TTC March / April

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Just continuing our thread so we don't get knocked off the old one!

@CycloGoose
@kaylsd
@KatieLooLa
@lucea87
@minthumbugs
@Sallyjo27

@CycloGoose and @minthumbugs to be honest because it was only 26 days last month I’m not too sure, day 27 today so by last month’s standards I’m a day late. Will give it till the weekend and see what happens I guess x

@minthumbugs

I know we all really want a baba and that's why we're here! But do any of you ladies have a moment sometimes where you're just like AHHHH I REALLY WANT A BABY!!!!?

Weirdly TTC kinda keeps my mind off it because I feel like I'm keeping busy and doing something about it (makes me feel like I have control... LOL). I don't know if this makes sense or if anyone else feels like that but I just keep having more and more of those little moments. I'm just so ready to have my bub. X x x

Yes but I also have moments when I think: I feel like all I do all day is read about other peoples ovulation days etc., I'm gonna lose my mind soon 🤣

And 'I'm not even pregnant yet but it's already consumed my life. My life hasn't been the same' 😁

Sometimes I get glimpsed of thoughts 'am I actually going to have a baby (hopefully) soon 🥰 but I try not to think of it yet as I've no idea how long the ttc journey will be. I need to buckle up and stay positive :)

Yeah definitely, it wasn't till my MC though I realised HOW much I wanted a baby. When I got BFP in jan I was a bit like oh shit this is happening but then I quickly got over it and was so excited and happy (I was already excited but I think everyone has an oh shit moment) but now I've MC I can't imagine having an oh shit moment this time (if i catch again), I'll just be so so so happy! Baby dust to us all ✨✨

@Veronika13 exactly! Lol I spend so much time on Mumsnet and looking at my chart and thinking about taking OPKs. People say not to stress and relax but I am the highly strung person that colour codes my life and takes pleasure in having people's birthday gifts a month early, I like to organise things and this is no different 🤷‍♀️ but I feel like THINKING about it is different than thinking about it. X

@justwant2beamum I'm the same. When I got my BFP I ran into my DP who had to basically catch me and have a seat. We stared at each other for about half an hour like 😱😱😱😱😱. But like you say when I get my next one I will just be delighted I think!

@minthumbugs I totally get that! Most of the time, I'm just trying so hard to make it happen, planning when I'm going to have a glass of water so I can time my opk properly etc but there's the occasional moment when I just really think - god, I wish I had you here in my arms already future little one! There are other times, usually when I'm elbow deep in DIY when I think - how the hell is life going to work when you're here and other times when I think I've had enough of being locked up unable to go anywhere - I'm not sure I want to sign up for years more of this! But yes. Occasionally just that real broodiness takes over.
We're to meet our new nephew tomorrow who's only a couple of weeks old. I'm not sure how that's going to pan out. MIL said today, when talking about potentially attending a wedding in Poland this summer, 'well it's alright for you, since you don't have any children but poor bil and sil have 3 so it's so much harder for them.' 😭 i think i managed to keep my cool. If we'd been lucky, we would have had a baby by then.
This time though, surely there's a bit more baby dust to be sprinkled over this group!
@katieloola did you track this month? Fingers crossed for you! We were cycle twins but my cycle has flipped after MC.

We can do this ladies! Xxx

Yeah that's exactly it @CycloGoose always being so busy trying and almost not thinking about what you're trying for. I definitely have those moments too of OMG is this the right thing to do?! It's going to be so worth it when it happens ❤️

Good luck meeting your nephew. It's a hard one when you're TTC already but especially after what you've just been through. You will love him so much though! Does your MIL know your situation? Be kind to yourself today 🌻

@CycloGoose bless you sweet at least your trying! I've said to hubs if we can try aim for every other / every 3 days as I could spontaneously ovulate at any moment, how fun for us! So we're back on that band wagon ;)! Absolutely love those lil pooch pics they make my heart smile! I'll attach a photo from Mable yesterday she's partial to a good walk bless her, she's sat beside me this morning and doesn't like to wake up too early, like a stroppy teenager 😂 I literally can relate to you so much with your MIL situation as my niece is due in like 2 week.. I over heard a conversation yesterday from his dad as "banter" saying cmon I want to be a grandad at least twice before I die you know so hurry up with that super sperm and get to it.... my face was like, bitch hold my poodle I'm gonna have him (that's if I had a poodle, would have totally done that or hold my earrings and take them out 😂😂😂🙋🏼‍♀️)

@Iloveoreos that's the vibes they gave me on first go after I had a 75 day cycle they didn't even suggest anything to investigate or testing or anything to induce AF as I know there's medication what can do that they just put it down to covid as I was poorly the previous month with it, however on the second instance following the scan it was opposite wanting all testing to be done so they have a insight as to what's going off before they refer me to fertility clinic even though it's only been 8 month for us TTC! X

@minthumbugs I'm back on the band wagon now sweet trying to catch that egg! Today's a relax day for diet wise as I've just comfort ate since sundays news with chocolate orange fingers & Easter eggs, partial to a sweet tooth! Trying to aim for every other or every 3rd day if we can until that pos OPK I may have completely missed it this month as I had a random pos but who knows! Hope your okay sweetheart

I think when it hits me the most when I want a baby is when every time I go on social media i can see another baby bump, another scan, another nursery pic of someone wanting for their little one or another cute outfit they have bought waiting! I'm very envious of it all as it's all I want in life, I'm hoping it will happen for me at some point as they do say good things happen to those who wait (and may have to wait abit longer with my non compliant eggs, god damn you ovaries 😂😂😂👶😉)

@KatieLooLa

🤦‍♀️ Why do I do it to myself? Thought as I’m supposed to be due on around now I’ll take a test. Took a cheap one, was negative but thought there was a shadow of a line so immediately took the last CB digital from the cupboard and dipped it to get “not pregnant”. I think I need to stop buying pregnancy tests “just in case” and just wait for AF to be late.. Might nip to the shop later to drown my sorrows...

@KatieLooLa we've all been there darling with the POAS addiction, I find if I use OPK than HPT when testing gets closer it makes me feel abit satisfied with the fact I've peed on something, I sound like a dog😂😂 but the digitalis are less sensitive sweetheart so fingers and toes crossed for the next time as your not out until AF turns up 😘

@Laureatus

Well I tested today even though I think AF is on her way 2 days late. A BFN on a FRER, prob a waste of a test really, but couldn't resist! Annoying, I've never had a cycle this long but I was trying to lose weight so maybe my pattern messed up. Thanks for thinking of me everyone and good luck and baby dust to you all!

@Laureatus long cycles are the worst! Sorry to hear that AF has come, consider if a new cycle for a fresh start and a new chance to catch that egg! I'm currently 7 days late but being investigated for PCOS, I would love AF right now 😂🙈🙈xx

@kaylsd the time the waste in waiting is horrible. Now the thing thats bugging me, although I have been reffered to fertility dept of local hospital, Ive only spoken to the nurses in that team. Havent been seen or spoken to the consultant even once. Has anyone had experience with nhs fertility team..do we only see nurses initially?

[quote Iloveoreos]@kaylsd the time the waste in waiting is horrible. Now the thing thats bugging me, although I have been reffered to fertility dept of local hospital, Ive only spoken to the nurses in that team. Havent been seen or spoken to the consultant even once. Has anyone had experience with nhs fertility team..do we only see nurses initially?[/quote]
@Iloveoreos I was under the impression that it would be a consultant led consultation rather than nurses as they aren't the ones who do the prescribing ect? (Unless I'm wrong) how's your journey being TTC a has it been a rollercoaster for you? That's my thing I worry about too is time but saying that I'm not really patient when it comes to stuff I want 😂😆

WHY DO I HAVE A PEAK OF 100% TODAY

Body can you behave please I don't know what's going off right now but I don't have any EWCM to believe I'm ovulating 😩😩😩😂

@CycloGoose didn’t track ovulation this month as the cheap OPK’s were just confusing!
Still no AF but feel like it’s coming, sore boobs and cramping. Do feel a little queasy today though so not sure what’s going on! X

Haha good for you @kaylsd! I have a sweet tooth too I have consumed sooooo much rubbish in the last few days (weeks) lol getting back to normal today. Omg so is that your 3rd peak this month?! Would PCOS alter LH results? I don't know much about it tbh. Get at it anyway!!

I got my static smiley this morning 😁 DTD yesterday and will hopefully tonight too, fingers crossed for me X x

@minthumbugs

Haha good for you *@kaylsd*! I have a sweet tooth too I have consumed sooooo much rubbish in the last few days (weeks) lol getting back to normal today. Omg so is that your 3rd peak this month?! Would PCOS alter LH results? I don't know much about it tbh. Get at it anyway!!

I got my static smiley this morning 😁 DTD yesterday and will hopefully tonight too, fingers crossed for me X x

@minthumbugs it's my 3rd 😂😂😂 saying that though the readings of those three first one was 87, second one was 98 and today was 100% so there may be a chance my body is trying to ovulate but failing

I didn't check my OPK yesterday so unsure if it was high or not to see, but apparently with PCOS they have a tendency not to be useful for tracking as people can have high levels of LH throughout and have false peaks, I may be one of those me thinks 🙈🙈 just wish I had some insight as to what's going off cause I feel like having a stern word with my ovaries saying stop messaging about pls 😆😤

@kaylsd..i did get preg back in autumn 2020 time but ended in a chemical mc. Also .the fertility clinic dont consider chemical as a mc 😒😒..anyways i had some tests done and my thyroid levels were messed up. Prior to mc i had called gp multiple timws to say period cycle really long etc etc..kind of same thing u went thru..And my gp knew and didnt really do anything prior to that and then i complained and threw a fuss because i was never told that thyroid levels need to be below 2.5 if ttc. Mine were like 4 something.anyways after a rambling call where i complained about lack of guidance/treatment, where i was in turn told im emotional due to mc and blaming🥺 ..my gp was changed and i was reffered to fertility. Since then ive had a scan and more blood tests..where they said i was borderline pcos..kind of same like u and put on metaformin. But its the nurses i speak to and the only staff ive met. Not met the gynaecologist.

Since having the mc..i did lots of reasarch etc and appaarently if thyroid levels are above 2.5 ur more at chance of mc and chemicals etc. Its basic nhs guidelines from nhs website and thats why i complained that why was i not told this or why was something not done when gp knew my levels were above and knew i was ttc. I had to fight on the phone which was not very nice and then being told im only saying this cause im emotional!!

Oh my goodness @Iloveoreos I'm so sorry you went through that. I haven't had any fertility tests etc so I can't help there but that's been my experience with my GP too. 'You're just hormonal' and 'you're emotional because of the MC' used. But you know when there's something wrong don't you! Baby dust x x x

@minthumbugs.. you would think for a doctor they wud be a bit sensitive but nooo they just say stupid stuff

@Iloveoreos i know! My partner and I had a long convo about this a few weeks ago. Super smart people but at their entrance exams they must have a question along the lines of 'are you willing to be a dickhead at times?'... great, you're in!!

@minthumbugs 🤣

Hi everyone! Is it ok if I join the thread? I'm on my fourth cycle ttc, currently 12dpo. I stupidly started testing at 9dpo so I've had 4 days of negatives. Don't know why I do it to myself but I can't help it. This morning I just used a boots test. I've got one more FRER so going to keep that for tomorrow or maybe Saturday if I can wait. Af due today or tomorrow but no cramps or signs of it showing up yet. Im trying to find that perfect balance of realistic but hopeful 😂

Hi @Happycamper17 👋🏻 ohh hold out for the FRER! Fingers crossed and baby dust, let us know how you get on ✨