Post Pill Party - The Mosh Pit !!

[Kay00]

As the Post Pill Party fills up, the lights are dimmed and the music drops a beat. The lead singer of this rambunctious band shouts: Mosh Pit!! The ravers all storm for the small space in front of the stage allowing their bodies to dance to the beat however the f* they want!! You go ladies!!

This is the 7th post pill party thread for women whose bodies aren’t quite dancing to the expected rhythm: we have delayed ovulation, crazy long follicular phases, crazy short follicular phases, light AFs, short luteal phases, long luteal phases, confusing temp charts and blindingly white OPKs!

In the crowd I can see:

@juno231
@Kay00
@Moocher90
@MintGreenLife
@Emmgrem
@Nellieee
@TheHotelCalifornia
@ams19
@chinchilly
@MancMama39
@sperr
@crabette
@charwils
@LauraT94
@TheDaydreamBelievers
@cams50
@robyn101
@abi555
@luna57
@tillybabs
@MissC07
@mrsmacmc
@mol234
@KGH5121
@Y1986
@Flowers222
@Katelyn99
@minipilling
@ACNass
@HopeAndDriftWood
@glow92
@FlyingGiraffe
@Rd123
@Taliasometimes
@Elsie2021
@Daisychainsandsunshine
@firsttimemummy321
@Delilah221
@NibbleQueen
@Ttcin2021
@justwanttobemum
@Lovebug06
@ElizabethP141
@Endlessstars
@SalemsPot22

Yes I’m recording my oral temps on FF which means if it is 36.16 it won’t confirm ovulation and give me solid cross hairs. Recording ovusense temps on premom

@Moocher90 I had to discard one temp for FF to give me cross hairs. It’s all so confusing isn’t it. Bodies are crazy!!

@Moocher90 I just had a look at my chart again and it wasn’t until the third day that I got a significant temp rise

@Moocher90 so yours probably didn’t rise just because of the bad nights sleep but hopefully it does tomorrow. Sorry third post in a row 🙈😂

I reckon this month is probably a no - temps are on their way down whereas they stayed high for my previous BFP. Only another week to wait and see I guess!

Anyone else generally feeling just so low and crap (not TTC related). Apologies as I know this is not on topic but I just feel so burnt out and like I have massive pandemic fatigue

@Moocher90 Ah, that's really frustrating, especially when its a critical temperature. I would really just aim to ignore this one. If you have ovulated then your next few temps should be high and the pattern will emerge. I would put in your temp as 36.16 but mark as discard.

Forgot a chart

@TheDaydreamBelievers oh yes, I think this lock down has been much harder than the first. In the first lock down it was sunny, novel and a little romantic. This lock down is just dreary . There is nothing to do, I miss my family and I'm longing for a damn cocktail with my girl friends!

@TheDaydreamBelievers hopefully your temperature will shoot back up again for the second part of your LP. IF not then it might just be your body settling back down after your MC xxx

Morning guys :) hope you are all okay? We made it to Friday! Woo!

10dpo for me but I’m just feel like AF might be coming :( if it is, I hope it gives me just one more day for a better LP.

8dpo for me and another temp rise 😬🙌🤞

Last month my temps started dropping 9dpo onwards so I won't be too hopeful until then but I think my chart is looking good?

@TheDaydreamBelievers I totally know what you mean about the pandemic fatigue. This is definitely worse than the first lockdown, I think the weather plays a part too?

I'm in a funk anyway today as, after 6 cycles of temping and LH testing, my first cycle where I've actually found a peak my OH is "too tired" to DTD. Honestly want to throw things at his head. Mentioned it last night as got CB peak yesterday, he said he was shattered. Fair enough, I know we have been DTD every other day and yesterday was the "day off" if you like! But tried again this morning and he basically said I'm still asleep, come back later, it's too much pressure to perform.

I just feel like I'm the one actually doing all the work here, 6 months of tracking, daily vitamins, etc. It's not like I'm asking him to sacrifice a limb or walk over hot coals or anything! FFS!

Did an IC this morning and I think it's still showing a peak on that too - darkest I've had anyway! So probably later today is fine but now I don't want to DTD with him on principle 😤😂🙈

(Sorry, rant over!)

@Emmgrem your chart is looking brill!! 😍🙏

Forgot the pic of the IC OPK!

@crabette Thats a lovely strong OPK . I find I cannot mention to my OH that I am in my FW or that I have had a positive OPK as he finds it all a bit of a turn off. I have to just pretend that I'm really in the mood - haha, even though he knows whats going on really!

@TheDaydreamBelievers I completely agree with lockdown slump. The weather is awful (although the sun is finally out here today) and I'm bored of everything and can't get motivated. It was easier last lockdown with the nice weather and meeting friends outside.

@crabette Sorry your OH is being unresponsive. Mine is the same, I don't think they understand (or want to understand!!) how much we have to go through mentally for it! I was in a strop with mine last week because he was 'too tired' 4 days in a row. I understand they must feel pressured but arghhhh. Your OPK looks really good today! 🤞

@MissC07 @crabette

This is so annoying isn’t it and I worry about it causing friction if it takes us a while! My DH has been brilliant to be fair but has said that TTC and having to DTD at certain times makes him feel awkward and pressurised. I know they’re the ones that need to produce the goods but I have very, very little sympathy. Do they not think we feel the pressure to?!!!

My temperature did a weird thing today 😕 hopefully just a one off

@MissC07 @ElizabethP141 I do get that it probably is a bit awkward and a turn off for them, the pressure of DTD for baby making lol. But I have limited sympathy too 😂 And my OH is the one asking me, what’s your OPK say, etc, so he does want to know about FW? He is super keen on the actual baby and getting pregnant. Just says he feels pressure physically, as DTD every other day is too much for him, his body can’t handle it. He says it’s age but he’s only 35, so I’m finding it hard not to take it personally to be honest - he thinks it’s normal but I’m trying to sensitively broach that I think most guys of his age would easily handle every other day? Am I being an insensitive TTC dragon? 😳

I’m in a strop now, we’ve had a proper falling out, as after saying no twice he's suddenly decided he's up for it, and it's inconvenient for me now so I've told him to bugger off 😂 Just annoying cos I don’t want to DTD on principle now, but also don’t want to ignore the OPK!

@Kay00 That is an odd temp drop!! Hope tomorrow back to normal!

That is low @Kay00! I assume no symptoms of hypothermia (mostly kidding!)?

As a side note, I've never caught a peak with an IC before, but always do them in the afternoons, as per the instructions? Where the CBs say you should do them first thing, with first pee of the day.

So I got CB peak yesterday morning, and they say once you've had a peak result for the month you should stop testing, so I just tried the IC for curiosity this morning! Maybe should have been doing the IC's first thing as well.

@crabette I 100% get you! On the bright side you're definitely covered by the O-2 and O-4 DTD.

I had another infuriating argument with OH the other night where I was saying it's very lonely this TTC malarkey and it's hurtful that I keep asking him to get more involved but he still doesn't bother. He ended trying to flip it on me, saying I should get HIM more involved and tell him stuff. When I point out that I've done it plenty of times in the past and it ends up being me just telling him things and him not absorbing any of it he just conveniently ignores that part of the argument! Gah I could have killed him. Oh and it's not enough for me to say that I think AF is coming and it's another dud - I need to spell it out as "I am sad now because of this, please give me a hug". What the actual FECK

Anyways. CD6 here and AF was annoyingly long, I think it's only just finished/is finishing. Maybe I'm reverting back to my teenage periods pre AF?

@ElizabethP141 to answer your EWCM question - I start getting it around 5 days before OD. It's triggered by oestrogen though so much like the CB blinking smiley you could have it 8 or so days before your peak.

@Kay00 open mouth maybe? I'm so sorry your chart isn't doing anything productive this cycle :( How's the inflammation, when will you hear from the docs?

@TheDaydreamBelievers fingers crossed those temps pop back up!

@ChinChilly my granny had the squits from covid and my mum's been hit with those the last few days. Not sure one which orifice I'd rather have problems with when sick tbh! Hope you recover quickly. Would be a fun story to have though if this was your BFP cycle!

Sorry if I've missed anyone - trying to catch up on 3 pages worth as I often go quiet over AF...

@Juno231 it's also the same as so many other areas of live - when he is saying oh tell me what I should know and what I should care about, he is casting you as the supervisor/manager of the work around TTC and actually adding to your emotional labour rather than taking away from it. It's also not genuine interest - genuine interest would be asking small specific Qs, googling stuff, saying "I dont get this bit, do you get this bit?". Sorry, not meaning to slag your spouse, just saying it must feel so frustrating!

@crabette yeah I actually cried this month when DH was too tired on O+1 and O+2. Even though we had DTD O-1 and O day. Its such an emotional orocess!

@crabette @Juno231I can so relate... I get that OHs feel pressure to perform, but then as I sit there forcing a multivitamin down his neck, while I count out my seven seas, omega 3s, CoQ10s and probiotics, taking my temp, POAS, logging on 3 different apps, checking TTC forums, checking cm every time I wipe, checking my cervix, drinking decaf, dreading AF.... I think hmmmmm we have it worse!

That said, I say jump on him Crabette, can always make up later haha

@crabette you're definitely not being a dragon!! I'd still jump him today if you can whilst he still said yes. You can ignore him for a week afterwards or refuse to do the dinner or something😂