Missing period! Stuck in limbo

[Skl2021]

Hi everyone just wanting some advice or experience. Ttc #3 last period was 19.12.2020 so was due on around 20th January. That has come and gone and still nothing. Negative tests obviously. Always been regular have missed the odd one before. Have also been using opks but there still all fairly light so nothing happening on that front. Just feel like I'm stuck in limbo. No ovulation happening up to now and no period. What do people do in this situation?! Just keep DTD? Or is it pointless with negative opks all the time. Soo frustrating. I'm now cd 49 roughly. driving myself mad testing all the time . Why does ttc make us go so crazy??!!

@Skl2021 by the way my positive OPK was CD16. I don't think it's that uncommon to get a positive later on in your cycle though. Have you ever tracked BBT?

Hi I'm on CD 11 and not feeling hopeful this month 😞

@Liz2021 sorry your feeling down. This whole ttc journey can be hard especially when u really want it and it doesn't happen easy. No I haven't tracked bbt. Might start if having no joy this cycle. I got the highest opk around cd 12 but not as dark as the control line. So don't know if that was it or not ?! IV been doing opks since anyway and there always either hardly showing or next day a bit of a line and vice versa. Doing my head in. I just thought cos I'm past cd 20 my chances are getting smaller might not be ovulating at all. Unless my cycle is long like my last one. I hope it isn't I can't stand that again 🤦
@Sparkles512 why u not feeling hopeful? U still have a good chance to make this month positive!!

@Skl2021 I read this yesterday (see images of OPK tests and the text underneath). Could be relevant? Seems like a fairly trustworthy source of info as well.

Ah sorry the link disappeared! Can you posts links on this? Trying one more time..

trmbaby.com/library/treatments/testing-women/ovulation/

@Skl2021 PS thanks a lot, I'm feeling down today but I'm sure I'll bounce back. Just got to try to not get too obsessed with TTC but it's much easier said than done in my experience!

@Liz2021 yes I just had a read and that's what I'm wondering if I missed the ovulation and that's why it wasn't completely dark and gone by the morning? Maybe it was a fast peak 🤣 only thing I can do is keep testing and see if there is another surge that's darker than that. I'm sick of doing opks 🤦 I also read that temperature takes a few days to increase after ovulation so hopefully that what happens with you? Yes u will bounce back. Haha everyone turns obsessive especially when we try so hard not to. I say every time I won't obsess and it's all I'm thinking about?! Driving me crazy ATM not knowing.

Hey!

I'm not sure I'm in line with your cycles, but I'm on CD31 and normally mine are 25-29

I tested tonight and it was negative 😓 I know it was probably too dilute so going to test again in the morning but I'm never this late. Would it be too early to show a BFP?xx

@Gspps hey and welcome. Did u track ovulation? I think a bfp should show by now? But never say never. Bit hard to say if u don't know when ovulation happened incase it was late. My cycles were quite regular than last month totally went off and think I was around cd50. Never happened before. Sorry it's not better news. I just kept testing until I got af. X

@skl2021 just feel deflated this month and we haven't been DTD much due to both being knackered after work

@Sparkles512 hope u feel better soon. It's so much isn't it. And as much as you try to relax and not stress it's harder saying that than actually doing it. We have been trying to DTD every other day as I don't have a clue still when ovulation is or if it's been and it's exhausting. I'm starting to hate it which isn't good. Why is ttc so stressful 🤦 then people fall pregnant so easy when they don't intend to 🙈

@skl2021 yes I am struggling to find when I'm ovulating/If I'm ovulating.
This month I have been taking Conceive plus ovulation support so hopefully that will help.
I have a telephone appointment with the gynecologist at the end of the month so I might ask if they can do some blood tests to check my hormones/see if I'm ovulating.
It's so exhausting! 2 close friends of my husbands have accidentally got their girlfriends pregnant which we are happy for but wishing we could be next.
Fingers crossed 🤞

@Sparkles512 your still early on cycle though arnt you? Still time. I'm roughly cd 22 ovulation tests still not showing anything. So might go from the darkest I had back a few weeks ago. The urge to poas is getting strong but without knowing I ovulated I'm heading for negatives. My mood is changing already and I'm getting period pains. Yes that would be helpful if you could get bloods done might answer some questions for you! That's what's annoying me not knowing if I ovulated. Yes I have fingers crossed for you 2 🤞

@skl2021 yes CD 15 so still early.
Think I'm just having one of those months haha need to just pick myself up and get on with it!
It's very annoying not knowing, I'm just glad I have MN so I don't feel so alone.
Let's hope AF stays away for you 🤞
How long are your cycles usually?

@Sparkles512 roughly 30 days haven't followed them to the exact day. Just last month threw me a bit never had one that long and praying I don't again 😂 cd 24 today so should expect af in the next week. So should have ovulated well before now if my cycles are back on track. I should be around 11 dpo if I go off my darkest ovulation test. IV took ic and there negative. So don't have much hope this cycle x

Hey, how you all doing?

@Crazydoglady123 hello 😁 not much tbh. I'm roughly cd 26. Around 14 dpo if I go from my darkest opk. Which wasnt as dark as the control line so don't even know if I ovulated this month. Continued to try opks and all faint. Taken some ic aswell all negative. So think I'm out this month. Surely something would be showing by now. Expecting af within the next few days hopefully unless I have another silly cycle! How are you feeling? Hope your a bit better xx

@Skl2021 I'm same, cd26. Tiny bit of spotting today so af due very soon (at last!) I'm trying Soy Isoflavones alongside my Clomid next cycle, you should have a read about them as they act like a "natural" Clomid so may help your body ovulate a bit better

@Crazydoglady123 hope af comes soon so you can get onto the next cycle. I will have a look IV never tried anything like that. I suppose I will have to opk the whole of next month aswell to give me an idea if this month was a one off missed ovulation or if I'm actually not ovulating as I didn't take opks first month. I might even miss this next month if af arrives on time as I would be due around Christmas and don't think we want a Christmas baby. But then on the other hand in my head I'm thinking what if its the month! 🤣🤦 Sends u crazy this ttc. I took another test this morning and negative so think that's me officialy out now going to wait for af to show sick of seeing negatives. 😔

@Sparkles512 have u hit ovulation yet? How u doing

@Crazydoglady123 @Sparkles512 just took a ovulation test and it's positive 🤪🤦🤣 wth is happening?! Darkest one IV had this month.. surely I can't be ovulating now?!

@Skl2021 have you done a pregnancy test? Lots of people get positive OPKs when pregnant...

@Crazydoglady123 yes I did as I also read it can be a sign. I only used a cheapie tho as I don't have any others in. A frer would probably be the best to try. Going to keep taking the opks and see what happens. I also better get busy and DTD incase it is ovulation 🤦🤪 so confusing. Don't want to get my hopes up 😩

@Skl2021 I'd DTD and do a FRER Monday morn if no af

@skl2021 ah how frustrating! Let's hope it's a sign 🤞 get a FRER ASAP!
CD 19 and not his ovulation yet, hate these long cycles they just drag 😞
I was thinking exactly the same about a Christmas baby it's not ideal.... But I was meant to be born in February but came 8 weeks early at the beginning of December so I guess there's no guarantee!
Sending baby dust to everyone 🤞