Helping the swimmers

[Annwen]

Hi, in my first week of trying for baby #1. I know that it's natural for some semen to leak out after DTD, but I want to keep as much in me for as long as possible to increase my chances, so I'm thinking of using my Diva Cup to keep the sperm up there, for a few hours. We usually make love at bedtime, so that would normally mean overnight. But among my friends some say that isn't a good idea - we should just let nature take its course. But one of them used her mooncup recently and got pregnant second cycle. So any thoughts or experiences on this ladies?

I don't think this is recommended. The vast majority of sperm are incorrectly shaped or immobile so you would just be keep ineffective sperm in your vagina for no reason. The strong successful sperm would already be on their way up.
You might make yourself sore wearing a menstrual cup after sex all the time.

Pre seed is meant to help the sperm swim further and quicker. But since you've only just started trying I would give it a shot normally first.

Good luck 🤞🏼

I am trying the ferti lilly cup, designed for this! Will let you know if it works...

Keeping semen in overnight can cause a UTI...

There is no proven science behind this. As @sabrinathemiddleagewitch said, the strong swimmers will be on their way up, they don't need the cup!

People fall pregnant from pre-ejaculate, contraception failing and many more variables. When the time is right, it will happen.

My advice would be to just dtd every other day and not focus on it too much for a while. You're only a week in and it can get all consuming. Believe me, I know, it took me 27 months from my week 1 until I gave birth, with fantastic fertility. Oh, and I used this cup method one cycle. Didn't work and felt uncomfortable.

I've got pregnant using a diva cup twice now.🤫

@sabrinathemiddleagewitch Thanks. Will definitely leave it to nature this first cycle at least.
@Sparrowfeeder Will have to find out more about this. And yes, do please let me know how you get on - and all the best to you. XX
@Chanel05 Thanks for the advice. We've always tended to make love every night, except when knackered or when AF has been about, and quite often in the morning as well, so it's not that we've stepped up for TTC. But some people say just doing it every other day gives you a better chance anyway - is that what you feel?
@els10 Thanks for a different viewpoint. Will balance up the arguments for next cycle if I don't catch on this one :-)

@Annwen hats off to you, you have more stamina than me! there's apparently very little in it whether you dtd daily or every other day. When I fell pregnant with my dd I dtd the day before ovulation in the morning, at midnight (it was Christmas!) and then again in the morning. I'd done this tons of cycles before without success though.

@Chanel05 Thanks again. I think then that we'll just carry on as usual for now and see what happens. As to stamina, I've always just loved having frequent and regular sex right from my first time and it's great to have found a DP who feels the same :-) XX

Have your OH ejaculate into the diva cup and then put it in overnight 🤣