wearing pjs all day long, making money from our thong, tww driving us crazy, all this s**t to make a baby! TTC bus 29

[Minster2012]

TTC bus 29...
Oh my goodness to say we are a chatty group is an understatement most times but that’s great cos it’s not all about TTC here, anything goes, we now have a bus with a beautiful panoramic roof seat so a few ppl can pop up on top heads up and out into wind to gulp in the non TTC air but still hold on to us & know where we are...like our pups that come with us with ears flapping in the wind our beloved ladies may have one flap flying in the wind...”watch out for the left outer flap”...someone once shouted to their OH...that might set the tone here nicely.

Get it?! No?! Sometimes nor do we...🙄the chat, the deed, the sperm, the egg, the fact that we aren’t pregnant yet after shagging twelfty millions times a month forever. But we are here for each other, to chat shit, to help each other out the pits or wallow within the pits, for all the highs and lows.

And if you see mention of my blog then blame these guys they made me do it...#shamelessplug

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Story so far...

June 24 BFPs
July 11 BFPs
August 18 BFPs
Sep 4 BFPs
Oct 7 BFPs
Nov 7 BFPs
Dec 14 BFPs

6 BFPs for jan...who is next??

@Kirky658 &
@Gem176 the latest

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@notyetamumbuttrying yes you are probably right. It's been so frustrating getting the gp to do their bit. I suppose it'll be a relief that someone who knows what they are doing (you'd hope) is now dealing with it. It looks like the hospital do up to iui, but anything beyond that they refer to private clinics. I think I'm in a good area statistics wise, so all you can do is hope I guess. It also looks like the ivf cut off is older than I thought (everything else is 40) and it's 43, so it gives us slightly more breathing space if covid gets in the way. I'm 38 this week.
@BlondePotter I definitely think a surprise is a good thing too. I reckon I'd go that route.
@Franklydear he sounds a delight! 🤣

@paintfairy that's good then!! What you planning for your bday?

@notyetamumbuttrying its on Wednesday. My car has to go to the garage. 🤣 I'm working (see no point booking it off). Weather looks horrendous. So I think it'll be a non event. Might try and get a pub takeaway for something different for dinner. I hate having a January birthday but this year? God. 🤣

@paintfairy oh bless you hun! Pub takeaway sounds nice tho! My mums is next week and it'll be weird not seeing her. It's her 65th so we'd book a table at the ivy for her but obvs that's not going ahead!

@Kirky658 good on you, let us know how you're getting on x

@notyetamumbuttrying so we know I have pcos and he has sperm issues, just a case of seeing if his supplements have worked after 3 months in March by another SA. If there's an improvement I'll be put on Clomid, if no improvement straight through for ivf. Just hope I get a nice bean surprise by March instead though.

@paintfairy whatever rocks your boat, and yes, he is the most interesting, amazing man(child) in the world 🙄 I should react one of theses years....
@Minster2012 I think I didn't see it from her point of view, it has been over a year now, and we don't know when we'll be able to go, she doesn't like technology and prefers the blowie, so s few videos calls when my brothers are home, but she doesn't really want to talk in 'public'....

@Justanothercyster ha this is pretty outing cause I reckon my mix is a rarity but essentially I'm half Polish, quarter Danish and quarter Chinese but born and bred in Sweden 😅. What's your other half?

@Minster2012 do you remember how I had to have a chat with OH last Sunday about his recent alcohol consumption? He promised to cut down and proceeded to drink FIFTY units of alcohol this week. He actually had more than the week I told him off 🤣

@Juno231 does he buy it? or would it be a solution to just buy less and too bad?

@Justanothercyster ahhh sorry I didn't realise it was confirmed that's shit I'm sorry

@BlondePotter sooooo glad your scan went went and baby behaved as well for not finding that that perfect 🥰😘😊amazing!!

@Kirky658 yeah def guessed! What scans are available in your area anyway? In case the nhs won't scan?

@blackcurrantqueen what did the doctor say then I seem to have missed it?

@Franklydear id have loved them to be tic tacs 🤪brilliant

@paintfairy that's really good your area goes up to 43 (obviously you won't need that just saying!) more good news!! Oooo and it's your birthday!! Of course there's a couple aren't there @Juno231 🤔oh my god I've just seen your comment on OH alcohol?! What?? Honestly??? That's not good. Is he not dealing with something well? How much did he drink before?

@Juno231 this is my husband just now he is drinking a lot more since the first lockdown. Came to a head last night, I'm exhausted from all the bleeding and he drank too much and then got right nippy, ended up in a full blown argument. Haven't spoken since and I have cried all day.

Had the doctors, they took blood as they said I was shockingly pale/ grey in face and would check if I was anaemic. To try out the vitamins I have ordered and if another chemical happens they will look in to things further.

I'm just so drained even lifting my arms up is a real struggle so I think I will be anaemic.
Glad I went.

@blackcurrantqueen I'm so sorry sending big hugs.

Xxx

@Justanothercyster ooh that would be lovely wouldn't it! I'm hoping for that too 🤞🏾
@Juno231 oh jeez that's a lot! Is he ok?

@DJmum83 take care of yourself and make him take care of you too, feel better soon

@minster2012 we are quite lucky round here got loads of early scan clinics, window to the womb and life through the lens x

sorry just skimmed but @2020mission I took pregcare every other day. They made me feel a bit ill really. But worked 🤷🏼‍♀️

@DJmum83 don't underestimate all the different hormones going on in your body too, it's really wiped me out! Glad they took your bloods, try and keep eating and drinking to keep your energy levels up as much as possible!

@juno231 Men are assholes. Mine is trying to do dry January with me. He's a bigggg red wine drinker. To be fair I'm a big white wine drinker in normal circumstances... 😬

@Franklydear I'm with minster... definitely tic-tacs!

@Justanothercyster let's hope for the bean by March!!!

@Katao sorry asshole AF looks to be coming 😡

@BlondePotter ahh so pleased for you, so exciting 🥰 team yellow is so exciting too!

@Vil10 how are you doing? Any house news?

@Minster2012 I don't think you did miss anything you replied !

But to add to it the nice HCA called me this afternoon and said my HCG was 2 which meant she was able to send all of the bloods she has taken off me, partners bloods are booked then they'll schedule a clinic appt for when all the results of those are back.
Started going through the questionnaire this evening and he is one to answer every question exactly to the book so he's googling 'loose cotton men's underwear' and I tell you some of the images 😂😂😂
Just want AF to turn up now so that we can get trying again. OPK seems to have dropped back down again so god knows.
Managed to get out for a bit of a walk this afternoon for the first time in days so proud of myself for that and always feel better for it once it's done !

@blackcurrantqueen hey lovely, how're you feeling? I'm glad they have a plan in place for you, hopefully onwards and upwards! And I bet it's reassuring that you'll get an early scan next time! Glad you were able to get out for a bit of a walk, fresh air and exercise always helps! Nothing on the house as of yet, we're seeing our mortgage advisor on Thursday so that should get the wheels in motion! I'm feeling very 50/50 how this cycle is going to go, had yesterday at 8dpo what I could only describe as implantation, sore boobs, cramps, creamy cm, off my food, pinching/pulling pain in my left side, just felt off and had a big rhr dip that shot back up today, but today I just feel like af is on her way, it's such a mind fuck this journey!!

@DJmum83 def need to look after yourself, as others have said, eat, whatever you can, cereal with DS, toast, ideally veggies of course and I'm so glad you went to the docs. I guess at least you & DH have spoken about it, albeit ended in a row, I honestly think things are a bit harder this lockdown for a lot of ppl but we have light at the end of the tunnel, keep talking to us darling 😘

@blackcurrantqueen my DH has always said he has to wear loose cotton boxers for the sake of his swimmers, he only ever bought one pair of tighties for our wedding night, with dogs on & whinged side much about those & basically passed out (through drink not the boxers 😂🤣) but I'm intrigued as to what it says about them on a questionnaire?? Does it bear that statement out to be true??

@Kirky658 so you are waiting for callback from midwives first 🤞🏻that's good, there was none round here when I looked last year

@blackcurrantqueen defo tic tacs, that’s why he choke on them, I nearly laugh at the whole expectacle put on to worry me, but hey I resisted,
Glad you have a plan and there’s a way forward (or is that inwards 🤣)
@Vil10 my af just finished, not even spotting today, but I have cramps, boobs and a sore foof still, definitely donating my body to science, they need a challenge....
Where’s @lucyrp?

Must be something in the air with men and drinking 🙄

@DJmum83 giving you a massive virtual hug! Been through it recently with my own OH being a drunken arse. OH was off over Xmas and new year and had a bit too much to drink the night before his birthday, got very nippy, turned into a huge argument. I really didn't cope well with lockdown, I'm a very sociable person so being locked in for weeks and months killed me mentally. I'm the first to admit that between homeschooling, wfh, lockdown, being categorised as clinically vulnerable to covid, having moved only a couple of months before lockdown and knowing no-one took a real toll on me and some things did slide. I worked, homeschooled and cooked all our meals, did most of my normal housework but some days some things I did let slide and only hoovered and didn't bother steaming the floors and some days the thought of sorting more washing meant I just left it in the machine and rewashed the next day (😱). OH is very old fashioned and seems to think I should be a glorified maid 🙄 this caused our argument and when I explained that I wasn't on my A game and that this year had been hell he told me I wouldn't make a "good wife" and if I was struggling so much then adding a baby wasn't a good idea. I was devastated. Barely spoke to him on his birthday. Took myself off here for a breather (although I probs should have just had a rant on here back then instead of now 😂) and thought no more of babies or ttc as I was wondering wtf was the point if that was how he honestly felt. He later apologised, stress at work blah blah. Told him if he's stressed at work just say because the next time he decides to pick a fight with me because of it I'm ofski and he can hire a cook & housekeeper! I don't know why they do it but they do, I think they are missing some essential part of their brains and don't realise until after because they have no self awareness! Hopefully your husband realises he has been a twat and makes it up to you with an apology and some much more thoughtful behaviour especially with what you are going through at the moment (and a massive bunch of flowers) xx

Thank you so much everyone.
He has been very quiet on it tonight, but has done all washing up bathed the little ones and put them to bed, told me to go lie and read a book and to chill.
Just came up there and apologised said he was totally out of order and it won't happen again. Lockdown just getting to him but it's no excuse.
Pity with all my bleeding we can't shag and make up 😂😂 anyways we have had a kiss and a cuddle and he has promised no more drinking lots maybe a couple beers watching footie.

My boss phoned me tonight to ask me why I have not booked my COVID vaccine, totally put me on the spot, so I had to explain that I was trying and pretty sure I just had a chemical and I'm unsure about vaccine as want to try again.
She was like well I'm sorry to hear that but I strongly advise you to get it.
You are working with extremely vulnerable people.
What do you all think? Should I get first dose tomorrow and if I get pregnant not get second dose or should I not get it at all if trying or should I get it and stop trying for like 3-4 months as we not getting second dose for 12 weeks after first one. I really don't want to stop trying.
So confused. HELP XXX

Fucking hell. Reading this- men really are arseholes. I suppose I'm pleased it's not just mine. But? @Gem176 I'm glad you set him straight! @DJmum83 that all sounds very stressful indeed. I'm sorry you are having such a crap time. @Juno231 50 units? Wtf?

I do have a tight underwear question though. I have told mine- he ignores me. But he wears those boxers that are tight? Says he can't stand having no support. But this isn't good right? @blackcurrantqueen @Minster2012

Mine is being a dick lately. So tonight I looked up our hospital info. And I told him they pass you on to another clinic for ivf, if that's needed. He started saying- well surely we aren't going to go to all that trouble? We'll have to get rid of the dog. 🤬 Firstly- erm, if we conceive naturally where does that leave the dog? (Issue being we do not know if the dog is child friendly, but clearly you deal with it then, and that is not on the top of my problem list?). So I said- well who knows. They'll test stuff and only then will you really know what the way forward is. And he said- but there's loads of options before ivf, surely? (Not really dear?). This pissed me off. Then he said well do i really want to go through all that. Right now, I do not know. I'm just thinking about the beginning and seeing what happens. But if he asked in a supportive way (oh babe, it'll be hard on you, are you sure you want to try it etc) then fine, but it isn't. Its in a I can't be arsed way. When he doesn't even have to do anything! Beggars belief. Do I want to go through all this shit? Not really. Surely none of us do? But we don't appear to have much choice? 😤 Rant over. 🤣

I'm other news I'm 9dpo and the dog wants to sit with me. That's a sign, right? 😆

@notyetamumbuttrying i am glad it's not s big birthday. Whole thing is rubbish really. My friend was 50 this month and the idea was a party. But clearly that was never happening. And there's no end in sight for such things. I hope your mum manages to do something nice.

@DJmum83 do what you feel is right for you with the vaccine. Idiotic boss. Its your body.

@Gem176 I agree with the men thing it's like there's a bit missing def

@DJmum83 I'm in a very similar position tbh except I don't know when exactly i'll be offered it (in extremely vuln category) & I can't get an answer either. I think if I were YOU & TTC naturally I'd have it especially as it's the closet timing wise as you can get to the end of a cycle. Then put off second dose, it might even be what I will do but atm without knowing when I get the first I have no idea. My pharmacist friend has read the Pfizer vaccine full thesis & thinks it's revolutionary, she thinks there's not much risk so I would go with that but it's just me x

@Birdladybird alllll the luck for tomorrow hun thinking of you fit lots of great eggs xx

Night all xx

@paintfairy we had similar I will respond in the morning, men go through a denial of ivf often. The dog??? Errr no.

So I think the school of thought is cool loose boxers are better but my nurse brain says there is probably very limited information to support that. I'll try and pull some research tomorrow if I get a chance 😂

@DJmum83 I am getting the vaccine but it is a very personal decision and your boss can't tell you either way what you should do with your body!

@paintfairy my dog is very cuddly when I'm pregnant the rest of the time he couldn't give a flying fuck about me 😂

@Gem176 sorry but in the bin for him!!! Glad you stuck up for yourself. He would have a shit fit if he came to mine haha.

@Vil10 im okay thank you, better for knowing what's going on!! I'm quietly really optimistic for you!!! In terms of both baby and house... 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼