TTC after MC - Jan/Feb 2021 (Thread 17)

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A new thread for those trying to conceive after miscarriage.

Have tried to tag as many people as possible!
@Bellabubble
@Pancakes7
@TheDaydreamBelievers
@bez91
@NatJ24
@NatNoo96
@ELMcg
@RichmondLady1981
@susiebluebell
@Garman
@RS2609
@bumptobean
@bubblybrit
@PrettyPinkPansies

@NatJ24 it does make me feel a bit better that others have days and days of flashing. I'm worried about running out of strips to be honest so think I will test this evening and then go to once a day after that.

@PrettyPinkPansies I do remember! I think I'm just getting frustrated! We are also getting a bit sick of having to DTD through the week so hoping I get a static soon 😂.

I don't get many ovulation symptoms but I did have a bit more CM than normal on Tuesday so im like maybe I did ovulate, it's just such an unknown! I guess I'll know in a couple of weeks if I did or didn't!

@bez91 yes I feel it is a bit of a guess! Pre miscarriage I would be ovulating right now based on when I got pregnant but as you say I do feel all over the place since MC. Just given my AF was weird and not getting my usual tell tale signs of where I am in my cycle. I am going to stick with it until the strips run out and then if they do I will assume I've missed it as can't see myself ovulating after CD21.

@ttcrainbowbaby1 I know what you mean about the pressure. I was due 28th Feb so this month feels like I really need a win. But I don't think we're getting a BFP this month. I have a feeling. I want to wait till 10DPO but knowing me I'll struggle to wait and test at 8DPO too.

@Pancakes7@ttcrainbowbaby1@Ra1nb0w85 I’m 5DPO too! Looks like we will all be testing together 😊

@PrettyPinkPansies could it be implantation bleed?? It’s within the 6-12 day window 🤞🏻🤞🏻

@SLCxxx what does that look like? This is like EWCM but just slightly tinged a little yellowish / browny but really light.

@ELMcg I know thats the thing, you only have so many strips! Hopefully you get the static face before you run out, just so you know. Just keep testing like you have said, until you run out, then if no static take it as you missed it. But you could still get the static over the next few days 🤞
I've been getting pains on my right side and convinced they are ovulation pains but then still having the stupid flashing face 😂
@bez91 it definitely is still a bit of a guessing game even when tracking. But like you've said after MC you can be a bit irregular or different so you just have to be prepared for that.
I am on CD16 at the minute...Once ovulation is done its then the TWW! Constant waiting and counting down haha

@Pancakes7 it's comforting to know you're in a similar situation at least. We aren't alone. I was due the 8th October 2020, and on my due date we lit a special candle and my mum and nan did too. They sent my partner and I a photo of their candles burning and we'd set up an area where we had a candle with "for our little angel" written on it, and then a few others, and I bought a bunch of roses too. It was a really sad but warming day, and every year I know we will light our candles and remember our baby. I also got a tattoo the week before of a marigold, as it's October's birth flower. I thought it would get easier once our due date had passed but honestly it hasn't. I miss our baby every day and all I can think now is that we would be parents and our little one would be a few months old. My partner's grandfather died around the time we lost our baby so he says that he thinks he is looking after the little one.

Sorry I just went on a bit of a tangent but i don't really have anyone who has gone through what I have and it feels comforting to know all these ladies know how I feel. I get the feeling when it feels as if you're not pregnant, and you're so hopeless. I'm sick of ttc. I've spent countless hours overthinking every month and the tww is hell.

Fingers crossed for us, I hope we get to share good news.

@PrettyPinkPansies it can be brown, pink or red and can be as little as spotting. Google implantation bleeding pictures xx

@SLCxxx it doesn't really look like that. I've attached a pic if you're not bothered by a TMI

@ttcrainbowbaby1 Aw that's lovely. We have never marked the due date of our first loss so probably won't this time either. But it's so lovely that you and your family did. You have to do what feels right for you. My last mmc I was pregnant again by my due date Which was 13th December. I thought I would be pregnant this time. But sadly not. Or very unlikely that I could be early days pregnant. 🤞🏻

@Pancakes7 we really thought we would be pregnant again by our due date :( it really hurt. We found out our baby died at 12 weeks, and our family had known before our scan we were pregnant and stuff so I think that's why everyone joined in and we made it a date. I realllllyyyy hope we are pregnant this month !

@PrettyPinkPansies I had the same discharge! Started on 9DPO for 2 days! On 11DPO changed to brown... On an off still, only when I wipe. Really strange, today Im on 13DPO, and test was negative this morning. Since the mc, I get weird spotting days before AF... I cant handle these strange periods, makes me so frustrated :(

@Tina8800 aw no! I was going to say it's not something I have noticed before when I got pregnant. I did have increased creamy discharge last time but dont remember having anything of this colour. If anything, it reminds me of a colour discharge I had before my Mc bleeding started after an internal scan x

@ttcrainbowbaby1 what a lovely way of marking a significant day. I'm sure it brought such comfort to you and your family 😔
@Pancakes7 I always say I'm not going to test early ... cave every month though!
This month is a bit different for me ... I am normally like clockwork but I ovulated a few days later than I normally would, so AF is showing due on 9dpo but guessing will probably be later now.
How are you both feeling? I find wknds in particular go so slowly in the tww X

How many DPO did everyone get their BFP in the past? This is the first time I've ever tracked ovulation so don't know what to expect really x

@Ra1nb0w85 @ttcrainbowbaby1 I'm on furlough atm having not really returned since maternity leave. I have a 20 month old son. So for me the weekend goes quickly with my husband home. In the week I meet friends for walks and have my Mum over as she is in a support bubble with us. Some days can get a bit lonely. I find I over think 🙈 which is bad, but I can't help it. Each month I start working out what the due date would be if I got pregnant. Stupid I know! But for some reason this month I'm just think it's not going to happen. Maybe that's good, I'm not convincing myself I'm pregnant for once.

@PrettyPinkPansies I've never tracked before, I used to just go by my cm and my app but the last 2 times I think it was a BFP around 14dpo

@PrettyPinkPansies the first time I didn’t test until 21dpo - it was our first try and I wasn’t expecting to be so lucky, and was so chilled and relaxed, then I had my mmc and I had a couple of months where I tested early as I symptom spotted like crazy! Second time I got my bfp 16dpo (my cycle length varoed from 26-30days) and this time I tested 9dpo and got a negative and on 13dpo got a bfp x

@Pancakes7 did you only test the once at 14DPO?

@Bellabubble that's reassuring about when you get a negative at 9Dpo, did you not test until 16dpo second time round?

So I suppose I've never noticed before (maybe because I've not been paying close attention) but I have just noticed some very obvious Ewcm just now. Does that mean I'm ovulating or about to? just never spotted it previously so not sure!

@PrettyPinkPansies it's hard to remember exactly but I knew I'd ovulated early by my cm when I was pregnant with my son. So my app thought it was 12DPO but I knew it was more like 14dpo. That's the only time I tested which was 2/3 days before my app predicted my af. I used boots early test.

This year I tested when I thought my af was 2 days late but I must have ovulate late as I got a negative on a cheap step test (not early) I waited 2 days which I think would have been about 14dpo and got a positive on a cheap strip test.

Sorry not sure if this helps or not

@Pancakes7 it does thank you! Xx

@ELMcg it's hard to say without doing ovulation tests, I've had EWCM a few times this cycle, but I would DTD just incase to cover all bases if you're still in your fertile window!

@PrettyPinkPansies I'm currently in my high window but haven't had peak yet. According to my app I would ovulate today but just wondered people's experience with Ewcm as I've never noticed it before!

@ELMcg deffo sounds like a good sign then! Get BD if you can! X