TTC 35+ Thread 7

[sickofthisyear]

New thread- apologies for the unimaginative title!

I asked my partner to chase his SA results Thurs, he didn't. His day off today, bugged him to try, doc not answering phone. Asked him again coupled times, he's getting irritated at me keep asking but it's so important to me. If he does have any issue, even mild I know it takes 3 months of supplements etc before they can improve sperm. He just doesn't ever over think anything or play on his mind, whereas TTC is pretty much always on my mind!

Only cd3 today 🙄 hate this limbo time where can't even try

@Marvellouslymadmum wow ttc for 3 years! I have only been ttc for 3 months and the emotional toll is starting to weigh heavily on me. My husband is very positive bless him and I try to keep positive but it’s hard. How old are you if I may ask? And do you have any children?

@KG1145 thanks and you too! Btw I have been reading about your issue with your best friend. I haven’t told anyone we are ttc but I can understand how it can be tough finding ourselves surrounded by loved ones who are successfully conceiving. It requires such internal strength to be happy for them and with them regardless of our misfortune.

@thislittlebird I have almost googled the heck out of all symptoms haha and I think I’ve covered all related topics on all forums - past and present - during my 3 months of ttc 😅👌🏻

@Pamparam hopefully you will ovulate. Fingers crossed for you 🤞🏻

@M4v3r1ck thanks! As @Pamparam said, this thread is moving so fast and I haven’t been able to keep up with all of you ladies here. But it just gives me such solace to know that I share this journey (and/or struggle) with women my age and similar situation.

@Twelvestars yes of course, I am 41 but only for another couple of weeks lol I have two teenagers from my previous relationship, my current partner and I have been together 5 years we had an accidental pregnancy almost four years ago but that unfortunately ended in mc then we waited a while before actually ttc which was a year later, we've also had two cp and another mc in that time. And we are currently having tests etc with the docs to find out what's going on. It definitely does take its toll on the mental health though

@Pamparam love that you've completed google 😂 I feel I may be close to this!

@KG1145 buying FRERs in your sleep is a new one lmao. I didn’t sleep well at all, was awake most of the night.

@Kitekat81 maybe it is because you’re in Scotland and there’s slightly different rules. I don’t think my one was seeing as many people as she normally would either.

I think that might be why I’ve been good at not googling this month @Twelvestars @Pamparam, I did so much googling last month I know all the answers lol (which is, without fail, maybe it’s a symptom but maybe it’s PMS so I’m just assuming PMS now)

I'm trying to catch up with the thread. It's moved so quickly!
I'm on CD 10 and got peak on the CB this morning. Bit odd as usual get lots of EWCM but not a sign of it so far...bit odd but the CB Digi stick will be frozen now so can't retest.
Internet cheapies don't seem to work for me. Rarely get a clear high.

@thislittlebird are you trying for your first btw? We are! I am 37 and turn 38 in November and would love to be pregnant before - whether naturally or medically assisted.

Just to give you ladies an idea of where I’m at mentally, I took 3 pregnancy tests (cheapies) over the past 3 days and was prepping myself for one today. Went into the toilet to collect a urine sample then wiped and lo and behold there she was: AF 😭 at least I saved another pregnancy test for the next cycle.

@Marvellouslymadmum well happy birthday in advance! Goodluck with the tests! I feel this will be very helpful for you both in addressing whatever issues there may be. We are most probably going to see a doctor very very soon as I feel time is not on our side.

@Twelvestars yeah, our first. Wishing I’d started a few years earlier now tbh. This is cycle 14 probably, started October 2019 with a break early 2020. Waiting on our referral appointment for the fertility clinic which is in May and really hoping to be pregnant this year. Going to move to try to start assisted as soon as we can after the appointment (maybe with clomid or something initially, not sure).

You’re braver than me testing, I find it so stressful (because negatives) so just don’t bother. AF is due tomorrow according to fertility friend.

@thislittlebird I can totally relate... This feeling of “regret” or wishing to have started earlier just eats at me every single moment of every single day. We had no valid reason to delay trying yet we kept delaying... I mean we were a bit unsure or maybe I was more unsure but then it suddenly hit me that I wanted to be a mother and so very badly. Should’ve listened to the urging of loved ones around me, who for years urged me to try and not delay. Anyways, what’s done is done.

I will also go for assisted ASAP as well. Will be seeing a fertility doctor soon. I hope, if it’s an issue with me, that it’s sorted with just clomid. That would be a dream.

May is just round the corner for you! Meanwhile obviously you’re gonna keep trying and who knows, it might happen for you before the appointment!

@WrongendoftheSTIX if it’s possible, just dtd anyways until ewcm shows up and continue after it does. How long is your cycle usually?

Hope you're all well. I met up with my friend today and feel so much better for it. There were bits that were hard but it wasnt really her talking about anything baby related that triggered anything it was when the conversation turned to my MC and ttc journey. Overall though, so glad I went. Ttc is such a lonely time, especially so during lockdown, and it really helped me being able to talk to her about it all.

So, 8dpo now and getting very impatient. No real symptoms or anything. Odd bit of pelvic pain but been having that from 4dpo so that would too early. Some watery/ewcm... No idea what's going on there! I'm slowly coming to the conclusion that every month is totally different!

My frer tests haven't arrived yet thankfully so can't test... Otherwise I think I would have caved!

Sorry to hear of the AF arriving. Fingers crossed for this next cycle!

I mentioned to my partner earlier about buying the frer tests and it meaning I could test early. He just rolled his eyes. He has no idea! Wish I could be as patient as him! On the other hand, I want to find out as early as possible as my consultant recommended started progesterone as soon as I get a positive... My justification for testing early lol

@KG1145 so glad to hear it helped. Well done for being brave- I'm glad you could spend that time with your friend. ☺️

Hi ladies, can I jump on here too.. I’m 37 and ttc no. 3. I’m bit of a sob story really 🤦🏻‍♀️ I’ve been off the pill for 15 months, had a MMC last year which ended up being an incomplete mc which wasn’t picked up until 2 months later so went in for a D&C. Following that had a CP. A few years ago I also had an ectopic pregnancy that ruptured so now only have one tube. I feel so blessed to have my 2 beautiful boys but feel very strongly like someone is missing. I lost my mum to cancer 2.5 years ago, before she went she told me I would have a third 💖 I’ve had an ultrasound and blood work to double check all is ok, which it is, and just got smear results back today which were all clear too. It’s been about 8 months since the D&C surgery so fingers crossed we get a BFP soon.. I’m waiting for AF to hurry up and turn up so we can start a new cycle.. thanks for reading! X

@KG1145 I'm so glad it went well with your friend! 😍 I've now stopped logging other symptoms as they're just too variable for me! 🤞🏻 for you this month!

@Twelvestars I know it's hard, but try not to regret your timing. I'm 36 and TTC#1. I can relate to everything you're saying as DH and I have been together a long time, but we just weren't ready for it - we love to travel etc. Now, I think we're in a mentally, emotionally, and financially better place for this! 😘 It's going to happen for us all, but it might just take a wee bit longer! 😃

@Marvellouslymadmum 🤞🏻 for you this month! Did you manage to find your peak too? I ended up being 32 days last cycle! 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Pamparam it's really tough - sending you much love! 😘 what cycle day are you now? Do you think you may have ovulated early?

@WrongendoftheSTIX yay to peak! Get on it! 🤪😈🤣

Hope everyone else is doing good! Anyone else not wanting to work today?! 🤪🤣

@Farfaraway1 I've just seen your post. Welcome to this lovely group! I'm so so sorry to hear of what you've been through! Sending you much love! 😘 glad you got good news re: your checks, so hopefully you'll get a BFP soon! I've high hopes for this thread! 🤞🏻😃

Thanks so much @M4v3r1ck 🥰😘 it’s so comforting to offload to ladies that actually understand!! Fingers crossed for us all. 💖 x

@KG1145 so glad that you met up with your friend and it went ok.

@Farfaraway1 welcome, lots of lovely supportive ladies here. Sorry to hear of your journey so far, hopefully as your tests came back well you'll get your bfp though!

@M4v3r1ck I used the fb digital opk which gave me a peak on cd13 but my bbt has been up and down like a yo-yo no three higher temps or anything so I don't really know but I'm going for blood tests today for day 21 progesterone etc 🤞🏻 I'll find out a bit more what's going on! Long one for you last time then, I've no idea what this one will be for me lol

I cannot keep up with this thread! 🤯😂

Yes @Pamparam I think you’re right - bodies are just weird and different alllll the time!! I got a flashing smiley face on Friday and then static Saturday so was pleased it worked but not convinced my “baseline” was accurate. But we gave it a bit of a shot on days we were together!

Good luck to all of you in 2ww!

X

AF finishes tomorrow and I think they OPK says to start tomorrow.

@M4v3r1ck I’m on CD14 and this mornings CB OPK was faulty!! I guess you never know, although I don’t think there’s much chance I O’d before day 10 🤷🏻‍♀️ I think more likely to be a rogue late O - it’s been as late as CD19 once before.

Why can’t bodies be straightforward!

@Kitekat81 I've been deficient for most of the last 8 years, it's an ongoing issue with me, they give me supplements and it gets back to a normal - ish level but then as soon as I stop taking it it plummets again so I regularly ask for it to be tested.
Symptoms tend to be tiredness, feeling run down, aches, pains in shins, hair and nails are weak, skin goes dry, hair falls out, low mood, anxiety.
But I also find that if vitamin D is low I'm just more susceptible to other things, I'm borderline diabetic and my hba1c results seem better when my vitamin D is a more normal level, I seem to lose weight easier too. Basically your body just functions better when vit d is normal, it affects the way cells behave (I believe). I'm not really sure if it affects fertility but there's certainly no harm in trying, most people in Britain are deficient unless you happen to work outside.

@M4v3r1ck oh nice so like us as well trying for a first baby! I hope that it happens soon and our nerves aren’t exhausted haha You’re right, every period in our lives dictates our choices and back then our choices must’ve made sense to us. All in good time.

@KG1145 glad that went well for you with your best friend. About 8dpo... the tww always seems to go by sooooo slowly. Really hope this is your month!

I can't keep up either 🤣

My partner finally rang doc and got through. The doctor will ring him in 10 days to discussion SA results.

@KG1145 nope partners definitely don't understand the extent of what we go through and how obsessed we are lol.

Cd4 for me, AF stops. Planning dtd day 6,7,10,11,13-16 unless my opk tell me why the different (guessing I ov day 14-15 tho just from cm)

Back off the Pepsi Max now at cd4 (not that 1 can here and there should make a difference in reality)