday and finally sat down at 8 by which time I just needed my bed!

Yes you’re right may isn’t too far away with April arriving on Thursday. I do feel much better both physically and mentally to try again now and on reflection I was probably too fragile only up until recently to try again.

Fantastic you’re still doing the running and walking. I don’t know about you but I feel so much better once I’ve been out in the fresh air to stretch my legs as it clears my head?

How’s the PT going, are you enjoying it? I keep trying to get my husband out for a run but he hates running so I’ve got to accept that’ll never happen.

I’ve just looked outside and the sun in shining. Instantly lifts me seeing the sunshine, I could so live abroad.

Thanks for checking in xxx

@glowingtwig I have just read your update. What a traumatic day for you on top of what you’ve already been going through.
I know that consultants don’t have a crystal ball but they could choose their words a little more sensitivity because you come out only remembering the negatives which is absolutely normal.
It’s hard to comprehend why after successfully carrying a baby and giving birth you then suffer from miscarriages. You’re absolutely not infertile that’s for sure it’s just the other side of things that I can dilly understand you want some answers and the not knowing just makes you more anxious.

Thinking of you and sending you a big hug xxx

@Seasalt1984 fabulous news absolutely thrilled for you xxxx

Morning @DMT1982 yes I think we all probably needed this time emotionally, as frustrating as it feels! The PT sessions are good, well, not enjoyable at the time at all 😂😂, but great to have that feeling after knowing I'm working on improving my fitness and hopefully getting in better shape for a pregnancy. I've reduced my rhr by about 6-8bpm through March which is great. They were 74-76bpm pre ovulation last and previous cycles and are now 68bpm. I've so far on cd9 had no spotting since period either. So it feels mt body might be starting to recover. Still not totally there but getting there.

And yes, totally agree with the weather. Its forecast to be 23degrees in London Tuesday, I absolutely cannot wait!! Xx

Sorry if I've posted this already, I've been trying on the all but it says success and doesn't show so not sure whether it has actually posted... So I'm super sorry if this is the third time of posting this.

Hi all, sorry for writing this on here, just freaking out and you are little a little family to me.

I found out last Friday at 9dpo we are expecting again, and I've been poas everyday since. I know, I've become a poas fanatic, but it's the only thing I feel I can do currently. I've been doing FRER every other day and then CB early detection in-between those. My worry is since 15dpo my FRER lines seem to be getting lighter. I did do a CB digital weeks yesterday which came back at 2-3 weeks which matches up, and did a cheapy yesterday which came back much darker than the one I did of that a few days before, both of these were in the afternoon, but I've been doing everything else with fmu. But because of the FRERs looking lighter I am convinced I am losing this baby. Last time I had a spontaneous mc at 7+3, I didn't have a scan before this, so I don't know what point the baby didn't make it.

I know realistically I need to step away from poas and just for a second CB digital weeks next week to check it's gone up to 3+ weeks, but I can't help but be super worried right now. I've read lots on online about its being normal that tests might not darken after a point as the tests aren't measuring the amount of HCG but just whether it is present, but can't help worrying when it seems to be more normal to have a nice progression of lines 😞

Hi @PlantMummy87 I'm not sure if I am missing something but your bottom FRER is a lot darker. Is there another one not on the pic that is lighter? From the photos are shared the progression looks great and I can see progression on each, so not sure if I miss understood? Sorry if I did! Xx

@PlantMummy87 the last one is definitely darker on the FRER that's marked the 27th.
I think we will all be POAS fanatics at the start especially as we have all been through MC. Hope this little rainbow baba sticks for you ❤

@PlantMummy87 I agree with the ladies they look like really good progression lines, especially on the CB.

It's completely understandable to have this constant worry, I think your right step away from the sticks until next week and test with your digital. I hope this little rainbow sticks for you xx

@PlantMummy87 the bottom one looks like a bit of a dye stealer so they look fine to me 💕

Please try to stop testing now though because you will drive yourself mad. It's so hard I know.

Really hoping that this is a good, strong pregnancy for you- it is so much more likely to be ok than not xx