TTC March / April

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Just continuing our thread so we don't get knocked off the old one!

@CycloGoose
@kaylsd
@KatieLooLa
@lucea87
@minthumbugs
@Sallyjo27

[quote minthumbugs]@kaylsd what kind of twin is your hubby? Is there any possibility of you having twins? So hopefully now you are in a TWW! Excited to see what happens. X

@lucea87 ooooh I was going to ask what kind of twins they are. You will be reading up all about them now! X

@Seraphim87 maybe you got a higher peak and ovulated later than you thought. That's frustrating being in limbo! Would your doctor bring you in for any testing if you gave them a phone?

@CycloGoose that's brilliant! It's so original. I would love to run away and get married and not tell anyone but DP is not interested, he sees marriage as a bit of paper we don't need 🤔😂 spoilsport! Love the dog names. Your body might just be adjusting, gearing up to catch the egg![/quote]
@minthumbugs I'm not too sure about his twin type in terms of the specifics I've just asked him and he just shrugged, all I know they are down as non identical twins although was both same gender, they do look so alike it's unreal his stubble is getting abit long and I've said to him he's gonna have to sort it out soon because it makes his features look even more similar to his brother it's a strange thing sometimes 😂😩😩 in terms of twins for me darling non run in my family, and Adam (my hub) is the only set of twins on his side, the only likelyhood of me having twins would be linked towards clomid (apparently if I have to have clomid it increases chance of multiple pregnancies) or anything along those lines :') xx

So took a test this morning, wiped after myself and there was AF. Bit of a waste of a test but oh well! I’m surprisingly ok about AF, kinda just glad to have an answer I think, even if it wasn’t the best one x

Omg good on mr @kaylsd!! Hopefully that will make them back off now. That must be so strange that they look so alike!

Sorry @KatieLooLa :( nothing worse than a double whammy. It's good at least you know what's happening now and you have certainty you're moving on to the next cycle - fresh start! Hope you're ok. X x

@KatieLooLa

So took a test this morning, wiped after myself and there was AF. Bit of a waste of a test but oh well! I’m surprisingly ok about AF, kinda just glad to have an answer I think, even if it wasn’t the best one x

Sorry to hear, I got mine yesterday (tested the day before). This means ovulation next Sunday! 😀 I felt sad but feel okay now. Tempted to do okp (?) ovulation sticks as so far I've only used Flo period tracking app x

Sorry @KatieLooLa 🙁

@Veronika13 I just started using OPKs this time TTC. Used them before for contraception. People find them different but I actually like using them because it makes me feel like I have more control over my body and what's happening! Glad you're feeling better and ready to go for ovulation. X

@minthumbugs I’m ok, at least now I can go get my vaccination without worrying about anything. One step closer to being able to visit family again! So there is a positive to the negative x

@Veronika13 if you do try OPK’s I’d recommend Clearblue ones as they’re easier to read, I’d tried some cheap ones last cycle and felt confused with the results x

@justwant2beamum it’s fine really! Obviously part of me is a little upset but as I said with having vaccine coming up it was better that it didn’t happen this time around x

Other half and I have decided to get some fertility tests done once we’ve both had our vaccinations and see what’s going on. Nervous but it’ll be good to know why it’s taken so long to get pregnant x

@KatieLooLa that's a good way to look at it. How long have you been trying? Xx

@KatieLooLa sending hugs sweetheart, I know it gets harder each month that passes but each new cycle is a new chance to catch that egg! Me and hubs are in the starting of being investigated about our fertility me being the indicator maybe why it's not happened yet, if that's what your considering doing with your partner then you might find comfort if you find anything / or not find anything which either way can be reassuring for you both going forward with TTC 😘 either way we're here for you :) xx

@minthumbugs

Omg good on mr *@kaylsd*!! Hopefully that will make them back off now. That must be so strange that they look so alike!

Sorry @KatieLooLa :( nothing worse than a double whammy. It's good at least you know what's happening now and you have certainty you're moving on to the next cycle - fresh start! Hope you're ok. X x

@minthumbugs it is abit strange at times but you can tell them apart despite having similar features, they have total different personalities too.. my hub is the easy going funny person which is the blessing out of the two but I may be just bias ;) I was well proud when he stuck up for us yesterday.. I think it's been brewing for sometime though 🙈

My friend just gave birth yesterday to a beautiful little girl, absolutely beautiful 😍 talk about feeling broody today, my non compliant ovaries are aching at the thought 🥺😂😂😂

Thanks so much @kaylsd your kind message gave me a lift yesterday to read over again. I have been feeling very much out of sorts with the past month or two. The tiredness, increased appetite and headaches has steered me towards making an appointment tomorrow with my GP to arrange a full blood test. My period being 5 days late is now another cause of concern to me as I've always been so regular. You are right though in what you say about torturing ourselves, I need to be kinder to myself, I've been so hard on myself for years with regret and self anger. Thanks again I wish you the very best ❤️

@justwant2beamum We’ve been trying on and off for just over a year now. We were either DTD at the wrong time or skipping a cycle at the start. Probably put things on pause till we’ve both had the booster vaccine and go on from there x

@kaylsd I think you’re right that investigating our fertility will give a bit of comfort if we know why nothing is happening. It’s comforting to know that I’m not alone and there’s other couples struggling with TTC x

Yeah exactly @KatieLooLa! It definitely helps to be able to see the positives and that is a BIG one. TTC just now even without all the personal circumstances seems pretty uncertain and scary. I'm nowhere near being offered the vaccine yet so just trying to take each day as it comes! That will be great once you get the ball rolling with tests, it will be good to get some control. X

Awwww @kaylsd that's lovely. Lol at your ovaries, wee pests!! They need to get it together so that we're awwwing at your beautiful baba in 9 months time, come on!!! X

@Galt21 we are all here to pick each other up on the bad days and for some encouragement. It helps to be in it together with other people (who are not your OH lol) x

@minthumbugs I live on the Isle of Man, guess we’re slightly ahead with the vaccine as the population is so small compared to UK, am sure it won’t be too long till you get yours x

Just jumping on after seeing some posts about the vaccine. What's everyone's thoughts on having the vaccine whilst TTC?

@MammaJ21 i have no idea tbh. All I had really seen was it wasn't advisable for pregnant women and those trying to conceive within 3 months - saw all this when I was pregnant and thought ok that's fine by the time I'm offered it I should've had the baby anyway! I live in Scotland and they're saying every adult will have been offered it by July.

But now I'm not so sure and I need to read up on it more. Hoping that I'll have conceived before it's offered to me but if not and I don't take it there will be questions from family and friends! What are your thoughts on it?

Sorry I realise my q may have sounded a bit funny then! I'm just curious. I don't know what I think either. So after two MC TTC, think I may be entering fertile window now. I've just heard that in my area in Wales 30+ can ring up and book theirs in. So it's tempting but what if....
I'm a terrible over thinker and would hate to have it and if I had happened TC...very unlikely!! but you know what I mean, I'd be worrying myself. But equally probably haven't C and is it worth having it now before the next cycle?!

Oh really @MammaJ21. No I totally get what you mean! You overthink everything naturally I think and of course when you've had MCs you really don't want to take any chances. It's a tough one!

Hi @MammaJ21 - to be honest, I have received conflicting advice from different places about the vaccine - from the NHS, vaccine helpline and vaccine website, as well as GP.

The current advice is not to get the vaccine if you are pregnant. I was told first of all that I should get the vaccine when offered. Then that I would be OK to take the first dose, but if I fall pregnant before the second dose is due, not to get the second one. I was also told not to get it at all just now and to just wait until after I have had the baby (if I were to fall pregnant).

I then spoke to my midwife who said they were advising against getting the vaccine for anyone who was trying to conceive as it had not been fully tested on how it affects fertility. The midwife said if I wanted to choose to get the vaccine, I should then not be trying to conceive for at least 4 months afterwards. When I said I didn't have the luxury of that time due to my age, she basically said that although it was my decision to make, if it was her in my shoes, with my history of 3 miscarriages, she wouldn't want to do anything that may potentially risk my chance of having a baby.

I talked it through with my husband and eventually decided I am not to get the vaccine at the moment.

The advice / guidance may change (as I understand that breast feeding mothers have now been advised they are safe to get the vaccine, when they were previously advised against) as they continue to test effectiveness of the vaccine.

I will keep my eye on changes to guidance and that may affect my future decision. I am working from home just now and very careful (get groceries delivered and rarely go anywhere) so I am trying to minimise my risk of catching it.

@minthumbugs I know! But it's frustrating as it could take months TTC, so is it worth waiting just incase. AHH so hard! There's just so little evidence out there..I'm totally for vaccination etc but obviously just in this case wouldn't want to take any risks.

@soontobeamama Thanks for your response. When are you due?

AHH man, it's hard when even medical people have conflicting views. I totally get it though , it's the unknown.

I do want it, as it scares me, but as you say, you don't want to risk it. But it could mean potentially not getting it for a longgggg time if you don't conceive.

And as @minthumbugs said, people will start to ask questions too.

Why is this still going on after a year!?

@MammaJ21 yep! Sums it up perfectly. It's the uncertainty of not knowing and postponing it even longer - I don't even know what would happen if I say no thank you, I'll wait. What do I do when I want it?! Overthinking lol but so much uncertainty.

@soontobeamama that all makes sense, that's what I've been thinking. I really don't want any extra risk, it's a horrible position to be in though. I'm the same - even with everything beginning to relax soon I don't go anywhere but a walk. Both me and DP have been WFH for a year and deliveries as well! So pretty low risk anyway but don't fancy having the convo with relatives that I (probably) won't be taking it!

If I were pregnant then obviously it's a different ball.game as it's be a nono for me. But it's just the...how long do you not have it for?! and yes @minthumbugs can you just then ask for it in a years time or however long?! Then there's work too...it'll.be expected that we'll be having it (education) obviously not enforced or whatever, but how long can you say I'm not getting it yet for.... awkward conversations to be had!
Wishing I didn't have to even think about this now, if things hadn't happened the way they had it'd be a simple decision.

Ah the joys!

Hi @MammaJ21 - I'm not pregnant (yet!), when I said I got in touch with my midwife, it was the one I had dealt with in my previous pregnancies (and subsequent miscarriages). I contacted her for advice as I was trying to establish what the "official advice" was as I kept getting told different things and I wanted to do find out what she knew.

I am currently 3 days late, although I took a Clear Blue test first thing yesterday which was negative. I'm never late, but I'm also sure that when I tested yesterday, it would have shown up if I was pregnant.

@minthumbugs - it is such a difficult decision and a very personal one. I think people just to have make whatever is the right decision for them.

I don't know what I'm going to tell people the reason why I'm not getting the vaccine - it is such a hot topic of conversation and people are constantly comparing who is getting it and what age groups they are currently doing. I'm not sure what I'm going to tell people who ask when it gets around my age group - I'm not anti vaccine at all and don't want to lie about it, but I will not be telling people the real reason as only a couple of people know about my situation.

It's such an uncertain time and you just wonder how much longer this will go on for. I'm in Scotland and we have been told the vaccines are on track for all adults to get theirs by the end of July.

Thank you for OPK recommendations and info, I'll buy the clearBlue ones. A bit worried that it's another tracking device I'll be using - I hope I don't get obsessed 🤣

But I do need to take control a little bit more of this ttc business - as can't get pregnant straight away. And can't just 'see what happens' as I'm 34. 🌺