TTC 35+ Thread 7

[sickofthisyear]

New thread- apologies for the unimaginative title!

Yeah but I don't think you need to worry if you're doing it that much anyway, fertility doc said not to worry about it too much as long as it's every other day and that is the standard advice tmk. Otherwise you can do SMEP but that might be a bit late now.

I want to do SMEP when we start again, but I started the wrong day last time and then suddenly was ovulating. We tried doing it for 9 days in a row across the fertile window in January and it was ok, just full on. Every other day all of the month is hard to muster the energy for so far.

Reading about all this clear blue stuff made me wonder if I was ovulating lately when I was getting all those extra High readings, no idea. I hope my cycles stay normal from now on, that would be handy.

@thislittlebird yes of course, I'll go take a pic of one for you!

Thank you! Here’s mine for comparison @Marvellouslymadmum

They look the same I think!

@Marvellouslymadmum Thank you! Got a feeling they might have changed the plastic case shape a bit so you can’t put them in the monitor hmmmm but maybe I’ll buy a few loose cheap ones on eBay (3 or 5) to try and if they don’t work then I know either way and haven’t bought a whole box, just spent a few pounds at most.

Oh wow just catching up on everything. I did CBT when my mum died and hated it. I stopped going after a few sessions. I have been citalopram and that’s really helped me along with exercise.I came off it a few months before Covid, probably couldn’t have picked a worse time.

My Premom app is still giving me lows but with higher numbers. Then yesterday evening and all today very low numbers but I’m not sure if it’s me drinking a lot more water today. I have the usually EWCM and all my apps say I should ovulate around the same time give or take a day.
On another note I spend way too much time playing with me pee these days.

I did not have a great time with it either tbh @Katiekattty. I’m not sure why it worked for me less than others really. I finished the 12 sessions but I didn’t feel like I had the experience others have described so I wonder if the person doing it makes a difference too? Not sure how much that changes the experience. But it was ok in some ways, it taught me a few handy things, it just wasn’t what I expected I guess.

I think I’m going to start my citalopram in the coming week and try to restart exercise too, exercise very much helps me but part of the struggle is forcing myself to get into it again when I’ve stopped.

I think we’re all having too much pee fun lmao

@thislittlebird I can always send you one if you'd like? Save buying them.

@Marvellouslymadmum Thank you for the offer, that’s so kind! It’s fine though because they’re pretty cheap for 3 or whatever, and might not be that far off the cost of postage. You might end up with some sent to you if they don’t fit though lmao

@Katiekattty haha yep, I thought the same today when I peed into the cap from my contact lens case because it was the only thing to hand 😂 i was getting really low readings on premom and thought I had been cocking up by drinking too much but it's suddenly shot up to 0.87 this evening on CD19! So actually it was just that I hadn't reached peak yet. @climbershell I usually have a 28 day cycle but it looks like I'm on for very late ovulation- maybe you will be the same? I'd be inclined to stick to the every other day and then go hell for leather when things start to pick up on the opks?

I'm expecting peak tomorrow and we've shagged tonight, I guess we should probably do it again fir the next few nights? I feel way to old to be having sex on consecutive nights 😂

@thislittlebird lol fair enough, they look very similar if nit the same so may fit anyway

I just heard back from an eBay seller @Marvellouslymadmum and she said they do not fit. She has a letter from CB confirming what they do fit (must have a shop). Ah well, back to the even more expensive ones. Fortunately she has some on sale I might buy without the pregnancy tests.

@thislittlebird oh well that's rubbish! Good that she has some on sale but annoying, you'd think they would make them multi use, it would be cheaper for them!

@Lexber sorry about the sudden loss of your dad. CBT helped me also sail through some difficult times. And I find it interesting how so many women here have also had good experience with it. Like I said, I went in very skeptical but I was pleasantly persuaded. @Marvellouslymadmum I think a GP referral is all he needs. If my memory hasn’t failed me...

@climbershell if you suspect Ov on 14/15, I would dtd 12/14/15. I’m also having some trouble this month. So my past 2 cycles I’ve had the smiley face on CB on CD10 which meant I ovulated day 11/12, but today CD10 and no smiley (I wasted 4 sticks and held my pee for hours each time 🤦🏻‍♀️). So dtd 2 days in a row cause just in case this CB box is faulty or something. Will probably dtd tomorrow and day after. I’m a bit deflated cause was planning on every other day not daily for semen count and quality. Oh well 😅 this Monday my consultant and I saw a dominant follicle 17 mm on CD8 so either it’s anovulatory or I’m ovulating late this cycle. Hoping for a smiley tomorrow 🤞🏻

@Katiekattty @thislittlebird totally understandable about CBT. I think it could also be the therapist perhaps? With interventions and therapies as such it’s a very personalized and individually tailored experience. I was fortunate CBT helped with managing my anxiety and also lucky with other traditional types of therapy - although at some point with the traditional psychotherapy type I had to change therapists twice until I found a good one.

@KG1145 CONGRATS!!! Amazing line 😍

Thanks @thislittlebird 😁 although I'm a kiwi I used to live in the UK for about 7 years and my partner is British ☺️ There’s probably some kind of website discussion board for kiwis TTC but I like you ladies 😘 x the only problem is the time difference, so when I wake up in the mornings I have to catch up on everything that’s happened on the thread while I’ve been sleeping 😂

@SunAndSea37 so sorry to hear your mum isn’t well 😞 I lost my mum to cancer 3 years ago as of tomorrow. Before she passed she told me I would have another baby.. while my mum was unwell I was pregnant at the time and very stressed, my midwife told me then not to worry about the stress impacting the baby at all. Not sure what I’m trying to say - I guess that you will fall pregnant when the time is right, and try not to stress about stressing about it if you know what I mean 😂 fingers crossed for your next cycle and sending lots of love, hugs and strength to you and your mum. 💖 x

Sorry.. me again... this is going to sound completely nuts.. but I bought my box of ovulation sticks today, couldn’t help but try one this afternoon 🙊 and I am ECSTATIC to see another line on it! I know this is interpreted as a negative result but I’ve been peeing on sticks for MONTHS without ever seeing another line, so I’m so happy to see one even though it’s a (negative) ovulation test 🤣🤪

@Twelvestars I'll have to look into that thank you

@Farfaraway1 sorry to hear about your mum, I lost my dad in a similar way 6 years ago and both my sisters were pregnant at the time, for a while I had all three in hospital as they both had complications too! It's definitely good you got a line and on the way to ov woohoo

@farfaraway1 haha I totally get what you mean about seeing the other line! I also felt totally overjoyed when mine registered a good dark line after like 10 days of faint ones I was like YES body, go for it!! Really sorry to hear about your mum and hope that you're doing OK today on her anniversary. Do you have anything special planned or is it more a case of getting through it? Xx

@twelvestars hoping for a smiley for you today! I've read conflicting reports about the sperm thing some sources say the every other day thing is a myth which has been repeated so much that it's stuck 🤷‍♀️ I read this source which said that actually your odds are slightly higher with sex every day (provided no sperm issues). The figures were for under 30s and were 25% shot with every day and 22% every other day, so obviously chances not as high as that because we're creaking geriatric mother's to be, but I guess the pattern would be the same?

Aww thanks @Noodella18 💖 my mum loved to bake so I like to either make or buy a cake on the her passing anniversary and think of her. She passed late in the night so I find I’m ok during the day, although a bit tense, but closer to the time she passed I get a bit emotional. She was my best friend and I miss her every single day and that doesn’t lessen any as the days go by. I dream of her and feel her with me all the time 😔 life can be so unfair, she was only 63 and had so much living to do but I know she’s looking down on me and my little family and protecting us. Sorry for the emotional rant! I don’t often have someone ask me if I’m doing ok these days, I guess everyone thinks I’ve dealt with it by now.. 💖💖 x

@Farfaraway1 oh I'm so sorry, that sounds so tough :( and I'm really sorry that you don't get a chance to share your feelings about it very much - I imagine you may feel pressure to put a brave face on it so as not to come off as sad all the time? I'd love to hear more about your mum - tell me about her? What was her name? What was her favourite thing to bake? What did you like doing with her? xx

@Farfaraway1 I can completely sympathise loosing my mum was one of the worst things I’ve even been through. It’s been 10yrs and I still struggle with it.

I think CBT is really down to who you have for a therapist. I’ve always seen good and bad reviews.

@Noodella18 I’ve designated one of those little sauce pots you get from the takeaway shops as my pee pot.
I was reading a Reddit post about whether you should do OPKs with your partner. I just can’t imagine my DH watching me pee in a sauce pot and dipping a stick in my wee.