TTC after MC - Jan/Feb 2021 (Thread 17)

[PumpkinEverything]

A new thread for those trying to conceive after miscarriage.

Have tried to tag as many people as possible!
@Bellabubble
@Pancakes7
@TheDaydreamBelievers
@bez91
@NatJ24
@NatNoo96
@ELMcg
@RichmondLady1981
@susiebluebell
@Garman
@RS2609
@bumptobean
@bubblybrit
@PrettyPinkPansies

Thanks @Florence15, it is hard, especially when I know this is def my last chance, if this one doesnt happen then I am giving up, I cant put myself through it!

@Marvellouslymadmum, we are def very similar, its tough, funny it scares the hell out of me and I go through the whole can I really do this anyway and then terrified that it turns out not to be a BFP!

Thank you everyone, will keep you all posted!

@PumpkinEverything how are you doing lovely? How you feeling?

@gizmo167 finding it all a bit surreal if I’m honest as it’s not been that long and I’m trying to think if there’s anything I need to change, eg cut down on the odd regular coffee I had instead of decaf the last few weeks 😂 I feel really happy and excited but felt a bit anxious when I was trying to sleep last night as my husband touched my stomach in his sleep and I started panicking that something is going to go wrong and he’s going to be devastated again 😔
All fingers crossed your line gets darker, I’ve been reading all the posts as normal still. Are you holding off until tomorrow? I think they are supposed to darken every 48 hours rather than everyday so probably best to wait anyway

Hi ladies,

Sorry for your losses and congratulations for the pregnancies 💕 I hope it’s okay to join.

I’m 35 from England, have 2 beautiful daughters (youngest 5yo) and had a 8wk natural miscarriage 6/1/21. Once I managed to scrape myself off the floor we decided to try again. After reading through many heartfelt threads like this we decided to try the every other day method.

I became obsessed and bought the easy@home Ovulations strips and uploaded to Premom app (very useful) and started testing with clear blue (CB) advanced ovulation test when I saw the lines getting darker (although they all looked quite similar). I got my flashing smiley and peak on Premom Sunday morning, and because I had read soo much about these tests I decided to test again that evening (as I know LH is higher then) and so I didn’t wee or drink for 4 hours and got my static CB smiley Sunday evening.. so I’m assuming that means I ovulated yesterday (been cramping since Friday) 🤷🏼‍♀️

I’m 1DPO and I have no idea how I’m going to wait, so nice to see I’m not alone and read all of your stories. 🤞🏻 For everyone xx

Aw thats good @PumpkinEverything youre doing ok, my OH hasnt really said anything! Hes very much the wait and see type, I think he wont until we see a dark line and even then after the mc I dont think it will sink in anyway!

I wont test until tomorrow, I will be CD33 then and havent gone pass a 33 day cycle since I had my DD 7 years ago, apart from the pregnancy last year that is! I'm feeling quite a bit of cramping, not exactly describe it as painful, just odd and not like AF cramps at all, also boobs are absolutely killing me!

Mine would be the same @gizmo167 I think if I’d had a light line yesterday I wouldn’t have told him yet as he wouldn’t believe it. He always thought I was crazy for seeing the shadow of lines when I was hoping for my negative after MMC 😂

Hopefully it’s just been too early and that’s all it is! I would describe the cramping I had as odd too, just didn’t feel like my normal ones the last few days, so hopefully yours is similar to mine and you get a good outcome tomorrow 😊

Did any or you ovulate shortly after your mc? I started tracking bbt again and bought some opk's and started using them straight away to get the hang of it by ovlation and it looks like I've already ovulated according to them 🤔 I'm confused

@Marvellouslymadmum I tracked my ovulation from the day after I stopped bleeding and it finally showed positive CD26 (if CD1 is start of MC) x

@SLCxxx hmm so definitely not early then! My body is all over the place 🤦🏼‍♀️

But I also found OPKs always had 2 lines and could only tell the difference when I kept and compared them

Can I join?
My story:
Missed miscarriage at 13 weeks - November 17
Missed miscarriage 9 weeks - July 2020
Two chemical pregnancies one September 2020 and one December 2020.
Had all testing possible and all entirely normal!

Currently on the two week wait for this cycle trying to conceive again. Anyone else on the dreaded two week wait?

@Strawberry08 so sorry for your losses. I’m just starting my TWW, I’m on day1! Good luck 🤞🏻

@SLCxxx thank you! Ah I am day 2, CD16. I am awful for not being able to resist testing from 8DPO but trying to stay strong this month and wait until about 12dpo.
Good luck to you too!

@Strawberry08 not at all, This morning I ordered 20 early detection pregnancy tests so I will also be testing from then 🙈

@SLCxxx I haven’t ordered any purely so that I have something stopping me from testing. The longer I haven’t bought tests, the longer I can’t test 🤣

@Marvellouslymadmum I got a peak on a CB digi CD24, and a peak on cheapies the next day. This is as if CD1 is first day of bleeding.

@SLCxx @Strawberry08 I'm also in the TWW. 7DPO I think. When are you testing? I'm contemplating doing one tonight / tomorrow. Would this be to early? I wanted to hold out until at least 10DPO

@PrettyPinkPansies I got a light positive line @ 9DPO with the one I miscarried and that was a normal test (not early) so will probably only be able to hold out to day 8/9 before testing 🙈 then if negative will continue to test until 14DPO I guess 🤷🏼‍♀️ Lol. I also plan to continue to DTD every other day just incase 🙈 my poor tired hubby.

This is my first time I’ve tracked ovulation and had the real TWW, my heart goes out to you guys who do this fairly often, wish I could make all our 🌈 dreams come true

@PrettyPinkPansies if I was you I would hold out to 10 DPO. Getting a very faint positive or a negative at 7 DPO will make you more stressed than the pain of waiting a few more days. Try to wait if you can, but easier said than done. Keep us updated though!!

@Strawberry08 the more I think about it the more I want to do it!! It's like the little devil sitting on your shoulder! If I did do one and got a negative I would be disappointed yes but not disheartened at that point

@PrettyPinkPansies ah ok cool. I only got the monitor as I'm useless with the normal sticks. But the digital ones are probably easier. I keep thinking if I relax more maybe I'll happen. But it's hard to relax isn't it! We're dtd every other day regardless, to hopefully catch it. I feel like all my CM has gone today, which is weird. I used to have a lot around peak. (Sorry tmi) I'm hoping it'll come back.

@NatJ24 I'm not very good with the abbreviations sometimes. I'm day 16 so I guess that's CD16. What does the CD stand for? 🤦🏼‍♀️

@Strawberry08 I'm so sorry for your losses. I really hope you get your BFP soon 🤞🏻🌈

@NatJ24 Ok I just got it CD = Cycle day 🙈😂

Please can I join? I had a mmc in December. We're half trying, what will be, will be. I have two daughters. Good luck to you all!

@Pancakes7 is This your first cycle since MC?

@PrettyPinkPansies well whatever you decide, let me know how you get on!! Good luck