Completely fed up

[Asthenia]

Anyone else? 6 months off the pill, 6 months of tracking and timing and temping and have just come on my (most painful) period yet. I’m fed up of seeing pregnancy announcements on social media, fed up of reading into every little symptom - last night I had a really painful tailbone which I read online could be a symptom and massively got my hopes up...what an idiot! Fed up of sore boobs. Fed up of putting off buying another pair of period knickers which I love because they’re expensive and next month might be the month! Fed up of googling every tiny thing (I need my phone taken off me!) fed up of worrying about my 8 day luteal phase and constantly looking for stories about how people conceived despite it.
I’m about to turn 30 which I KNOW is young, and I KNOW 6 months of TTC isn’t that long but it doesn’t feel that way. Four of my friends have got pregnant in the last 6 months, two of them completely by accident, the other two on their first go. I’m happy for them but it doesn’t help in making me feel like there’s something wrong with me - I would feel less bad if it had taken them longer.
I also feel like every time I google/mumsnet I find posts that I’m nodding along with about not getting pregnant and then the poster says they’ve already got 1 or 2 children. I imagine secondary infertility must be painful and I’m not belittling that but sometimes it makes me feel worse because I think well at least you know your body is capable of pregnancy, I’ve never even had a hint of a positive test in my life (this isn’t bashing or criticising anyone btw, just my own stupid thought process).
Feeling very negative but I think that’s probably largely to do with horrendous period pains and CD1 and hopefully I will feel better tomorrow. Anyone else completely fed up? Please feel free to rant.

Asthenia pomegranate juice you say... Off to amazon pantry I go we usually have pomegranates in because dh loves them, might just have to start buying in bulk if they're good for TTC too

@asthenia what does pomegranate juice do? I've also heard Grapefruit juice is good for you but not sure why 😂
I can never seem to find anything other than apple or orange juice in our supermarket!

I've been taking inositol since last year and I think it made a difference sparkles . Have you ever had any investigation for your periods? Yours sound like mine and I'm being looked at for PCOS.

@alexaplaywhitenoise
Yes I've heard my symptoms are similar to PCOS and Endometriosis.

I usually get fobbed of by the Dr's who tell me some people have awful periods and it's just something I have to live with, this has been going on for over 10 years now back and to in pain and bleeding for months on end or no bleeding at all.

Although I have now been reffered to a gynecologist at the end of last year who wasn't too helpful he just told me some people have bad periods and to use the coil!

I'm awaiting a follow up appointment next month to see if they will do any tests 🤞

[quote Sparkles512]@alexaplaywhitenoise
Yes I've heard my symptoms are similar to PCOS and Endometriosis.

I usually get fobbed of by the Dr's who tell me some people have awful periods and it's just something I have to live with, this has been going on for over 10 years now back and to in pain and bleeding for months on end or no bleeding at all.

Although I have now been reffered to a gynecologist at the end of last year who wasn't too helpful he just told me some people have bad periods and to use the coil!

I'm awaiting a follow up appointment next month to see if they will do any tests 🤞[/quote]
That's atrocious, and can't even be labelled as care! Push for blood tests and a scan. It's the least you deserve!

@alexaplaywhitenoise I have been told by 2 different doctors when I was around 19 to have a baby and that will solve my period problems 🙈

I have heard of people having better periods after children but that's not always the case.

And at the age of 19 I was single and in no position to have a baby!

I will see if I can get any sense from the gynecologist next month 🤞

So re the pomegranate juice I read that it can help thicken your womb lining which obv is good for implantation. And just generally it’s full of antioxidants and Vitamin C which increases progesterone (I need that longer LP!) Might not be doing anything at all but I’ve noticed I’ve stopped spotting the couple of days before AF whereas I always used to start spotting about 6dpo. I also heard they recommend drinking it after IUI/IVF treatment. So not a magic potion but every little helps!
Sorry to hear about your troubles with your periods, it sounds awful. It’s shocking to me how the pill is prescribed for so many period issues rather than actually looking at the causes! I have so many friends coming off the pill now to TTC and having terrible periods coz they got put on the pill at 15 or whatever to stop said terrible periods in the first place!
I’ve always been lucky with mine, v regular and not too heavy. Really feel for those with difficult ones. I always thought that if you had normal/regular periods then that meant you were definitely fertile and TTC would be easy but obviously that’s not the case. It’s all so complicated.
Hey-ho, at least it’s Friday!! I’d ask if anyone had any exciting weekend plans but...

@AlexaPlayWhiteNoise also wanted to say separately that I’m so sorry for your loss - what you went through sounds utterly horrific and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. I can imagine the worry and anxiety that comes with TTC now
Honestly wishing you all the best and for when the time comes a healthy baby and pregnancy!

Oh @AlexaPlayWhiteNoise that sounds completely traumatising, especially having to go through it alone because of Covid. My heart is with you. I suppose it's better to have known earlier to prevent further suffering. I can see why you would be extra keen on the supplements. It's good to know that you have a welcoming uterine lining and that you have lots going for you that way.

@Sparkles512 definitely push for investigation. Do they even know you've been trying to conceive? Maybe tell them you've been trying for a year and that your cycles are irregular.

@Asthenia pomegranate juice... Who knew? I'll have to keep my eye out for some.

I've got some inositol powder this month. I hope it helps. We've got so many supplements, it's a bit ridiculous.

Soooo.... Clear Blue.... Flashy smiley face already! I don't get it. I'm only on cycle day 7. What IS that? Maybe I'm going to have a short cycle this time. All the more opportunities to conceive in a year!? Please lord let this be the month!
Can't believe it's Friday already. Half term has disappeared in a heartbeat.

Hello,
Mind if I join the thread?
We are on cycle 3 and in the 2ww. I'm really struggling with all the pregnancy announcements around at the minute.
I am fully aware that cycle 3 is early in the scheme of things but I was not prepared for intense rush of jealously everytime I see a pregnant woman or hear another announcement.
I'm 34 (rapidly approaching 35) and already wondering whether we're left it too late or whether we will be able to fall naturally..

My friend had a baby last year and fell on the first try, I'm fully expecting a friend to announce within the next 4 weeks judging by her recent behavior. I've actually just had a little cry at a girl on fb who came off her coil 5 weeks ago & bamm! Pregnant!

Noone knows we are trying and OH is way to chilled about it so I feel like I'm on my own a bit.

I read the OP and just thought "that is me". I've read the books, timed the sex, used digital tests and still BFN.

Its so frustrating!

Hi @CLP86 - I totally get where you're coming from. I'm a little younger (nearly 29) but my OH is turning 35 this week, and we are now on month 5 of TTC. I've spent the last three months timing it properly with ovulation tests.

I know it's still early days, but my social media is also completely full of pregnancy/birth announcements at the moment. I try not to let it get me down, but it's hard. I'm 9DPO today with AF due tomorrow (short luteal phase this time it seems) and got another BFN today. I can't help but feel so deflated every time.

In regards to your age, try not to fret. My friend is 35 and she conceived her healthy baby (just turned 1) within six months, so fingers crossed for you 🤞🏻

@MaltyJones92
Thank you for your post - I am trying to remind myself that it is still early days but its so hard when it seems like people around me are just falling without issue and so quickly!

The 2ww is the absolute worse!

I hope it happens quickly for you.

Oh @AlexaPlayWhiteNoise I have just read your earlier post about DS2, and I just wanted to say how terribly sorry I am. What a horrible, horrible things to have to deal with, especially during Covid. My heart goes out to you, it really does. I've really got everything crossed for you for the next one x

Hi Ladies - how is everyone getting on? xx

Hey @MaltyJones92 I’m ok! Currently on CD3 of Cycle 9...trying to stay positive but it’s getting hard. Booked a sperm analysis for my partner and I’m starting acupuncture in a few weeks so fingers crossed! How are you?

@Asthenia Aw I know it's hard not to fret. This is month 6 for us but I've now booked my wedding again for June so it gives me something to look forward to and take my mind off it.

I've heard very positive things about acupuncture so hopefully it'll make a difference 🤞🏻

I'm due AF on Monday/Tuesday and usually get PMS symptoms by now but haven't had anything at all. However, I've not been well the last week so have been taking Ibuprofen which I think is masking my symptoms.

Hey girls, mind if I join?
I've been actively trying to conceive since July 2020. My partner is 30 I'm 26. First month chemical pregnancy, nothing since. I've had couple of bereavements in the family so stress has been pretty high. I'm trying to look to the future now, let TTC slide for a few months but still did it around ovulation...
Have used OPKs for quite some time also, aswell as a fertility app. Feeling pretty fed up at this point, I know I haven't been trying all that long really but struggling to remain positive, convinced something is wrong. Everyone is announcing pregnancies and it hurts so bad.
Anyway I've loved hearing your stories so would love to chat with you all xx

Hi @rttcbabyno1 - welcome. I'm so sorry to hear about the tough time you've had recently. I'm convinced that stress has a big impact on these things. I'm now on month six of TTC and I'm in a similar situation as you where all of my friends are getting pregnant left right and centre.
None of them know I'm TTC and lots of them keep talking about how quickly it happened for them (a few claim it only took one month), even my friends who are older than me in their mid-30s. It can get very disheartening and it's hard not to start thinking the worst.

I've just rescheduled my wedding for June (although it's very very small now) so that's given me something to take my mind off things. I think COVID has made TTC extra hard as there's been nothing to look forward to and everything has felt a bit doom and gloom!

Welcome @rttcbabyno1! Sorry to hear about your bereavements, that seems very unfair on top of the stress of TTC. Sounds like we’re in the same boat as I started in July too. It just feels like something that’s never going to happen at this point! Feel free to rant away.
@MaltyJones92 yes I’ve heard great things about acupuncture, really looking forward to trying it but not putting all my eggs in one basket (as it were haha). Only 3 more cycles until I go to my dr so hopefully it happens in that time, if not I’m going to march in there armed with my charts and self-diagnosed progesterone deficiency 🤣
I’m at a point now where I roll my eyes inwardly if I hear people talk about how they conceived quickly or they weren’t even trying. It seems to be a bit of a badge of honour for some people and it must be nice for them but at 9 months in i’m having to grit my teeth!
June wedding sounds lovely and will be such a good distraction. I’m certainly hoping to take my mind off TTC as this year goes on and we can do more things!

Sorry I've been quiet lately, it's been a bit of a bizarre month this end. I got my 'period' 12dpo as expected and better than the month before. Bought myself some new gadgets - OvuSense and Ivy LH tracker but the first LH test I did was a blinder and led me to do HPT which was positive.
My GP was really good and got me booked in to the EPU but my tests started getting lighter on Sunday. I also started with a lot of pain in my left side so they sent me off to a&e where my blood HCG was only 23 so essentially nothing there as at 5 and 4 should be way higher. Transvaginal ultrasound confirmed the vast emptiness of my womb and the pain was from a 5cm cyst which is apparently normal but on the bigger side. Better than ectopic though!

Got to go back in for more blood test tonight just to confirm what they already know. At least I get to use my fancy gadgets I suppose but I'd have rathered the baby! We'll be entering the 8th month of trying now and not sure what else we can have thrown at us!
Oh and I had to buy a congratulations on your new baby card on my way to hospital as SIL gave birth to their third the same day. 👍

Still. It's more than we've had so far and I guess I'll just be armed with SMEP and the ferti-lily cup and the pomegranate juice etc whenever I can work my cycle out again. My temp has risen the last two days so wondering if I've somehow managed to ovulate whilst still having a 'positive' level of HCG in me!?

@Asthenia how was the move in with your ILs? All going alright? I mentioned progesterone yesterday and the sister literally rolled her eyes at me because I had 26 days before my 'early pregnancy bleeding'. No interest in the cycle before being 23 days or that my BBT showed a drop in temperature way too early to sustain any baby. Not even interested in the CBT that ovulation takes which is like a 99% accurate measurement of progesterone. I hope you have more luck. TBF my GP is much better than the EPU. I chose her because she always listens.
I'm definitely looking forward to doing more things but very anxious about MIL saying it'll be my turn soon. I don't think I can bear it! She's a real niggler as well so I don't want to tell her.
Let us know how you get on with the acupuncture.
Sending much love and all the baby dust etc 😘
Hope @sepoppet is doing well xxx