Post Pill Party - The Line Dance

[MissC07]

Swing your partners round and round (the bedroom). Grab a spot and put your best checked shirt on. We're all stepping together to create some seriously strong lines - Yee-Haw! Now let's get making some cowboys (and girls!) It's time to begin now count it in...5...6...7...8!

This is the 9th post pill party thread for women whose bodies are a bit out of sync post pill. So pull up a hay bale and share your stories of dreary delayed ovulation, fascinating follicular phases, lively luteal phases and terrific temp charts.

In the Line up already.....
@juno231
@Kay00
@Moocher90
@Emmgrem
@Nellieee
@TheHotelCalifornia
@ams19
@chinchilly
@sperr
@crabette
@LauraT94
@TheDaydreamBelivers
@cams50
@robyn101
@abi555
@tillybabs
@MissC07
@minipilling
@glow92
@FlyingGiraffe
@Elsie2021
@Gracie2021
@Flowers222
@MancMama39
@firsttimemumm321
@mrsmacmc
@MintGreenLife
@Ttcin2021
@Melissaq94

Please add anybody I've missed off!

@Elsie2021 so sorry to hear about your loss!

@Kay00 yay for ovulation- glad to hear soy has worked for you!!

I’m going for my 21 day bloods today- I hate needles so I’m actually so scared. Last time I had a blood test I fainted 😂. I’m hoping to not be so embarrassing this time!

@FlyingGiraffe Thank you, I think I was being a debbie downer about it all yesterday! I’m hoping I’ll get another BFP before then and it’ll be a sticky one!

@MissC07 I wouldn’t lose all hope, you’ve definitely covered yourself!

@Juno231 great news that your tests all came back good frustrating at the same time though i guess! How long is it until you’re at the 2 year mark?

@Kay00 yay for ovulation 🙌🏻

@Sperr good luck with the bloods!! Mine are always a night, I have tiny narrow veins that don’t play ball apparently!

Just cried my eyes out as all my female family members have babies but me and have organised a meet up for them at some point soon. I'm obviously not asked as I'm childless but it's made me feel horrific.
The thing is I wouldn't like being there as I find being around babies difficult at the moment and I have no input as I'm not a mother.
But being the only one, and the fact they all know I'm having a hard time trying, not that that is their problem of course, has made me feel so so bad.
I know I'm being irrational, but it's so hard, it just highlights I'm the odd one out

@ChinChilly I survived! It wasn’t that bad but I also didn’t look 😂. They said I should hear tomorrow or latest Monday which means I’ll be phoning tomorrow 😂.

@Lovebug06 I feel you there! I feel like there is always a little part of me that’s jealous of people now! But slightly horrible of them not to involve you!

@Lovebug06 oh no huuuggee hugs! That totally sucks. My sister (who had my niece 10 years ago, and is 3 years younger than me) keeps going on about how she's glad she had babies when she did, and it would be so hard to be doing it now at her age... she mentions it almost every day (we speak daily). Sometimes families can be pretty insensitive.

@Juno231 Unexplained infertility? Hopefully that means it could still happen naturally for you? Its a shame you have to wait for the two year mark for IVF (if you need it), I guess that's at the end of 2021 for you?

@Sperr good luck with the test today! hopefully it shows you have decent progesterone levels!

@FlyingGiraffe looks like you are in a similar position to me. I got peak on cb Tuesday but ic opks seemed to be getting lighter. Then suddenly this afternoon they have clearly gone positive. Very odd, didn't realise cb would be that sensitive. That means for me ovulation will be Friday or Saturday. So you definitely still might ovulate in the next few days 🤞

@MissC07 don't feel out yet! You really didn't time it badly at all. Only takes once!

@Kay00 I really do hope this is ovulation for you!

@Juno231 really good news about your tests. But it will feel like a long wait to IVF. Here's hoping something will happen soon and you won't need it.

@Tillybabs I know! So frustrating.. yeah please let me know, thank you!

@Juno231 I was thinking that but I hadn't had sex for about 2 days before the examination purposely for a clearer check so who knows!
#whyismelissa'scervixinflamed continues 😂😂

@Juno231 they have said they aren't sure for definite if sperm analysis is being done in covid in this area but they have sent a letter that just arrived with details of a place that may take him. AF is due very soon so I said I don't mind if he waits a couple of days to check. I know it'll come. I had an ultrasound in hospital a month ago, it wasnt to do with this but they actually checked my ovaries whilst there to rule something out and they said they looked good and fine. I don't think this will count as it wasn't to do with fertility but it's good I already know that.
Makes no sense that we are apparently all fine yet it's not happening??
I cannot even deal with the 'just forget about it and relax' comments I've had one today it pisses me off so much 😂

@Kay00 @sperr
The thing is I don't even know if I'd want to go, it would probably make me feel awful and if they asked me now it would be because they thought they had to. So I know I'm being stupid. I think it's because it's on a family chat where I am the only girl not asked, and that reason is because I don't have a baby and they all do. It kind of just highlights it. They all know I've been trying a long time, I badly want that, but I'm left out because I don't have it whilst it's discussed in front of me. It's not their problem it's mine but I just cried.
Another family member has referred to my 'infertility' a few times, because I have not become pregnant straight away like everyone else.
I tried to message a friend about how I am feeling today. She has gone through this but is now pregnant but I thought she'd get it but she's told me not to be silly then ignored the one after. So I just wish I hadn't said anything.
I think people minimize how difficult TTC can be when they aren't doing it or haven't experienced it. If I get my baby one day, I will make sure I will always be there and listen to someone who is going through this❤️

@Juno231 sorry to hear that you're not getting an explanation for what's going on, keeping everything crossed that it'll happen before the IVF application! Like someone said, we're all due a bit of luck on here! 💕

@Sperr well done! Fingers crossed for your results.

@Lovebug06 I totally get it, tbh i think it was abit mean to not include you! My best friend has several children so she doesn’t really get it when I’m losing my shit over OPKs or something! As for the ‘just relax it will happen’ it annoys the shit out of me BUT last cycle was probably my most chilled one, can’t be bothered, knocking back to midweeks alcoholic beverages, and I did get a BFP obviously it didn’t end well but I’ve got some OPKS for this cycle and I’m temping but mainly because I wanted to check everything had gone back to normal. Once these OPKs have gone I’m not buying anymore and I’m going to stop temping, I feel like I’m putting too much pressure on myself and although I feel like it comforts me knowing when I’m ovulating subconsciously it may be stressing me out! So we’ll see! I kinda wanna enjoy summer without worrying about all things TTC

@Kay00 @Juno231 @ChinChilly @flowers222 thanks ladies! We'll see what happens but I'm def not expecting anything.

@Juno231 I'm glad your tests came back all clear, frustrating though. Fingers crossed it still might happen naturally before the IVF route.

@sperr hope your bloods went ok!

@Lovebug06 Sorry you're not feeling great. Families can suck sometimes and not including you isn't fair.

Is anybody else absolutely exhausted at the moment for no reason whatsoever and just can't be bothered to do anything? I'm even fed up of watching tv!

@ChinChilly I kinda feel you on that! I don’t think I’m going to buy anymore opks! I find the most stressful part of TTC is waiting for ovulation. My GP had said to me last month that they don’t count temping as being reliable 😂. I find comfort in knowing when I can stop (but I have also had it where my temp has dropped 3 days after a rise and because I’ve stopped DTD I’ve missed out so now I keep going for 5/6 days after anyways!)

@MissC07 ME! I feel really exhausted. Currently considering a nap. I am putting it down to all the pollen

@Lovebug06 I am sorry you are going through this. It is really hard when people around you just can't understand.

Hi everyone,

I’ve also been quiet for the same reasons. Getting fed up with TTC, really busy with work and hoping by taking a step back I will be more ‘relaxed’.

@Juno231 glad your results are good but such a frustrating diagnosis nonetheless. Will you wait for the two year mark or go private?

@Kay00 yay I’m so happy for you that ovulation seems to have happened!!

@Lovebug06 I totally get it. I’m officially in cycle 12 so past the ‘most couples will conceive in a year’ mark. It’s so tough. My Mum and sisters all conceived straight away.

@ChinChilly I totally agree with you. I think (hope) it’ll be easier to forget about it during the summer with things opening up and better weather.

@Elsie2021 I’m soooo sorry to hear about your loss. I hope you’re doing ok ❤️❤️❤️

@MissC07 me! I felt great last week, so energetic and this week so MEH.

@Cams50 I really hope so!!

@Sperr I definitely fine it reassuring but I’m not sure if it’s all subconsciously bothering me, if that makes sense

I’m not sure what’s going on over here i was sure i would of had a daker OPK this afternoon the one at lunch time was darker IRL I’d say it was the same colour as the control line.

Urgh guys I’ve been struggling these past few days as it seems a lot of you have. I’m now on Day 9 of flashing fucking smilies on the fucking CB Advanced and omg it’s just stressing me out. CD21. I ovulated on CD26 the cycle I got pregnant and the month before that it was CD31. Last cycle was CD42 but that was miscarriage related I guess. Done cheapie OPKs and nothing, and the stupid lines aren’t getting any darker either. Anyway I just really hoped my B6 and agnus castus would help bring ovulation forward and I was so happy when I saw my first flashing smiley on Day 14 ☹ I know it may hopefully happen in the next few days but we’re both getting a bit fed up with BD now as we’ve done it soooooo much. I’m lucky in that DH is basically happy to go whenever haha but I feel a bit stressed that it’s very scheduled and not much fun. Like fun when we’re doing it and after but the thought of it is just like CBA! May give tonight a miss and try to BD tomorrow. But then it’s like what if I wake up tomorrow and it’s a static!? But I guess we’d still be in with a chance if we BD tomorrow.

I’ve honestly had this anxious feeling all day about late ovulation and the worry that I won’t ovulate at all and it will all have been a waste so I thought fuck it, poured myself a gin and cranked the Hamilton soundtrack on loud while I cooked dinner. I do actually feel a bit better for it. I said I wasn’t going to obsess over TTC but it’s just impossible not to :( We have a Zoom drinks planned with friends tomorrow and I’ve got a new game for my Switch coming which I’m super excited for haha so hopefully that will help to keep me occupied over the weekend. I know I just need to relax and let ovulation happens when it happens but it’s so hard!!!! Urghh!!!!! Sorry for ranting, hope everyone’s okay xxxx

@Elsie2021 oh my darling I’m so so so sorry to hear your sad news. I also had a miscarriage back in January. If you feel up to it some of us girls from this thread created a thread in the miscarriage/baby loss section so you could have a read through of those read to see our experiences if you’re up to it. It certainly helped to make me feel less alone. Really hope you’re getting the support you need, sending you so much love. Please feel free to PM me if you ever need to talk to someone xxx

@Juno231 so sorry to hear about the unexplained fertility. Can’t even imagine how you’ve been dealing with all this. I’m pleased that you have a plan now and something to aim for, and as a PP said keeping everything crossed that it does maybe happen naturally for you. How are you feeling this evening? xxx

@Kay00 I’m so so happy for you that it looks like ovulation has happened. Keeping everything crossed for you.

@Sperr agreeeee that waiting for ovulation is the most stressful!! I hate it!!

@Lovebug01 that’s really shitty. I’d be upset too ☹ are you close with one that you can reach out to and explain how it’s made you feel? I definitely would want to. I don’t think you’re being irrational at all I’d be exactly the same.

Just want to give everyone here a big squeezey hug!! 💑 (closest emoji I could find..) I hope you all feel better soon and we get some lovely baby dust here 💗

P.S @TheHotelCalifornia LOVE Hamilton! The perfect soundtrack to just forget everything when you can just belt out the lyrics!!

@Juno231 thanks, hopefully you're right and I've ovulated today. Sorry about the fertility appointment. I cant imagine how frustrating it is to be told they cant explain it.

@Sperr Do you know what they tested for today? I'm also prone to the odd fainting session 😂 I had to lie on the floor of Boots consultation room to get the yellow fever vaccine done for South America 😂 my bloods are on Tuesday and I'm nervous! My friend who's been through IVF said they're going to be taking a bag of blood from me by the looks of things 🤪😰

@TheHotelCalifornia sorry you're getting anxious about ovulating. I personally aim for every other day whilst its flashing and then both days its peak. Give yourself tonight off. There'll be plenty of lil swimmers ready even if it is static in the morning. It sounds like you've loads to occupy yourself with the next couple of days which is perfect! 😊

@Flowers222 This is reassuring thank you! You'll have to keep me up to date. We can hopefully be in the tww together! My ic was lighter again today but that's great yours went to peak! 🙌

@TheHotelCalifornia so sorry you're also having a crappy time. I hope you ovulate soon! You sound like you've done enough BD'ing to cover you if you give yourself a rest this eve. Also great choice with Hamilton, I'm obsessed with it and have seen the show 3 times 🙈

I’ve just sat for an hour and read through all 7 pages of this thread, haha.

Hey! I’m new here!

So sad to see so many of you going through hard times atm.

I came off the Evra patch 11th feb, and had my withdrawal bleed the 15th feb as expected but nothing since. I had cramps from the 11th March, and expected AF to show the 15th March if my body was going to stay on track with it’s usual 28 day cycle, but seems that won’t be the case as currently on CD39 so just waiting and holding out now. Have purchased some OPKs purely so I can see if I’m ovulating without a period.

I think I may track my temperature but I don’t want to spend a tonne as I’m still believing in taking a relaxed approach for now, especially as we are only just starting out TTC journey. So does anyone have any thermometer recommendations?

Also, what is the LH app you’re uploading your sticks to?

Hoping you all get some BFPs soon. 🙂

Massive hugs to all ❤️ ✨

@ChinChilly I dont do opks anymore. I haven't since last summer. I was just stressed, my dh was stressed and it just consumed me. I do feel far more relaxed not doing them. Although it hasnt worked for me since, the way I see it is it didn't work for me when I did them and I felt worse too. I'm lucky enough to be regular so I know when the time is so if you do, I'd recommend stopping, although it is hard at first.
@MissC07 thankyou. Familys really don't understand but I thought maybe would be a bit more sensitive to it to it sometimes but I guess it's not their problem.
@Flowers222
Its really hard. TTC is such a lonely process, I feel lucky to have you all on here.
@Cams50 as did mine! My mum had me and my sister easily, came off the pill and bam. My sister had two apparent accidental pregnancies. My mother in law got pregnant easily and tells me that a lot 😂 I'm like tell me how coz nothings working 😂
@TheHotelCalifornia I'm close to one. She didn't say much I think she knows how it'll make me feel but also probably wants to go, and she should. I don't want her to feel awkward. She also didn't really have a TTC journey like me so doesn't understand the upset so much, although has tried to.
My MIL said she even felt for me in that conversation.
@JT90 welcome. I'm fairly new too!

Thanks for all these lovely lovely messages. I don't know if anyone else has this, but when AF is coming I get this sense of dread now. Because I know how I will feel when it comes. Everyone else I read about is just excited, I want to be too, but i already find AF crushing, let alone if I let myself think it won't come. Anyway as its approaching I feel a bit like that, and then that conversation with family members baby meet up yesterday sent me over the edge, emotionally. So sorry for my self absorbed rant girls, I just needed to vent to others who really would understand my heartache. I'm feeling better today, but I think I may mute the chat for my own good. Maybe that's silly though.

So thankyou and I'm looking forward to following your journeys. Baby dust and luck to you all x x

Hi ladies,
Sorry to hear we've all been a bit low lately! The past week was rubbish for me and just felt really awful and stressed about the whole TTC failure.

However, CD2 for me today, and somehow AF arriving has made things a bit better. Don't get me wrong, I wish she hadn't, but I find the worst bit is the end of a cycle when I get a BFN or just know I'm not pregnant but still have to wait several more days for AF to arrive. Now that she has, I'm in a bit of a 'smile its a new start' place.

So, in view of deep breath/fresh start/new cycle, just wanted to share some thoughts I've been having in case the positivity helps anyone else!

• I waited aaaaages to find my husband (well, it felt like ages all through my 20's when I was consistently single!!) We got together when I was 29, but he was so worth the wait! Our babies will be too! One day, we will all have our babies, and this horrible waiting game will all be worthwhile
• In that vein, lets all enjoy this time with our partners! One day, our lives will be full of screaming babies, early starts, school runs, and no time to ourselves! So lets drink the wine, enjoy all the sex, the netflix all day marathons and the time just the two of us with our husbands! I spent so much time in my 20's stressing that I'd never find OH or get married that I never really enjoyed my single days. Now, I can see the same pattern happening, and I'm stressing so much about TTC I'm not enjoying the just-married days.
• It WILL happen ladies, for all of us. For me, the most stressful thing is putting myself under a timeline of 'I want to be pregnant now, why am I not?!?!'. Switching to a 'It will happen, I just don't know when, but lets enjoy the last time in my life when I'm not pregnant/a mum and can do what the heck I want (pandemic notwithstanding!)' is a bit more liberating than bashing myself for not being pregnant yet.

Anyway, not sure if the above is motivating or a bit nauseating, ahaha! But I'm feeling good and wanted to share as I've been on a massive downer for a while and looks like a lot of you are feeling the same.

Also, check out the podcast 'Big Fat Negative' - it's making my giggle and go 'Oh my god, that's what I do!'

Off for a run! xx