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Recent MC - New cycles & trying again

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Mellous · 06/03/2021 15:09

Hi all,

A thread for the ladies from the recent MC/MMC group and for anybody else who wants to join us as we discuss getting our cycles back on track after MC and starting to TTC again x

@ams19
@abimix
@plantmummy87
@thehotelcalifornia
@pettylamby
@laurat94
@neady1980

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SuzieDeLaTour · 10/03/2021 20:03

@AMS19 oh I’m glad to hear I’m not the only one! I don’t know if I’ve actually ovulated - I took a separate clear blue digital today and it still showed a static smiley face and my opks are as dark as yesterday. Does that mean it might have happened already and hormones are still high or is yet to happen!? Confused 😂🤦‍♀️

DMT1982 · 10/03/2021 20:14

@AMS19 and @SuzieDeLaTour

Just reading what you’re saying about feeling different and feeling like you’re coming on even though you’re only half way through your cycles. I’ve had terrible headaches and fatigue the last two months since my D&C and have been keeping a diary for food related things but have noted down periods, how I’m feeling etc. I’ve noticed that a day or so post period finishing I’ve had headaches and fatigue plus feelings like I’ve got cramps like a UTI. I never had any of this pre miscarriages so I wonder if it’s all hormone related and maybe the same for you guys with bodies and hormones settling down xxx

Jujujuberry · 10/03/2021 20:16

Thanks @SuzieDeLaTour that is such hopeful news about your rainbow bubba 🌈 Xx I think for me It’s so hard having 2 MC in a row and no bubba yet, its all I know with pregnancy so far. But your right need to pick myself up and not get caught up in those negative thoughts and Dr google!! Yess yay new job will be so good, bring it on!! 💃

AMS19 · 10/03/2021 20:36

@SuzieDeLaTour sounds like it hasn't happened yet so keep at it just in case 😊 my peak is super quick but I know for a few ladies it stays high for a little longer

@DMT1982 oh rubbish. Yes I think our bodies are still adjusting. I do wonder if not having miscarried naturally effects in. For the body, one minute it's pregnant pumping out hormones and suddenly the cervix is being clamped open and there is then no baby. That's super confusing, no wonder its all over shot!

We'll get there ladies xx

TheHotelCalifornia · 10/03/2021 20:38

Hello darlings, how are we all doing? Just checking in sorry I’ve been a bit AWOL work has been very busy. Totally feel you @AMS19 on tyring to focus on other things to take your mind off everything. We’ve booked tickets for Hamilton in July (DREAM) and would loveeeee to reschedule our cancelled Boston trip (we were meant to go on the 20th March 2020! Gutted wasn’t the word haha!) for the Summer maybe on the off chance the US will let us in, but I thought I can at least look at hotels etc again so we would be ready if we are able to go. I’m also hoping that the world starting to open back up again a bit will keep me occupied as I’ll be able to do stuff. I honestly think being in lockdown while we’ve all been going through miscarriages has just made it even worse hasn’t it. We really are amazing aren’t we 😊

I watched Zoe and Alfie’s vlogs and I feel so so happy for them. I still get a pang of sadness but I don’t think that will ever not happen. I really don’t want to be a horrible negative, jealous person as it’s not who I am, and we generally don’t know what other’s journeys have been like. We were watching Sunday Brunch and Laura Whitmore was on there and she’s pregnant, and my DH was like FFS haha cause honestly everything we watch seems to have a pregnant woman or a baby on there. And I laughed and Googled her because I felt like I’d heard she had a miscarriage and she did. So it’s almost like it’s okay if a woman has had a miscarriage as it doesn’t upset me which sounds so awful but it’s just like I don’t feel jealousy towards them, if that makes sense? Same with Meghan Markle and her baby girl on the way.

So I’m just chilling out here on CD6. My first post miscarriage period was quite similar to the one I had back in October I think (have only had 2 since coming off the pill last year as my cycles were long and then I got my BFP) Friday was light, nothing on pad only when I wiped, Saturday and Sunday were a few tampons and painful cramps, and then Monday only when I wiped again. Monday PM it was gone completely!! Baffled me because on the pill my ‘period’ was like 5/6 days and much heavier. But I do think this one was pretty typical from what I can remember about Octobers.

I’m on B complex with Vitamin D, 100mg B6, agnus castus and folic acid. Also exercising 3 x a week and only drinking at the weekends. I’m feeling good and trying to stay positive. Hope everyone else is too. Sooooo happy that we’ve had so many BFPs I honestly think this is a lucky thread!

Honestly ladies it’s like bloody therapy coming on here and reading everyone’s updates and sharing mine, I love it. Fingers crossed for our IRL meet with all our babies one day cause I would honestly love that xxxxxx

@CocoLoco88 hey lovely, not sure if it was this thread or the miscarriage one…I think it was this one, but I posted about being in the same boat as you! I finally got my period 51 days after my ERPC… so hopefully it will happen for you soon!! Now CD6 and waiting to DTD!! I just kept doing OPKs every day and eventually they began rising. I really feel your pain though it was the WORST just waiting around. I’m really hoping my cycles start to shorten now and I ovulate a little earlier than day 40 ☹ Sending love!! Hang in there, it absolutely will happen and you’ll be over the moon!! xxx

Pettylamby · 10/03/2021 20:40

Hello ladies!

Well... After a days medium flow yesterday AF has come to a grinding halt today! So thats literally a 48hr period! Took an FRER today and still very must positive so hopefully that starts to fade soon and doesn't affect the next cycle! Coming to terms with the chemical now and less teary than yesterday, also back to work which helped as a distraction!

Has anyone ever taken vit b6 for a short luteal phase? Mine arrived today but not sure if I'm meant to take it all cycle or just the start or just the end! 🤷🏼‍♀️ Fed up googling! 🙈

TheHotelCalifornia · 10/03/2021 20:40

Also ladies just wanted to share and I'll share on our original thread too: at my work they donate to a charity of your choice for your anniversary of starting to work there.

So happy to share with you all that WE (cause I feel like it's from all of us) donated £100 to Tommy's to support their research into miscarriages and baby loss xxx

TheHotelCalifornia · 10/03/2021 20:44

@pettylamby oh my love I’m so sorry to hear about your chemical ☹ I really hope you’re doing okay. Hopefully the FRER will fade quickly, as it can’t have got too high? That’s so shit lovely I’m so sorry ☹

I’m taking B6 and agnus castus to hopefully extend my luteal phase and bring ovulation forward. Tbh it’s a complete headfuck of opinions and research so can’t really recommend it but I have read a lot and B6 in particular is meant to regulate cycles. My luteal phase just gone, post miscarriage, was 11/12, and in October it was 8 so I’m very happy with that. That was mainly the agnus castus though I think as I freaked out taking B6 too so only took it sporadically this cycle.

Hope that helps! I’m not sure it will haha but that’s what I’m taking! 😊

AMS19 · 10/03/2021 20:53

@TheHotelCalifornia ahhh that's amazing to hear how well you're doing and amazing to hear about the donation!
This is very random, but was thinking maybe a few of us could sign up for a 10k and raise money for Tommy's. It sounds crazy to suggest something to actually do outside on MN, but my thoughts were 1) what an amazing cause we all Associate with 2) if gives us something to train for 3) feels like a really fitting way to meet.
Not suggesting we have to run the whole thing of course. Anyway, floating the idea out there, no one to commit to now 😊

Also I TOTALLY agree on the point around feeling happy for women who have miscarried. It's so true. I honeslty don't feel a tiny bit of resentment, just hope and love. It's like this awful club but amazing family at the same time. Seeing the BFPs roll in here brings me such joy ❤❤

Pettylamby · 10/03/2021 20:56

@TheHotelCalifornia that's amazing about the donation!! 💕

Aww thank you, I'd only had a proper positive test that day and then AF came the next day! I didn't think I'd get that upset , and then I did! Trying to take positives that the sperm met the egg and we made another embryo, but either my LP wasn't long enough to sustain it or my lining wasn't good enough to get a proper implantation!

My 48hr period suggests that latter but who knows!

My FRER test line is about half the darkness of the control line at the moment but fingers crossed it fades soon!

Looks like you've got everything sorted for a good cycle this month! 🤞🏻🤞🏻 Hopefully Ov comes on time.. Do you usually ovulate late?

DMT1982 · 10/03/2021 21:08

@TheHotelCalifornia that’s so lovely of your company to do that and also so lovely of you to think of Tommy’s.

We’ve all used their website for information and support and that’s a charity close to all our hearts xxx

Ralala · 10/03/2021 22:11

@Pettylamby is it worth calling your gp? I don’t know too much about chemicals but I thought your test faded quickly xxx

dippyegg32 · 11/03/2021 05:28

@AMS19 I can't run for shit but I'm defo up for the challenge for the most wonderful cause especially their #togetherforeverymum campaign right now ❤️

AMS19 · 11/03/2021 05:52

@dippyegg32 ha no neither can I! Unless it's around ovulation then I'm bursting with energy! I have actually been doing a step challenge this month with work which has forced me to run most days this month. I was reluctant to join but it's been great at dragging me out the house for fresh air and exercise 🏃‍♀️

dippyegg32 · 11/03/2021 06:04

@AMS19 how are your temps doing? Really hope you got your confirmed O today lovely.

How's everyone doing? Cd21/9dpo for me. Think I'm coming down with something tbh not feeling too clever. First week back actually at work (teacher) has hit me like a train and I literally cannot wait for the weekend!!

AMS19 · 11/03/2021 06:39

@dippyegg32 yes got confirmed ovulation thanks. Bang on CD13 so back to normal. Not expecting anything from this cycle given all the spotting pre O but great to have ovulated once again and bang on time. Sorry you're feeling rubbish 😔 I cannot imagine leaving the house for work now after a year of working from home! I'd be a right mess 😂😂

DMT1982 · 11/03/2021 06:53

@AMS19 I’m more than happy to do a 10k and donate to Tommy’s however we are all planning on being ‘up-duffed’ very soon so maybe it’ll be better doing it individually while we are not ‘up-duffed’ and posting a photo of our watches or phones to show we’ve run the miles? Xxx

Ralala · 11/03/2021 07:21

Hey! Cd16 here. Lots of normal ovulation signs but my temps are very high or very low.... I’m not doing opks so goodness knows what’s going on there. We will just keep plodding on. I usually ovulate about now.

Ttc is such a pain isn’t it

Neady1980 · 11/03/2021 07:30

10Dpo here, definitely think AF is going to be early. I havent slept properly the last two nights as my stomach has been doing somersaults, back and legs aching which always get worse when I go to bed 😭😭.
I lost the head with OH and my Mam yesterday over nothing and my appetite has disappeared. Dont know what's going on with my hormones 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

AMS19 · 11/03/2021 08:24

@DMT1982 makes sense. I'm ignoring the fact I might get pregnant again but agree. Let's see where we all are at in a couple of months 😊

@Ralala got everything crossed for you!

@neady1980 eurgh hopefully it's just pregnancy hormones kicking in. I'm the opposite when I'm due on, eat everything in sight!

SuzieDeLaTour · 11/03/2021 10:12

@Jujujuberry oh love I can only imagine 2 in a row must be so distressing but I do know lots of mums who also had two in a row sometimes before ever having a baby and sometimes between children and they all had a happy ending. Know that you’re doing everything you possibly can to make this happen for you and you’re clearly bossing it at work!! So lots of reasons to be proud of yourself xx

SuzieDeLaTour · 11/03/2021 10:17

@AMS19 third day of stark positive Opks!? The thing is I never paid this much attention to them while TTC last time - once I saw a positive I just went for it 😂 I didn’t bother testing again afterwards so this may well be my norm! 🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️ Great idea about a run - I can’t actually run for toffee but if I can walk / limp / stumble my way through I would be up for it!! And would be so lovely to meet in real life x
@TheHotelCalifornia that’s lovely you’ve booked things in to have something to look forward to. Also so lovely of you to donate to Tommy’s and great that your work do that ☺️

SuzieDeLaTour · 11/03/2021 10:22

@dippyegg32 oh I bet going back into school to a full class has hit you like a tonne of bricks! Try to take it easy this weekend.
I’m still ovulating I think!? Three days of positive OPKs and we had sex on Tuesday and yesterday so fingers crossed! 🤞

AMS19 · 11/03/2021 10:41

@SuzieDeLaTour remind me, are you BBT tracking as well? Having a long peak isn't massively uncommon, just need to keep at it for longer 😂😂 mine are sharp short peaks so back to 0 pretty quick but I know plenty of ladies who can have a few days of a high reading! You're definitely not pregnant are you? Xx

PlantMummy87 · 11/03/2021 11:00

@TheHotelCalifornia that's so lovely of your company and for you to choose Tommy's as the charity 💕

@AMS19 I would absolutely be up for doing a sponsored run with you ladies. If we can't do it before we can always do it after we've had our rainbow babies. Would be lovely to meet.

@SuzieDeLaTour I'm in a similar boat. Still getting high LH tests since Tuesday. Had a temp rise this morning though, so maybe ovulated yesterday, just need tomorrow and Saturday rises to confirm it. Fingers crossed for you 🤞