Meaty periods, ivf roadmaps & announcing BFPS on tannoy 📢TTC Bus 31

[Minster2012]

We’ve got the fastest TTC 🚌in the UK & we aren’t afraid of a modification or 2 as we have a bus with a beautiful panoramic roof seat where there is wine & snacks a plenty for those that need a bit of a breather from our race car but still hang on to our ride! 🌞

We thought we might make it to Valentine’s Day ♥️💓 but oh no we talk too much! If you want to talk most things other than TTC we are the right bus, tv, (married at first sight what the hell?!), pets, annoying DHs, good food & exactly how many orgasms should we be having?

We’ve got a rowdy bus of newbies, oldies with history, excited ladies going forwards for IVF & pregnant mates we can’t get rid of...& February is gonna be BIG!

So grab your crotchless panties and not much else for Valentine’s Day 💓and invite your men (or women folk) to dinner cos they are being treated like a REAL LADY. Forget January blues. February is where it’s at and we say UP YOURS TTC, we are cumming to get you 🙌🏻🥰

And if you see mention of my blog then blame these guys they made me do it...#shamelessplug

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Story so far...

June 24 BFPs
July 11 BFPs
August 18 BFPs
Sep 4 BFPs
Oct 7 BFPs
Nov 7 BFPs
Dec 14 BFPs
7 BFPs for jan

@HollieL567 taken the last slot in jan!

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@DKDK123 we can't afford to put it on hold (age) but I feel the same really. Likely so do most people. There isn't a spark when you are locked in together. Me and DH have been locked in wfh since last March. Honestly it's beginning to drive me crackers. But I've never been someone cut out for that stuff. I've friends who live in their DHs pockets (through choice) and I've honestly never understood it. In the real world we are both at work. I do horsey things and he has his hobby. We do spend a fair amount of time together compared to some people (some really don't spend any?) but going out with friends on the odd occasion and going out together too and enjoying time with others really does have an impact IMO? We aren't even that sociable really (compared to others) but I think you need an element of it? Right now its work, clean, easy, sleep, walk the dog, shopping, have sex. I can't even be bothered to make the effort to look nice any more? I would honestly be surprised if anyone is loving this right now and their relationships are the best they've ever been. It's really hard work. If I had a choice (I'm 38 and odds are against me anyway) I think I'd not be ttc right now. Its just not how I imagined it to be. No one should be ttc (particularly their 1st) with this added shit going on. Its hard enough as it is. But it's like if that or nothing for some of us and I feel cheated in a way. My wedding took a similar (nightmare) path and I just sit back and think- why can things just never go well for me? Yes I usually get what I want in the end. But god its hard work and not the happy time it's cracked up to be!

@paintfairy @DKDK123 hear hear on the lockdown rut. This week I've made more of an effort to shower and put makeup on lol but I've still not work trousers that weren't gym leggings this year!

@Justanothercyster I forgot to say yesterday but Jesus your family! Whose mind just jumps to "she must be knocked up "or about to be just because you buy a property?

@Florence13 I'm sorry you're stuck in limbo, it's a nice little shit cherry on the turd sundae that is a miscarriage anyway...

Right. I'm feeling good so far girls, just done nearly 19k steps before noon today! Went on a walk this morning and left OH in bed as I was feeling restless but then when I got home OH asked if we could go for a walk together. All fasted as well so hopefully I got some good cal burning out of it 🤞

@Franklydear @lucyrp @Juno231 @vil10 oh I'm so glad I'm not alone in not really doing a big valentines thing. I do like the idea of cooking a nice steak or something although might make a roast with the trimmings instead as its a Sunday! @paintfairy yeh we did go out a few times in the early years but it felt a bit forced & just didn't feel like us. @kirky685 that Greek night sounds lush!!! Can I come?! Haha

I agree with @dkdk123 that thoughtful things throughout the year is best. With regards to working on your r.ship I think if that's something you can do time wise and want to do then it's a good idea. Essentially the foundation of your family is the two of you so working to keep you both strong & happy is so important 💕

@paintfairy reading your post... I'm sorry its been so hard. I can't imagine what that's been like. Both DH & I are keyworkers so have still be going to work like normal so I feel like the lockdowns don't have the same impact on us. But I'd definitely say it's impacted the effort you put into things and we spend quite alot of time apart in the house, and I miss alone time. We're similar to you guys where we socialise separately a fair amount and do our own hobbies so it's definitely different. I can see where the pressure comes from. I'm sorry you're not feeling in the best place ttc but feeling like theres no other options. We're all here for you. It will be worth it in the end., 🌻

Also on the photo front @dkdk123 I just print out some every few months via free prints or snap fish. I get them matt rather than gloss, and I've just ordered another lot from our 2018 holiday to France. Just tyring to build it up slow & steady. I love looking through old photos at my parents so I'd love for my kids to do the same one day 💕

We don't really do Valentine's Day either!
I have got a card and ordered some local baked goods to collect. Cornflake brownies 😍😍

@DKDK123 your situation sounds quite similar to mine, had anybody given you any idea why it might be happening ? I'm tired of feeling like a hopeless cause and no clues!
I think having a chat about TTC etc is a good idea, we aren't far off that either and I think lots of others without even the stress of TTC feel the same. You've got this xx

@Justanothercyster im sorry the family are so inconsiderate. Like why would they even say stuff like that even if they were thinking it ???

My pack of 100 easy @ home have arrived. Here's to the next cycle 🤞🏼
I'm feeling really emotionally and mentally drained at the moment.

@Sausage1990 yeah, I think if we were both going out to work there is at least some kind of change and normality there. But it's like bloody groundhog day. 🤣

@Florence13 back to normal straight away for me
@DKDK123 it is important to look after the relationship too, a little break won't be a problem
Work is done for the week, and DH said he'll have a KFC waiting at home, he's got me some spikey things to put on my shoes, cos we have predicted ice and snow and I am clumsy

Oh the nausea, I am even getting travel sick on the bus, not thrown up yet, this better not be pms 😭

Sorry for the late check in, had my jab & been chilling a bit I'm sorry it's a bit of a down day fir some @DKDK123 we got to that point when we did the second cycle & I felt like it was just me invested in it because I had all the appointments on my own, was trying to be zen & DH totally switched off from it as work was busy so he just blocked it out & left me to it to the point where he forgot testing day we agreed then as I burst into tears at the BFN he left me in tears to go shooting with his cousin & he didn't text me at all or any communication that day. He could take a day off for his hobby but not to support me. That day I booked myself into a spa hotel for 2 nights 3 days for the following days & told him we either did it together or not at all & work could fuck off I was more important & he needed to realise that. I packed a bag with wine chocolate & off I went which included over the clinic's "official test day". We've been so much stronger for it & communicate so much better. So much of it was caused by Covid but also how we dealt with it, definitely do what you feel you need. Big big love to you xxx

@clolo vitamin D is the saviour of the world! Both DH & I take additional vit D. I will have another chat with her & see what her company do, they are all natural, DH has agreed to take them just in case @paintfairy I know what you mean, would you want to try a different one?

@paintfairy on the "relationship & WFH" side, we are similar to you guys relationship wise I think, we have our own hobbies, separate, then we socialise together & socialise apart. DH has worked throughout & yet STILL says OMG lockdown is horrendous (he means the weekends/evenings) being here with me constantly if he was actually WFH & in lockdown not "going into work" the whole time genuinely I think we'd be headed for divorce. It would drive him crackers. Especially with a velcro child to him. My parents do EVERYTHING together. His parents are like us. It caused issues in the summer when I was shielding & he was whinging & I was like "you are SEEING PPL at work???" Pffffffttttt
He's still like that at the weekends though.

@Florence13 I'm sorry the miscarriage has screwed your cycle up, it's so bloody hard.

We've got the 3 course meal coming for valentines from the pub across the road which I shall now include a bottle of red wine to go with our steak medallions & have them raw 🤪, loving the sound of Greek night @Kirky658 if I'm not on AF I might get my sexy undies out but may be one of the ones not getting action 😫

@Juno231 @Sausage1990 I use Photobooks and do a photo book every month (ok I forgot this month) for the cost of postage it's like £7 a month for a book and it's dead easy (I mean there's not a lot going on but hey!)

@Franklydear aaah it sounds so promising!

@Juno231 check you on the 19k steps! Well done💪🏽

@Sausage1990 I considered doing a nice roast too but I think we're going to have our meal on the Saturday instead because then we can have a few drinks, I'll be off for half term but OH will be in work on the Monday!

@blackcurrantqueen sorry to hear you're feeling a bit down! But here's to the next cycle!!

Just used the conceive plus for the first time, you definitely don't need a lot and I like how it just dries normally and has no scent, OH liked it too!

@Florence13 one of my losses was at 5-6 weeks, it didn't seem to affect my cycle and must have ovulated at a normal time the cycle after as conceived again with no AF in between (another MC) think it's luck of the draw as my last MC although further along has seemed to completely balls up my cycle and had massive luteal phases x

@Juno231 it is pants I guess it’s my own fault for not tracking this cycle. I just don’t really feel any PMS or pregnancy symptoms so just not sure and don’t want to waste tests and just feel more heartbroken. Good going with all those steps already today!!

@Franklydear thanks for letting me know if mine has done that then I think I would be due AF any day now. Your symptoms sound really promising.

@Minster2012 it really is, how are you feeling?

@bez91 thanks for sharing your experiences hun.

@Vil10 woo get on it girl!! Fingers crossed for you that this will be the magic ingredient.

@Franklydear ooooooooooo then kfc you say!

@Florence13 I genuinely think this whole TTC in any form, TTC naturally, in fact ICSI anything is ALL luck of the draw, which way the wind blows & how you scratch your nose whilst rubbing your tummy three times in a backwards motion.

@Minster2012 that is very true, it is complete mind fuck territory

@Minster2012 currently 3dpo so wait, wait, wait. When spoke to midwife after CP she said go to GP after 6 mths if we don't get pregnant. I'd like to go in armed with as much info as possible so they don't just bin me off.

@Florence13 I had loss at around 6 weeks in December i think the next cycle was shorter and went from 28 days to 26 and the same this month as I think OV CD 12 instead of CD 14

@Minster2012 yeah at least he's seeing people at work! Its just not natural though, is it? Absence makes the heart grow fonder and all that. 🤣

I've tried many vitamins now. I've done boots, pregnacare, folic acid alone and now seven seas for month 2 (as well as trying other things at various points in addition to the above). Interestingly last month and this are different. I'm taking EPO though too, so I'm not sure which it is doing it. But nipples hurt from before ovulation even (definitely not standard for me) and I've been struggling with hot hands and feet too in the night. I do get this sometimes in my LP but it's been all the time. They are my only observations though so far. Maybe I'll drop one or the other next month and see if there's any change.
I think it's more the man vitamins I worry about and its less easy to see if they make any difference. Would he be better off not taking wellman, on something else instead? I don't know!

@Minster2012 unfortunately KFC was flushed, as it was yummy but I couldn't keep it down

@Justanothercyster sorry people have made you feel sad. Hope you can enjoy the house excitement again soon after a little wallow x

@DKDK123 I'm not surprised ttc is taking it's toll. Hou and OH have had a bumpy ride. Do what you need to do to look after yourselves and your relationship.

@Sausage1990 good work on the photos! I started organising mine to print but abandoned it again 😬 love the storage, where did you get that?

Hope the jab went ok @Minster2012.

Not caught up but I'll dip back in later

@DOB78 thanks for sharing your experience hun what sort of tracking do you do throughout your cycle?

@vil10 yayyyy to conceive plus!!!
@minster2012 I'm jealous of the sound of those steaks. And the sexy undies. Nothing fits me so I reckon I will be sex less on v day too 😂
@franklydear you're not out till AF sings (I wanted to use till the fat lady sings, clearly me atm haha)

So today was nip to town, walk dog and let him run round the park, back for a run, homemade maccies muffins for lunch with bacon and poached eggs, then quite quickly realised i was knackered and slept for 90 mins. DH is lying on me snoring away, need to get up as I've got brownies to make

@Florence13 I use premom and clue apps. I try and monitor CM too had loads before last BFP seems to have disappeared the last 2 months.
Also for the 1st time this month I've used OPK which were positive CD 11 and 12 potentially we'd have missed OV as we we're waiting to DTD CD 14 trying Shettles method for a boy, just to complicate matters.
Sorry for blabbing on

@DOB78 yes I’m just using a couple of apps and CM this cycle so really not sure when I ovulated. No not blabbing on at all thanks so much for sharing with me ☺️

@Vil10 yep I'm pulling out all the stops! Dh always gets a good show on Valentine's due to his bday being the day before so it's double celebrations 🥳 you'll def have to get one more sesh in on the day if you're both not too knackered 😂
@Justanothercyster I feel your pain on the house front, I really do!! We've had our flat on the market ages and it's always ooh you'll have loads of room for kids, no shit Sherlock! 🙄 anyway you take all the time you need and congratulations on the purchase!! 🎉
@blackcurrantqueen last nights dinner looked fab! Don't you love a Dh that can cook 👨‍🍳
@HollieL567 everything will be crossed for you lovely ☺️
@Minster2012 yes ours is male factor. Low count, motility and morphology over here! Yeah he's on proxceed plus sachets twice a day and no booze! Though I'll let him have a drink on his bday next sat 🤭
@clolo I've got mine taking vit D as well! That's the one I have to give to him tho as he won't just go and do that even tho they're in the same cupboard as his supplements 🙄

Quick catch up for me today ladies! Spotting has begun after a nice sesh this afternoon so that's me on tonight/tomorrow. Roll on my appointments!
22nd feb AMH & SA
8th March AFC
10th March private consultation
29th March is period due date after the consult and the date we're hoping to start!!

@clolo whoop! All the dignity out the window that day 😂 it's my bday mid March so I'm feeling March is gonna be a good month all round! 🤞🏾🤩