3rd cycle BFN

[French2020]

9dpo today (I think) and bfn, I know it’s quite early but still think unlikely to become positive. This is the 3rd cycle and getting down. We did it 3 times during fertile week, is that not enough? My job is always quite stressful and particularly so over the past month, does that make any difference? I am run down with a cold and feel like my body doesn’t want to take on anymore right now.

There are lots of things that could be affecting your body and becoming pregnancy!

Although it doesn't feel like it, 3 cycles is not a long time. If you're able to, have sex every 2/3 days during your fertile period. Do you track your ovulation? Are you sure your fertile week is exactly when you think it is? If you're going by an app they are not 100% accurate.

Try not to feel down about it if you can. We have been trying for 7 months. I went into this assuming I would get pregnant first time having unprotected sex and when it didn't happen that way I was heartbroken. Couples actually take longer to conceive than we know or share about. You only hear about people getting pregnant but not about how long it took them or what that experience is like. Manage your expectations. Read about others experiences, watch YouTube videos. This helped me learn more and realise you're very lucky to have it happen immediately and actually it's more common to take longer. Make sure you're taking your vitamins.

It will happen when the timing is right! My experience hasn't been great, it's been really really difficult mentally and emotionally and that's okay.

Thanks so much for your reply.

I used cheap ovulation sticks from Boots which showed quite a dark line on day 12 so I think it would have been the day after?

I take Folic acid but that’s it.

Wishing you good luck.

That sounds positive! Keep your chin up, it's a super hard journey (in my experience) but you will get through it and get what you want when the timing is right. Sounds like you're doing the right things so don't be too hard on yourself. There's nothing you can do or not do that will help it happen any quicker and it's NOT your fault if it doesn't happen. And if you think something isn't right speak to your doctor.

Wishing you luck too!

Hi @French2020 really old post but how did it work out in the end? I’m in a similar position